8902. Don’t
waste energy on things you can’t control. Fred Smith once said, “You must understand the
difference between a fact of life and a problem. A fact of life is something you can’t control
or fix. A problem is something you can
fix;”
8903. Don’t
make the same mistakes. John C. Maxwell
has often said, “Experience teaches nothing, but evaluated experience teaches
everything.” It’s okay to make mistakes,
but it’s not okay to repeat them. Emotionally
strong folks learn from their mistakes by reflecting on them, learning from
them and taking a better course of action;
8904. Don’t
ride the emotional roller coaster. Because
no one’s immune to emotional highs and lows, we have to learn to level them
out. Maxwell talks about practicing the
24-hour rule: No matter what happens, give yourself 24 hours to process your
response to an event good or bad. After
those 24 hours, put it behind you and take action on something else;
8905. Understand,
appreciate and grow through struggles.
Life is never going to be all sunshine and rainbows; the sooner we accept
that fact of life, the sooner we can boost our emotional capacities. And the sooner we learn to look at struggles,
challenges and setbacks as opportunities to make us stronger, better,
healthier, more robust and more resilient mentally and emotionally the better
off we’ll be;
8906.
Apparently, you can be transferred on chat (and not just the telephone)
too;
8907. “Commitment”
is doing things when you don’t know how to do it;
8908. It’s
(actually) pretty easy to make fried rice;
8909. Pepperoni
fried rice is (actually) pretty good;
8910. Obstacles
are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal;
8911. Being an
outward conduit of love, kindness and selfless service to others as well as
being a willing and grateful recipient of love, kindness and selfless service
from others is what completes the circuit of abundance in life;
8912. When someone
gives and gives and gives without being in a place to also receive it doesn’t
end up giving that person abundance. That
person just gets depleted. Equally when
person just takes and takes and takes without being in a place to also give
back that person doesn’t feel abundance either. That is also depleting;
8913. You can
ask your Google Nest Mini to play white noise/calming sounds (on a timer);
8914.
Apple cider/juice makes a good tea sweetener/flavoring;
8915. In order
to have what you really want, you must first be who you really are;
8916.
Forgiveness does not necessarily mean forgetting. You can’t erase the past and you can’t change
(or control) the person who hurt you.
Forgiveness does mean (that you are) letting go of the anger, pain and
negativity that you’re harboring;
8917. The past
is the past. Whatever happened, happened
in the past. The only place it still
exists in the present is in your mind.
In other words, it’s not still happening, but it causes problems when
you replay it in your mind over and over.
Instead of reliving it, focus on the present and the joy in your life
now. When your thoughts stray to the
past, recognize it and bring them back to the present;
8918. Most
people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent
to reply;
8919. I am the
creator of time. I make time for what
matters and accept that I can’t do everything;
8920. Dipping/dunking
a(n) chocolate sandwich cookie/Hydrox/Oreo in (hot) coffee is tasty;
8921. True
wealth is businesses and assets that can earn while you sleep;
8922. (A scoop
of) ice cream in (hot) coffee is tasty;
8923. Difficulties
are meant to rouse not discourage. The
human spirit is to grow strong by conflict;
8924. It’s
pretty easy to make sticky rice (with mango);
8925. (I think
it’s sad that) in a society where we’re so “connected,” we’re the least
connected with ourselves. There are so
many ways where we can distract ourselves that stop us from actually feeling
our emotions. There’s alcohol, drugs,
food, gambling, sex (i.e., dating apps, masturbation & pornography), social
media, television (i.e., movies, sports & TV shows) and video games and
they’re all more easily accessible than ever;
8926. How you
treat yourself is how the world will treat you;
8927. The
paradox of emotional release: Allow the feelings to be, let them release if
they want to release, but, at the same time, to not require that they go
anywhere;
8928. Be
willing to feel your emotions and acknowledge them for as long as they need to
be felt and acknowledged. If you can,
allow that to happen without trying to hurry it along;
8929. Try not
to judge or blame others for whatever it is that has been triggered in
you. Feel the feeling, express the
feeling, but don’t dive into the “meaning.”
We love to ascribe meaning to things, but, in this kind of situation,
that doesn’t do us any favors/good;
8930. Diving
into the story, running the story around and around and thinking about
apportioning blame, shame or guilt that just locks the energy in place. It’s the opposite of letting go;
8931.
Forgiveness can be hard, but ultimately it frees the forgiver the
most. So that’s why it’s worth it;
8932. Twix ice
cream bars are pretty tasty. I like them
better than Milky Way or Snickers ice cream bars;
8933. (Quick,
one-minute) oatmeal (made) with white chocolate baking chips/morsels is pretty
tasty;
8934. More is
lost by indecision than wrong decision.
Indecision is the thief of opportunity.
It will steal you blind;
8935. Toxic
positivity is avoidance;
8936. When we
minimize emotions, whether they are ours or not, we deprive the person of the
ability to feel his/her emotions honestly and safely;
8937. By trying
to focus on only the lighter/positive and not giving space to the
darker/negative emotions we feel, we make it harder on ourselves and our loved
ones to heal and grow;
8938. Harboring
darker/negative emotions for long periods and not dealing with them worsens our
health by causing extra stress;
8939. When you
force yourself to continually be happy or to adopt an excessive “positive
vibes” mentality, you are communicating to other people that they should not
have difficult emotions around you;
8940. Albert
Einstein said, “A person starts to live when he can live outside himself;”
8941. According
to John C. Maxwell, people who fail to get beyond themselves are usually
selfish, insecure or both;
8942. The world
doesn’t owe you a living and you are not indispensable;
8943. Gandhi
put it best when he said, “The difference between what we do and what we are
capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problems;”
8944. Growing
beyond yourself starts with discovering your purpose, clarifying your
priorities and getting passionate about life. The fastest way to get better is to hang out
with better people;
8945. According
to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is ‘what
are we doing for others?’”
8946. Life
really takes off when we invest ourselves and our resources in others;
8947. If you
want to surround yourself with great people, you need to work at becoming a
great person;
8948. Since we
attract the people most like ourselves, take an honest inventory of the people
surrounding you (right) now;
8949. 6 ways to
get beyond yourself (according to John Maxwell): 1. Quit taking yourself so seriously; 2. Quit thinking that the world owes you a
living; 3. Quit believing you are
indispensable; 4. Start seeing through
other people’s eyes; 5. Start placing
value on others; and 6. Start
understanding your purpose on earth;
8950. If you
really want to make an impact and move forward on your journey to significance,
you have to go beyond yourself; you have to step outside yourself;
