6451. One might
expect single people to be less risk-averse than their married counterparts,
but the opposite is true. Married
people, for example, are more willing to make risky financial investments than
single people. The outcomes of success
can also be seen in marriage studies with married men earning about twenty
percent more than unmarried men;
6452. 4 rules
for strategic givers: 1. Don’t break the
bank: The amount of money you spend doesn’t matter. It’s what you spend it on. Here are two words to guide your gifting:
practical luxuries. Most of your gift
recipients are (more than likely) extremely high-powered. They don’t need an $80.00 watch because they
could afford to purchase an $8000.00 watch.
So if you have $80.00 to spend, gift something useful that the recipient
might never buy for themselves. Make it
both practical and top-of-the-line.
Spend the $80.00 on a custom coffee mug.
Or on a pair of zebra wood headphones.
Or on an engraved cheese knife (i.e., American-made, guaranteed forever
and sold by college students). If your
recipient says, “I would never buy this for myself, but I absolutely love it!”
then you’re on the right track; 2. Use
the crucial ITY’s: A good gift shouldn’t live in isolation. It can’t live in isolation. Worthy recipients today are likely to be
worthy recipients tomorrow, so set yourself up for success. Not by putting your logo on everything, but
by adhering your gifting to the three crucial ITY’s: A) Visibil-ITY gifts are
things that’ll be seen by others. Conversation starters. Make your recipient look good and they will
love you forever; B) Continu-ITY gifts are those you can buy in a series. Today you send the leather belt, next month
the leather travel bag and so on; and C) Qual-ITY gifts are things that last
forever. Nothing says, “You don’t really
matter to me” like mediocre quality; 3.
Don’t be an ABC gifter: ABC
gifters limit their strategic giving to Anniversaries, Birthdays and
Christmas. Your goal is “surprise and
delight,” you should know that ABC gifting thoroughly eliminates the “surprise”
part of the equation. Better to change
your giving calendar to reflect those months, dates and days when your
recipient least expects it. “I was
having the worst Tuesday and then I got your package in the mail! Thank you!
Where did you find this thing?”
Shock and awe just isn’t the same without the shock; 4. Follow up without attachment: You should
follow-up and ask “How’d you like the gift?”
It doesn’t make you tactless. The
only way to become tactless is to make the follow-up about you. “How’d you like the gift? Great!
Hey, I was wondering if you could do me a favor;”
6453. In 2011,
as part of the Science of Generosity Initiative at the University of
Notre Dame, W. Bradford Wilcox headed up a survey of 1,630 married couples
designed to home in on a single factor in after-the-nuptials happiness: marital
generosity. In a 2013 article for the Journal
of Marriage and Family, Wilcox and coauthor Jeffrey Dew define this
generosity as “giving good things to [one’s spouse] freely and abundantly,”
including “regularly engaging in small acts of kindness, expressing affection,
expressing respect and forgiving one’s spouse;”
6454. One of
the worst feelings you can get is that feeling of stagnation. When your life stagnates, it starts to affect
other areas of your life. You might feel
uninspired, unmotivated, like you’re in a rut that you can’t get out of. You feel bored . . . bored of everything;
6455. (I can
say) I witnessed Alexander Ovechkin’s 602nd (regular-season) NHL
goal making him the 19th all-time NHL goal scorer (by surpassing
Jari Kurri on the all-time list);
6456. Morning
sex . . . check . . . snow day . . . (double) check;
6457. (Instant)
oatmeal (specifically maple & brown sugar) made with (black) coffee is
actually (pretty) good;
6458. Dining
room table . . . check . . . raw dog buggery . . . (double) check;
6459. Making
out in the car . . . check;
6460. (Getting)
a body trimmer is a worthwhile purchase;
6461. New
opportunities, new experiences are always found outside (of) your comfort zone;
6462. The key
to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad;
6463. This day,
I vow to myself to love myself, to treat myself as someone I love truly and
deeply, in my thoughts, my actions, the choices I make, the experiences I have,
each moment I am conscious, I make the decision I love myself;
6464. Darkness
is the absence of light. Any negative
thought is darkness. How do you remove
it? Do you fight fear or worry? Do you push or drown away sadness and
pain? Doesn’t work. Instead, imagine you’re in a dark room and
it’s bright outside. Your job is to go
to the window, pull out a rag and start cleaning. Soon enough, light enters naturally taking
the darkness away;
6465. If you
had a thought once, it has no power over you.
Repeat it again and again, especially with emotional intensity, feeling
it, and over time, you’re creating the grooves, the mental river. Then it controls you;
6466. The
chicken tender sub at Publix (Publix.com) is (pretty) tasty;
6467. Calming
meditation: 1. Put on music . . .
something soothing and gentle, preferably instrumental . . . a piece you have
positive associations with; 2. Sit with
your back against a wall or window.
Cross your legs or stretch them out, whatever feels natural; 3. Close your eyes. Smile slowly.
Imagine a beam of light pouring into your head from above; 4. Breathe in and say to yourself in your mind,
“I love myself.” Be gentle with
yourself; 5. Breathe out and along with
it anything that arises . . . anything thoughts, emotions, feelings, memories,
fears, hopes, desires or nothing.
Breathe it out. There is no
judgment or attachment to anything. Be
kind to yourself; 6. Repeat steps 4 and
5 until the music ends. When your attention
wanders, notice it and smile. Smile at
it as if it’s a child doing what a child does.
With that smile, return to your breath.
Repeat steps 4 and 5; and 7. When
the music ends, open your eyes slowly.
Smile. Do it from the inside
out. This is your time. This is purely yours;
6468. “I love
myself” mediation: 1. Set a timer for 5
minutes; 2. Stand in front of a mirror
with your nose a few inches away.
Relax. Breathe; 3. Look into your eyes. It helps if you focus on one . . . your left
eye. Relax. Breathe slowly and naturally until you
develop a rhythm; 4. Looking into your
left eye say, “I love myself.” Whether
you believe it that moment or not isn’t important. What’s important is saying it to yourself and
looking into your eyes where there is no escape from the truth. Ultimately, the truth is loving yourself; and
5. Repeat, “I love myself,” gently,
pausing occasionally to watch your eyes;
6469. If a
painful memory arises, don’t fight it or try to push it away. Struggle reinforces pain. Instead, go to love. Love for yourself. Feel it.
If you have to fake it, fine.
Feel the love for yourself as the memory ebbs and flows. That will take the power away;
6470. Fighting
fear doesn’t work. It just drags us in
closer. One has to focus on what is real
. . . on the truth. When in darkness,
don’t fight it. You can’t win. Just find the nearest switch and turn on the
light;
6471. James
Altucher talks about how he stops negative thoughts in their tracks with a
simple mind trick. “Not useful,” he
tells himself. It’s a switch, a breaker
of sorts, it shifts the pattern of the fear;
6472. When fear
arises, remember that it is a hallucinated snake, that it’s not useful or that
it’s not real. There are many more. As long as it works, it’s valid;
6473. The key
is, when in darkness, have a light switch you’ve chosen standing by;
6474. It’s easy
to wish for health when you’re sick.
When you’re doing well, you need just as much vigilance;
6475. If I
loved myself truly and deeply, what would I do?
The answer is: I’d fly . . . fly as high as I possibly can. Then, I’d fly higher;
6476. Often the
price for not being present is pain;
6477. Whenever
you notice fear in your mind, instead of pushing it aside or using it as fuel,
say to yourself, “It’s okay,” a gentle “yes” to yourself, to the moment and to
what the mind is feeling;
6478. Real
growth comes through intense, difficult and challenging situations;
6479. Fear
strengthens the ego. Love softens it;
6480. The women
you’ll see in the lobby of LIV (Nightclub) (LIVNightclub.com) in Miami is
ridiculous;
6481. What’s a
great place to meet women in Miami? The
answer is: The lobby of LIV (Nightclub);
6482.
Apparently, you should put your Molly under your “junk;”
6483. Putting
your Molly in the waistband of your boxers works too;
6484. Don’t
take the 3rd pill . . . just don’t;
6485. (The
feeling of) too much Molly reminds me of lucid dreaming;
6486. 100/150
mg and then 100/50 mg 3-4 hours later is (probably) about right (for most
people);
6487. (I can
say) I saw Swedish House Mafia play (at Ultra Music Festival) in Miami;
6488.
Apparently, Floyd Mayweather likes to go to LIV (Nightclub) in Miami;
6489. Ice cream
made with (liquid) nitrogen is very creamy;
6490. The 10 minute
rule: It’s really easy to put off tasks that seem daunting, but there’s
something that works. Promise yourself
you’ll put just 10 minutes into the task.
Once you get in the flow, you’ll pick your head up two hours later with
a large chunk done. Getting started is
the hardest part so don’t give yourself a choice;
6491. How do
you get 2,000 free (frequent flyer/airline) miles from American Airlines? The answer is: Have a kid throw up on you on
the plane. . . . It’ll also get you a free (alcoholic) drink and your dry
cleaning paid for;
6492. Babe Ruth
was born in Baltimore;
6493. Hospitals
are cheap(er) places to park in the Inner Harbor (in Baltimore);
6494. (I can
say) I’ve been to Opening Day at (Oriole Park at) Camden Yards;
6495.
Apparently, I smell “salty;”
6496. It seems
(that) the kid’s dog (i.e., $1.50) is a better value than a regular hot dog
(i.e., $5.00) at (Oriole Park at) Camden Yards. . . . You can buy three kid’s
dogs for less than the price of one regular hot dog;
6497. Going to
a strip club with a girl you’re seeing . . . check . . . bonus, (in that) it
was her idea;
6498. Something
you don’t see every day . . . (a woman with) a dog (i.e., Chihuahua) at a strip
club;
6499.
Apparently, Elizabeth is “falling” for me;
6500. If you
don’t want to be mistaken for a(n) Lyft/Uber (driver) in D.C., don’t drive a
gray (Toyota) Corolla;
have a great day
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