tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18169779814873079212024-03-28T10:34:24.124-04:00HughChe's BlogWhat I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious).HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.comBlogger240125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-3004413939653242982024-03-11T09:22:00.002-04:002024-03-25T10:07:16.164-04:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0229<p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11401. Sometimes life requires us to be agile in the
part of ourselves we are selecting. To
move beyond “self.” Our relationships are
a sacred learning ground; a place to fall and get back up, time and time again;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11402. Maybe today is an
opportunity for a positive interaction where there may be a pattern for a
negative one;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11403. Maybe your gift for your
loved one today is the gift of your state; one that is loving and passionate;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11404. Maybe this is an opening
for your words or actions to be a healing balm to another human who is
struggling;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11405. Maybe this is an
opportunity for you to release and soften and to say “yes” to the possibility
of welcoming love into your life;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11406. No matter the situation,
there is always room for love. That’s
experiencing this life at a higher level.
That’s spiritual growth. And that’s
how we heal the world;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11407. Bob Marley died from acral
lentiginous melanoma, a form of skin cancer, at the age of 36;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11408. (Putting) olive oil in
coffee(, specifically Starbucks’ Oleato); I don’t get it;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11409. Apparently, Jodie Foster
was offered the part/role of Princess Leia in (the original) Star Wars(:
Episode IV – A New Hope). She turned it
down because she had a scheduling conflict with a Disney movie she had already
signed a contract for;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11410. We each have a unique
past and a unique way forward;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11411. There is no one “right”
path only the “right” path for you at this moment;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11412. When you discover the
value of your journey past and future, you no longer need to measure yourself
against others and you can recognize your worth;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11413. Locate and celebrate your
individuality;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11414. You’re empowered to be
you and nobody can beat you at being you;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11415. If you aren’t trying to
be anybody but yourself, it is impossible to be an impostor;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11416. When we strive to be like
someone else, we might even do a pretty good job of it, but, as long as we are
trying to imitate someone else, we are lessening our power;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11417. If you don’t realize
you’re a masterpiece; that you have something to offer that nobody else has,
you limit yourself;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11418. Yet another byproduct of
being yourself is that it frees you to truly celebrate others;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11419. (To me,) Dave Stewart
(playing guitar) without Annie Lennox singing is just an Eurythmics cover band;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11420. Bryan Adams (the singer)
hasn’t aged much;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11421. According to his ex(-girlfriend),
Cecilie Thomsen, Bryan Adams had an affair with Princess Diana;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11422. The lavender crème Frappuccino
and the lavender cream oat milk matcha at Starbucks are (pretty) tasty;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-82169333557230953092024-01-29T10:47:00.010-05:002024-03-04T13:14:29.547-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0228<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11351. Getting older is automatic, getting better is
not. Growth is intentional;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11352. Fail your way to success;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11353. Self-doubt is the biggest
killer of dreams;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11354. Act as if your success is
for certain;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11355. If you must doubt
something, doubt your limits;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11356. Your doubts are not the
product of accurate thinking, but habitual thinking;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11357. You get to choose how you
behave. Your thinking is what it is and
it’s riddled with doubt, it’s ravaged with doubt, you still get to choose how
you behave;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11358. You are the most powerful
person in your life. You have the power
of choice;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11359. You have an amazing
capacity for change;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11360. You are the solution to
your future;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11361. Sweet potatoes are (a
lot) harder to cut than Russet potatoes;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11362. Don’t make French toast
in a microwave. The egg doesn’t brown
and crisp and the bread dries out and gets hard;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11363. The difference between
who you are and who you want to be is what you do;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11364. Some things are worth
spending money on . . . like a warm, winter jacket (i.e., Marmot, The North
Face or Patagonia);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11365. The
D(ow)J(ones)I(ndustrial)A(verage) is made up of (only) 30 stocks;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11366. I can say I saw John
Carlson’s 500<sup>th</sup> (career, regular season) assist;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11367. Vir Das (the Indian
comedian) lived in Chicago;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11368. Vir Das (the Indian
comedian) likes the song, Yellow, by Coldplay;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11369. Lillet Blanc tastes like
a syrupy Chardonnay;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11370. Panama used to be a part
of Colombia;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11371. Don’t dip your tater tot
into your bourbon/whiskey . . . just don’t do it. It’s not good;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11372. Don’t bother drinking
your Starbucks latte after taking a bite of your stroopwafel. The sweetness of the stroopwafel drowns out
the flavor/taste of the latte;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11373. Although it was
officially founded in 1896, Newport News, Virginia, had been a city long before
then. It first showed up in print as
“Newportes Newes” – with eight alternate spellings – in the Virginia Company’s
1619 records. Newport News is named
after Captain Christopher Newport, who led settlers to Jamestown in 1607. When the colonists left Jamestown in 1610
after a period of intense starvation, they reunited with Captain Newport on the
James River. He told them supplies and
reinforcements had arrived so they returned to Jamestown to await them. From then on, the point at which they met Captain
Newport, at the junction of the James River and the Chesapeake Bay, was
referred to as Newport’s News. It was
eventually shortened to just Newport News;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11374. Kecoughtan, Virginia, was
settled in 1610 by the same English colonists who founded Jamestown. It was originally home to the Kikotan
Algonquin tribe and was the place where English settlers first made contact
with Virginia’s Indigenous population.
While initial meetings were relatively peaceful, the English settlers
soon drove away or tragically killed the Indigenous population. By 1690, Kecoughtan was absorbed by the
larger city of Hampton, Virginia, and remains a part of its municipality today;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11375. Hampton, Virginia, found
in 1610 is the oldest continuously inhabited English-speaking settlement in the
United States. It is significant because
of its military history. After the
United States became an independent country, Hampton became a major military
outpost due to its strategic location and abundant natural resources. Hampton had easy access to both the
Chesapeake Bay and the James River, making it a great port for shipping weapons
and other supplies. This also made it an
ideal defensive location. During the
Civil War, Virginia itself was the capital of the Confederate States; however,
Hampton maintained its status as a part of the Union during the entire war;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11376. Dogs can eat potatoes as
long as they are plainly cooked and offered in moderation. While potatoes won’t kill them, they are not
healthy for dogs. Potatoes have too many
carbohydrates and will lead to obesity and diabetes in dogs;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11377. Ice cream isn’t toxic or
seriously harmful to dogs; however, they’ve lost the enzyme (needed) to digest
the lactose in milk. It could lead to
diarrhea or vomiting;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11378. You may generally view
the other person as someone to joke around with, as opposed to making a
professional first impression on. You
don’t need to give people straight, exact answers. People are usually far more attracted to
interesting and noteworthy answers. Unless you are giving an oral report, it’s not
a stretch to say that they would always prefer something to catch their
attention versus being dry and accurate;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11379. Word of caution: be sure
to actually answer someone’s question.
You can be both humorous and informative. Make sure to occasionally check in with the
other person to make sure that you aren’t going overboard with the lack of
substantive content if they’re seeking it;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11380. Remind yourself that
being witty is not necessarily about entertaining other people. If you think, “Quick, they’ve asked you a
question. Think of something funny to
say about the weather or something,” then you’re anxious and that’s the furthest
thing from a playful mindset. You don’t
have to impress or amuse anyone.
Instead, think about being that 5 year-old again and just amuse yourself
first;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11381. If it’s a bad situation,
a witty comeback can diffuse the tension and bring emotional levels back to
normal. If it’s a good situation then a
witty comeback can make it even better;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11382. If you don’t want money
to create resentment in your relationships, ask yourself, “How will I feel
about this person if s/he doesn’t pay me back?”
Let that answer guide you;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11383. Cheapest day to buy
groceries: Wednesday – According to Instacart, Wednesday is the most common day
for grocery stores to start their weekly specials. New items will be on sale and in stock. If you wait a few days, you risk missing out
on sale items. Retailers also tend to
mark down perishables on Wednesday evenings – you might get a great bakery or
deli deal on this day. The store will
also be less crowded as only 19% of consumers shop for groceries on
Wednesdays. Avoid grocery shopping on
Saturdays when stores are busiest and more items are out of stock;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11384. Cheapest day to buy gas:
Monday – According to GasBuddy, an app that tracks gas prices, the best day to
buy gas is Monday. This comes with
exceptions, but, historically, Monday gas price averages are the lowest in 17
states and Tuesday is the second-cheapest day.
Consumer demand tends to be lower at the beginning of the week so to
stay competitive, gas stations lower their prices to draw people in. However, avoid getting gas on Thursday as it
is the most expensive day to purchase gas across the U.S.;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11385. Cheapest day to go to a
restaurant: Monday – According to Nasdaq, Mondays are generally the slowest
days at restaurants. They often offer
significant discounts such as complimentary appetizers, drink specials and
discounted entrées to draw customers in.
Restaurants likely have unsold inventory from the weekend, especially
appetizers and desserts, so asking about these might score you some discounted
grub. Tuesdays and Wednesdays are also
good options for dining out, while Fridays and Saturdays are the most
expensive;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11386. Cheapest day to book a
flight: Sunday – Tuesday used to be when airlines released their new weekly
deals making it the cheapest day to book a flight. However, there is no set schedule when
airlines release deals and they don’t usually match their competitors’ prices
either. According to experts, Sunday is
generally the cheapest day to book a flight saving you around 6% on domestic
and 13% on international flights;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11387. Cheapest day to buy a
car: Monday or Tuesday – Heading to the car dealership when the crowds are low
gives you more inventory and less competition resulting in lower prices. Mondays and Tuesdays are the best time to
purchase a new car. Go during the
morning for even better luck. As
Investopedia points out, you’ll likely be one of the only customers in the
dealership because almost everyone else will be at work. This gives you more time to test drive, ask
questions and negotiate the price. It
shouldn’t be a surprise that Saturday is the worst day to go car shopping. Many people have the day off so car
dealerships are at their busiest, which could drive higher prices;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11388. Cheapest day to see a
movie: Tuesday – The average movie theater ticket price in the U.S. is around
$10.50, but on Tuesdays, Cinemark and AMC, the largest movie theater chains in
the country, offer ticket discounts at around 50% along with other deals such
as popcorn and drink combos. Downloading
a free rewards program app can earn you even more discounts on Tuesdays and
points toward tickets and snacks;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11389. Cheapest day to go
shopping: Thursday – Head to the mall on Thursday evenings for early access to
weekend specials and take advantage of recently marked down inventory that will
soon leave the store. According to
Investopedia, most retailers prepare for the weekend on Thursdays so the stock
will be replenished giving you the most options without fighting the weekend
crowds;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11390. Cheapest day to book a
hotel: Friday – Like airfare, hotel prices fluctuate dramatically based on
consumer demand and each brand follows its own discount schedule. However, according to data collected by
Skyscanner, booking a domestic hotel is about 2% cheaper on Fridays, which
might sound like pennies, but it adds up for long trips. As for international hotels, try to book on a
Thursday when prices are about 6% cheaper;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11391. Casa Tequila Bar &
Grill (CasaTequilaRestaurant.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria has (a) $11.99
fajitas (special) on Thursdays;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11392. Apparently, Rod Langway,
the Washington Capitals’ “Secretary of Defense,” hangs out/has a beer at
Clyde’s (of Gallery Place) before (Washington) Capitals games;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11393. The Cubano (i.e., roasted
mojo pork, Virginia ham, Swiss cheese, fried pickles & dijonnaise on toasted
Vienna bread) at Clyde’s (of Gallery Place) is (pretty) tasty;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11394. The space you create for
others can often be the very thing that draws them closer;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11395. Love; it’s our essence,
the very core of what it means to be human.
It’s not a “you have it or you don’t.”
The capacity to love is already there inside of you. It’s not something you do; it’s simply who you
are;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11396. Love is already there,
waiting to be a balm to a weary world . . . waiting to heal, bless, renew and
restore;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11397. Family love, romantic
love, the love of an old friendship – it’s not only in our nature to love, it’s
our evolutionary advantage. It’s also
our highest calling as human beings to love another person fully and completely;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11398. Relationships are our
biggest opportunity for spiritual growth.
We all come to relationships with different wiring, conditioning,
cultures, belief systems, biochemistry and a blueprints for what love looks
like. People think relationships are
about selecting the right person, when they are actually about the part of
yourself you select to bring to the relationship every single day;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11399. The state of any
relationship is the state you bring to it.
We all have a choice in the state we bring to our relationships. While playing with your kids, picking up the
phone for a friend in need, collaborating with colleagues at work or lying next
to your partner in bed at night, there is a choice in what part of yourself you
bring to the table;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11400. There are many different
parts of ourselves to offer. Are you
selecting the critical one? The
complainer? The playful one? The sensual one? The problem solver?<o:p></o:p></span></p><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-34641257338399962332024-01-08T10:44:00.005-05:002024-01-29T10:46:53.183-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0227<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11301. Judah Akers (the lead singer of “Judah &
the Lion”) is (pretty) ripped;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11302. Apparently, Judah Akers
(the lead singer of “Judah & the Lion”) likes to go into the crowd( and
sing);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11303. Apparently, Bear Rinehart
(the lead singer of NEEDTOBREATHE) also likes to go into the crowd( and sing);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11304. Why do you have to
justify any prosperity that may flow into your life by limiting it to the kind
that comes from “hard work?” If you want
freedom, choice and abundance in your life, does it really serve you to believe
that the path to that has to be one of struggle, hard work and sacrifice? If your belief about the attributes of the path
is at odds with the attributes of the destination then the destination will
always remain just out of reach for you.
Here’s a little-known truth: the path and the destination are one and
the same. And the fastest way to get to
a life of freedom, choice and abundance is to believe that those things are
available to you now and always. If you
have a deeply held feeling that you are undeserving of money or if you’re not
convinced that it can come easily to you, this will be reflected in your outer
circumstances now and always. On the
flip side, if you truly believe at a deep, internal level in your own
deservingness of wealth then money has permission to flow into your life easily
now and always. The subconscious mind
always prevails in the end. It also
prevails at every stage along the way;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11305. Sometimes we label
frustration and blockage with respect to attaining our conscious goals as
“failure,” but you can come to see this kind of frustration as a friend. Why?
Because it’s a key indicator that shows you you have a subconscious
belief, which is out of alignment with a conscious goal. It shows you where your blocks are;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11306. We can only change when
we admit reality;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11307. It’s (pretty) easy to
make a pecan pie. The hardest part is
the crust;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11308. Just because you forgive
someone, it doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain from his/her actions in the
future;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11309. Apparently, “The Machine”
(i.e., Bert Kreischer) is friends with Snoop Dogg;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11310. Apparently, Snoop Dogg
gave Bert (Kreischer) parenting advice when his daughter, Ila, smoked his
marijuana/weed, when she was 15;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11311. Bert Kreischer said he’s
been in a shower with Snoop Dogg;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11312. When arguing/fighting,
Lucy Rowett, a certified sex and relationships coach, says that it’s always
best to stay with “I” statements, rather than “You” statements. This means avoiding statements like “You
always/You never” and instead saying, “I feel like you don’t do X;”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11313. Constructive fighting is
taking responsibility for your opinions and feelings and not blaming the other
person, but making more of a statement for yourself: “When you don’t wash the
dishes, I feel hurt because I enjoy a clean kitchen. It is important for me to share tasks in
order to feel respected. If I cook, I
would like you to wash the dishes.”
Compared to: “You haven’t done the dishes yet again, you’re
useless.” Basically, the blame game just
makes us defensive and that is not productive;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11314. When having an argument,
it comes down to priorities.
Constructive fighting is about problem solving and sharing feelings, not
making the other person feel like shit about themselves. Real intimacy isn’t the absence of conflict;
it’s the recognition of conflict and the willingness to address it as a team
when it arises. It is important to
address the ongoing issues in the relationship, but focus on resolving the
problem instead of proving your partner wrong;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11315. Even in the midst of a
heated fight, you need to remind yourself that this is a person you love and
respect and work to find the grain of truth (there is always one) in what s/he
is saying;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11316. Once you’re finished with
the blowout, it’s important to then find a post-combat, neutral place. You should take some time, regroup and calm
down before you attempt to reconnect.
Next, both parties need to take responsibility for their actions and be
willing to apologize. Apologize properly
if you raised your voice and said something hurtful and then start the
conversation again in a calmer state.
This is a great time for physical affection – in whatever form works for
you. Hugs, kisses, cuddles, etc. all
help to get the oxytocin flowing and recreate intimate connection with those we
love. Then, you can choose what’s next
together – a walk, a movie, time alone, sex.
There is no right or wrong – whatever works for the both of you, individually
and as a couple;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11317. The best way to safeguard
for future conflicts is to first set “absolute limits.” You make an agreement with each other when you’re
both connected of what is absolutely off-limits when you are fighting, such as
hurling anything at your partner that you know will hurt them or hit a pain
point, because this can cause real damage to your relationship and you may not
be able to rebuild trust;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11318. 4 unhealthy fight red
flags: 1. Criticism – It’s perfectly
fine to tell your partner if something they did upset you, but don’t point the
finger (of blame) and try to tear them down.
Instead, focus on the impact their behaviors or thoughts have on you
instead; 2. Defensiveness – If you’re on
the opposite side of this and you’re receiving feedback, don’t jump on the
defense straight away as it encourages more conflicts. Instead, take a deep breath, try to
understand her/his point of view and invite her/him for brainstorming to
resolve the issue together; 3. Contempt
– Contempt arises when you genuinely believe that you are superior to your
partner. You might be better at some
things than your partner, but s/he has her/his strengths too. If you have contempt for your partner, this
builds resentment over time and this is very toxic for a relationship; and
4. Stonewalling – If your partner does
something that pisses you off, don’t shut down or blow her/him off. These kinds of counterproductive reactions
only fuel anger and resentment. If it is
not the right time for you to have an argument, just tell your partner that
you’re not ready for it and that you commit to address the issues later, when
it’s more convenient;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11319. At the end of the day,
everyone fights. We just need to have
the emotional maturity to understand why we’re fighting and to be able to
apologize and take responsibility where it’s needed. We all want beautiful, healthy and happy
relationships and they start with taking steps to engage in conflict in a
positive way;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11320. Emotion isn’t changed by
logic; it’s changed by action;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11321. I can say I was at Matt
Duchene’s 1,000<sup>th</sup> (career, regular season) game and Evgeny
Kuznetsov’s 700<sup>th</sup> (career, regular season) game;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11322. I can say I saw Dylan
Strome’s 100<sup>th</sup> (career, regular season) goal and Alexander
Ovechkin’s 1,500<sup>th</sup> (career, regular season) point;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11323. Alexander Ovechkin is the
16<sup>th</sup> player in NHL history to score 1,500 (regular season) points;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11324. You can do anything you
want; you just might not be able to do it on the timeline you want. It may happen faster than expected and it may
take longer than expected;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11325. The number 1 rule in
likeability is to make people feel that you are like them. Regardless of skin color, religious, ethnic
and other differences, we prefer people who are similar to us at some level;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11326. There are 4 components to
fallback stories: 1. The bridging
sentence; 2. The story itself; 3. Your opinion of the story; and 4. Asking for the other person’s opinion in a
few different ways;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11327. The first component is
the bridging sentence and while it is short, it provides a simple, plausible
transition from whatever the previous topic was into your fallback story;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11328. “You know what I heard
recently?” is a fairly flexible option, while others you can use include “Want
to know something interesting that happened recently?” and “You won’t believe
what happened the other day.” All 3 of
these evoke some curiosity, giving you the perfect segue into your story;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11329. The second component is
the actual story itself. Now, notice
that it’s not long and the story details don’t even matter that much here;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11330. Introduce the premise,
try to focus on the 1 or 2 primary emotions that you want to evoke and move on
from there;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11331. If you tell the story
right, the reaction isn’t about the story itself, it’s about the questions it
poses (and that you pose);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11332. “What is the primary
emotion and point of the story you are trying to tell?” and distill that into 1
sentence. If you can’t, your stories are
probably rambling messes that make people scream internally;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11333. The third component is
your opinion (as the speaker) on the matter.
For most of these fallback stories, you want to provide a positive
opinion; otherwise people may not feel comfortable opening up and sharing if
they happen to disagree with you;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11334. Just share how you feel
about it and try to place yourself in the context. This component is key to opening the other
person up because you’ve shared first and made yourself vulnerable. The other person will feel safer after you’ve
disclosed your position first; that’s just a facet of human psychology;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11335. The fourth and final
component seems like a series of inane questions, but there is logic to the
chaos. When you ask someone to generally
comment on a situation, most people have a tough time with this request because
it is so open-ended and broad;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11336. Fallback stories are best
when concluded with a series of questions;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11337. When you are thinking of
what fallback stories to put up your sleeve, interpersonal situations tend to
work for that reason. Other prompts that
make good fallback stories include asking people what they would do in certain
hypothetical situations and asking for opinions on moral dilemmas (as long as
they aren’t dark and depressing);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11338. One of the best ways to
break out of interview mode is to engage in role play. Taking on a character, leaving yourself
behind and engaging in the ultimate type of conversational play;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11339. “Archer Oh” reminds me of
The Smiths/Morrissey;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11340. Dogstar is (actually) decent;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11341. John Wick/Keanu
Reeves/Neo is a decent bass player;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11342. Apparently, Robert
Mailhouse (the drummer for Dogstar) grew up in the (Washington,) D.C. area;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11343. Apparently, John
Wick/Keanu Reeves/Neo grew up in Toronto(, Canada);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11344. John Wick/Keanu
Reeves/Neo seems to be enjoying himself playing bass for Dogstar;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11345. Whitlow’s DC
(Whitlows.com) automatically adds a gratuity to your bill;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11346. Role playing: 1. Make a “judgement” statement about someone;
2. Give them a label based on the
statement that you made; and 3. Start
playing the roles;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11347. All of conversation is an
opportunity for playful interaction. It
just takes a shift in mindset to see that and the world will open up;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11348. Breaking the 4<sup>th</sup>
wall is a simple, yet effective move to make any conversation more
interesting. Often used in movies, this
technique essentially involves commenting about the conversation you’re having
in some positive way. This is generally
something that both parties are thinking, but has gone unacknowledged;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11349. The “Us Against the
World” technique entails forming an in-group with the person you’re talking to
based on some common experience or emotion that both of you share;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11350. If a conversation seems
to be dying out or droning along, you might want to have some fallback stories
to reinvigorate your interaction;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-15484686740668589232023-12-11T09:55:00.003-05:002024-01-08T13:46:35.316-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0226<p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11251. It’s cheaper (and more convenient) to order
takeout( from restaurants), groceries and stuff from pharmacies through Rappi
(Rappi.com) than it is to take a taxi or Uber to their stores;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11252. If you have Rappi Prime,
deliveries are free;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11253. There are a lot of bars
and clubs in the Barrio Provenza area of El Poblado in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11254. Going out in Medellin is
very casual. Wearing a t-shirt,
jeans/pants and sneakers is perfectly acceptable;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11255. I’m actually taller than
most Colombians;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11256. The most criminal thing
about Criminal Taqueria (Instagram.com/CriminalTaqueria) in Medellin is the
(speed of) service;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11257. Security at music
festivals in Colombia seem more concerned with finding weapons than they are with
finding drugs;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11258. I can say (that) I’ve
been to an EDM festival in South America( specifically Ritvales 2023 in
Medellin, Colombia);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11259. Apparently, they’ll test
your drugs at music festivals in Colombia;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11260. Apparently, tusi is a mix
of MDMA and ketamine;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11261. Latin American EDM is a
thing;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11262. Medellin Papas has really
crispy, crunchy, French fries;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11263. Amber Heard’s birthday is
on April 22(, 1986);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11264. There doesn’t seem to be
“turn on red” in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11265. There are wild dogs in
Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11266. Apparently, the wild dogs
in Medellin like chicken bones;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11267. The Medellin Metrocable
gondolas are considered to be the first urban cable propelled transit system in
South America;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11268. Apparently, the Santo
Domingo Metrocable station (in Medellin) is closed on Mondays unless Monday is
a public holiday then the station is closed on Tuesday;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11269. I can say I’ve ridden in
a Metrocable gondola;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11270. Real City Tours
(RealCityTours.com) has a really good, free walking tour of downtown Medellin
(i.e., El Centro Medellin);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11271. Colombians like to skirt
the line between legal and illegal;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11272. Colombians don’t talk
about Pablo Escobar;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11273. Pablo Escobar built homes
for the poor to curry favor in Medellin, but he also set off 400 or so bombs
killing 4,000 people;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11274. Apparently, Colombians
have selective memories and only remember the good and forget the bad;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11275. Apparently, Colombia
today produces 25 times the amount of cocaine it did in the 1980s;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11276. Medellin is (actually) a
pretty safe city. There are more murders
per capita in New Orleans. There was a
98% drop in crime when the distribution of cocaine/drugs moved from Colombia to
Mexico;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11277. Pre-COVID(-19), there
were 3,000 or so homeless in Medellin.
Since COVID(-19), there are now more than 10,000 homeless in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11278. Apparently, a third of
the population in Medellin doesn’t have a job;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11279. Colombians are friendly
and curious people. Don’t worry if they
stare at you (i.e., a foreigner);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11280. Locals in Medellin call
themselves “paisa;”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11281. Locals in Medellin call
foreigners and tourists/visitors “gringo;”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11282. Apparently, Colombia
produces a lot of knock off apparel. . . . They have Mike( shoe)s instead of
Nike( shoe)s;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11283. Apparently, the
(Colombian) Supreme Court ruled that people have the right to control their own
bodies. In doing so, the ruling made
prostitution legal as long as it is among/between adults (i.e., at least 18);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11284. Pimping, however, is not
legal in Colombia as it amounts/equates to slavery;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11285. The (court) ruling also
made abortion legal. So Colombians can
get an abortion any time after 5 days and up until 24 weeks of conception/pregnancy. Afterwards, it is only allowed in case of
risk of death to the mother, fetal malformation or rape;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11286. The (court) ruling also
made euthanasia legal in Colombia;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11287. Drugs are illegal in
Colombia, but the use of drugs is not (i.e., the right to control one’s own body);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11288. Apparently, the paisa of
Medellin take great pride in the Medellín Metro (i.e., Metro de Medellín). They keep the stations very clean and pick up
any garbage. They also don’t scratch the
windows or damage the train cars;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11289. Apparently, there’s
nothing to do in downtown Medellin (i.e., El Centro Medellin) at night. It’s mainly an industrial area;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11290. The Paisa platter (i.e.,
Bandeja Paisa) is a traditional Colombian dish in Medellin. It includes Colombian style beans, white
rice, chicharrón, carne en polvo, chorizo, a fried egg, ripe plantain, avocado
and arepa;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11291. Apparently, you shouldn’t
be afraid of the homeless in Medellin.
You should be more wary about pulling your phone out at night and walking
around alone at night in a deserted area;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11292. Apparently, you shouldn’t
walk around Medellin with your passport or a lot of cash. Most places take credit card;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11293. If you want to take a
walking tour of the Comuna 13 Medellin area, Zippy Tour Comuna 13
(ZippyTourComuna13.com) is supposed to be a good one;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11294. Apparently, you shouldn’t
walk to the Medellin Botanical Gardens (i.e., Jardín Botánico de
Medellín). You should either use the
(Medellin) Metro or take a taxi(cab) or Uber;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11295. Apparently, you shouldn’t
go to Botero Square (i.e., Plaza Botero) at night;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11296. There’s no reason to
cancel your plans because of weather in Medellin. Most storms will pass within 30 minutes;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11297. Apparently, Uber is
illegal in Colombia;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11298. They have green and red
(traffic) lights in Colombia, but no yellow ones. However, the green (traffic) lights count
down showing you how much time is left for the (traffic) light;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11299. There are not a lot of
Asians in Medellin. In a week, I saw 5
and 2 were in the airport;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11300. I didn’t see any Indians
in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-27184836055491117172023-10-30T11:22:00.010-04:002024-01-08T13:46:26.856-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0225<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11201. Your engaging conversations shouldn’t be a
mere replica of someone else’s style.
Embrace your unique personality, quirks and perspectives. Inject your own flair into every interaction
and watch as people are drawn to your authentic self;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11202. Whenever you make a
mistake, own up to it;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11203. The more you heal, the
less you see attention as affection, attachment as connection, codependency as
support, disagreement as an attack, enmeshment as intimacy, lack of boundaries
as empathy, external validation as internal self-love and trauma bonding as
healing;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11204. There’s no advantage in
college sports or minor league sports that don’t have a draft to lose/tank;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11205. Erectile dysfunction can
be an early sign/warning of current or future heart disease/problems;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11206. Perfectionism is the
response of anyone who’s had to work to be loved;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11207. How do you tell what has
special meaning to a person? Focus on
how much time and effort are normally involved in these decisions;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11208. When you compliment
things that reflect individual choices, your compliment can have quite an
impact;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11209. Other characteristics you
can compliment people about are their manners, the way they phrase certain
ideas, their opinions, their worldview and their perspective;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11210. The converse would be
complimenting someone on something they have zero control over, such as their
height;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11211. Your compliments have to
zero in on something that provides a measure of validation. For instance, an unusual hairstyle that makes
them feel special and unique. By
directing your compliment there, you highlight their own self-perceived sense
of how special they truly are;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11212. If you truly want to
maximize the effect and impact of your compliment, it all starts with being
observant about other people. Pay
attention to how you think they want to be perceived because that will give you
some insight into their insecurities and you can use your compliments to build
their confidence in those areas. If
someone constantly goes to the gym and makes fitness a large part of their
lifestyle, it’s pretty certain they want to be perceived as fit, active and
invested in health. Call that out with a
compliment;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11213. Compliments that target
things the person has put great effort into will pay huge dividends;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11214. Pay attention to other
people and ask yourself what emotion they want to evoke. Then give it to them. Don’t take too long to reply, but being too
quick isn’t advisable either. This is
all to make others feel that you are present and engaged;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11215. If your mind goes blank,
use a technique called free association to generate a response. These are words that immediately come to mind
upon hearing something;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11216. Owen (Cook) said he
helped get a (U.S.) president elected;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11217. Apparently, Tony Hsieh
(the former CEO of Zappos.com) was a friend and former client of Owen Cook;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11218. Apparently, word free
association/vomiting sounds like rapping;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11219. Apparently, Owen (Cook)
has friends in the State Department that told/warned him to take his (video)
content down;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11220. Owen (Cook) thinks
A(rtificial )I(ntelligence) will be the “mark of the beast;”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11221. Ken Burns (the
documentarian) has ditched the beard;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11222. Ken Burns’ idea of dressing
up is still a blazer with jeans;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11223. In the early 1800s, (it
has been estimated that) there were about 30 million (American) buffalo roaming
from the east coast to the Great Plains;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11224. The (American) buffalo is
the national mammal of the U.S.;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11225. I can say that I’ve
chatted with W. Richard West, Jr., (the founding director of the “National
Museum of the American Indian”) and his wife, Mary. I ran into them, after a(n) (WETA) event in
Washington, D.C., as they were about to cross the street. They were very kind and gracious;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11226. Ken Burns is 70;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11227. What you’re drawn to
tells you who you are;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11228. The truth is that things
don’t really get solved. They come
together and fall apart. They come
together again and fall apart again.
It’s just like that. The healing
comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for
relief, for mystery, for joy;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11229. U.S. citizens don’t need
a visa to enter Colombia for a tourist or business stay of 90 days or less or
cumulatively for stays of 180 days or less per calendar year. Before your 90-day stay expires, you can
request an extension of up to 90 additional days from the Colombian immigration
authority (i.e., Migración Colombia);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11230. When looking for
(airline) flights, try Capital One Travel (CapitalOneTravel.com). I found the same flight for a $110.00 less
than what I found it for on Google Flights;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11231. Kung Fu Tea
(KungFuTea.com) uses Lactaid (lactose-free) milk;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11232. Coca-Cola (Zero Sugar)
Y3000 does have a (fake) tropical fruit flavor to it . . . (it) maybe coconut;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11233. The “Hot Wawa Gobbler
with stuffing & cranberry” is tasty, but, it’s not as good as Starbucks’
“holiday turkey and stuffing panini;”<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11234. I find it sad, the number
of companies/people, who try to prey on/scam you, when you buy real estate(
with home warrantees, insurance and up-charging for property deeds);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11235. Fill out your immigration
registration at CheckMig (apps.migracioncolombia.gov.co/pre-registro/en) anytime
between 72 hours to an hour before you get to Colombia. It’ll (significantly) speed up the
immigration control process;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11236. The taxi(cab) and Uber
pickup is upstairs on the departure level at José María Córdova International
Airport (MDE) in Medellin(, Colombia);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11237. The Túnel de Oriente
connecting Medellin with the José María Córdova International Airport is the
second longest vehicular tunnel in Latin America. It cuts the commute/travel time to the
airport from 1 ½ hours to 30-45 minutes;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11238. Medellin is very
mountainous. It sits in a valley;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11239. Most of the roads in
Medellin are two lanes with one lane going in each direction;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11240. Residential buildings in
Medellin have (metal) fences with barbed/razor wire or electrified fencing on
top. Most storefronts have garage doors;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11241. You can drink the water
in Colombia;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11242. Most of the buildings in
Medellin are made from red(, clay) bricks;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11243. McDonald’s has (bone-in)
fried chicken in Colombia;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11244. Apparently, Colombia has
very little coffee culture;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11245. Colombians seem to like avocado,
beans, (ham)burgers, fried chicken, fried potatoes, grilled meat, hot
dogs/sausages, plantain and rice;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11246. There is Burger King,
Domino’s, Dunkin’ Donuts, Hooters, KFC, McDonald’s, Papa John’s, Pizza Hut and
Starbucks in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11247. Apparently, only
foreigners and people working out wear shorts in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11248. Colombians start
decorating for Christmas in November;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11249. Davivienda
(Davivienda.com) (in Colombia) doesn’t charge a fee for taking out money from
their ATMs;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11250. Apparently, they’ll
deliver party favors to your door in Medellin;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-5609374425655592422023-09-25T11:33:00.007-04:002024-01-08T13:46:15.821-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0224<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: left;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11151. Montreal has a nice mix of old and new
architecture;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11152. I can say I’ve been in an
Olympic venue(, specifically the Montreal Olympic Pool);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11153. You can live in the
Olympic Village. The (1976) Olympic
Village in Montreal has been converted/turned into apartments;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11154. One of the fundamental
rules of likability and charisma is the concept of reciprocity. Put simply, we are kind to people who are
kind to us first. Rarely do you see
somebody who reacts very negatively when somebody gives them a gift or dresses
their wounds or otherwise helps them;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11155. You have to choose things
to praise others for that will have the greatest impact. In other words, it has to be something that
they actually care about. Otherwise,
your compliment will come off as less than genuine and you will give the
impression that you’re fake or manipulative;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11156. Massaging/working on one
place on the body can affect a different area of the body;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11157. Apparently, I’ve got a
lot of tightness in the pelvic region of my body especially in the
buttocks/glutes;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11158. Apparently, I have a shy
scrotum;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11159. Apparently, the
circumcision scar on the underside of my penis towards the tip is very
sensitive;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11160. Apparently, I should try
relaxing when I climax/orgasm;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11161. Comfort is the worst
addiction and a cheap ticket to depression;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11162. Don’t tell people more
than they need to know; respect your privacy;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11163. The family you create is
more important than the family you come from;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11164. Train yourself to take
nothing personally to save yourself from 99% of mental problems;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11165. There can be knots and
tight spots inside the body;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11166. An internal massage is a
thing;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11167. It’s possible to
stroke/touch a woman’s cervix;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11168. The keys to giving an
internal massage are communication (i.e., what feels good and what doesn’t),
going slowly and being present and really paying attention to the other person;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11169. The cutlet sandwich
(i.e., breaded chicken cutlet, provolone, coleslaw, hot peppers, marinated
eggplant & mayonnaise) at “BOSSA Pret a manger” (Bossa.ca) (in Montreal) is
tasty;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11170. Apparently, a
Montreal(-style) bagel is smaller, thinner, sweeter, denser and with a bigger
hole than a New York-style bagel and it’s always baked in a wood-fired oven;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11171. The view from the Mount
Royal Chalet in Montreal reminds me of the view from Victoria Peak in Hong
Kong;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11172. The smoked meat sandwich
on rye (bread) with (yellow) mustard from Schwartz’s (SchwartzsDeli.com) (in
Montreal) is so good. . . . It’s tender, flavorful, a little salty, but so
good. . . . Their (French) fries are good too;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11173. The (French) fries at Le
Darling (instagram.com/Bar.Darling) (in Montreal) are great. They have a slight sweetness to them;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11174. Plattsburgh(, New York,)
is known for the Michigan hot dog/red hot.
It’s a steamed all-beef hot dog on a steamed bun topped with a meaty,
bean-less chili;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11175. I can say I’ve had a
Michigan hot dog/red hot( from Clare & Carl’s Hot Dog Stand in Plattsburgh,
New York);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11176. Abundance is not
impressive when you have a lot of whatever it is you want to have a lot
of. Abundance is impressive when you
don’t have what you want and you choose to believe the opposite of what reality
is showing you at this exact moment. If
you can stay abundant in the face of scarcity then it shows your beliefs are
immovable;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11177. Scarcity and abundance
aren’t based on numbers. They’re based
on beliefs;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11178. According to Blake, I
have a sweet nature about me . . . not exactly the vibe I’m looking to project
to women/the ladies;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11179. The lu rao fan (i.e.,
slow braised, 5-spice pork belly bits on rice, soy egg, scallions, ginger &
arugula salad) at Bar Chinois (BarChinoisDC.com) in D.C. is tasty;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11180. Here are the 2 key areas
that are important as far as the focus of your compliments goes: things people
have control over and things people have made conscious and specific choices
about;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11181. If you have to choose
from many things to compliment someone about, pick the one that is least
obvious;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11182. Appreciating the things
that go unnoticed makes people feel extra special because it tells them that
you took the time and effort to pay close attention to them;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11183. The iced pumpkin cream
chai tea latte at Starbucks is tasty;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11184. An Odesza concert is a
spectacle. It’s like a Vegas show. There’s a good use of visuals, flame mortars,
fireworks and lasers;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11185. Odesza (sure does) love(s)
a drumline;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11186. Feelings drive action. Feelings drive change. Feelings drive connection;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11187. People often claim to buy
things because of logical decisions, but, most of the time, they buy based on
feelings and then justify their decision with logic;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11188. Logic doesn’t build deep
connections. Feelings do;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11189. If you write in a way
that doesn’t make people feel things, they won’t bond with you. They won’t buy as much from you. And they’ll likely stop paying attention to
you overall at some point;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">
</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11190. Don’t be afraid of
upsetting people. Don’t set out to piss
people off, but don’t let someone else’s anger stop you from saying what you
believe in. Or stop you from having fun
or doing things your way;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11191. Marcello Hernandez (from “Saturday Night Live”) is pretty funny;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11192. Not surprisingly, Michael Che is dirtier doing stand-up( comedy);</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11193. Colin Jost went to Harvard( University). . . . Michael Che didn’t go to college. . . . They ended up with the same job;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11194. Identify your problems, but give your power and energy to solutions;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11195. In life, lots of people know what to do, but few actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11196. If you talk about it, it’s a dream, if you envision it, it’s possible, but, if you schedule it, it’s real;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11197. The path to success is to take massive, determined action;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11198. Persistence overshadows even talent as the most valuable resource shaping the quality of life;</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11199. Engaging conversations require active listening, the kind that makes the other person feel heard and understood. It’s about giving your undivided attention, maintaining eye contact and genuinely empathizing with their words.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">11200. One of the most powerful tools in your conversational arsenal is the art of asking thought-provoking questions. These are the kinds of questions that dig deep, spark curiosity and invite the other person to open up on a whole new level. It’s through these questions that you’ll unlock hidden stories, passions and insights, forging a connection that goes far beyond surface-level chitchat;</span></p><p></p></div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-35898751991162610992023-08-28T09:33:00.005-04:002024-01-08T13:46:04.832-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0223<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11101. The Peruvian (rotisserie) chicken at “Chicken
+ Whiskey” is good, but I still like the chicken at Nando’s Peri-Peri more;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11102. The Trader Joe’s raisin
rosemary crisps are so good. I ate the
whole box in a day;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11103. Apparently, you can make
oat flour by putting whole oats in a blender or a food processor;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11104. Emily Haines (the lead
singer of “Metric”) has nice legs;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11105. (Surprisingly, )Emily
Haines is 49. . . . She was born on January 25<sup>th</sup>, 1974;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11106. A conversation without
reactions from the other party is like a movie without background music. At first, things seem fine, but you quickly
notice that it feels empty and something is missing. You feel as if you’re speaking to a wall you
can’t read and one that you’re not even sure is listening to what you are
saying. You’re not sure what to feel and
how to proceed because there are no cues given;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11107. Reactions show people
that you are more than just physically present; you are emotionally and
intellectually present;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11108. If you match the energy
of the person you’re talking to, you’ll also make them feel like you understand
them better than you actually do;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11109. As with many things,
reactions have a cumulative effect. If
during a 5-minute conversation, the other person does not react to 1 or 2
statements you make, you might not notice.
But suppose that person doesn’t respond 10 times in a row to something
you’ve said? Wouldn’t you start to feel
anxious, as if you’ve said the wrong thing and they are punishing you with their
complete lack of reaction?<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11110. There are a few different
levels to reactions that make it clear you are listening and present. You don’t have to be an expert at reacting or
make a big show of it; you just need to let the other person know you’re
engaged;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11111. The first element is to
make sure you react with the appropriate emotion;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11112. The easiest way to make
sure you react appropriately to a story, statement or question is to take a
step back and ask yourself, “What is the primary emotion being shared here?”
and then give that back to them;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11113. Keep in mind that the
intensity of your emotion matters as well;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11114. As such, once you
recognize the emotion they’re looking for, take care to also return it in equal
measure as they expressed it to you;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11115. Here’s a tip: the vast
majority of emotions people share and want reciprocal, congruent reactions to
are: joy, annoyance, anger, sadness and humor.
Note that 3 out of 5 are negative;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11116. When your responses
accurately fit what the other person is saying (and feeling), it tells them you
understand them – that you can walk a mile in their shoes. You create a lot of subconscious comfort when
you react in a way that accurately corresponds to their feelings;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11117. To reinforce such expression
of understanding to the person you’re talking with, take it up a notch by also
mimicking their facial expression and gestures;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11118. The second way to make
your reactions great is to react just a little slower than you think you
should;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11119. If you are stone-faced
and unreactive, people fell as if they are speaking to a wall. But reacting too quickly can impart a similar
frustration;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11120. If you react too quickly,
no matter your reasons for doing so, it make you look dismissive;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11121. When you react too
quickly, it also makes people feel rushed;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11122. If you have a problem
with reacting too quickly or overreacting, try the 2-second rule. Wait 2 seconds after the person is done
speaking before you say anything. It
makes it look as if you are processing and considering what they’ve just
said. Moreover, people are likely to
perceive you as smarter if you take a few moments to respond;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11123. Noel Gallagher (from the
band, “Oasis”,) is crotchety;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11124. When you’re ordering food
at “Jimmy John’s,” get your sandwich with French bread. You get more food than if you ordered it with
thick-sliced wheat;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11125. Always have these double
explanations prepared (i.e., 1. a short,
witty, layman’s response; and 2. a more
detailed, expert’s response). Lead with
a layman’s explanation because these make you look interesting and prevent you
from missing a chance to make an impression.
They make you appear witty and they open the conversation to deeper
levels of engagement. However, ensure
that your responses do not seem rehearsed.
It can be fairly easy to spot someone who is mechanically repeating
lines they’re rote learned so pause for a moment or 2 before replying;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11126. Once you know the
conversation won’t remain superficial, you can unleash your expert explanation
on people to create engagement and immediately capitalize on a common
interest);<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11127. Compliments can help your
conversations last longer and make you the object of someone’s attention and
affection. The trick is you need to know
how to use them properly;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11128. I can say I’ve been to an
MLS All-Star Skills Challenge;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11129. I can say I’ve seen
Arsenal F.C. (from the Premier League) play/practice;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11130. Compliments from someone
who gives them out easily and frequently have little value. However, if you’re perceived as the kind of
person who compliments or appreciates things only when s/he genuinely sees
value in them, your words will carry much more meaning;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11131. People like to feel
validated and appreciated. Paying
compliments can go a long way in producing these feelings;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11132. In conversations,
compliments create an air of positivity, which can boost the overall level of
comfort people have with you;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11133. When somebody says
something positive to you, your brain produces neurotransmitters that are
associated with a sense of well-being and happiness;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11134. If one of your friends
constantly compliments you and never fails to make you feel better about
yourself, you probably start looking forward to seeing that person;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11135. What has actually
happened is that your brain has paired this friend with the positive feeling of
being complimented, thus creating an automatic reaction of feeling good every
time you’re with that person.
Eventually, this positive conditioning becomes somewhat addictive;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11136. If you come across people
that are predictably negative and put you in a bad place mentally and
emotionally, your tendency is to run away from them;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11137. You don’t get what you
want by wanting it. You get it by
becoming it in your mind before you become it in reality. Reality follows energy;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11138. Accept what is. Let go of what was. Believe in what will be;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11139. I can say I’ve taken a
road trip to Montreal;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11140. Most of the buildings in
Montreal are brick;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11141. Most of the apartments in
Montreal have balconies;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11142. There are Wal-Marts in
Montreal;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11143. There are not a lot of
Starbucks in Montreal;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11144. They have very steep
(entrance) staircases in Montreal;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11145. Montreal has a lot of
public parks;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11146. You may want to have a
deeper relationship with someone, for example, your father, but, at this point,
he’s set in his ways and probably won’t change. . . . And that’s okay;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11147. Apparently, I had a lot
of repressed/suppressed anger/hatred against/towards God;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11148. Apparently, I had a lot
of repressed/suppressed anger/hatred against/towards an old girlfriend;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11149. The left side of the body
is regarded as the feminine side and represents(, among other things,) the
mother. It’s also the channel of our
past emotions and memories;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-bottom: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-margin-bottom-alt: 8.0pt; mso-margin-top-alt: 0in; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11150. According to Igor, I have
a calming energy about me;<o:p></o:p></span></p><p></p></div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-64806719720403549382023-07-05T16:02:00.011-04:002024-01-08T13:45:54.639-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0222<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11051. (Try)
say(ing) “How’s your day going?” v. “How’s it going?”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11052.
Loneliness is not the absence of people.
It’s the absence of connection;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11053. I used
to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not.
The worst thing in life is to end up around people who make you feel all
alone;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11054. Address
the pain so you can return to work with full focus;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11055.
Communication is the exchanging of information. It’s processed in the frontal lobe;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11056.
Connection is a feeling of understanding and ease of communication
between people. It’s processed in the
insular cortex;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11057.
Technology enables communication not connection;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11058.
Communication is dealt.
Connection is felt;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11059.
Time-constraints severely limit our willingness to connect with others;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11060.
Happiness is only real when shared;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11061.
Knowledge: noun; acquaintance with facts, truths or principles, as from
study or investigation;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11062. Love:
noun; a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11063. Wisdom:
noun; knowledge of what is true or right coupled with just judgment as to
action;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11064. When
you’re angry/infuriated at someone( in particularly your partner), ask, “What
if I was curious instead of furious?
What if there’s a good reason?
What if it’s not what I think it is?
Can you tell me the reason you did that?”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11065. Ways to
apologize: 1. I’m sorry I hurt your
feelings; and 2. I’m sorry I
disrespected you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11066. Ask(
your partner), “How do you ask for sex? . . . How do you signal you want sex?
(i.e., If I say this . . .; If I mention such and such . . .);”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11067. Ask(
your partner), “What do you need me, to give me what I’m asking for?”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11068. Ask(
your partner), “What do I need, to give her/him what s/he’s asking for?”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11069. Ask(
your partner), “What are your pumpkin hours (i.e., not a good time to ask for
sex)?”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11070. The next
woman I meet that I’m attracted to is, most likely/probably, not the
“One.” This is (both) liberating and disheartening/sad
at the same time. It takes the pressure
off, but it’s sad too;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11071. (A slice
of) grilled pineapple on a (ham)burger is (really) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11072.
Apparently, Meghan (Wallen) likes to kiss/make out with other women;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11073. Meghan
(Wallen) has (small) pink nipples;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11074.
Apparently, Meghan (Wallen) likes to suck fingers;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11075. The King
Street Trolley in (Old Town) Alexandria doesn’t start operating/running until
11:00 AM. . . . It runs from 11:00 AM to 11:00 PM daily, year-round( including
holidays);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11076. The
(Taco Bell) “Breakfast Crunchwrap” is tasty . . . and so is the (toasted)
breakfast burrito;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11077. Virginia
Distillery Co.’s (VaDistillery.com) American whiskies are made of only spring
water from the Blue Ridge Mountains, yeast and barley;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11078. After
the distillation process, whiskey, made with barley(, which contains gluten),
is gluten free;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11079. Rum can be
made with a coloring agent that has gluten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11080. Whiskey
pairs well with fatty meat, sushi and chocolate;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11081. You
should stay away from spicy food(s)/food(s) with a lot of capsaicin, when
pairing whiskey( with food);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11082. The
fruitiness in whiskies is from the esters created by the fermentation
process. Fermentation is usually between
24-72 hours with the longer fermentation periods producing the fruit like
flavors;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11083. Apparently,
Darius Rucker likes (covering) ’90 music/songs;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11084. If you
go to a Darius Rucker concert, you might hear a/some “Hootie & the
Blowfish” song(s);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11085. Brandi
Carlile thinks Rufus Wainwright has a great voice;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11086. Brandi
Carlile’s favorite covers of “Hallelujah” are by Jeff Buckley, K.D. Lang and
Rufus Wainwright;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11087. Apparently,
Brandi Carlile lives with her bandmates (i.e., Phil & Tim Hanseroth);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11088. Visualization
itself doesn’t cause reality to shift.
Visualization causes a shift in behavior . . . a shift in energy . . . a
shift in identity . . . a shift in vibration . . . a shift in action;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11089. The “Air
House,” the official residence of the chief of staff of the Air Force, is at
Fort Myer in Arlington, Virginia, across the Potomac River from Washington,
D.C.;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11090. On
January 21<sup>st</sup>, 2009, the day after his inauguration, President Obama
signed a United Nations protocol banning the use of incendiary weapons (e.g.,
napalm). 115 nations have signed the
disarmament treaty, first introduced in 1981;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11091. I didn’t
think I’d like a heated toilet seat. . . . It reminds me of a heated car seat.
. . . It’s rather nice when the air is chilly/cold;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11092. I can
say I’ve stayed/vacationed in a cabin with a(n) (senior) associate director of
athletics (for academics and student-athlete support services) (specifically
Justine Miller from Mount St. Mary’s University);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11093. “Spicy
Sweet Chili” Doritos are (pretty) tasty.
Apparently, they’re the only vegan Doritos (besides the “Toasted Corn”);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11094. Apparently,
a “glizzy” is a hot dog . . . or a pistol magazine;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11095. Apparently,
“trappin’ out the bando” means selling drugs at an abandoned house;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11096. I can
say that I’ve smoked in the vegetable garden terrace at Monticello;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11097. Tomato
preserves taste like grape jelly with a slight tomato aftertaste;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11098. A good
conversationalist’s talent is making sure the other person is comfortable;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11099. With
comfort comes openness, then comes rapport, then comes an environment ripe for
witty banter. We can do this by
remembering to ask broader questions that aren’t looking for a right or wrong
answer;</span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"> <br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11100. The
Peruvian rotisserie chicken at “Chicken + Whiskey” (ChickenAndWhiskey.com) is a
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-78514768994603003562023-05-22T11:03:00.007-04:002024-01-08T13:45:45.767-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0221<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11001.
Champagne bottle sizes: 1.
Quarter/Split – ¼ bottle, 187 ml; 2.
Half/Demi – ½ bottle, 375 ml; 3.
Bottle – 1 bottle, 750 ml; 4.
Magnum – 2 bottles, 1.5 L; 5.
Jeroboam – 4 bottles, 3 L; 6.
Rehoboam – 6 bottles, 4.5 L; 7.
Methuselah – 8 bottles, 6 L; 8.
Salmanazar – 12 bottles, 9 L; 9.
Balthazar – 16 bottles, 12 L; 10.
Nebuchadanezzar – 20 bottles, 15 L; 11.
Melchior – 24 bottles, 18 L; 12.
Solomon – 26.6 bottles, 20 L; 13.
Sovereign – 33.3 bottles, 25 L; 14.
Primat – 36 bottles, 27 L; and 15.
Melchizidek – 40 bottles, 30 L;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11002. Crème
brûlée and crème caramel are two different types of custard desserts. Crème brûlée is made with a rich custard base
that is topped with a layer of hard caramel.
Crème caramel is made with a caramelized sugar syrup that is poured over
a layer of custard;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11003. Pots de
crème is typically richer and denser than chocolate mousse which tends to be
lighter and airier. Mousse generally
contains both whipped cream and whipped egg whites to give it a lighter
texture. Alternatively, pots de crème
are more commonly heated for a thicker and denser consistency;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11004. You can
refrigerate/freeze doughnuts. To thaw(
them), microwave them in 10 second increments;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11005. (Choceur)
dark chocolate covered coconut almonds taste like an “Almond Joy” candy bar;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11006.
Drumshanbo Gunpowder Irish Gin (really) does have a(n herbal) tea
flavor( to it);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11007. Gryffin
(the deejay) looks like a surfer or a grunge band guitarist;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11008. Reese’s
Sticks are just Little Debbie nutty bars;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11009. Timmy
Trumpet (the deejay) reminds me of Robert Duvall’s character from “Apocalypse
Now;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11010. Kygo is
actually pretty good;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11011. (Red)
grapes seem to last a long time when they’re stored in an airtight container in
the refrigerator;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11012. “Cirque
de la Symphonie” (CirqueDeLaSymphonie.com) is a cross between “Cirque du
Soleil” and the symphony;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11013. Luisa
wears (athletic) thong underwear;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11014. Luisa likes
her feet massaged/rubbed;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11015. I can
say (that) I’ve been to a NCAA men’s volleyball championship game;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11016. (UCLA’s)
Andrew Rowan is a talented (volleyball) setter;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11017. UCLA has
won 20 NCAA men’s volleyball championships;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11018. When
talent is the most important thing, it teaches you one of the most dangerous
lessons of all. If you’re not good at it
right away, give up. If you have to
practice then you’re not good enough. . . . Most dangerous of all, it binds
your identity and self-worth to winning/succeeding;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11019. We don’t
get what we deserve in life. We get what
we believe we deserve;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11020. The pork
pipian (i.e., slow roasted pork shoulder served over cilantro rice and black
beans, topped with a green mole sauce & crunchy pepita seeds) at Tequila
& Taco (AlexandriaTaco.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria reminds of the pork
morsels (i.e., marinated pork bites served with house-made cilantro sauce) at
Havana ’59 (Havana59.com) in Richmond(, Virginia);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11021. A scarab
is a dung beetle;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11022. Studies
show that men with deeper voices tend to have higher testosterone levels (i.e.,
an indicator of dominance) and a more athletic body type;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11023. Luisa
sometimes goes commando when she’s working at home in sweats;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11024. Luisa
has nice feet;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11025. Meghan
(Wallen) said I have a nice voice;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11026. According
to Sam, if a woman invites you over to her home/place to hang out, she’s
willing to sleep with you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11027.
Apparently, the peanut oil used at Chick-fil-A is refined, bleached and
deodorized, which means the proteins in the oil are stripped out so the oil is
not considered a major food allergen;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11028. The
chicken at Wooboi Chicken (WooboiChicken.com) is tasty. . . . Level 3 is pretty
hot/spicy. . . . The “Junior” (i.e., chicken tender, ciderslaw, butter pickles
& Comeback sauce on a bun) is enough food for most people;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11029.
Apparently, there’s no “advantage” at deuce in college tennis;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11030. Play the
games you want to play. Live the life
you want to live. Chase your dreams, not
someone else’s;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11031. Steve
Aoki’s father, Hiroaki “Rocky” Aoki, founded Benihana(: Sushi & Japanese
Steakhouse) and “Genesis” magazine;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11032.
According to Dimitrios( Lazaridis), the keys to a good pasta sauce are
tomatoes you’d want to eat by themselves and olive oil you’d want to use by
itself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11033.
Apparently, that (decorative) plate at your seat at a (wedding) reception
is called a charger;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11034. Who
makes the cake and desserts for their own wedding? The answer is: Amira does;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11035. Justin
Trudeau does look like a young Fidel Castro;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11036. Jasper
(Ribbers) said I have a good soul;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11037. Apparently,
Ian (Bednowitz) is a (closet) rapper;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11038. Having
dueling pianos at your wedding reception is a (pretty) fun idea;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11039.
Apparently, you can use black bean to make a sugar free fudge-like
dessert. . . . Just ask Amira;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11040. The
Mexican free-tailed bat is the fastest animal going horizontally. . . . It can
reach speeds of 100 miles per hour;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11041. The
peregrine falcon is the fastest animal. . . . It can reach speeds of 242 miles
per hour when diving;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11042. The
United States (Army Air Force) (in World War II) created bombs that housed
(Mexican free-tailed) bats with timed incendiary devices on them (in order) to
start fires on the largely wooden buildings in Japan;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11043. Apparently,
I can say I had my kayak pulled out of the Colorado River (in Austin, Texas,)
by the lead singer of (the reggae band,) “Lion Heights;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11044. Apparently,
you shouldn’t swim in the Colorado River in Austin(, Texas). There’s a lot of runoff and industrial waste
in the water;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11045. The
Texas State Capitol (building) was paid for by giving 3,000,000 acres (in the
Texas Panhandle) to the builders;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11046. All 3 of
Terry Black’s Barbeque (TerryBlacksBBQ.com) sauces (i.e., “Central Texas
Original,” “Sweet & Tangy” and “Spicy”) are tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11047. Life
hack: When at Terry Black’s Barbeque, sit at the table with a person by himself/herself,
who has a beef rib and is on his/her way to the airport. You may get part of said/that beef rib;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11048. Apparently,
Elizabeth is a kleptomaniac . . . at least for barbeque t-shirts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11049. Subaru
(Corporation) was the Nakajima Aircraft Company during World War II and was
responsible for a large share of all Japanese combat-aircraft engines;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11050. Napalm
was created at Harvard( University). It
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</div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-68968579084888841932023-04-17T09:59:00.008-04:002024-01-08T13:45:26.737-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0220<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10951. It’s
possible to experience stress without getting stressed out;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10952. Stress
is manageable if you put boundaries on your stressors;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10953. Most
high-achievers think being stressed out is inevitable because they’ve only learned
to work hard not smart;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10954. If you
can learn to set healthy boundaries on your stressors, you’ll be amazed at how
much high-quality work you can do with far less stress than you imagined;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10955. There’s
a big difference between being disciplined and being hard on yourself. Unfortunately, most people grow up believing
these two things are the same – that discipline is being hard on yourself. And because they manage to do well in school,
work, etc., it reinforces the belief that they succeeded because they were hard
on themselves;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10956. In
reality, most successful people succeed despite their self-criticism not
because of it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10957. Your
discipline and work ethic will indeed help you succeed. But your habit of beating yourself up with
self-criticism and self-judgment is just making everything unnecessarily hard;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10958.
Self-criticism is not a sustainable strategy for staying motivated, but
it will make you miserable;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10959. If you
can learn to let go of the habit of beating yourself up all of the time and
instead practice some self-compassion, you’ll find that you can be at least as
motivated as you’ve always been and far, far happier too;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10960. Just
because other people don’t appear to struggle with their emotions, doesn’t mean
that’s actually the case. Many people,
especially people who are historically very high-achieving, are just really
good at hiding their emotional struggles and coming across as cool and
collected;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10961. Trying
to control difficult emotions always backfires in the end. You don’t have direct control over your
emotions. You can’t just turn down the
anxiety dial or raise the happiness lever!
And when you try to control them, you often end up feeling bad about
feeling bad, which of course only makes things worse;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10962. You
don’t need to avoid or control your emotions to stay productive; you need a
different relationship with them;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10963. If you
spend all of your time trying to avoid or control difficult feelings, you’ll be
so exhausted that you have no energy left to actually get anything done;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10964. There is
no failure only feedback. You win or you
learn. Both are equally good. All negative feedback just provides the
contrast to make the eventual win more appreciative;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10965.
Rejection does have to be personalized, it could be a wrong approach;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10966. The
world is your experiment lab to try new things and play;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10967. You’re a
unique person who has value (in the eyes of God) and the ability to learn
specific skills and to provide value to others;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10968. People
enjoy you for your unique perspective energy presence and life experiences. You always have something to add in a social
interaction with your energy and words;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10969.
Reputation is temporary; character is forever;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10970. No one
can push down your value because of your inherent worth;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10971. You’re a
spiritual being having a temporary physical experience;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10972. People
are generally good and friendly when you show a win-win to them and you set
boundaries if they behave badly;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10973. People
are deserving of love even those who have done you wrong;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10974. When
limiting beliefs invade every waking thought, they become self-fulfilling. Soon enough, you believe one bad moment, word
or decision impacts every aspect of your life;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10975. No
problem is permanent. Only your soul is
permanent and every problem can be solved;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10976. What’s
wrong is always available and so is what’s right;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10977. Abraham
Alexander was born in Greece. His
parents moved him and his brothers to Texas when he was 11;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10978. I can
say I saw Abraham Alexander (in concert) the day before his debut album,
SEA/SONS, was released;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10979. Bear
Rinehart (the lead singer of NEEDTOBREATHE) looks like he’s having a lot of fun
singing/performing;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10980. Bear
Rinehart’s solo project, “Wilder Woods,” is named after his two oldest sons;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10981. Bear
Rinehart was the 2002 South Carolina Player-of-the-Year as a wide receiver for
Furman University. He caught a (then)
record 70 passes for a (then) record 892 yards;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10982. Donovan
Woods wanted to name( the song), “Man Made Lake,” “Lake Dad;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10983. Donovan
Woods’ (ex-)girlfriend from college/university married a woman;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10984.
Apparently, Henry Jamison’s lawyer (i.e., the singer) is now Jack
Harlow’s lawyer (i.e., the rapper);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10985. A lot of
famous artists have played at “Jammin Java” (JamminJava.com) in Vienna,
Virginia;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10986.
Abundance is non-linear;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10987. A true
belief in the inherent goodness of yourself, of your heart and your soul, from
your head to your toes, and in every fiber of your being is, unfortunately,
rare;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10988. Sitting
underneath the scarcity belief of “there is not enough” is usually another,
deeper belief, which is the belief that “I am not enough;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10989. It’s
vitally important that you truly choose yourself. Until you make that choice, on a deep level,
nothing else can happen. No matter what
it is that you need to work on inside of yourself, you must first choose to
give yourself the gift of focus before the shift can happen. Make the time, create the space and do the
work you need to do to change your old patterns and behaviors to allow more
abundance to flow in. Making that
commitment is a demonstration that you are willing to choose yourself, to make
yourself and your unique journey a priority;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10990. Recognize
that like everything in life, it is a journey.
The richness is in the path itself and we can often miss that when we
fixate too much on a destination. The
truth is, there is no destination just a constant evolution of the ways in
which we express ourselves in our lives.
A deepening of the fullness of that expression. A deepening of abundance. There is no “good” or “bad” on this journey
(though there may be highs and lows).
Everything is an opportunity for learning and further evolution. So, stop beating yourself up;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10991. Whatever
it is that you want to enjoy in your life of abundance, give yourself
permission to have that. Really want it
for yourself, for no other reason than because you love yourself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10992. The
pursuit of gratitude and compassion will make you happier than the pursuit of
happiness;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10993. Dr. Amit
Sood’s insight shows that the quickest way to greater happiness is not by
chasing happiness itself. He says it is
instead by cultivating and actively practicing gratitude and compassion in our
lives;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10994. It’s not
in chasing the things you think you want that leads you to a lasting feeling of
abundance or happiness especially if you want those things in order to heal
some sense of “not enough-ness” in yourself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10995. You need
to put in effort, especially by working on your internal state, if you want
more abundance and not just sit around waiting for things to magically fall out
of the sky;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10996. It
matters what kind of energetic place you’re coming from when you do things;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10997. The
practice of gratitude for what you already have is what makes your life feel
full more than anything else and that, in turn, attracts more abundance to you.
In other words, abundance is not
something you chase down like a predator. Abundance is something that you put yourself
into the right state to receive as you walk towards it in faith;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10998. Seeking
love and acceptance from others is not what makes you feel valued( and
validated). Practicing empathy and
compassion for others is what leads you to feeling truly connected to love and
to life;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10999. The
barbecue sauce at Sweet Fire Donna’s in (Old Town) Alexandria is Sweet Baby
Ray’s( barbecue sauce);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">11000. The
escargot sauce of diced tomatoes, garlic, parsley and butter at Le Refuge
Restaurant (LeRefugeAlexandria.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is (really) tasty;</span></div>
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-35129591566773599132023-04-03T11:57:00.007-04:002024-01-08T13:45:17.325-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0219<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10901.
Relatively, we are living. Life
is our résumé. It is our story to tell
and the choices we make write the chapters.
Can we live in a way where we look forward to looking back?<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10902.
Inevitably, we are going to die.
Our eulogy, our story, will be told by others and forever introduce us
when we are gone;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10903. The soul
objective: Begin with the end in mind;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10904. Matthew
McConaughey’s 10 goals in life: 1.
Become a father; 2. Find and keep
the woman for me; 3. Keep my
relationship with God; 4. Chase my best
life; 5. Be an egotistical utilitarian;
6. Take more risks; 7. Stay close to mom and family; 8. Win an Oscar for best actor; 9. Look back and enjoy the view; and 10. Just keep livin(g);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10905. Style is
knowing who you are, what you want to say and not giving a damn;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10906. You know
who you are when you become independent enough to believe your own thoughts and
become responsible for your actions and you not only “believe” what you want,
but you live what you believe;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10907. Live the
questions first then what you believe . . . then you have your own personal
style;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10908. To
appreciate a place, a character, a time, think of it as a place to live
permanently; find the likeness, the goodness;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10909. It is a
necessity of man to leave what he knows so he can see what he knows. Man must exit the comforts, the luxuries, the
friendships, the advisors, the advice, the ears that listen, the pillows that
he rests on and force himself into a corner, into a place where, when his mind
has a thought and his mouth goes to speak it, there is no one there to listen,
but himself and his god;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10910.
Technology is basically “good,” but we must respect it as a luxury
because it is man-made not God-given;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10911. One must
leave home if s/he is to find home;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10912. Create,
appreciate, respect;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10913. Beliefs
are better than conclusions because you can drive them instead of just look at
them. Conclusions are the Model T on the
showroom floor, there for all to ooh and ahh, while belief is the ‘81 Z28
(Camaro) on the highway;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10914. Language
rich in verbs is the most powerful.
Language built on nouns is weak.
If you rely on adjectives and adverbs you have lost your way;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10915. The “country
chicken dinner” at the Birchmere (Birchmere.com) in Alexandria tastes like
Boston Market( rotisserie chicken) to me;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10916. Stephen
Kellogg (the singer-songwriter and former lead vocalist of “Stephen Kellogg and
the Sixers”) loves the movie, “P.S. I Love You;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10917. Stephen
Kellogg was once in a hot tub with Gerard Butler in Park City, Utah, during the
Sundance Film Festival;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10918. (Unsurprisingly,)
freemasons are (a bunch of) old, white men. . . . During the 2023 George
Washington Birthday Parade (in Alexandria, Virginia), I saw one nonwhite member
and no one (I thought was) under forty;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10919. The
hamburgers at Burger King have gotten smaller;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10920. Coca-Cola
Move tastes like a (coconut) rum and Coke to me;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10921. Almost
everything everyone says is just a reflection of their own internal environment
and it rarely has anything to do with you. . . . You just happen to be the
victim of their rage or sadness in that moment;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10922. Choosing
to take the rage/sadness in and become a victim is up to you. . . . Getting
offended is a choice. . . . Seeing yourself as a victim is a choice. . . . Living
a life of freedom is a choice. . . . Choose the thing you want;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10923. The work
you do on yourself is for you, but the effects it has on the world around you
is profound and rewarding. So don’t
avoid the dark/fucked up parts of yourself.
Use them as opportunities to light up the darkness within you;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10924. If it’s
in the way, it is the way;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10925. Mike
Krzyzewski (i.e., “Coach K”) was the head coach at the U.S. Military Academy
Prep School at Fort Belvoir, Virginia, for 2 years before getting a graduate
assistant coaching position at Indiana University;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10926. A Papa
John’s “papadia” is just a (round,) flatbread pizza folded in half;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10927. You meet
your destiny on the road you take to avoid it;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10928. You
might weigh more the day after eating (fried) pickles. The salt (in the pickles) may make you retain
water;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10929. The
Chinese were the first (culture) to distill alcohol;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10930. (I can
say) I witnessed Alexander Ovechkin’s 40<sup>th</sup> goal of the ‘22-‘23 NHL
season, making him the only player to score at least 40 goals in 13 (different)
seasons( and passing Wayne Gretzky for the record);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10931. Patrick
Laine (the left winger for the Columbus Blue Jackets) is a massive man. . . . He
looks slow and lackadaisical moving around the ice;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10932.
Alexander Ovechkin is tied with Mike Gartner for the most NHL seasons with
at least 30 goals( at 17);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10933. Crown
Royal (Deluxe Canadian Whisky) is peaty;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10934. Most
people die a little every day while they’re alive. “Living” while you’re alive is the goal;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10935. Meghan(
Wallen)’s favorite cake is chocolate cake with chocolate frosting/icing;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10936. Meghan
(Wallen) said she loves me( when she was drunk);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10937.
According to one of the owners, the food at the Royal Restaurant
(RoyalRestaurantVa.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is better before 11:00 AM and
after 2:00 PM on weekends( when the brunch buffet isn’t being served);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10938. The
Royal Restaurant in (Old Town) Alexandria opened in 1904;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10939. I can
say I’ve been a part of a (street) magic show;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10940. Eating
lunch outside on a warm, sunny day seems like a wonderful idea. In actuality, it’s less appealing when you
have to guard against the wind blowing away your food, bugs landing in it,
sticky hands/finger and spills on to your clothes/clothing;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10941. In the
absence of love and belonging, there’s always suffering;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10942. True
belonging is a spiritual practice. It’s
the ability to find sacredness in both being a part of something, but also the
courage to stand alone;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10943. Don’t
walk through the world looking for evidence that you don’t belong because you
will always find it;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10944. Don’t
walk through the world looking for evidence that you’re not enough because you
will always find it;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10945. Our
worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those inside of our hearts;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10946. Braving
is all about trust: 1. B(oundaries): You
set boundaries. When you don’t know what
they are, you ask. You’re clear about
what’s okay and not okay, which is (so) hard for people; 2. R(eliability): You do what you say and you
say what you do. You’re not hustling for
worthiness so you’re not completely over committing and not delivering; 3. A(ccountability): You don’t back-channel and
blame. You hold people accountable in a
straightforward way; 4. V(ault): It is
not only do you not talk out of school between us, don’t share things that are
not yours to share; 5. I(ntegrity):
Choosing courage over comfort.
Practicing your values. Choosing
what’s right over what’s fun, fast and easy; 6.
N(onjudgment): You can ask for help without feeling judged and I can ask
for help without judging myself; and 7.
G(enerosity): When something happens I assume positive intent;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10947. There
will be times when standing alone feels too hard, too scary and we’ll doubt our
ability to make our way through the uncertainty. Someone somewhere will say, “Don’t do
it. You don’t have what it takes to
survive the wilderness.” This is when
you reach deep into your wild heart and remind yourself, “I am the wilderness;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10948. When you
pay attention to what’s challenging, you become comfortable with the
uncomfortable;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10949. When you
pay attention to what’s positive, you become more inclined towards it;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10950. If you
want to feel less stressed you need to stop managing your stress and start managing
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-31380257760909097932023-03-06T10:38:00.004-05:002024-01-08T13:45:08.900-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0218<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10851. Anguilla
is a cash-heavy economy too;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10852. You’ll
need cash to rent a car (from one of the local rental companies) in
Anguilla. Credit cards aren’t accepted;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10853. They
drive on the left-side in Anguilla;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10854. I was
robbed in Anguilla. . . . I had my debit card stolen . . . by the (National
Commercial Bank of Anguilla) ATM;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10855. I can
say I’ve been to Shoal Bay( in Anguilla). . . . There were only a few people on
the beach;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10856. I can say
I’ve been to Bankie Banx’s Dune Preserve beach bar
(BankieBanx.net/dunepreserve) in Rendezvous Bay, Anguilla;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10857. Chicken
pieces (specifically the breasts) are smaller in Anguilla;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10858. There
are wild goats on Anguilla;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10859. There’s
not a lot to see on Anguilla;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10860. The menu
at McDonald’s in Sint Maarten seems to be the same (menu) as in the U.S.;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10861. I can
say I’ve eaten at “Pollos Hermanos;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10862. If
you’re a “Breaking Bad” and/or a “Better Call Saul” fan, there’s a “Pollos
Hermanos” (PollosHermanosSXM.com) in Simpson Bay (and in Philipsburg) in Sint
Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10863. Buildings
don’t have a lot of windows in Sint Maarten. . . . Most (of the) stores don’t
have any windows;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10864. I can
say I’ve had Iberian/Iberico pluma (i.e., the end loin of the Iberian pig);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10865. The food
at “Le Pressoir” (LePressoirSXM.com) in Grand Case (in Sint Maarten) is
excellent;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10866. Grand
Case on the French side of Sint Maarten seems to have all of the good
restaurants( on the island);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10867. “Juggie’s
Place” (Facebook.com/JuggieSXM.sx), the self-professed, smallest bar in the
world, in Philipsburg, Sint Maarten, has a special for 2 beers and a Cuban
cigar for $2.99 USD;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10868. “Krave SXM”
(Facebook.com/KraveSxm) in Philipsburg might make the best burger on (all of) Sint
Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10869. Apparently,
you need to wash your car at least once a week in Sint Maarten. If not, your car will rust out in 3 years
because of the salt in the sea spray;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10870. Saturdays
are the busiest days at Princess Juliana International Airport (SXM) in Sint
Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10871. Great
leaders are not always in front. They
also know who to follow;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10872. The
arrow doesn’t seek the target, the target draws the arrow;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10873. We must
be aware of what we attract in life because it is no accident or
coincidence. The spider waits in his web
for dinner to come;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10874. We must
chase what we want, seek it out, cast our lines in the water, but sometimes we
don’t need to make things happen;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10875. To see
you, not make you, happy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10876. Some
people will never be more attractive than in that first impression, from a
distance, in that light, at that time, in that way we saw them, when our hopes
became highest and our wish fulfillment was fully loaded. They will never look better than in that
initial, fuzzy-edged glimpse. The
impression. The wide shot;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10877. Some
relationships are better in a wide shot.
More impressive in the impression.
Like that long-distance romance that fell apart when you moved in
together. Like that summer fling that
only lasted through August. That friend
that became a lover that you now miss as a friend. They’re better from a distance. With less frequency. With less intimacy. Sometimes we need more space. It’s romance, it’s imagination. Distance is the flirt and the wink, it’s
frivolous, it’s mysterious, a fantasy. A
constant honeymoon because we can’t quite see it, we aren’t quite sure about
it, we don’t quite know it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10878. Some
people get more attractive, have a greater impression on us the more we see
them, the closer we look, in that light, at that time, in the way we see them,
when our hopes are highest and our wish fulfillment is fully leaded. They will always look better the more clearly
we see them. The close-up;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10879.
Closeness is the quiet moments together, the pain shared, the beauty
seen, the honesty. It’s authentic. It’s reality.
A constant relationship because we can see it, we’re sure about it, we
know it. It’s making love. It’s attachment. It’s togetherness. It’s private.
It costs us. It hurts. We own it.
And we like it that way;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10880. The
great man is not all to each, he is each to all;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10881. The
genius can do anything, but does one thing at a time;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10882. Life,
like architecture, is a verb. If
designed well, it works. It’s
beautiful. And it needs no
directions. It needs maintenance;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10883. It’s not
a risk unless you can lose the fight;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10884. First
recognize the problem, then stabilize the situation, organize the response,
then respond;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10885. Time and
truth. Two constants you can rely
on. One shows up for the first time
every time while the other never leaves;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10886. You just
live together, you live for the present.
You marry, you live for the future;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10887. The
paradox of tolerance: If a society is tolerant without limit, its ability to be
tolerant is eventually seized or destroyed by the intolerant;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10888. Philosopher
Karl Popper said that to maintain a tolerant society, the society must retain
the right to be intolerant of intolerance;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10889. Planes like
to land and take off into the wind. It
minimizes the distances needed to stop and take off;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10890. Alexander
Barabanov (the left winger for the San Jose Sharks) is quick and drives to the
(front of the) net hard;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10891. Timo
Meier (the right winger for the San Jose Sharks) has a (really) quick release(
to his shot);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10892. Nicklas
Backstrom’s son, Vince, plays (ice) hockey( for The St. James Hockey Academy).
. . . He likes scoring goals;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10893. Vince(
Backstrom)’s favorite player is his dad;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10894. The
Dutch side of the island is “Sint Maarten;” the French side is “Saint Martin;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10895. The best
road for ourselves and society lives on the path that leads to having more
values and competence;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10896. Values
are not only guiding principles we can all agree on, they are the fundamental
ethics that bring people together. When
we are competent at our values and place more value on competence, we create a
more valuable society and that means more return on our investment, us;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10897. When you
can design your own weather, blow in the breeze;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10898. When
you’re stuck in the storm, pray for luck and make the best of it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10899. We all
have scars, we’ll get more;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10900. Rather
than struggle against time and waste it, let’s dance with time and redeem it because
we don’t live longer when we try not to die, we live longer when we’re too
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-49576614775121845072023-01-23T10:31:00.007-05:002024-01-08T13:45:00.711-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0217<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10801. Some of
the deepest peace we can experience is living in integrity. You can lie to other people about who you are,
but you can’t lie to your heart;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10802. Be
careful not to let the noise of your mind overpower the whispers of your heart;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10803. Life is
always happening in just one moment.
That’s all you’re responsible for;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10804. You
can’t lifehack wisdom. Do the work;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10805. My
parents (especially my dad) are not good at communicating (simple) things (such
as we’re going out to dinner or I have an appointment on Friday). . . . It’s
probably where I get that from;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10806. (I’ve
noticed that) I tend to tune out my parents especially if it’s a thank you or a
compliment;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10807.
Segregation was legal. Slavery
was legal. Don’t use legality as a guide
to morality;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10808. Cynar is
made from artichokes. It tastes like
bitters/Campari;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10809. The
squid (in the fried calamari) at Galae Thai (GalaeThai.com) in Alexandria is so
tender and not chewy at all. . . . And so is the duck (in the gang ped yang);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10810. Brad
Meltzer isn’t as tall as I thought he was;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10811.
Apparently, coconut water is (supposed to be) good for a cough;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10812. Feelings
aren’t facts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10813. Our
feelings shift constantly throughout the day.
Sometimes minute by minute.
You’ll notice you feel so strongly about something and then an hour
later you feel completely differently;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10814. You can
have many feelings (usually conflicting) at once;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10815. Feelings
come from deeper emotions( typically unconscious); they’re our interpretation
of emotions. That interpretation is
based on our past experiences then reinforced by thought patterns that create
more emotional responses;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10816. Many of
us struggle with emotional regulation.
When we haven’t learned to regulate, feelings become overwhelming. We want to avoid, self-medicate or cope in
ways that allow us to escape the sensations and the thoughts that come with
intense feelings;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10817. Feelings
are simply experiences of the mind and body.
They come, shift and change.
They’re temporary. When we become
conscious, we can witness the feeling(s) while understanding we are not the
feeling. The feeling is not a concrete
fact. It’s a message;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10818. We can
choose how we respond to that message rather than letting that message drive
our choices and behaviors;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10819. Some
people will judge you for changing.
Others will celebrate you for growing;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10820. Henry
Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company and one of the best-known Americans of
his day, held overtly anti-Semitic views and was not afraid to express them;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10821. The
famed American aviator, Charles Lindbergh, was a pro-German white supremacist,
who embraced the Nazi’s anti-Semitism;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10822.
Plantation iced tea is (sweet, black) tea and pineapple juice;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10823. Porn
isn’t real sex. The news isn’t real
facts. Red Bull isn’t real energy. Alcohol isn’t real courage. Video games aren’t real life. Gambling isn’t real investing. Caffeine isn’t real adrenaline. Social media isn’t really social. Degrees aren’t real knowledge;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10824. Social
media never shows the whole picture.
Perfection is an illusion;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10825. On
Tuesdays, Virginia’s Darling (MaesMarketAndCafe.com/virginiasdarling) in (Old
Town) Alexandria serves double pours of already open (bottles of) wine until
they’re finished/gone;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10826. Sake
(flavored) Kit Kats do (actually) taste like sake;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10827. Ruthie’s
All-Day (RuthiesAllDay.com) in Arlington has the biggest brunch (fried) chicken
biscuit I’ve ever seen. It’s big enough
to feed 2 people;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10828. The beef
carpaccio at Mia’s Italian Kitchen (MiasItalian.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria
is tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10829. I can
say that I’ve had wild boar. . . . It tastes like a cross between a pork chop
and a (beef) steak;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10830. The
molten lava cake (with vanilla ice cream, hot fudge & French Chantilly
cream) at Bistro Sancerre (BistroSancerre.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is
tasty. It has good chocolate flavor and
it’s not too sweet;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10831. It’s
spelled “Sint” Maarten (i.e., the country/island) not “Saint” Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10832. When you
don’t remember a person’s name: I remember meeting you, I’m X;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10833.
(Vanilla) ice cream (topped) with (a little) eggnog is tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10834. (All of
the) restaurants/stores take USD in Sint Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10835. Oxtail
reminds me of short ribs;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10836. It’s
$2.00 USD to ride the bus in Sint Maarten.
They’re independent drivers/owners licensed/regulated by the
government. There isn’t a set
schedule. You can wait for them at a bus
stop (i.e., “bushalte”) or hail them when they drive by. They run until 8:00 PM or 9:00 PM depending
on when they want to stop working;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10837. What do
license plates mean in Sint Maarten: 1.
B/BUS – bus; 2. M/P –
private/passenger; 3. MF – motorcycle;
4. R – rental car; 5. T – tourist bus; 6. TAXI – taxi; and 7. V – truck;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10838. Sint
Maarten is a (very) cash-heavy economy. . . . So bring a lot of cash/money;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10839. You can
travel freely between the Dutch and French sides of Sint Maarten. They don’t stop you at the border;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10840. There
are wild dogs in Sint Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10841. There
are wild roosters in the French Quarter( of Sint Maarten);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10842. The
French Quarter in Sint Maarten seems very poor;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10843. I can
say I’ve had goat( curry);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10844. (Curried)
goat reminds me of (beef) pot roast/brisket;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10845. There
are no traffic lights or stop signs in Sint Maarten just/only roundabouts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10846. There
are very few speed limit signs in Sint Maarten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10847. Some
taxi drivers in Sint Maarten (specifically Kevin) think I look like Elon Musk (around
the eyes) and (that I) talk like him( too);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10848. You can
take a (20-minute) ferry from Sint Maarten to Anguilla;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10849. There’s
also a ferry to St. Barts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10850. Merchants
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</div></div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-14225872352429189462022-12-19T12:42:00.008-05:002024-01-08T13:44:52.155-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0216<p></p><p class="MsoNormalCxSpFirst" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"></p><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10751. Misery
lies between your expectations and reality.
Close the gap;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10752. The
universe is very giving. Nobody has
tried 100% and never got what they wanted;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10753. Jealousy
can either be demotivating or used to beat them;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10754.
Motivation is not a real thing; discipline is;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10755. The
result of everything that happens to you either good or bad is completely and
utterly your fault;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10756. If you
allow life to happen to you and you’re not going to happen life, you’re at the
mercy of the wind;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10757. Don’t
make excuses. Don’t play the victim .You’ll end up stagnating and going around in
circles;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10758. People
complain for sympathy and dopamine;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10759. Nothing
happens by accident. Calculate, plan and
reflect;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10760. It’s
very easy to become a professional at big things when you’ve mastered being a
professional at small things (e.g., never be late, wake up on time, replay to
calls/e-mails punctually, etc.);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10761. Women,
who mean the most truly protect my spirit, love, care and use intuition to
truly want the best for me;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10762. Respect
your elders. Confront adversity with
respect. Phrase questions or challenge
ideas in a thoughtful and respectful way;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10763. The way
you perceive stress or any stimulus will affect the outcome. Negativity breeds negativity; positivity
breeds positivity. Outlook is key;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10764. Get off
the internet, interact and put yourself in difficult scenarios;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10765. To the
older population, we are the weirdos; understand the variety of different
upbringings in different eras. Don’t be
so narrowminded and arrogant;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10766. Status
signaling has been around from the dawn of time; peacocks have feathers for a
reason;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10767. Money,
status and power are driven by the innate ability to (want to) find the best
partner;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10768. Men also
want the respect from/of other men;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10769.
Discomfort and trauma, channeled in the right way, can birth amazing
things;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10770. The most
monumental things achieved in life have been on the backs of being pissed off
or sad;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10771. For
average guys, social media can be a very negative experience. Do you use that negative experience as
motivation or sulk and victim blame?<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10772. Wherever
you’re at in your life, how can you add to your quality of life by subtraction?<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10773. Anger is
just an emotion that covers up hurt.
Hurt is just an emotion that covers up fear. Fear is just an emotion that covers up
insecurities;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10774. When you
are angry, don’t feed into it. Stop,
pause and ask yourself what is hurting me?<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10775. Nolan
Ryan never won a Cy Young( Award for best pitcher in Major League Baseball);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10776. Gordie
Howe only had 2 Gordie Howe hat tricks (i.e.,</span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt;"> a
goal, an assist and a fight) in his (very long) career;<br /><o:p></o:p></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10777. Freedom
of expression does not equal the absence of consequence;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10778. Skrewball
whiskey does tastes like a peanut butter cup;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10779. According
to a real estate agent friend( of mine), a little known rule about multiunit
housing with a FHA loan is that the units you aren’t living in need to cash
flow the entire property;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10780. <a name="_Hlk121660708">Laura Benanti’s mom(, Linda,) is a vocal coach. . . . She
lives in McLean(, Virginia);<br /><o:p></o:p></a></span><a name="_Hlk122346482"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10781. The
motions of a symphony are called “movements” because the music should “move”
you;<br /></span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10782. Liz
Phair had an affair (with her manager) towards the end of her marriage;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10783. Charlie
(Dog) likes pumpkin;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10784. The
bottom 80% of men are fighting over the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of
women are fighting over the top 20% of men on Tinder/dating app(lication)s;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10785. The male
is likely to “like” the female 6.2 times more often than the female “likes” the
male on Tinder/dating app(lication)s;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10786. The
United States currently has one of the higher Gini coefficients (i.e., most
income inequality) of all of the world’s biggest economies at a value of
0.41. The Tinder Gini coefficient is
even higher at 0.58. This may not seem
like a big difference, but it is actually huge.
The United States Gini coefficient is higher than 62% of the world’s
countries. The Tinder economy has a
higher Gini coefficient than 95.1% of the countries in the world. The only countries that have a higher Gini
coefficient than Tinder are Angola, Haiti, Botswana, Namibia, Comoros, South
Africa, Equatorial Guinea and Seychelles;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10787. A man of
average attractiveness can only expect to be “liked” on Tinder/dating
app(lication)s by slightly less than 1% of females (i.e., 0.87%). This equates to 1 “like” for every 115
females;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10788. You can
be above average attractiveness and still only get liked by a few percent of
women on Tinder/dating app(lication)s;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10789. If you
aren’t in the very upper echelons of Tinder wealth (i.e., attractiveness), you
aren’t likely to have much success using Tinder/dating app(lication)s;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10790. At the
root of emotional immaturity is the lack of ability to regulate our emotions or
to sit in emotional discomfort;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10791. We skip
from big moment to big moment and that’s the story we tell ourselves about our
lives, but most of what we do is small, private and individually witnessed and
experienced;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10792. We might
deepen our healing if we stop chronically dissecting our partner’s avoidance,
narcissism or emotional availability and begin asking ourselves why we pursue
people who cannot care for us in the ways that we need;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10793. No one
is coming to save you;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10794. Personal
accountability is the path to freedom;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10795. Creating
a different life means creating new habits;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10796. Not
everyone will want the best for you and that’s okay;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10797. Old
Ebbitt Grill is (Washington) D.C.’s oldest (bar and) restaurant;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10798.
(Remember to )check when the quarter ends;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10799. Being
negative only makes the journey more difficult. . . . You may be given a
cactus, but you don’t have to sit on it;</span></div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.3333px; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10800. My dad is a hypochondriac;</span></div></div></div></div></div></div></div><p class="MsoNormalCxSpFirst" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
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According to Richard Patrick( the lead singer of “Filter”), he was
rejected for a record(ing) contract at 17 because he sounded too much like U2;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10702. Johnny
Marr was the guitarist and co-songwriter for “The Smiths;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10703. Pizza
dough and bread dough are the same( thing);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10704. The food
at The Anthem in D.C. is pretty good (in particular the chicken masala wrap and
the pork bao buns);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10705. I can
say that I was at The Anthem’s 5<sup>th</sup> anniversary concert with Johnny
Marr and The Killers;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10706. To me,
short(er)-haired Brandon Flowers (the lead singer of “The Killers”) looks like
a younger Dennis Quaid with a little bit of Tom Cruise( mixed in);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10707.
Apparently, olive oil solidifies/thickens when you put it in the
refrigerator;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10708. Bindaas
Bowls & Rolls (BindaasBowls.com) in D.C. is good. . . . It’s the Chipotle
for Indian (street) food;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10709. Before
you book your flight to a (foreign) country, check the visa requirements;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10710. It's
strange/weird to have a cidery open up 100 feet from where you went to
elementary/grade school;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10711. The
ciders at Sly Clyde Ciderworks (SlyClyde.com) in Hampton, Virginia, are
actually (pretty) good;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10712. You can
get a can of Narragansett (beer) and a shot of (rail/well) whiskey for $6.00
all day every day at the Deadrise (TheDeadriseVa.com) in Hampton, Virginia;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10713. If you
like flat soda, try nitro (Pepsi) soda;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10714. Ray
Dalio’s all-weather portfolio is: 1. 40%
in long-term U.S. bonds (i.e., iShares 20+ Year Treasury Bond, TLT); 2. 30% in U.S. equities/stocks (i.e., Vanguard
Total Stock Market, VTI); 3. 15% in
intermediate-term U.S. bonds (i.e., iShares 3-7 Year Treasury Bond, IEI);
4. 7.5% in gold (i.e., SPDR Gold Trust,
GLD); and 5. 7.5% in broad, diversified
commodities (i.e., iShares S&P GSCI Commodity Indexed Trust, GSG);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10715. David
Swensen’s Yale endowment portfolio is: 1.
30% in U.S. equities/stocks (i.e., Vanguard Total Stock Market, VTI);
2. 20% in U.S. real estate (i.e.,
Vanguard Real Estate, VNQ); 3. 15% in
long-term U.S. bonds (i.e., iShares 20+ Year Treasury Bond, TLT); 4. 15% in all-term U.S. bonds (i.e., iShares
TIPS Bond, TIP); 5. 15% in international
equities/stocks (i.e., Vanguard FTSE Developed Markets, VEA); and 6. 5% in emerging equities/stocks (i.e., iShares
MSCI Emerging Markets, EEM);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10716. It’s
easy to self-sabotage because it enables you to predict the future and gives
you an illusion of control;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10717. Trying
to do things perfectly is slowly suffocating and killing you. Take the first step and let it be
imperfect. Do it wrong;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10718. Paul
Tudor Jones (the investor) was a welterweight boxing champion at the University
of Virginia;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10719. Anxiety
is a marker for pain and pain is a marker for damage. Therefore, you experience anxiety before you
experience pain as it’s part of a defense mechanism;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10720.
Agreeableness helps us solve the problem of how much to value our own
interests compared to others;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10721.
Agreeable behavior is an adaptation for maternal care while disagreeable
behavior is an adaptation for predatory aggression;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10722.
Disagreeable people are unlikely to be used by others, often receive
higher salaries for the same work and do not become resentful;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10723.
Conversely, agreeable people can become resentful or passive aggressive
over time;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10724. It’s not
any cheaper to buy tickets for Soundcheck (in D.C.) day of at the door than it
is to buy them (in advance) online;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10725.
Apparently, you can only buy additional insurance through your paid-up
additions rider (of your whole life insurance policy) as long as your term
insurance rider is in place;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10726. You can
tell a cat likes being petted by you, when it purrs, raises its back,
rhythmically pushes its claws in and out (i.e., kneading) and/or pushes its
face into your hand;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10727. (The
truth is that) when someone insults you, it usually has more to do with him/her
and his/her experience than it actually is about you. Insults usually come from a place of anger
and hurt;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10728. Various
evidence has pointed out that what matters most in our lives is meaningful
relationships. They matter more than
money, fame or any other external entity (including what that stranger said to
you harshly on the street);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10729. When you
have a negative thought (whether that means believing what someone else said
about you or finding yourself in an negative thought spiral due to life
events), challenge it. Is there an
alternative to this negative thought?
Usually, there is;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10730. It’s
always a good idea to remain hopeful, but also realistic. This can prevent you from internalizing
things or facing an array of negative emotions.
For example, it’s good to hope that you get that scholarship. But if you’re being realistic and only two
out of 20 people get it, it’s important to take this into account when thinking
you’ll obtain it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10731. Hell-Cat
Maggie (Irish) whiskey is/tastes buttery;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10732. I can
say that I’ve sat ice level(, right up against the glass) at a Washington Capitals
game;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10733. Colonel
T(h)om(as Andrew) Parker (i.e., Elvis Presley’s manager) was born in the
Netherlands as Andreas Cornelis van Kuijk.
He illegally emigrated to the U.S. at the age of 20;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10734. Elvis
(Presley) died at (age) 42( on August 16, 1977);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10735. Elvis
(Presley) is the best-selling solo music artist of all time;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10736. Liz
Phair is afraid of spiders;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10737. For
those choosing to break generational cycles, your parents couldn’t do it. Their parents couldn’t do it. But for some reason you noticed the pattern
and decided it ends with you. You’re the
prototype;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10738. The
goals people pursue affect their long-term happiness;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10739. People
are happiest when they pursue goals that connect them to other people;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10740. In the
workplace, this is reflected in studies suggesting that when people see their
work as connecting to a broader purpose and helping other people to achieve
their goals, they’re more satisfied with their careers;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10741. The
happiest people tend to engage in a lot of cooperative goals rather than
competitive ones. This allows people to
celebrate their own successes as well as the successes of the people around
them;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10742. Very few
things are completely good or completely bad.
Most experiences have some positive elements and some negative
ones. Happy people tend to focus on the
positives and to let the negatives of events fade into the background;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10743. Over the
course of your life, people will do bad things to you. Even the people closest to you in your life
will do selfish or mean things. One
thing that happy people do well is to forgive others;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10744. The
interesting thing about forgiveness is that it enables you to forget the
details of what someone did that upset you in the first place. As a result, you will not be reminded of all
those negatives when you see them or think about them in the future;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10745. Forgiving
someone does not necessarily mean that you will trust them completely in the
future. There are people who are mean,
selfish or unreliable that you might choose not to spend time with or do
business with anymore. Still, forgiving
them for what they did will help you to move past those interactions without
harboring negative feelings that can drag down your mood or your satisfaction
with life;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10746. Don’t
miss the joy of being you when you spend so much (of your) time chasing an
ideal/idyllic version of you(rself);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10747. Eggnog
as a coffee creamer . . . do it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10748. Be
careful with your words. They can only
be forgiven not forgotten;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10749. Feel the
feeling, but don’t become the emotion.
Witness it. Allow it. Release it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10750.
Self-love is the most important thing.
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</div></div></div><p></p></div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-59231363735490015182022-09-19T11:29:00.005-04:002024-01-08T13:44:27.599-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0214<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10651. Success
without happiness is not success. It’s
just a well-polished turd. It looks nice
from the outside, but the successful guy knows deep down that underneath the
facade is just a bunch of shit;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10652. So what’s
the lesson for you? Celebrate your wins.
Anchor your success. Enjoy your success;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10653. There’s
always more you can achieve. More is not
always the answer. Contentment is the
answer;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10654. Be
content with who you are, but not where you are;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10655. Don’t
suppress your good feelings. Don’t gloss
over your wins. You deserve to be happy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10656. You can
substitute any of the pizza crusts at California Pizza Kitchen;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10657. The
Jamaican jerk chicken (pizza) at California Pizza Kitchen is (pretty) tasty . .
. and so is the spicy Milano( pizza);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10658. Apparently,
there’s such a thing as being a pet nanny. . . . And it can be (very)
lucrative; paying as much as $1,500.00 for 4 days of work;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10659. Our
greatest weakness lies in giving up. The
most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10660. How to
address passive aggressive behavior: 1.
I notice when you give a compliment there’s also a bit of a dig, are you
aware of this? 2. It seems like
something is bothering or upsetting you, can we talk about it? 3. I feel like you’re trying to send me an indirect
message here, what is on your mind? and 4.
If you had an expectation that something was to be done, I need you to
communicate that;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10661. The (limited
time) Krispy Kreme “Churrdough” doughnut with dulce de leche is really tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10662. Pinot
noir is the primary red wine grape grown in Burgundy, France, so if someone is
referring to a “red” Burgundy, they are talking about a pinot noir;<br /></span><a name="_Hlk115182054"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10663. Donovan Woods had planned to go to law school
before he decided to be a singer;<br /></span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10664. Matt Nathanson (generally) hates musicals;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10665. Matt Nathanson calls his daughter “Bubba;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10666. Matt Nathanson’s daughter loves musicals;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10667. You’re
the chooser. Assume she’s going to like
you, now you need to decide if you like her;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10668. If you
have a dream, work towards it daily without attachment to the outcome. Even a teeny tiny step in the right direction
is a move in the right direction;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10669. Apparently,
once you’ve had an operation with a surgeon, you have to go back to that
surgeon if there are any complications or problems. Other surgeons won’t touch you because they
don’t want to be liable for something another surgeon did;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10670. Braden
Holtby still buys art at the Alexandria Old Town Art Festival;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10671. A bottle
of water can be $.50 at a supermarket, $2.00 at the gym, $3.00 at the movies
and $6.00 on a plane . . . same water . . . the only thing that changed its
value was the place. So the next time
you feel your worth is nothing maybe you’re at the wrong place;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10672. Meghan
(Wallen) drinks tequila (specifically Casamigos) and (club) soda;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10673. Every
choice we make has an opportunity cost.
The things that you want in your life can’t happen all at once;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10674. According
to my therapist, anxiety can be used to push down/suppress emotions. In my case, anxiety (expressed by emotionally
withdrawing) is used to push down/suppress anger;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10675. On (Whiskey)
Wednesday(s), all bourbons, ryes, Scotches and whiskeys (except flights) are
half-off at Whiskey & Oyster (WhiskeyAndOyster.squarespace.com) in (Old
Town) Alexandria;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10676. He knows
what he thinks, but I know what I know;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10677. Love is
not just your capacity to give, but also your courage to receive;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10678. Posting
less. Doing more. Comparing less. Reflecting more. Judging less.
Accepting more. Complaining
less. Praying more. Discussing less. Accomplishing more;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10679. Altered
states can lead to altered traits;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10680. Trust
the ebbs and flows of the friendship that come with life (i.e., times when
you’re closer or times when there’s distance);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10681. Ask if
your friend is in a space to listen when you want to vent or share: “Hey I know
you have a lot going on, do you have space to listen to something I’m
struggling with?”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10682. Clearly
communicate any expectations rather than expecting friends to be able to mind
read. This will keep resentment out of
the relationship;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10683. Ardbeg
10 Years Old (Scotch) is rather/very peaty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10684. If you
like she-crab soup, do yourself a favor and get the (special) smoked Cajun crab
soup, when they have it, at Sweet Fire Donna’s in (Old Town) Alexandria. It’s really good. It’s like a Cajun/spicier version of she-crab
soup, but lighter and not as heavy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10685. Cate
Blanchett is Australian( . . . not British);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10686.
According to Meghan( Wallen), the way to recover from (running) a
marathon with 5,000 feet of vertical is to drink tequila, sleep 3 hours and
then go to a baseball game in a hurricane;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10687. Pike’s
Peak is named after (the explorer,) Zebulon Pike(,) even though he never
summited it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10688.
Apparently, ketamine is known as the heroin of psychedelics;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10689. 4 rule
of thumb to carry into the exploration of altered/ecstasis/non-ordinary states:
1. It’s not about you; and 2. It’s not about now; Helps us balance ego
inflation and time distortion; 3. Don’t
become a bliss junkie; and 4. Don’t dive
too deep; Ensures we don’t get seduced by the sensations and information that
arise in altered states;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10690. Knob
Creek smoked maple (Kentucky straight bourbon) does taste like maple syrup;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10691. When you
<i>can</i>, ask yourself if you <i>want</i> to before you do;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10692. We have
to <i>prepare</i> to have freedom. We have to do the <i>work</i> to then do the job. We
have to prepare for the job so we can be <i>free</i>
to do the work;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10693. We must
learn the consequence of negligence; it’s not just what we do, it’s what we
don’t do that’s important as well. We
are guilty by omission;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10694. “If
only” means you wanted something, but did not get it. For some reason, either by your own
incompetence or the world’s intervention, it did not happen. Sometimes this is just the breaks and we need
to bow out gracefully. But more often
than we care to admit, we don’t get what we want because we quit early or we
didn’t take the necessary risk to get it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10695. The more
boots we put in the backside of our “if onlys” the more we will get what we
want;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10696. Don’t
walk the “it’s too late it’s too soon” tightrope until you die;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10697. We are
all made for every moment we encounter.
Whether the moment makes us or we make the moment. Whether we are helpless in it or on top of
it; the predator or the prey. We are made
for that moment;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10698. Piece
Out Del Ray in Del Ray has Happy Hour on Saturdays and Sundays from 12:00 PM to
7:00 PM and Tuesdays through Friday from 4:00 PM to 7:00 PM. It’s $2.00 off draft beers, $4.00 Piece Out
pilsners, $5.00 red sangrias, $5.00 glasses of house red, white and rose wines
and $7.00 for a slice of pizza and a Piece Out pilsner;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10699. Detroit-style
pizza is like (a rectangular version of) the old Pizza Hut pan pizza, but less
greasy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10700. (Taco
Bell) Mexican pizzas are just nachos with fewer/less (tortilla) chips;</span></div></div><p class="MsoNormalCxSpFirst" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-3950206017094138632022-08-08T11:09:00.011-04:002024-01-08T13:44:14.149-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0213<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10601. Tim
Commerford (the bassist for “Rage Against the Machine”) has a full, upper
body/torso tattoo;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10602. Tom
Morello (the guitarist for “Rage Against the Machine”) is (pretty) intense too;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10603. “Rage
Against the Machine” may be the hardest (playing and aggressive) band I’ve seen
live in concert;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10604. Charlie
(Dog) and Tom Cruise share the same birthday;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10605. A salad
of baby spinach, arugula, blueberries, (red) grapes and walnuts with a
poppyseed dressing is (really) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10606. Don’t
torture yourself by trying to measure up to the fantasy of a perfect life. What’s good for someone else might be a bad
idea for you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10607. DJ
Diesel (i.e., Shaquille O’Neal) is actually decent/okay( as a deejay);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10608. I didn’t
appreciate/realize how big Shaq(uille O’Neal) is until seeing him in person;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10609.
Apparently, men store emotions in their hips and lower back;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10610. A
curandero/curandera is a traditional native male/female healer/shaman;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10611. Orangutan
means “forest person” in Malay. . . . It seems that the Malaysians of the past
did not see orangutans as animals, but as people;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10612. Breathing
deeply in and out through the nose resets the nervous system and eases the
fight or flight response;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10613. Breathing
(deeply) in and out through the nose produces alpha waves, which can help us get
into a “flow” state;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10614. I’m the
one setting such high standards for myself.
I don’t have to make it so hard on myself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10615. I should
be patient with myself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10616. I can
ask for help. I don’t have to “lone
wolf” it( and go it alone);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10617. “Purging(
emotions)” can be by vomiting, diarrhea, heat/sweating, cold, muscle spasms
and/or crying;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10618. A person
tends to purge by vomiting if it’s difficult/hard for him/her to cry;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10619. Most
people schedule their work, life, etc. and then let the fun fill in the
cracks. Schedule your fun first and let
the rest fill in the cracks;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10620.
Apparently, Jordana (Grader) likes chai lattes . . . and pumpkin spice
lattes;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10621. Apparently,
afros are a lot of work to maintain;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10622.
Apparently, there are more men than women in Austin(, Texas);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10623. Jordana (Grader)
says she was cute in Chicago and not so much in Los Angeles;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10624.
Curanderos/curanderas chain smoke like crazy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10625. Mapacho
(i.e., Aztec/strong tobacco) can contain up to 9 times the nicotine of common
tobacco;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10626. There
are pigeons living in the Las Vegas desert. . . . Who knew?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10627. There
are (desert) tortoises in Las Vegas . . . and frogs;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10628. Once
heated, limestone loses its ability to hold heat;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10629. There’s
a great view of Las Vegas at the end of the Calico Tanks trail at Red Rock
Canyon (RedRockCanyonLV.org);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10630. Crumble
Cookies (CrumblCookies.com) are tasty . . . especially the milk chocolate chip
. . . and they deliver;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10631. Summerlin
South and Spring Valley (in Las Vegas) are (kind of) food deserts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10632. Apache
Plaza (in Las Vegas) has a lot of Asian restaurants;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10633. There’s
no need to be crazy/outrageous in your first (text) response on Bumble. Afterall, she messaged you first. She’s interested;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10634. You can sign
up for guest lists at websites like FreeVegasClubPasses.com,
LasVegasNightclubs.com or NoCoverNightclubs.com to get into (Las) Vegas clubs
without having to pay (the) outrageous cover/entrance fees( to get in);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10635. Life
hack: If you’re at a (Las Vegas) club (specifically Zouk Nightclub at Resorts
World Las Vegas) and you’re thirsty, but you’re not drinking( alcohol), order a
club soda instead of a bottle of water. It’s
about half the price (i.e., it’s $13.00 for a 330 ml bottle of Fiji water);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10636. Rachael
has (very) kissable lips;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10637. Girls
(really) don’t remember meeting you in the club (in Las Vegas) when you run
into them the next day/night;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10638. Any
success takes one in a row. Do one thing
well then another. Once then once
more. Over and over until the end then
it’s one in a row again;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10639. Days of
prosperity make us forget adversity;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10640. Good
times seem out of reach during the bad ones;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10641. Both can
seem like final destinations; the summation of our days. Then the cosmic joker plays with our
ways. Yesterday’s condition no longer
remains;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10642. The
sooner we become <i>less impressed</i> with
our life, our accomplishments, our career, our relationships, the prospects in
front of us, the sooner we become less impressed and <i>more involved</i> with these things, the sooner we get better at
them. We must be more than just happy to
be here;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10643. The
cinnamon roll waffle at Belga Café (BelgaCafe.com) in D.C. does (actually)
taste like a cinnamon roll;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10644. The
frames you use for the world dramatically shift your experience of it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10645. Want
her; don’t need her. Do this and you
have a chance; don’t, you won’t. Forever
for rent, never to own; the one we all lust for, the constant unknown. Want her; don’t need her, and she might give
it up;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10646. The road
less traveled may not be a dirt road; for some, it may be the autobahn. Robert Frost was right, taking the road less
traveled can make all the difference.
But that road isn’t necessarily the road with the least traffic. It may be the road that wee, personally, have
traveled less. The introvert may need to
get out of the house, engage with the world, get public. The extrovert may need to stay home and read
a book. Sometimes we need to get <i>out</i> there, sometimes we need to get <i>in</i> there. Some days our road less traveled is a
solitary dirt trail. On others it’s the
subway on the 7 line;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10647. Are you
looking for feedback, advice or just a space to be heard?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10648. Do not
spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now
have was once among the things you only hoped for;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10649. If we
don’t say “yes” authentically, we say “yes” resentfully and that leads to far
more problems than if we’d said “no” in the first place;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10650. Success
without happiness is not success. It’s
just a well-polished turd. It looks nice
from the outside, but the successful guy knows deep down that underneath the
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</p></div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-80372875285919262852022-07-11T09:45:00.005-04:002024-01-08T13:44:03.462-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0212<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10551. The
National Harbor is not a good place to watch the Fourth of July (Washington)
D.C. fireworks;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10552. You
shouldn’t waste your life in insecure relationships. Either trust each other 100% or leave;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10553. If
someone ghosts you, respect the dead and move on;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10554. You
won’t have a healthy relationship with someone else if you have a toxic
relationship with yourself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10555. Stop
searching for the right person and focus on becoming the right person;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10556. Your
self-love must always be stronger than your desire to be loved by others;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10557. The
people you allow into your life are contagious.
Choose wisely and cut quickly;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10558. I can
say I’ve been on a date with a TV chef;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10559.
Apparently, (Chef) Deme Vergos Kahn is friends with (Chef) José Andrés;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10560. Arthur
Kahn assisted in the representation of John Erlichman, assistant to President
Nixon, in federal criminal and civil cases arising from his involvement in
(the) Watergate( scandal);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10561. I can
say I’ve met someone who married 20 years her senior;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10562. Apparently,
Deme Vergos Kahn’s dating app(lication)s (specifically Bumble) are run by her
16 year-old daughter;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10563. Ocean
City, Maryland, reminds me of a bigger and cleaner Virginia Beach;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10564. Seacrets
(Seacrets.com) in Ocean City(, Maryland,) is pretty fun. . . . There’s
something for everyone there;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10565. The crab
cake sandwich at “The Bar & Grill at the Inlet( Lodge)” (in Ocean City,
Maryland) is (pretty) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10566.
According to our cabbie, the place to be/go on Friday nights in Ocean
City(, Maryland,) is Fager’s Island (Fagers.com) and Seacrets on Saturday
nights;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10567. Apparently,
walking up 3 flights of stairs is a major accomplishment for some 22 year-olds
in Ocean City(, Maryland);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10568. I can
say I’ve met (and shaken hands) with the Secretary of Commerce( and the former
governor of Rhode Island), Gina Raimondo. . . . I’m a little taller than she
is;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10569. The
beach in Ocean City(, Maryland) has a (very) small strip of rocks/shells you
have to walk over/through to get into the ocean;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10570.
Fractured Prune doughnuts (FracturedPrune.com) come out hot and fresh. .
. . They’re tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10571. Kohr
Bros. (KohrBros.com) has a kid size (frozen custard) that isn’t listed on the
menu;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10572. Sand (from
the beach) can get caught in your intergluteal cleft/butt crack. . . . Who
knew?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10573. The
Belgian chocolate soufflé cake at California Pizza Kitchen (CPK.com) is
(pretty) tasty. . . . It’s better with (vanilla Haagen-Dazs) ice cream;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10574. Denis Lawson
(i.e., Wedge Antilles) is Ewan McGregor’s (i.e., Obi-Wan/Ben Kenobi) (real
life) uncle;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10575. May we
stop seeing ourselves through the eyes of people that never saw us;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10576.
Everything you experience has no intrinsic meaning other than the meaning
that you give to it;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10577. We
seldom admit the seductive comfort of hopelessness. It saves us from ambiguity. It has an answer for every question: “There’s
just no point.” Hope, on the other hand,
is messy. If it might all work out then
we have things to do. We must weather
the possibility of happiness;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10578. The
longer it takes you to admit when you are wrong, the more attached you are to
being perfect;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10579. The more
attached to being perfect, the more you will hate yourself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10580. Nobody
is perfect. We all get it wrong. And that’s perfect;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10581. The
first step that leads to our identity in life is usually not “I know who I am,”
but rather “I know who I’m not.” Process
of elimination;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10582. Too many
options can make a tyrant out of any of us so we should get rid of the excess
in our lives that keep us from being more of ourselves. When we decrease the options that don’t feed
us, we, eventually, almost accidentally, have more options in front of us that
do;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10583. Knowing
who we are is hard. Eliminate who we’re
not first and we’ll find ourselves where we need to be;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10584. We
cannot fully appreciate the light without the shadows. We have to be thrown off balance to find our
footing. It’s better to jump than fall;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10585. The
future is the monster not the boogeyman under the bed. The past is just something we’re trying to
outrun tomorrow. The monster is the
future . . . the unknown . . . the boundaries not yet crossed . . . the
challenge not yet met . . . the potential not yet realized . . . the dragon not
yet tamed. On a one-way collision course
with no turning back, the future, the monster, is always waiting for us and
always sees us coming. We should lift
our heads, look it in the eye and watch it heed;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10586. Things
can change at any minute. And all we’ve
really got are our experiences, our relationships and our beautiful, aging,
ever evolving selves. We can choose to
be frustrated by that or we can choose to embrace it as our power;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10587. Blagden
Alley (in D.C.) really is an alley;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10588. Causa/Bar
Amazonia (CausaDC.com) in D.C. automatically adds a 20% gratuity/service fee to
your bill/check;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10589. Tangy
lemon lime Topo Chico (hard seltzer) tastes like a Creamsicle( to me);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10590. Calico (CalicoDC.com)
in D.C. (also) automatically adds a 20% gratuity/service fee to your
bill/check;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10591. Throwing
out your lower back is no joke;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10592. Remember
that once you dreamed of being where you are now;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10593. We are
not here to tolerate our differences, we are here to accept them;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10594. We are
not here to celebrate our sameness, we are here to salute our distinctions;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10595. We are
not born into equal circumstances or with equal abilities, but we should have
equal opportunity;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10956. Cool is a
natural law. If it was cool for that
time then it is cool for all time. A fad
is just a branch on cool’s trunk, a fashionable fling whose 15 minutes can
never abide, no matter how long s/eh trends to try. Cool stands the test of time because cool
never tries. Cool just is;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10597. After hurting/straining
my (lower) back, I have a better appreciation for being able to get/move
around;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10598. Zach de
la Rocha (the lead singer of “Rage Against the Machine”) drinks (hot) tea;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10599. (I can
say) I’ve seen “Rage Against the Machine” live( in concert);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10600. Zach de
la Rocha is intense on stage (even with a broken leg);</span></div><p class="MsoNormalCxSpFirst" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-16876830729014434912022-05-23T12:56:00.008-04:002024-01-08T13:43:53.009-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0211<p></p><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10501. One of
the most important decisions you’ll ever make in life is who you have children
with. Choose wisely;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10502. When
playing games with children, let them win;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10503. You
don’t have to learn everything the hard way;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10504. One day
you’ll need to be forgiven so learn to forgive others;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10505. Instead
of buying your children what you didn’t have, teach them what you didn’t know;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10506. Never
let your inner child die;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10507. If you
care too much about what other people think, you’re effectively their slave;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10508. Be so
busy improving your life that you don’t have time to criticize others;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10509. Everyone
you love will eventually die, spend your time with your loved ones; keep them
close;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10510. No one
is a mind reader, voice how you feel;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10511. Never
feel bad about promoting yourself;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10512. Hang out
with people from different races, ethnicities and socio-economic classes;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10513. Listen
to understand not to respond;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10514. You
can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care
of yourself first;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10515. Spending
time alone is one of the best things you can do;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10516. Remember
that 80% of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with
people;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10517.
Compliment the meal when you’re the guest in someone’s home;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10518. Show
respect for everyone who works for a living regardless of how trivial their
job;<br /></span><a name="_Hlk104980450"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10519. The “Club 24” (Championship) Boxes at
Nationals Park are nice. The seats
include food options from a high-end restaurant prepared by a chef and
dedicated wait staff;<br /></span></a><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10520. (I can say) I’ve sat in the “Club 24”
(Championship) Boxes at Nationals Park;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10521. Apparently,
the “Club 24” (Championship) Boxes and the “K Street” (Championship) Boxes are
the 2 most exclusive clubs at Nationals Park;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10522. The 1924
Washington Senators won (Washington) D.C.’s first World Series championship;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10523. The
honey ham biscuits (i.e., mini, buttermilk biscuits with smoked Virginia ham)
at the Lightfoot Restaurant (LightfootRestaurant.com) in Leesburg, Virginia,
are tasty;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10524. The
berry salad (i.e., greens tossed with balsamic vinaigrette set with
blackberries, blueberries, strawberries, raspberries, spiced cashews &
balsamic glaze) (with grilled shrimp) at the Lightfoot Restaurant (in Leesburg,
Virginia,) is tasty too;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10525.
Strangely, life gets harder when you try to make it easy;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10526.
Exercising might be hard, but never moving makes life harder;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10527. Uncomfortable
conversations are hard, but avoiding every conflict is harder;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10528.
Mastering your craft is hard, but having no skills is harder;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10529. Easy has
a cost;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10530. The
berry Chantilly cake at Whole Foods (Market) is tasty;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10531. Jean Louisa
Kelly (the actress) (kind of) looks like Robbie;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10532. Primus
is a jam band. . . . Who knew?<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10533. Les
Claypool is a self-proclaimed Rush (i.e., Canadian rock band) geek;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10534. Les
Claypool went to (high) school and is friends with Kirk Hammett (the lead
guitarist of Metallica);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10535. Les
Claypool auditioned to be the bassist for Metallica;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10536. Broccoli
shrinks a lot when you roast it (in the oven);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10537. Despite
what most mainstream therapists claim, couples with “open marriages” generally
rate their overall satisfaction (with both their relationship and with life in
general) significantly higher than those in conventional marriages do;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10538. Many
people have sex outside their primary relationships for reasons that have
nothing to do with any inadequacy in their partner or in the relationship;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10539. Charlie
(Dog) likes (roasted) peanuts . . . shocker, he loves peanut butter;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10540. Not
everyone handles grief the same way;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10541. Many men
report that they had affairs simply because opportunities arose while women,
for whom opportunities are often more plentiful, tend to report a more complex
confluence of motivations;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10542. When
Shirley Glass and Thomas White anonymously interviewed 300 men and women about
their extramarital affairs, they found that men tended to see their affairs as
more sexual while women were motivated more by emotional considerations and
reported greater levels of dissatisfaction with their marriages;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10543. I’m glad
to have Rob(ert) Roebuck as a friend. . . . I should’ve seen/texted/visited him
more when I had the chance;</span></div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10544. If you want to lose weight, get Invisalign. They’re so annoying/difficult to put in and take out and you have to brush and floss after eating that it’s just not worth snacking;</div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10545. Apparently, Ajay is immune to mushrooms;</div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10546. If you want to get COVID(-19), stand in line to get into a Dave Matthews Band concert (at Jiffy Lube Live in Bristow, Virginia) without wearing a mask . . . stupid;</div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10547. If you’re out of milk for your cereal, coffee will work;</div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10548. Post-COVID lethargy is a real thing;</div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10549. Charlie (Dog) likes doughnuts (in particularly Krispy Kreme original glazed doughnuts);</div><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">10550. Guac(amole) on a (ham)burger is pretty good;</div></div></div></span></div>
</div><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-44102133964442989532022-05-16T10:29:00.005-04:002024-01-08T13:43:43.176-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0210<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10451. We can
tap into the unconscious processes that help us connect with our innovative
ideas and solve problems more efficiently simply by decreasing visual input;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10452.
Neuroscience researchers find that daydreamers actually score higher on
creativity scales;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10453. For best
results, approach your daydreaming session with intention: You must be able to
notice when you are in this state and pull yourself out at will. This requires some practice;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10454.
Psychologists Joey Sprague and David Quadagno surveyed women from 22 to
57 years of age and found that among those under 35, 61% of the women said
their primary motivation for sex was emotional rather than physical. But among those <i>over</i> 35, only 38% claimed their emotional motivations were stronger
than the physical hunger for contact;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10455. At face
value, such results suggest women’s motivations change with age. Or one could also argue that this effect
could simply reflect women becoming less apologetic as they mature;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10456. Apparently,
“heaven trap” (EDM music) is a thing;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10457. EDM
concerts/festivals are some of the most welcoming places. You see all kinds of people at them;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10458.
First-time travelers to Istanbul, Bali, Gambia, Thailand or Jamaica may
be surprised to see thousands of middle-aged women from Europe and the United
States who flock to these places in search of no-strings sexual attention;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10459. An
estimated 80,000 women fly to Jamaica looking to “Rent a Rasta” every year;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10460. The
number of female Japanese visitors to the Thai island resort of Phuket jumped
from fewer than 4,000 in 1990 to 10 times that just 4 years later outnumbering
male Japanese tourists significantly;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10461. The
strongest explanation for the prevalence and intensity of the Coolidge effect
among social mammals is that the male drive for sexual variety is evolution’s
way of avoiding incest;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10462. Our
species evolved on a sparsely populated planet never more than a few million and
probably fewer than 100,000 of us on Earth for most of our evolutionary
past. To avoid the genetic stagnation
that would have dragged our ancestors into extinction long ago, males evolved a
strong appetite for sexual novelty and a robust aversion to the overly
familiar;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10463. When a
couple have been living together for years, when they’ve become family, this
ancient anti-incest mechanism can effectively block eroticism for many men
leading to confusion and hurt feelings all around;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10464. Men’s
testosterone levels recede over the years, but it’s not just the passing of
time that brings these levels down: monogamy itself seems to drain away a man’s
testosterone;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10465. Married
men consistently show lower levels of testosterone than single men of the same
age; fathers of young children even less;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10466. Men who
are particularly responsive to infants show declines of 30% or more right after
their child is born;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10467. Married
men having affairs were found to have higher testosterone levels than those who
weren’t;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10468. Most of
the men having affairs have told researchers they were actually quite happy in
their marriages, while only one-third of women having affairs felt that way;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10469.
Researcher, James Roney, and his colleagues found that even a brief chat
with an attractive woman raised men’s testosterone levels by an average of 14%;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10470. When
these same men spent a few minutes talking with other men, their testosterone
level fell by 2%;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10471. William
Master and Virginia Johnson reported that “loss of coital interest engendered
by monotony in a sexual relationship is probably the most constant factor in
the loss of an aging male’s interest in sexual performance with his partner;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10472. This
loss of interest can frequently be reversed if the man has a younger lover even
if the lover is not as attractive or sexually skilled as the man’s wife;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10473. For most
men and many women, sexual monogamy leads inexorably to monotony. It’s important to understand this process has
nothing to do with the attractiveness of the long-term partner or the depth and
sincerity of the love felt for him or her;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10474. As their
testosterone levels decline with age, many men experience a diminishment of
energy and libido, an intangible distance from the basic pleasures of
life. Most attribute this blurred
distance to stress, lack of sleep or too much responsibility or they just chalk
it up to the passage of time. True
enough, but some of this numbing could be due to ebbing testosterone levels;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10475. Once the
transitory thrill of an affair passes, men are left once again with the
realities of what makes a relationship work over the long run: respect,
admiration, convergent interests, good conversation, sense of humor and so on;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10476.
Researchers have found that men with lower levels of testosterone are
more than 4 times as likely to suffer from clinical depression, fatal heart
attacks and cancer when compared to other men their age with higher
testosterone levels. They are also more
likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia and have a
far greater risk of dying prematurely from any cause (ranging from 88 to 250%
higher depending on the study);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10477. Most
women’s sense of smell is significantly better than most men’s so there’s
probably going to be evidence you can’t even sense, but that she’ll pick up on;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10478. Love is
an ideal thing; marriage a real thing;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10479. A
confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10480. By
insisting upon an ideal vision of marriage founded upon a lifetime of sexual
fidelity to one person, a vision most of us eventually learn is highly
unrealistic, we invite punishment upon ourselves, upon each other and upon our
children;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10481. The
French are much more comfortable with the idea that their affair partner is
just that an affair partner writes Pamela Druckerman in her cross-cultural look
at infidelity, <i>Lust in Translation</i>;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10482.
Understanding that love and sex are different things, Druckerman says
the French feel less need to “complain” about their marriage to legitimize the
affair in the first place;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10483. The
expectation of lifelong monogamy places an incredible strain on a
marriage. But our concept of love and
marriage has as its foundation not only the expectation of monogamy, but the
idea that where there’s love, monogamy should be easy and joyful;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10484.
Toe-curlingly passionate sex can be an important part of marital
intimacy, but it is a grave mistake to think it’s the essence of long-term intimacy;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10485. Thinking
of marriage as an enduring romance is unrealistic: “It’s not like you want to
rip your clothes off with somebody that you’re sleeping with for the thousandth
time. We should know going into it that
the nature of love and sex changes from what it began is and that a great love
affair doesn’t necessarily make a great marriage;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10486.
So-called polyamorous families are thought to number about ½ million in
the United States, according to an article in Newsweek;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10487. “Since
Darwin,” Sarah Hrdy writes, “we have assumed that humans evolved in families
where a mother relied on one male to help her rear her young in a nuclear
family; yet . . . the diversity of human family arrangements . . . is better predicted
by assuming that our ancestors evolved as cooperative breeders;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10488. It seems
that the original modern American swingers were crew-cut World War II air force
pilots and their wives;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10489. Joan and
Dwight explained to Gould that these warriors and their wives “shared each
other as a kind of tribal bonding ritual with a tacit understanding that the
two-thirds of husbands who survived would look after the widows;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10490. The crab
cake sandwich at Café 44 (Cafe44.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is tasty;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10491. No one
has it all figured out;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10492. Being
nice is overrated, be kind, be fair, be understanding not “nice;”<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10493. To love
is to be vulnerable; let your guard down;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10494. Good or
bad, you can learn from everybody;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10495. Embrace
all of your emotions, don’t ignore them, don’t mask them, embrace them;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10496.
Traveling alone is better than with bad company;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10497.
Unlearning is just as important as learning;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10498. Maturity
is accepting you won’t get answers to the things that hurt you the most and
heal anyway;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10499. No one
prepares you to watch your parents grow older;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10500. Own up
to your mistakes; do what you say you’ll do;</span></div>
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HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-13653647966205374372022-04-25T09:19:00.003-04:002024-01-08T13:43:32.749-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0209<div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10401.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The most
effective approach to meaningful connection combines compassion with a specific
type of empathy called cognitive empathy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10402.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Compassion: The daily practice of recognizing and accepting our shared
humanity so that we treat ourselves and others with loving-kindness and we take
action in the face of suffering;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10403.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the
wounded.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s a relationship between
equals.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Only when we know our own
darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Compassion becomes real when we recognize our
shared humanity;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10404.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Empathy
is the most powerful tool of compassion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It is an emotional skill set that allows us to understand what someone
is experiencing and to reflect back that understanding;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10405.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(Theresa
Wiseman’s) Attributes of empathy: 1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Perspective taking; 2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Staying
out of judgment; 3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Recognizing emotion;
4.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Communicating our emotion; and
5.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Practicing mindfulness;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10406.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pity is
the near enemy of compassion;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10407.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The far
enemy of compassion is cruelty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10408.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the
surface, the near enemies of emotions or experiences might look and even feel
like connection, but, ultimately, they drive us to be disconnected from
ourselves and from each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Without
awareness, near enemies become the practices that fuel separation rather than
practices that reinforce the inextricable connection of all people;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10409.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sympathy
v. empathy: I feel sorry for you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10410.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Discharging
discomfort with blame: This feels terrible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Who can we blame?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10411.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Comparing/competing: If you think that’s bad!<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10412.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Judgment: You “should” feel shame!<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10413.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Advice
giving/problem solving: I can fix this and I can fix you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10414.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Empathy:
You’re not alone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m with you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10415.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What
does support look like right now?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10416.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Boundaries: A prerequisite for compassion and empathy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10417.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Cultivating meaningful connection: 1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Developing grounded confidence: Learning & improving; Near enemies:
Knowing & proving; Far enemies: Protecting fragile self-worth; 2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Practicing the courage to walk alongside;
Near enemies: Controlling the path; Far enemies: Walking away; and 3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Practicing story stewardship: Honoring story
as sacred; Near enemies: Performing connection while driving disconnection; Far
enemies: Not valuing story; Damaging trust & self-trust;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10418.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity or power, but
self-rejection;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10419.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What you
aren’t changing, you are choosing;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10420.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Triggers
are your teachers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Let what triggers
you, show you what needs healing;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10421.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Salt
intensifies the sweet and sour flavors in a margarita.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It makes the sour seem brighter making the
overall drink experience that much more pleasurable;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10422.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We spend
far more time fixated on changing ourselves than we do on accepting ourselves;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10423.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Accountability starts with you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It means you are responsible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It’s not so much a way of thinking as a way of being and it starts from
within;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10424.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Accountability is about being reliable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Ask yourself, “Can people count on me to do what I say I’ll do as I said
I would do it?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You must always keep
your word;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10425.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Accountability is ownership.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s
the willingness to hold yourself to account; it means taking total ownership no
matter the mess up;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10426.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Accountability is about creating clarity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When you are accountable you clear up the
gaps and voids of expectations and what you are going to be doing;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10427.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Accountability is about trustworthiness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>When you are responsible and you make a commitment, you hold yourself to
a high standard where others know and can trust in you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10428.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Accountability is a partnership.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Partnerships are about support and mutual accountability; when you are
held accountable by a partner, it’s important to recognize and respect the
power of their intention and respond with appreciation rather than anger;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10429.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Being
accountable begins with accepting responsibility and leading from a place of
action;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10430.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Choices
+ Behaviors + Actions = Accountability;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10431.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am
accountable means you are able to count on me: if it is to be, it’s up to me;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10432.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Great
leaders who are bound by their word are liberated by their accountability;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10433.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lead
from within: You are the leader of your life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Consider the importance of accountability and work to incorporate it in
every area you influence;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10434.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Dark
chocolate (flavor crème) Oreos are tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10435.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Fear is
a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10436.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(I can
say) I’ve had an oyster shooter (with Bloody Mary mix, Tabasco, Tito’s Handmade
vodka & fresh lemon) at the Fish Market in (Old Town) Alexandria;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10437.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
blackberry (Arnold) Palmer at the Chart House is (really) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10438.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Remember
that people: 1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Love to their level of
self-love; 2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Communicate to their level
of self-awareness; and 3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Behave to
their level of healed trauma;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10439.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Feelings
are like children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You don’t want them
driving the car, but you shouldn’t stuff them in the trunk either;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10440.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
goals people pursue affect their long-term happiness;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10441.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>People
are happiest when they pursue goals that connect them to other people.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In the workplace, this is reflected in
studies suggesting that when people see their work as connecting to a broader
purpose and helping other people to achieve their goals, they’re more satisfied
with their careers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And satisfaction
with your work generally lifts your overall sense of well-being;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10442.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You can
distinguish between goals that are competitive versus cooperative.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A comparative goal is one where you want to
see yourself do better and the people you compare yourself to do worse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A cooperative goal is one where you try to
lift up your family, friends or neighbors so that success means that everyone
does well;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10443.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
happiest people tend to engage in a lot of cooperative goals rather than
competitive ones.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This allows people to
celebrate their own successes as well as the successes of the people around
them;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10444.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Very few
things are completely good or completely bad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Most experiences have some positive elements and some negative
ones.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A great meal at a restaurant may
have started with problems finding a parking spot or a table that was a little
too close to a potted plant.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Happy
people tend to focus on the positives and to let the negatives of events fade
into the background;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10445.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
focus on the positive elements has two benefits for well-being.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>First, each event is more enjoyable in the
moment because the focus is on the desirable parts of what is happening rather
than the undesirable parts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Second, the
information you focus on is the information that stays in memory.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So, when you look back on the event later,
you’ll remember the positive parts of it most strongly and that memory will
also help to make you happy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10446.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Over the
course of your life, people will do bad things to you. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even the people closest to you in your life
will do selfish or mean things. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One
thing that happy people do well is to forgive others. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The interesting thing about forgiveness is
that it enables you to forget the details of what someone did that upset you in
the first place. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As a result, you will
not be reminded of all those negatives when you see them or think about them in
the future;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10447.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
alternative to forgiveness is to hold onto the details of the bad things people
have done to you in the past. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The memory
of social pain does not go away as quickly as the memory of physical pain
because you can regenerate feelings of anger, shame or embarrassment just from
thinking through a negative interaction with someone from the past. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s hard to truly experience the physical
pain of an injury when you think about it much later;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10448.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Forgiving
someone does not necessarily mean that you will trust them completely in the
future. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are people who are mean,
selfish or unreliable that you might choose not to spend time with or do
business with anymore. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Still, forgiving
them for what they did will help you to move past those interactions without
harboring negative feelings that can drag down your mood or your satisfaction
with life;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10449.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>More
than 50% of the surface of the brain is devoted to processing visual
information;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10450.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Closing
our eyes frees up the energy associated with that 50% allowing our brains much
needed recovery;</span></div>
</div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-80165027000229602912022-03-28T10:20:00.005-04:002024-01-08T13:43:24.321-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0208<p></p><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10351. (As hard
as it is,) sometimes you just have to let children go and fend for themselves
and trust that they’ll figure it out for themselves (and don’t harm themselves
or someone else in the process);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10352. When
given the chance, a 13 year-old (specifically Marlin Maughan) can surprise you
and be (very) responsible even after all of the evidence to the contrary that you’ve
(personally) seen;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10353.
Authentic love can be unconditional and still require reciprocity,
respect and mutual willingness. Without
these things, what you’re left with is activated wounds looking to get safety,
security and validation from a place it doesn’t exist;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10354. Smoked
corned beef is very tender;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10355. Joshua
Radin saw Colin Hay perform at the Birchmere in 2005 with his then girlfriend.
. . . It was around that time he decided to write (and perform) music for a
living;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10356. Apparently,
Joshua Radin is homeless. . . . He sold his house (in Los Angeles) and put his
stuff/things in a storage unit. And he’s
now living out of a suitcase( while touring);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10357. If you
learned as a child that your silence would keep you safe, it can feel
revolutionary to realize that your voice, not your silence, will keep you safe
as an adult;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10358. What if
the things you shame yourself for (i.e., I’m lazy, overwhelmed, disorganized,
unconfident, etc.) are actually the source of your power?<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10359. (Simply
Nature) quinoa chips are (just) disappointing Sun Chips;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10360. (Simply
Nature) black bean chips aren’t very good (by themselves), but they’re great
with salsa;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10361. Corned
beef prepared in a slow cooker is (also) very tender;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10362. As we
heal, we may find ourselves less able to tolerate others’ rage, neglect,
sharpness or coldness. This doesn’t mean
that our healing has made use “weaker.”
It means that we’re finally allowing ourselves to recognize how painful
these dynamics have always been and we’re finally giving ourselves permission
not to tolerate them anymore;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10363. The
Portuguese stew (with Maine mussels, middleneck clams, market fish, smoked
chorizo, peewee potatoes, fennel, cilantro & sourdough) at The Salt Line
(TheSaltLine.com) is tasty;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10364.
(According to Isa Seyran, Washington,) D.C. has the second best theatre
scene (in the U.S.) behind New York (City);<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10365. In order
to break the people-pleasing pattern, we must learn to sit with discomfort
instead of reacting to it, including: 1.
The discomfort of others being unhappy with us; 2. The discomfort of letting others find the
solutions to their own problems; 3. The
discomfort of having difficult conversations and setting tough boundaries; and
4. The discomfort of realizing others’
happiness isn’t our responsibility, but our own happiness is;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10366. (Simply
Nature) cauliflower tortilla chips aren’t bad;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10367. Old
Ebbitt Grill (Ebbitt.com) in D.C. has oyster Happy Hour (i.e., ½ dozen for
$12.00) daily from 3:00 PM to 5:00 PM and from 11:00 PM to 1:00 AM;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10368. Fire
Works Pizza (FireWorksPizza.com) in Courthouse has Happy Hour daily from 3:00
PM to 7:00 PM;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10369. Not
everything needs a response. You have
the right to say “no” to people and situations that don’t serve you. Don’t internalize other people’s behavior;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10370. Be
patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions
themselves like locked rooms and books that are now written in a very foreign
tongue. Do not now seek the answers,
which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. The point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without
noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10371. Letting
things go is a daily practice;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10372. Just a
reminder that second chances without growth are just patterns;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10373. Perhaps
you are overvaluing what you don’t have and undervaluing what you do;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10374. Make a
list of everything you complain about and you will find some desires
masquerading as complaints;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10375. State
your desire instead of complaining;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10376. Shame
and guilt must be released from past actions for they hold us separate from
what is possible and ours as our birthright;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10377. Whisky
should avoid sunlight (at all costs) as it can effectively cook the alcohol and
destroy it;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10378. Whisky
must never lay on its side because the alcohol can eat away at the seal and let
air get in to oxidize the liquid;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10379. Thinking
you need to do it all alone all (of) the time is a trauma response . . . and a
protection from the sheer vulnerability of inviting others in to the tenderness
of your aching heart;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10380. Don’t
believe every worried thought you have.
Worried thoughts are notoriously inaccurate;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10381. Caesars Sportsbook
(WilliamHill.com/us/welcome) (by William Hill Sportsbook) in Capital One Arena
(in D.C.) is pretty nice;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10382. Don’t use
mobile ordering at Caesars Sportsbook.
They automatically add a 20% gratuity, which is fine, but they also add
an additional gratuity of 18%, which you can’t decline;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10383.
Deprivation of body pleasure throughout life, but particularly during
the formative periods of infancy, childhood and adolescence, is very closely
related to the amount of warfare and interpersonal violence;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10384. Cultures
that don’t interfere in the physical bonding between mother and child or prohibit
the expression of adolescent sexuality show far lower levels of violence both
between individuals and between societies;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10385. The
Muria of central India set up adolescent dormitories (called ghotuls), where
adolescents are free to sleep together away from concerned parents. In the ghotul, the young people are
encouraged to experiment with different partners as it’s considered unwise to
become too attached to a single partner at this phase of life;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10386. Envy
occurs when we want something that another person has;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10387. Jealousy
is when we fear losing a relationship or a valued part of a relationship that
we already have;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10388.
Resentment: It’s an emotion that we often experience when we fail to set
boundaries, ask for what we need or when expectations let us down because they
were based on things we can’t control, like what people think, what they feel
or how they’re going to react;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10389.
Schadenfreude: Pleasure or joy derived from someone else’s suffering or
misfortune;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10390. We feel
admiration when someone’s abilities, accomplishments or character inspires us
or when we see something that inspires us like art or even nature;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10391.
Reverence: Sometimes called adoration, worship or veneration is a deeper
form of admiration or respect and is often combined with a sense of meaningful
connection with something greater than ourselves;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10392.
Irreverent: Not showing the expected respect for official, important or
holy things;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10393. If
everything in your life is about your accomplishments, you eventually become a
“human doing” instead of a “human being.”
Your entire sense of worth comes from what you’ve achieved (instead of
who you are) and that’s a fickle place to be;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10394.
Bittersweet: A mixed feeling of happiness and sadness;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10395.
Nostalgia: A yearning for the way things used to be in our often
idealized and self-protective version of the past;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10396. Irony: A
form of communication in which the literal meaning of the word is different,
and often opposite, from the intended message;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10397.
Self-righteousness is the conviction that one’s beliefs and behaviors
are the most correct;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10398.
Self-righteousness is closed-minded, inflexible, intolerant of ambiguity
and less likely to consider other’s opinions;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10399. The
self-righteous scream judgments against others to hide the noise of skeletons
dancing in their own closets;<br /></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-size: 10pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10400.
Compassion is a daily practice and empathy is a skill set that is one of
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</p></div><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-66279764473598239212022-03-07T08:31:00.006-05:002024-01-08T13:43:15.815-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0207<p style="text-align: left;"></p><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10301. The
rooms at the JW Marriott Chicago are (really) nice;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10302. It’s a 45-minute
wait for deep dish pizza at Giordano’s (Giordanos.com). . . . It’s just so thick,
it takes that long to cook;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10303.
Giordano’s deep dish pizza has more cheese and no tomato chunks (in
their sauce) when compared to Pizzeria Uno’s/Uno Pizzeria & Grill’s deep
dish pizza;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10304. The
crust on Giordano’s deep dish pizza is dry. . . . It isn’t greasy/oily;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10305. Adolph
Hitler didn’t invent the swastika;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10306. The
swastika is an ancient Hindu symbol adopted by Buddhists;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10307. There’s
a New Ireland in Papua New Guinea;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10308. Both
animal and human mummies were used at various times as fertilizer or fuel;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10309. Mummy
wrappings were used as raw material in papermaking;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10310. Ground
up human mummy was sold as medicine for its supposed ability to stop bleeding
and was even used as a food seasoning;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10311. In 1994,
Frontera Grill (RickBayless.com/Restaurants/Frontera-Grill/) (in Chicago,
Illinois,) was ranked the world’s third-best casual dining restaurant by the <i>International Herald Tribune</i>;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10312. In 2007,
Frontera Grill won the James Beard Foundation’s “Outstanding Restaurant” award as
the best restaurant in the U.S.;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10313. The (wood-grilled
Florida pink) shrimp (i.e., camarones al coco) at Frontera Grill really taste
like coconut . . . and so does the (white) rice;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10314. The
(grilled-roasted Gunthorp) pork loin (with Oaxacan yellow mole) at Frontera
Grill is really tender;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10315. Pecan
polvorones remind me of pecan sandies;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10316. The best
(classic) flan I’ve ever had might have been at Frontera Grill. . . . It’s
slightly sweet and the texture is very smooth with no lumps whatsoever;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10317. The
“Cloud Gate” (i.e., “the Bean”) (in Chicago) is cooler than I thought it’d be;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10318.
Testosterone levels correlate to the likelihood of a young man (or
woman) getting into trouble;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10319. In the
U.S., adolescent males are 5 times more likely to kill themselves than females
are;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10320. Among
Americans between 15 and 25, suicide is the third leading cause of death and
teenage boys kill themselves at a rate <i>double</i>
that of any other demographic group;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10321. A
government study found that homosexual youth are 2 to 3 times more likely to
attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10322. A 2005
survey of 12,000 adolescents found that those who had pledged to remain abstinent
until marriage were <i>more</i> likely to
have oral and anal sex than other teens, less likely to use condoms and just as
likely to contract sexually transmitted diseases as their unapologetically
non-abstinent peers;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10323. The
study’s authors found that 88% of those who pledged abstinence admitted to
failing to keep their pledge;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10324. If we
had a parent, who was attuned, helped us navigate our emotions and (more often
than not) met our needs, we will have safe, embodied patterns in
relationships. This means we will be
able to express our needs and meet the needs of our partner. We are able to trust and feel safe within the
body;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10325. If we
had parent figures, who were not attuned to our needs, didn’t help guide us
through our emotions and who were inconsistent, we develop relationship
patterns to keep ourselves safe and protected.
We struggle to connect or trust and often leave our body(i.e.,
dissociate) to cope;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10326. Our
relationships (specifically our romantic relationships) are the greatest
indicators of our emotional health;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10327. Honey
roasted pistachios are better/tastier than honey roasted peanuts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10328.
Sometimes the reason that you’re suffering is because you won’t let go
of the thing that’s biting you;<br /></span><a name="_Hlk97577778"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10329. D(onald)J(oseph) Qualls (the actor) came out
as gay at a Jim Jefferies show;<br /></span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10330. Jim Jefferies (the comedian) doesn’t drink
anymore. . . . He just smokes (cannabis/marijuana) or takes edibles;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10331. Jim Jefferies’s favorite TV show is The
Bachelor/The Bachelorette;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10332. “Eddie Murphy Delirious” was filmed at DAR
Constitution Hall in D.C.;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10333. The hot
chicken and French toast sandwich (i.e., Nashville-style chicken sandwich,
pickles & maple syrup) for brunch at Lyon Hall (LyonHallArlington.com) in
Arlington is (pretty) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10334. The
band, Vertical Horizon, was formed by a couple of undergrad(uate)s (i.e., Matt
Scannell & Keith Kane) at Georgetown University (in 1991);<br /></span><a name="_Hlk98253017"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10335. (I can say) I was at the Seattle Kraken’s
first game (ever played) in D.C.;<br /></span></a><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10336. (I can say) I was at Mark Giordano’s 1,000<sup>th</sup>
career(, regular season) game;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10337. Ironically,
people-pleasing in order to feel a sense of belonging typically leads to the
opposite outcome: feeling unseen and unknown;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10338. A sense
of belonging only arises when we feel seen and accepted for who we really are;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10339. Fogo de
Chao (FogoDeChao.com) has a pretty good Happy Hour. It runs from 4:30 PM to 6:30 PM Monday
through Friday (in the bar and patio) with $4.00 Happy Hour bites and $8.00
select cocktails;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10340. Ronny
Chieng (the comedian) has a( undergraduate) law degree from the University of
Melbourne;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10341. Apparently,
Jim Jefferies was punched by an audience member when he was onstage in
Manchester, England( in 2007);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10342. Self-compassion
isn’t just about being kind to your current self, it’s also about being kind to
your previous self that didn’t know what you know now;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10343. Emotional
availability isn’t just about being able to <i>give</i>
love, time and care. It’s also about
being able to <i>receive</i> love, time and
care from others;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10344. If you
keep finding yourself in relationships with people who are emotionally
unavailable, you might consider how emotionally available you really are;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10345. Being
happy doesn’t mean you have it all, it just means you’re grateful for all you
have;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10346. Life can
change in an instant;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10347. Apparently,
you can die (rather) quickly after liver failure;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10348. Chris
Williams (the former University of Virginia men’s basketball player, who was
nicknamed “Big Smooth”,) died of blood clots in his heart on March 15<sup>th</sup>,
2017;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10349. Root
beer floats are good so I thought a ginger beer float could be good . . . not
so much;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10350. I can
see (now) how it’s hard for parents to let go and trust their children to be
responsible when a lot of what they’ve done in the past shows the opposite;</span></div></div><p class="MsoNormalCxSpFirst" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
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is the ability to show up for something bigger than yourself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10252.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Commitment is a value you can apply in every aspect of your life and
it’s what will keep you going when times get tough;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10253.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(I can
say) I’ve been to a(n) Islamic/Muslim wedding;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10254.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Imams
(i.e., Islamic/Muslim priests) can be funny;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10255.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Austin(,
Texas) strip clubs are terrible (specifically the Red Rose Cabaret);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10256.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Austin(,
Texas) can’t handle freezing rain/snow. . . . They have no snow plows and not
many salt/sand trucks;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10257.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Researchers Robin Baker and Mark Bellis found that approximately 35% of
the sperm are ejected within half an hour of intercourse;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10258.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
female’s body perceives sperm as antigens (i.e., foreign bodies) that are
promptly attacked by anti-sperm leucocytes, which outnumber sperm 100:1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Only 1 in 14 million ejaculated human sperm
even reach the oviduct;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10259.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is
striking evidence that the female reproductive system is capable of making
subtle judgments based upon the chemical signature of different men’s sperm
cells.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These assessments may go well
beyond general health to the subtleties of immunological compatibility;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10260.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
genetic compatibility of different men with a given women means that sperm
quality is a relative characteristic;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10261.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not
every “high quality” male would be a good match for any specific woman even on
a purely biological level;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10262.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because
of the complexities of how the 2 sets of parental DNA interact in
fertilization, a man who appears to be of superior mate value (i.e., square
jaw, symmetrical body, good job, firm handshake & a Platinum AMEX card) may
in fact be a poor genetic match for a particular woman;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10263.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A
women’s orgasms provoke changes in vaginal acidity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These changes appear to assist the sperm
cells of the lucky guy who provoked the orgasm;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10264.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
environment at the cervical opening tends to be highly acidic and, thus,
hostile to sperm cells.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The alkaline pH
of semen protects the spermatozoa in this environment for a while, but the
protection is short-lived; most of the sperm cells are viable within the vagina
for only a few hours, so these changes in acidity alter the vaginal environment
in ways that can favor sperm that arrive with the female’s orgasm;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10265.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Recent
research suggests women who do not use condoms are less likely to suffer from
depression than either women who do use condoms or who are not sexually active;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10266.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women
can develop a “chemical dependency” on the boost they get from the
testosterone, estrogen, prostaglandins and other hormones contained in
semen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These chemicals center the
woman’s bloodstream through the vaginal wall;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10267.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Reaching
out and asking for help can be a gift.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It allows someone else to help/give back;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10268.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Jeremy
thinks I don’t look my age;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10269.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The slow
roasted Angus brisket (barbacoa style with red chile mayo, avocado relish &
micro cilantro) and the chicken & waffle (with crisp tenders, peppered
bacon, peppercorn gravy, green apple slaw, maple syrup, red chile aioli, chives
on a waffle tortilla) tacos at Velvet Taco (VelvetTaco.com) are tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10270.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Apparently, Kalpesh (Lakhani) thinks I’m a fun guy;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10271.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
feel/think that people don’t see me, but (some) people do see me as a good
person (specifically Rob, Ian & Greg);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10272.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Spanish
researchers confirmed that women experience greater feelings of attractiveness
and desire around ovulation while others have reported women find classically
masculine faces more attractive around ovulation opting for less
chiseled-looking guys when not fertile;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10273.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Where a
woman chooses her partner while she is on the pill and then comes off it to
have a child, her hormone-driven preferences have changed and she may find she
is married to the wrong kind of man;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10274.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The only
real (love) revolution happens right inside of you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10275.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The most
important place for all of us to start is to prioritize loving and healing is
the self-love that needs to happen inside ourselves and our own trauma first;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10276.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When
we’re able to discover more of our own light after healing our trauma, we’ll
have more light to shine out to the world;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10277.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hurt
people hurt people, but people filled with love for themselves love other
people;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10278.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A lot of
the restaurants/stores at Louis Armstrong New Orleans International Airport
close around 5:30/6:00 PM;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10279.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Celebrating your small wins is crucial as it reminds you that you are on
the right path and your efforts will pay off;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10280.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We wrap
our self-worth up in completing certain tasks or goals.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Noting that once we achieve a certain goal or
standard, that it will boost our self-esteem and, therefore, our confidence and
worth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is true to a point because
achievement does feel good and is a strong motivator.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, for those of us who struggle with
perfection, it’s a dangerous internal dialogue to have.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To say that we are only worth something if we
can achieve a specific thing we’ve randomly attached value to creates a rat
race.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And it’s a race that, ultimately,
we will never win.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We’ll always be
chasing the next best thing, never satisfied, never fully confident and always
hungry;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10281.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What if
we shifted our perspective to be more like those who are truly confident and
happy with who/where they are?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What
would it take?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It would take self-acceptance;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10282.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Goal
attainment and confidence are 2 separate things and, the more we can assess
these separately, the better off we are;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10283.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If we
blindly accepted ourselves, without attaching achievement, how differently
would we look and feel?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10284.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What if
we decided we were worth something not because we “earned it,” but because we
know who we are and we know that’s someone worth believing in?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10285.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What if
we believed we were worth something simply because we are human and know that
nobody else out there is like us?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10286.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s
okay to believe in who I am because I accept and love all of me . . .
weaknesses, strengths, the whole package. . . . There’s no other package like
this – like me – like you. . . . There is value in rarity;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10287. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Accept
who you are and use all of what you know to propel yourself forward rather than
focusing exclusively on goal attainment;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10288.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Achievement is one small portion of success; confidence, on the other
hand, is a matter of perspective;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10289.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>By constantly
ruminating over your past, you are characterizing your present with a negative
emotional experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Let go;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10290.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Researchers at Michigan State University have discovered that dogs often
take on the same personality traits as their owner;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10291.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Dogs are
like humans in that they have personalities that are shaped over time;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10292.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>According to Professor Chopik, older dogs are much harder to train.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He found that the “sweet spot” for teaching a
dog obedience is around the age of 6, when it outgrows its excitable puppy
stage, but before it’s too set in its ways;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10293.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Forget
those who hurt you yesterday, but don’t forget those who love you every day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Forget the past that makes you cry, focus on
the present that makes you smile.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Forget
the pain, but never forget the lessons you gained;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10294.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It cost
me $119.95 (i.e., trip charge) to find out that frost can form in your freezer
if the door/drawer isn’t (fully) shut( all of the way);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10295.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With
women, at least nominally straight women, the higher her sex drive, the more
likely she’ll be attracted to men <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">and</i>
women;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10296.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lesbians
showed the same pattern as men: a higher sex drive means more women-only focus;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10297.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Many
women see themselves as attracted to specific people rather than to their
gender;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10298.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women,
in sexologist Lisa Diamond’s view, respond so strongly to emotional intimacy
that their innate gender orientation can easily be overwhelmed;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10299.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One can
choose what to do, but not what to want;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10300.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Note to
self: Don’t visit Chicago in February;</span></div>
</div>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1816977981487307921.post-9472162891278310252022-01-24T09:56:00.003-05:002024-01-08T13:42:53.589-05:00What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0205<p style="text-align: left;"></p><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><div style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10201. In
Mexico, they put shards of glass on top of walls. . . . I’m guessing it’s to
prevent people from grabbing a hold of the top and pulling themselves over;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10202. I can
say I’ve been sailing (on a catamaran) in Mexico;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10203. The “carpaccio
di manzo” (i.e., beef carpaccio, balsamic gel & fennel-orange salad) at
Bocelli Cucina Italiana at the Playacar Palace (in Playa del Carmen, Mexico) is
(really) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10204. Cancun(,
Mexico) was founded in 1970;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10205. Cancun(,
Mexico and the Riviera Maya region) exist(s) solely because of tourism;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10206. Tulum(,
Mexico) was originally called Zama(, which is Mayan for “dawn”);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10207. There
are over 780 glyphs/signs in Mayan (hieroglyphic) writing;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10208. The
Mayans are known for their astronomical system, their calendar and mathematics;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10209. About
20% of Mexicans are (part) Mayan;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10210. Apparently,
Mayans were short;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10211. The
Mayans built houses in the shape of a cross (pointing in the 4 cardinal
directions of north, south, east and west);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10212. Belize
is a 3 days walk from Tulum;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10213. Cuba is
about 90 miles from Cancun;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10214.
Apparently, there’s a bike racing circuit for 7-year-olds;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10215. Martie
Haselton and her colleagues found that men shown photographs of the same 30
women – some taken around ovulation and others not – were quite good at judging
when the women were “trying to look more attractive,” which in turn
corresponded to the women’s menstrual status.
These authors found that women tend to dress more fetchingly when they
are more likely to be fertile.
“Moreover,” writes Haselton, “the closer women were to ovulation when
photographed in the fertile window, the more frequently their fertile
photograph was chosen;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10216. Other
researchers have found that men preferred women’s bodily smells near ovulation
and that women tend to behave more provocatively in various ways when they’re
likely to be fertile (i.e., they wear more jewelry and perfume, go out more,
are more likely to hook up for casual sexual encounters and are less likely to
use condoms with new lovers);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10217. According
to the head chef at the Playacar Palace (in Playa del Carmen, Mexico), you
should cook onions (for) a little bit before adding (olive) oil. . . . It gives
them a different flavor;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10218. There
are 60 employees preparing all of the food for the guests at the Playacar
Palace (in Playa del Carmen, Mexico);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10219. The
biggest shrimp I’ve ever eaten/had were at the “chef’s dinner” at the Playacar
Palace (in Mexico);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10220. Nail
buffer blocks remind me of drywall sanding sponges;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10221. I had my
first (ever) manicure and pedicure in Mexico;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10222. There’s
a Nickelodeon resort in Cancun(, Mexico);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10223. The
chipotle chicken tortas at Tortas Frontera by Rick Bayless
(RickBayless.com/Restaurants/Tortas-Frontera/) is tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10224. If you
want to date more, don’t focus on how many dates you go on, how many phone
numbers you get or how many women you sleep with (i.e., all outcomes). Instead just think about becoming the best
version of yourself, being more social and putting yourself in situations where
you’ll meet the women you’re interested in (i.e., actions);<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10225. You don’t
have to know every turn on the route to get to where you want to go. You don’t need to know how you’re going to get
somewhere. You just have to believe that
you’re going to get there. The how will
take care of itself;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10226. Faith is
taking the first step when you can’t see the full staircase. Trust is surrendering to the flow of life;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10227. The
degree to which you’re willing to be vulnerable is the degree to which you can
grow in life;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10228. Consistency
is the not-so-secret secret to success;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10229. (According
to Ian Stanley, )the best habits to be consistent at are: 1. Writing; 2.
Working out; 3. Eating well; and 4. Meditating;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10230. Although
Dixson classifies humans as mildly polygynous in his survey of primate
sexuality, he seems to have doubts, as when he writes, “One might argue that .
. . the female’s orgasm is rewarding, increases her willingness to copulate
with a variety of males rather than one partner and thus promotes sperm
competition;”<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10231. Apparently,
Brittani (Wilson) lived next to Molly McGrath (i.e., the sportscaster) when she
attended/was at Boston College;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10232. Apologizing
doesn’t make you weak. It shows you have
humility and the maturity to speak the truth and own up to your behavior;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10233. Farmers
Fishers Bakers (FarmersFishersBakers.com) in Washington Harbour in D.C. has a
good weekend brunch (from 9:00 AM to 2:00 PM) for $29.99/person. They have a good variety of breakfast (e.g.,
eggs Benedict, egg scramble, French toast, etc.), lunch (e.g., brisket, fried
chicken, fried shrimp, ham, salads, salmon, tacos, vegetables, etc.) and
dessert (e.g., cinnamon rolls, cheesecake, cookies, doughnuts, ice cream,
kettle corn, Key lime pie, peanut butter mousse, etc.) items;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10234. Don’t
forget to show appreciation to those who genuinely support you;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10235. (I can
say) I’ve eaten/had wagyu beef. . . . I don’t (really) get the hype;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10236. I never
thought I’d ever know someone who was murdered . . . rest in peace Bengu Beachley;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10237. Jehovah’s
Witnesses are relentless. . . . They’ll send you (recruitment) letters in
foreign languages if they think English isn’t your first language/native
tongue;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10238. Assumptions
are often wrong. Ask people about what
they think rather than assuming you already know;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10239.
Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10240. Believe
the hype. Magic Spoon cereals
(MagicSpoon.com) (specifically the cocoa and peanut butter) do taste like their
sugary counterparts;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10241. Overcooked
gyro meat is like (lamb) bacon;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10242. Yes,
life is hard and many things cause suffering, but we also have the ability to
find joy, relief and hope amidst difficulties;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10243. Seth (Barr)
thinks I don’t look my age;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10244. The
quinoa tabbouleh salad (with cucumber, roasted tomato, lettuce, radishes &
olive vinaigrette) at the Sixth and Waller Global Diner
(EastAustinHotel.com/food-drink/6th-and-waller/) (at the East Austin Hotel) in
Austin, Texas is (really) tasty;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10245. If
you’re speaking, you’re not listening. If
you’re not listening, you’re not learning.
Listening is the key to learning and learning is the prerequisite to
growth;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10246. If you
can’t hear what another person has to say, how can you learn about the
motivations behind their actions?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10247. If you
don’t listen to your intuition, how can you live a life that is aligned with
your gut/highest self?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10248. If you
don’t listen to that small quiet pull inside, how can you listen to others when
we don’t even listen to ourselves?<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10249. If
respect was the building blocks, listening would be the glue that holds them
together;<br /></span><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">10250. What you
do in the dark, puts you in the light;</span></div>
</div></div></div><p></p>HughChehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14438845813149933804noreply@blogger.com0