11601. Transformation often requires breaking out of
your comfort zone and facing discomfort head-on. It’s about being true to yourself, even if it
means losing people who only resonated with your old self. It’s about living in a way that, when you look
back on your life, you can be proud of the way you played the game;
11602. Take a moment to reflect.
What are the actions and pursuits that
bring you the most joy? How can you design
your life to do more of what you love?
11603. Embrace life as the grand
adventure it is with all its ups and downs, and live in a way that makes your
future self proud;
11604. Distinguishing Real
Breakup Pain From Triggered Sensations: The agony many people feel during a
breakup often stems from triggered sensations rather than the breakup itself. While breakups are naturally painful, these
triggered emotions can amplify the distress, leading people to remain affected
by their past relationships for years. A
critical question to ask yourself is, “Is my response appropriate to reality?” This helps in identifying whether your
reaction is due to the actual breakup or the triggered feelings from within;
11605. The Importance of
Processing and Letting Go: Fully processing and letting go of what is being
triggered within you is crucial. Surface-level
solutions like dating others to get over an ex often keep the ex alive in your
mind, perpetuating the cycle of pain. Instead,
the key to moving on lies in addressing and releasing these deep-seated
emotions;
11606. Engaging in Deep
Self-Questioning: The “shadow questions” help in talking to your inner world,
revealing hidden insecurities. For
instance, asking yourself, “Why is s/he better than me?” or “Why am I not good
enough?” can unearth beliefs you may not be consciously aware of, but are
affecting your self-esteem and relationships;
11607. Embracing and Validating
Your Emotions: It’s essential to honor and feel your emotions without judgment. I liken this to comforting your inner child,
suggesting that you should hug yourself and be present with your feelings. By acknowledging and feeling the hurt, you
prevent it from being suppressed and resurfacing later;
11608. The Power of Authenticity:
Authenticity is the cornerstone of healthy relationships. From the very start, being unapologetically
yourself helps in screening for compatibility.
Authenticity allows you to attract those who truly resonate with you
while repelling those who don’t, saving you from future disappointments and
heartache;
11609. Finding Confidence Within:
True confidence or core confidence, comes from within and is not dependent on
external factors like looks or situational achievements. Don’t derive your confidence from fleeting
external circumstances. Instead, focus
on rediscovering the core confidence that has always been within you;
11610. Crafting Your Ideal
Relationship Vision: Creating a clear vision of your ideal partner and
relationship dynamic can help in attracting the right person. Write down the attributes of your ideal
partner and the nature of your ideal relationship. This clarity can guide you in your
interactions and choices, ensuring you don’t settle for less than what you
truly want and deserve;
11611. Accepting the Grieving
Process: “What is grief, but the continuation of love?” It’s normal and healthy to feel grief after a
breakup as it signifies the love and care you had for the person. Allowing yourself to grieve is part of the
healing process and should not be rushed or avoided. Breakups are undoubtedly painful, but, by
understanding and addressing the triggered emotions, practicing
self-compassion, embracing authenticity and building core confidence, you can
navigate through the pain and emerge stronger and more self-aware;
11612. Remember that the journey through a breakup is not just about moving on from the past, but also about rediscovering and embracing your true self;
11613. The sex life you want is usually on the other side of unspoken resentments;
11614. (Using) honey as a coffee sweetener isn’t half bad;
11615. Darius Rucker thinks “Let Her Cry” is the best song he’s (ever) written;
11616. Darius Rucker said R.E.M. is the most influential band for “Hootie & the Blowfish.” (He said) they used to play a dozen R.E.M. covers/songs when they first started playing;
11617. Darius Rucker said he (originally) didn’t want to let Jim Sonefeld join “Hootie & the Blowfish” as their drummer, but, at the audition, he played a song he had just written. That song was “Hold My Hand;”
11618. “Hootie & the Blowfish’s” cover of “Interstate Love Song” sounded better than “Stone Temple Pilot’s” version at the 2010 DC101 Chili Cook-Off;
11619. Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement: Accepting yourself doesn’t mean you stop striving for improvement. It means you acknowledge where you are right now and choose to love yourself in that state. You can work on your health, your skills, your life goals, but do so out of self-love, not self-hate;
11620. Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent-free in your head;
11621. It can be totally fine not to know your purpose. Sometimes you just have to live life, meander a bit and follow your curiosity in order to find out where you’re going. But that doesn’t mean you’re lost;
11622. Reflect on a recent situation where you felt triggered. Instead of focusing on who or what triggered you, ask yourself what this situation is revealing about your inner world. What core belief or past trauma is being activated? Allow yourself to feel and explore these emotions without judgment. Inner work is not about fixing yourself; it’s about becoming whole. It requires courage to face the parts of yourself that you’ve disowned. But by doing so, you unlock a deeper sense of fulfillment and freedom;
11623. The (General Atomics MQ-1) Predator drone is a lot bigger than I thought it was (i.e., 6’9” in length by 27’ in width);
11624. The Smithsonian’s National Zoo (and Conservation Biology Institute) (w.si.edu/museums/national-zoo) in D.C. is free, but you have to get tickets in advance;
11625. Abraham Lincoln is the only U.S. president to hold a U.S. patent. It was for “adjustable buoyant chambers” (i.e., inflatable rubber-cloth chambers) to help boats float over shallow spots;
11626. If the only time you’re liked is when you’re
putting on a front, that creates a golden prison. You’re always walking around paranoid, afraid
people will see through that facade.
Even if people like the fake you, it doesn’t boost your self-esteem – it
hurts it. Every person who likes the
fake you reinforces the belief that the real you isn’t good enough. So the first step to authenticity is to let
go of the front. Put your true self out
there. Yes, it might hurt if you’re
judged or rejected, but it’s worth it.
The alternative – only being accepted when you’re someone else – is far
more painful;
11627. The goal isn’t to be
liked by everyone; it’s to be loved by some and disliked by others;
11628. Remember, being authentic
starts with you. If you can’t be
authentic with yourself, how can you be authentic with others?
11629. Is your parent’s approval
more important than your own happiness? It’s
a tough question, but one worth reflecting on. If you’re constantly playing a role to gain
approval, the people who approve of you aren’t even seeing the real you – they’re
approving of the facade. When did you
first start hiding parts of yourself to fit a certain image? What would it mean for you to let go of that
facade and embrace your true self even if it means facing disapproval from
those you love? This isn’t about
rebelling or rejecting your loved ones. It’s
about being honest with yourself and them. It’s about cutting the invisible umbilical
cord that keeps you tied to an identity that’s not truly yours. You can love and respect your parents while
still being true to who you are;
11630. Burnout isn’t caused by
working long hours. It’s caused by
working on goals you don’t believe in for people you don’t like;
11631. You can’t heal the people
you love. You can’t make choices for
them. You can’t rescue them. You can promise that they won’t journey
alone. You can loan them your map. But this trip is theirs;
11632. The fear of stepping into
the spotlight isn’t about what others might think. It’s about your own anxiety, your own doubts
and the belief that you’re not enough;
11633. You don’t need anyone
else’s permission to be you. You don’t
need to be perfect, or cool, or anything else.
You just need to be you;
11634. Jared Leto (the lead
singer of “30 Seconds to Mars”) doesn’t look like he’s 52;
11635. Apparently, Jared Leto
(the lead singer of “30 Seconds to Mars”) has a flamethrower;
11636. Jared Leto said (growing
up) he used to go to concerts with his (older) brother, Shannon, at
Merriweather Post Pavilion;
11637. Sometimes, there’s a good reason why Google Maps wants to take you to a side road;
