5151. If a man
is very masculine by nature, then he will be attracted to a very feminine
woman, who will compliment his energy.
The more neutral or balanced he is, the more balanced he will prefer his
woman. And, if a man is more feminine by
nature, his energy will be complemented by the strong direction and
purposiveness of a more masculine woman.
By understanding their own needs, men can learn to accept the “whole
package” of a woman. For instance, a
more masculine man can expect that any woman who really turns him on and
enlivens him will also be relatively wild, undisciplined, “bonkers,” chaotic,
prone to changing her mind and “lying.”
Still, from an energetic perspective, this kind of woman will be much
more healing and inspiring to him than a more balanced or neutral woman who is
steady, reasonable, “trustworthy” and able to say what she means in a way he
can understand;
5152. A woman’s
feminine shine, the energy that moves her body, her utterly refreshing
spontaneity and mystery, not to mention her delightful smile, are what attract
you. And the more feminine a woman is at
her core, the less she is likely to evidence strong masculine traits, such as
speaking clearly and unequivocally about thoughts and desires, rather than
primarily expressing her feelings of the moment;
5153. A woman
with a more feminine sexual essence will say she loves you one moment and then,
when you have done something you are not even aware of, she will say she hates
you;
5154. You are
always attracted to your sexual reciprocal;
5155. If you
have a more feminine sexual essence, you will be attracted to a more masculine
woman. You have probably seen men and
women in couples like this. The man is
more radiant and lively than the woman.
The woman is more committed to her direction in life than the man. The relationship is more important to the
man, whereas the woman likes to be left alone much of the time. These are signs of a relationship where the
man has a more feminine essence and the woman’s essence is more masculine;
5156. Men, with
more neutral sexual essences, prefer women who are also more neutral, neither
particularly masculine nor feminine.
This kind of couple can talk about anything and they like talking about
everything. They share hobbies, friends,
even career goals. Though equally
loving, this kind of couple is usually less sexually passionate than highly
polarized couples. It would be unusual
to hear about this kind of neutral or balanced couple yelling at each other,
throwing pillows, wrestling each other down to the floor and passionately
making love right there and then;
5157. Through
lack of understanding, you might have depolarized yourself and your partner
into a relationship that seems neutral, but actually isn’t. Only about 10% of couples are actually the
neutral or balanced type in their true essence.
Another 10% of couples are made up of a feminine man and masculine
woman. But if you are like 80% of
couples, you have a masculine sexual essence and your woman has a feminine
one. That is, her feminine way
frustrates you, drives you crazy, inspires you or turns you on, more often than
she is simply your sexually neutral buddy;
5158. The false
neutralization or depolarization, of relationships is one of the main reasons
that couples break up. The rejuvenative
charge of sexual loving becomes weak, while all the things that irritate you
and your partner remain just as strong as ever. The secret is not to try to change your
woman’s irritating feminine ways, but to help cultivate the depth and
rejuvenative power of her feminine blessings;
5159. Choose a
woman who is your complimentary opposite, which for most men means a more
feminine woman. It is only a feminine
woman who can give the gifts that you, as a masculine man, need. Along with these gifts, however, come the
relative chaos and emotional weather storms that most men dread. Realize these are aspects of the same energy
that turns you on;
5160. You will
only be happy in intimacy if you choose a woman who is your sexual reciprocal
as a partner. And you will only be able
to survive such an intimacy if her dark and light sides are equally embraceable
to you. It takes time to develop such
skill and strength, but in doing so you learn to provide your woman with a man
whose gifts are uncompromised by fear of feminine power and chaos;
5161. The more
you seek a woman who gives you everything, the less you get of anything. When you don’t prioritize the purpose of your
relationship, these different energies often cancel each other out and you are
left with a sexually neutralized alliance;
5162. Because
you expect your intimate relationship to serve so many purposes, it begins to
veer toward the utilitarian. By
constantly talking about finances, work, household and children, you turn your
woman into a neutral companion. You
become so familiar with each other that the mystery of sexual enchantment
becomes standardized into the ritual mechanics of kiss, stroke, lick, pump,
spurt and snore. You begin to long for
the depth of desire you once felt with your woman. Domesticity replaces mystery and talk
replaces tumble;
5163. You are
the only one who can decide what is important to you in your relationship. You are the only one who can clarify for
yourself what the purpose of your intimacy is.
If you decide, however, that the purpose of your intimacy is the passionate
transmission of love, the rejuvenative healing of sexual energy and the
cultivation of heart through your mutual commitment to spiritual awakening,
then be careful. Don’t force your woman
to be your on-call accountant. Don’t
expect her to always help you with your financial problems, like a career
consultant. Don’t emphasize the daily
chores while disregarding the bodily transmission of love for days and
days. Don’t squash the fullness of her
feminine energy into merely functional roles.
Your woman has the capacity to awaken your heart and fill your body with
life. You, however, must give her the
opportunity as well as the fullness of your masculine transmission of love;
5164. Any man
with a masculine sexual essence will desire sexual variety. Even if he loves his intimate partner and is
completely committed to her, he will naturally want sexual occasions with other
women besides his chosen intimate partner.
How a man deals with his desire for other women is up to him. He should know, however, that there is no way
to avoid such desires. He should also
know that acting on such desires, though temporarily enlivening and
exhilarating, often ends up complicating his life far more than the occasion
itself is worth;
5165. Even if
you are totally committed to your intimate partner in love, you probably think
about having sex with other women. Even
if you are totally fulfilled by the sex you share with your woman, you probably
still desire sex with other women. Your
desire for other women is not a reflection of any lack in your intimacy, it is
a reflection of your nature as a masculine sexual being;
5166. The
desire for sex with other women is not an excuse for promiscuity any more than
your enjoyment of television is an excuse for becoming an obese couch
potato. Desire springs from many
sources, such as your addictions, your biological heritage, your childhood
conditioning and your open heart. To
live a life of impeccable integrity, you must discriminate the source of your
desire, so you know when to discipline your behavior for everyone’s benefit,
including yours;
5167. The fact
is you probably want to have sex with other women besides your intimate
partner; how you respond to this fact is a reflection of your purpose in
life. If your purpose is to enjoy
physical pleasure no matter the consequences, then you should screw as many
women as you want. If your purpose is to
be a nice boy and please “mommy,” then you should do what makes your woman
happy. If your purpose is to liberate
yourself and others into love and freedom, then you should do whatever
magnifies the love and freedom in your life and in the lives of those whom your
actions affect;
5168.
Self-discipline is not self-suppression.
Suppression is when you resist and fight against your desires, keeping
them as buried and unexpressed as possible.
Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires,
not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and
compassion;
5169. How many
women you have sex with is your business.
Before you consider more than one, however, it is best to prove your
capacity with one. If you can’t handle
one – if deep communion, rejuvenating passion and spiritual happiness are not
the main features of your present intimacy – then you have not passed the test
and it is best to discipline your desire for other partners since nobody is
likely to be served;
5170.
Uncompromised, youthful, feminine energy turns you on and opens your
heart. You actually feel happier around
young women. You feel more energetic,
alive and loving. As women get older,
they typically take on more and more masculine tasks and responsibilities in
our culture so their radiance begins to decrease;
5171. Some
women are hotter, some are cooler. In
general, blonde, light-skinned, Japanese and Chinese women are cooler. Dark-skinned, brunette, redheaded, Korean and
Polynesian women are hotter. Even though
a man might choose to remain in a committed intimacy with one woman, his needs
for different temperatures of feminine energy may change over time. A hot woman, who aroused his passion several
years ago, may irritate him now. A
cooler woman, who soothed his heart several years ago, may seem tiresome to him
now. By understanding how different
temperatures of feminine energy may affect him, a man could make more skillful
life choices without confusion;
5172. Most men
have a good intuitive sense of the difference between a woman who is cool and
soothing and a woman who is hot and exciting, regardless of how they describe
it. And this difference has a lot to do
with why men have different tastes for women and why your taste could change
over time;
5173. More than
simple psychological preference determines your taste in women. Energy plays a major role. Sometimes you can be with a beautiful woman
who just doesn’t do it for you. You can
see she is beautiful, you can understand why your friends find her attractive,
but she just doesn’t suit your taste.
Different women offer different kinds of feminine energy. And one of the simplest forms of this
difference is the difference between hot and cool feminine energy;
5174. If you
are a particularly easygoing man, perhaps a man who has difficulty getting
motivated, then a hot woman is probably better for you. Her fiery nature can heat up your system and
get you moving. On the other hand, if
you tend to be quick tempered and hot yourself, you might find that a more
cooling woman heals you and brings a balance to your body and psyche;
5175. Depending
on your health, your lifestyle, your work demands and your emotional state, you
may need different types of energy at different times. The important thing is to know there is a
difference so that you can be conscious of the choice you are making and how it
might affect you;
5176. You could
get a professional massage, for instance, from a woman with cooling
energy. Sometimes all you need to do is
spend a little time in the same room with a cool woman. It’s important to realize that your needs for
different kinds of energy will change throughout your life. It’s something you will need to learn how to
deal with. It’s important that, in the
meantime, you don’t mistake a changing energy need for a reason to end your
marriage. It’s also important to know
that you can receive energy from different women in entirely nonsexual ways if
you so choose;
5177. When one
man’s energy needs change and he finds himself getting the energy he needs from
the woman in the office next door – the kind of energy that he isn’t getting
from his wife – then he might end up having an affair or getting divorced. Another man might communicate his changing
energy needs to his wife and then find that she is more than able to creatively
provide him with the flavor of feminine energy that most heals and rejuvenates
him;
5178. Don’t
confuse your energy needs with a commitment in love. Energy needs are relatively easy to
balance. You can probably get the energy
you need from a masseuse or a change in diet.
If you react drastically and decide to leave your wife for a woman whose
energy enlivens you more, you may be surprised when, in a few months, your
energy needs change again and you realize you have made a very superficial
choice;
5179. If a man
wants a woman who doesn’t want him, he cannot win. His neediness will undermine any possible
relationship and his woman will never be able to trust him. A man must determine whether a woman really
wants him, but is playing hard to get or whether she really doesn’t want
him. If she doesn’t want him, he should
immediately cease pursuing her and deal with his pain by himself;
5180. People
who change their behavior over the long run also change the beliefs that cause
their behavior. Put another way, it is
nearly impossible to make long-term changes to your behavior without also
changing the way you think!
5181. There are
two parts to changing your beliefs: the first part is addressing and dealing
with negative beliefs you might have accumulated that hold you back and the
second is creating new positive beliefs that motivate you towards success;
5182. Once you
have identified a limiting belief, think about it a bit. Is that belief rational? Is there a simple way to go about changing
it?
5183. Once you
have identified the limiting belief that is holding you back, the next step is
to work towards changing that belief.
Sometimes, it is enough for us to simply realize that our beliefs are
irrational or counterproductive, but often a deep-seated belief requires work
or mental exercise to eliminate;
5184. Now that
you have figured out what new beliefs you want to instill in yourself, the next
step is to try to drill these beliefs deep down into your brain. It’s not enough to just consciously think
these new thoughts, you need to practice them until they are part of your
natural way of looking at the world. Two
good ways to drill yourself into acquiring new beliefs: 1. Affirmations: Just as exercise shapes your
body, thinking or saying things over and over to yourself shape your habitual
thought patterns; and 2. Visualization:
Visualization is a very powerful way to change your deep behavior. When you visualize something, in great
detail, your subconscious tends to treat it as if it were a real experience;
5185. The
priority of the masculine core is mission, purpose or direction in life. The priority of the feminine core is the flow
of love in intimacy. If a woman feels
your feminine is stronger than hers, if she feels that the intimacy is more
important to you than to her, then she will naturally animate her masculine. She will want space, she will want freedom to
pursue her own direction and she will be repulsed by your clinginess;
5186. If it
turns out that she really doesn’t want to be with you as much as you want to be
with her then it is time to realize the relationship won’t work. In such a case, the poles have become
reversed, with your feminine desire for love meeting her masculine desire for
freedom. This is not viable grounds for
intimacy between a man with a masculine essence and a woman with a feminine
essence. It is better to move on and
work with your hurt than it is to continue demonstrating that your feminine
desire is stronger than hers;
5187. Sometimes
a woman will make a request of her man in plain English, not to get him to do
something, but to see if he is so weak that he will do it. She is testing his capacity to do what is
right, not what she is asking for. In
such cases, if the man does what his woman asks, she will be disappointed and
angry. The man will have no idea why she
is so angry or what could possibly please her.
He must remember that her trust is engendered not by him fulfilling her
requests, but by him magnifying love, consciousness and success in their lives,
in spite of her requests;
5188. Your
woman will ask you to do all kinds of things every day. Do not allow yourself to be swayed from your
truth from the direction of your heart.
Underneath your woman’s superficial request is her actual desire and
need: she wants your passionate fullness to pervade her, she wants to be able
to trust the unshakability of your loving and she wants to feel in her bones
that your divine masculine presence is stronger than your distractibility;
5189. The thing
your woman is complaining about is rarely the thing she is complaining
about. It is a mistake to believe the
content of what she is saying and then respond to her complaints, point by
point;
5190. When she
complains about financial issues, she is usually feeling a lack in your
masculine capacity to direct your life with clarity, purpose, integrity and
wisdom. The money itself is
secondary. If you were poor but totally
conscious, happy, full of integrity, fearless, humorous, loving and giving your
fullest gift to the world and to your woman, she wouldn’t complain about lack
of money;
5191. Your word
is a demonstration of your purpose of your masculine core. When you don’t follow through with what you
say you are going to do, she feels that your masculine core is weak. She feels let down. She can’t trust your masculine
direction. And so she feels a great
loss. Over time, she will begin to build
up her own masculine protection against your lack of integrity. She will begin to guard herself against the
hurt that your lack of carry-through causes.
She will harden herself, becoming angular and tense;
5192. One can
of soda a day increases a child’s risk of becoming obese by 60 percent;
5193. One can
of soda a day increases a woman’s risk of type 2 diabetes by 80 percent;
5194. Those
with the highest intake of sugar have a 275 percent increased risk of heart
attacks and those with the lowest intake have a 30 percent increased risk;
5195. Even if
you are skinny and drink sodas and never gain a pound, your risk of heart
disease still goes up dramatically;
5196. Saturated
fat is bad when eaten with carbohydrates, but when eaten alone, not so much;
5197. I can say
I’ve been to a rally with Black Widow (i.e., Scarlett Johansson) and Supergirl
(i.e., Melissa Benoist);
5198. I can
also say I’ve been to a rally with Dolores Abernathy (i.e., Evan Rachel Wood),
Halsey, Bella Thorne and Ashley Judd too;
5199. I can say
I’ve marched in D.C. (sort of . . . I didn’t walk the whole way);
5200.
Apparently, Madonna and Alicia Keys were at the rally too;
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