9101. Do your
best to spend at least as much energy expressing your positive feelings as you
do the negative ones;
9102. For any
change to happen in your life, you must be wrong about something;
9103. If you’re
sitting there, miserable day after day then that means you’re already wrong
about something major in your life and, until you’re able to question yourself
to find it, nothing will change;
9104. Many
people are able to ask themselves if they’re wrong, but few are able to go the
extra step and admit what it would mean if they were wrong;
9105. The
potential meaning behind our wrongness is often painful. Not only does it call into question our
values, but it forces us to consider what a different, contradictory value
could potentially look and feel like;
9106. Being
able to look at and evaluate different values without necessarily adopting them
is perhaps the central skill required in changing one’s own life in a
meaningful way;
9107. Would
being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current problem for both
myself and others?
9108. Beliefs
are arbitrary; worse yet, they’re often made up after the fact to justify
whatever values and metrics we’ve chosen for ourselves;
9109. If it’s
down to me being screwed up or everybody else being screwed up, it is far more
likely that I’m the one who’s screwed up;
9110. If it
feels like it’s you versus the world, chances are it’s really just you versus
yourself;
9111. Failure
is the way forward;
9112. Failure
itself is a relative concept;
9113. Making
money by itself is a lousy metric for yourself.
You could make plenty of money and be miserable just as you could be
broke and be pretty happy;
9114.
Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures and the
magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at
something;
9115. If
someone is better than you at something then it’s likely because s/he has
failed at it more than you have. If
someone is worse than you it’s likely because s/he hasn’t been through all of
the painful learning experiences you have;
9116. We can be
truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. If we’re unwilling to fail then we’re
unwilling to succeed;
9117. A lot of
this fear of failure comes from having chosen bad values;
9118. Bad
values involve intangible external goals outside of our control;
9119. Better values
are process-oriented;
9120. If your
metric for the value “success by worldly standards” is “buy a house and a nice
care” and, you spend 20 years working to achieve it, once it’s achieved the
metric has nothing left to give you;
9121. For many
of us, our proudest achievements come in the face of the greatest
adversity. Our pain often makes us
stronger, more resilient and more grounded;
9122. Fear,
anxiety and sadness are not necessarily always undesirable or unhelpful states
of mind; rather they are often representative of the necessity pain of
psychological growth. And to deny that
pain is to deny our own potential;
9123. Our most
radical changes in perspective often happen at the tail end of our worst
moments;
9124. It’s only
when we feel intense pain that we’re willing to look at our values and question
why they seem to be failing us;
9125. If you’re
stuck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on
it. Even if you don’t know what you’re
doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to
show up in your head;
9126. Action
isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it;
9127. Action ->
Inspiration -> Motivation;
9128. When the
standard of success becomes merely acting, when any result is regarded as
progress and important, when inspiration is seen as a reward rather than a
prerequisite, we propel ourselves ahead.
We feel free to fail and that failure moves us forward;
9129. Attitude
isn’t everything, but it is one thing that can make a tremendous difference in
your life;
9130. Your
attitude is the paintbrush of your mind;
9131. You
cannot disconnect attitude from reality and expect success;
9132. Your
attitude can’t substitute for competence.
Some people confuse confidence, which is a function of attitude, with
competence, which is a function of ability;
9133. Your
attitude can’t substitute for experience;
9134. Your
attitude cannot change the facts;
9135. If you
don’t like something, change it. If you
cannot change it, change your attitude.
Don’t complain;
9136. Your
attitude cannot substitute for personal growth;
9137. Your
attitude will not stay good automatically.
It’s easier to maintain an attitude than it is to regain an attitude;
9138. Attitude
alone isn’t going to cut it. That
doesn’t mean it isn’t really, really important;
9139. Attitude
is a key, powerful ingredient in the recipe for success, fulfillment and purpose;
9140. While
your attitude isn’t everything, it can do a whole lot for you; in many
situations, it’s the difference-maker;
9141. Your
attitude makes a difference in your approach to life;
9142. Your
attitude makes a difference in your relationships with people. It influences how we see others and it
determines whether we lift others up or deflate them. The right attitude allows us to learn from
each person we meet, every one of which who has something to teach us;
9143. Your
attitude makes a difference in how you face challenges;
9144. How do
you go about changing your attitude: 1.
Evaluate your present attitude.
Mindfulness and awareness are key to improving an attitude that
desperately needs changing; 2. Have a
desire to change. No choice will
determine the success of your attitude change more than desiring to change;
3. Change your attitude by changing your
thoughts. Attitudes are nothing more
than habits of thought; 4. Manage your
attitude daily. Maintaining the right
attitude is easier than regaining it. As
the great John Wooden said, “Things turn out the best for people who make the
best of the way things turn out;” and 5.
Take responsibility for your attitude, which is totally in your control.
You can’t control the weather, but you
can control the atmosphere of your mind;
9145. The only
way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in one’s life is through a
rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to
one place, one belief or one person;
9146. Travel is
a fantastic self-development tool because it extricates you from the values of
your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely
different values and still function and not hate themselves. This exposure to different cultural values
and metrics then forces you to reexamine what seems obvious in your own life
and to consider that perhaps it’s not necessarily the best way to live;
9147. We need
to reject something otherwise we stand for nothing. If nothing is better or more desirable than
anything else then we are empty and our lives are meaningless. We are without values and, therefore, live
our life without any purpose;
9148. The
avoidance of rejection (both giving and receiving it) is often sold to us as a
way to make ourselves feel better. But
avoiding rejection gives us short-term pleasure by making us rudderless and
directionless in the long term;
9149. In order
to get a(n) accurate/good reading, you should put more than just the tip of the
meat thermometer (probe) in (the meat);
9150. The act
of choosing a value for yourself requires rejecting alternative values;
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