7451.
Unconsciously repeating cycles is at the root of all human behavior;
7452. Signs of
emotional addiction: 1. Retelling a
story of tragedy over and over again for years and feeling like you’re living
the moment in the present; 2. Enjoying
emotions even if they are negative because you feel “alive;” 3. Being drawn to relationships that revolve
around the emotion you’re addicted to; 4.
Feeling dull and apathetic until you experience the addictive emotion;
and 5. Finding yourself in repetitive
emotional cycles even if you desperately want to get out of them;
7453.
Apparently, Amazon has a 30-day price guarantee, but not for digital
download/software sales;
7454.
Apparently, Morrissey was in “The Smiths;”
7455. Matt
Nathanson is a Morrissey fan;
7456. Emotional
maturity: 1. Receptive to feedback and
open to other perspectives; 2. Can step
outside of oneself to see another perspective; 3. Has a developed sense of self and is
authentic; 4. Takes time to process
emotions before reacting; 5. Feels a
sense of peace and stability; and 6.
Encourages others and believes in their capability;
7457. Emotional
immaturity: 1. Defensive and shut down
to conflicting ideas; 2. Rigid: Sees
everything from their own point of view; 3.
Lacks a sense of self and projects an image; 4. Habitual knee jerk emotional reactions;
5. Feels attacked and like the world is
against him/her; and 6. Mocks or
criticizes others from a place of insecurity;
7458. Being an
adult does not mean (that) you’re emotionally mature;
7459. It’s
actually rare to be emotionally mature.
If developmental needs were not met as children, we can stay at an
“emotional age” that’s different from our physical age. This manifests as screaming, yelling,
defensiveness and an inability to see things from another perspective;
7460.
Emotionally immature people have an overactive ego that attempts to
protect them from the lack of self. They
struggle in interpersonal relationships because they’re fragile and insecure;
7461. Ways to
overcome self-sabotage: 1. Understand
that falling into old patterns shows the power of the subconscious and not who
“you” are as a person; 2. Practice
breath work every morning to calm the nervous system (which claims the mind);
3. Journal about your future-self and
read it when negative thought loops come up; 4.
Keep new rituals very small and something you can commit to every single
day; and 5. Have compassion towards the
beliefs you have about yourself. Most of
them were not created by you;
7462. The
subconscious drives 95% of our behavior.
When we are not present, we run on subconscious programming that was all
created from birth until age 7. Our
subconscious holds beliefs about what we deserve, who we are and what our place
is in the world. As we attempt to
consciously change this programming the brain races into overdrive desperate to
stay in the familiar. Thoughts come up
to bring us back to the “known self” and we abandon our attempts. This will happen over and over again;
7463. Everyone
has the power to heal, but it is 98% mental and 2% action. Be patient.
Sit with what comes up and start again in each new moment;
7464. Steps to
rewire the brain: 1. Visualization;
2. Future-self journaling; 3. Limit exposure to people who doubt or
question your shifts; 4. Filter what you
consume; and 5. Stay curious and open to
universal guidance, but committed to daily practice;
7465. Emotional
internalizer: 1. Responsible for their
emotional energy in every situation; 2.
Places emphasis on personal development; 3. Responds; 4.
Works through triggers to learn their meaning(s); 5. Can spend time alone, practices mediation or
journaling; and 6. Can hear other
viewpoints calmly and rationally;
7466. Emotional
externalizer: 1. Emotional state is
created by the environment; 2. Focused
on the external behavior of others; 3.
Reacts; 4. Expects others to
understand and avoid triggers; 5. Avoids
being alone and always connected to others; and 6. See beliefs as identity and pushes his/her
own;
7467. 5 truths
about mental wellness: 1. Inflammation
has been linked to anxiety, depression, mood disorders and schizophrenia;
2. The gut and the brain are in constant
(two-way) communication with each other through the gut-brain axis; 3. The microbiome and its balance of bacteria
influences behavior; 4. Psychiatric
disorders are symptoms with root causes; and 5.
Research shows nutritional deficiency (especially b12, vitamin d &
omega fatty acids) are present in psychiatric disorders and neurodegenerative
disease;
7468. The
emotions of others are not your responsibility;
7469. People
don’t have bad intentions. They have
unhealed, emotional wounds;
7470. “Personality”
is the culmination of habitual, thought patterns and behavior, not who “you”
are;
7471. What
people don’t understand, they will dismiss.
Let them;
7472. Family is
typically the most resistant to change/evolution;
7473. The
matrix is your own mind;
7474. No matter
how negative your self-image is right now, you need to remember that your mind
is playing tricks on you. You made a
choice to buy into this image;
7475. The
biggest risk of all is not taking one;
7476. Celebrate every season of your life for the
particular blessings that it brings.
Regret steals your joy, comparison steals your joy and yearning for
things to be other than the way they are steals your joy. When you accept what is (even challenges) and
you lean into working with them instead of against them, you can make the most
of what is showing up. And, in the
process, you truly show up to life and to yourself;
7477. Growth is mostly about letting go of the
things that no longer serve you . . . letting go of other people’s ideas that
you took on about how you should be and what being “abundant” means;
7478. Plenty of procedures and protocols are more
about reducing a medical establishment’s liability than they are about patient
outcomes;
7479. When unhappy couples say, “We’re
incompatible,” they truly mean, “We don’t get along very well;”
7480. Everyone, who is unhappy, naturally blames it
on the facade of compatibility. They
fail to realize and comprehend that a successful relationship does not hinge
its posterity on how alike you are instead it hangs on by the sheer willpower
and want to stay in a relationship;
7481. Dr. John Gottman, the founder of The
Gottman Institute in Seattle, said that measures of personality are
incapable of truly predicting the length or success of a relationship;
7482. Gottman discovered that couples, who focus
their energy on building something meaningful together in their lives (.e.g.,
starting a business together) tend to last the longest;
7483. How a couple interacts is the single, most
fundamental aspect to creating a successful relationship. Meaning it’s not who you are or what
you do that will prolong or help you find the perfect mate. It’s how you speak to each other, how well
you get along and how you move through time together;
7484. Gottman says that your partner should support
your life dreams. They should look up to
you, admire you and respect you;
7485. When you truly reflect on how you’ve always
wanted to be treated, having someone who genuinely believes in your greatness
is paramount;
7486. A lot of the connection you feel with another
person is emotional. You must be capable
of responding to each other when you need something. As Gottman says, “Does your partner turn
toward you with equal enthusiasm?” You
need to ask questions and constantly update your knowledge of one another;
7487. If you truly are looking for love and want to
find that person that you can spend the rest of your life with remember that it
is you who creates compatibility;
7488. There is no magic formula or perfect
algorithm for making a fruitful relationship with another human being. Yes, you need to find the other person
attractive, look up to them and feel a strong sense of familiarity, but those
are but a small slice of the pie that constitutes a healthy and lasting
relationship;
7489. The next time you spot someone who catches
your attention and makes your pupils dilate with interest and enthusiasm, pay
attention to whether or not s/he can see the dream you envisioned for your
life. If s/he can share in your delight
and can accept you for who you are today not for who you can be tomorrow then
you have found your “soulmate;”
7490. A human being’s role is not to complete
another;
7491. Demands and expectations lead to resentment;
7492. Your emotional, physical and spiritual health
reflects daily on your partner;
7493. Communication problems are often unhealed
trauma;
7494. A partner, who keeps promises to
himself/herself, keeps promises to another.
A partner, who betrays himself/herself, betrays another;
7495. The happiest partnerships are two people
living as their authentic selves even if that means temporary discomfort for
the other;
7496. The foundation of love is commitment to the
highest self;
7497. The path to intuition is the path that people
have the most resistance to: silence with self.
In silence, we face our thoughts.
We feel the physical sensations emotions bring: itchiness, numbness and
tingling. The monkey mind goes and
goes. The greatest fear of human beings
is not public speaking or death. It’s
facing our emotions;
7498. We have a conditioned belief that having a
lot of friends means something about who we are. We feel it makes us perceived as likeable and
accepted. We’ll “break-up” with
partners, but not with friends.
Friendship seems to be forever even if the relationship has run its
course. Relationships shift as we
shift. People enter our lives during
certain periods and exit at others. It’s
okay to let go;
7499. Elizabeth likes veal Marsala . . . and fresh
mozzarella . . . and tiramisu;
7500. The 3 C’s
in life: 1. Choice; 2. Chance; and 3. Change – You must make the choice to
take the chance if you want anything in life to change;
