3951. In order to effectively utilize tapping to
calm your state and regulate your emotions, you must first face whatever fear
or negative memory is triggering your amygdala.
Once you have your mental focus firmly fixed on this particularly scary
event, begin tapping two of the meridian points with your thumb and your index
finger between 4-6 times per second.
Continue the tapping motion for 5 to 10 minutes. As you tap, concentrate on accepting and
resolving the negative emotions surrounding this particular act or event. With focus and repetition, tapping enables
individuals to come to terms with and conquer irrational fear or anxiety
responses;
3952. Over the last few decades, an abundance of
research has been carried out to validate the dramatic effects of tapping. Studies conducted at Harvard Medical School
show unequivocally that the fear response initiated by the amygdala can indeed
be lessened by stimulating meridian points used in acupuncture and tapping;
3953. Another study undertaken by Dr. Dawson
Church, founder of the Institute for Integrative Healthcare and editor of Energy
Psychology, sought to determine how an hour-long tapping session would
impact the stress levels of 83 subjects.
Dr. Church and his team measured the subjects’ cortisol levels and found
an average reduction of approximately 24%.
For the test subjects, who did not undergo tapping therapy, there was no
significant reduction in cortisol;
3954. During the first 10 seconds of meeting a
woman, the average male will spend more than half of the time looking at her
lips;
3955. As you grow older your Christmas list gets
smaller because the things you really want can’t be bought;
3956. Listening will help you in almost every
aspect of your life. It will make you a
better leader, a better conversationalist, a better spouse, a better sales
executive and it will instantly make you more likeable and the most popular
person at a party;
3957. Three things go a long way in connecting with
people: 1. Mirror people’s words;
2. Ask questions; and 3. Stop looking around the room;
3958. Mirror people’s words: It sounds
counterintuitive because repeating other people’s words back to them makes it
seem as if you’re not paying attention to them, but people’s eyes light up when
you repeat their words back to them, as in: “This app is going to revolutionize
the way people order local chickens from the farm,” to which you would say,
“This is going to revolutionize the way people order local chickens from the
farm? How?” to which the person would
reply, “Yes! So glad you asked . . . .” .
. . You’ve made an instant friend;
3959.
Ask questions: How many conversations
have you been in where someone says something completely nonsensical and you
just let it pass because it’s actually more work to make them explain their
point than to let her/him talk on. Next
time, make a point to stop the conversation and ask about the point of
confusion. It will not only create a
more dynamic connection, it will also signal to the person that you’re actually
listening. Chances are, when you’re
stuck with someone who’s talking endlessly, even s/he knows you’re not
completely paying attention;
3960. Stop looking around the room: One of the
things about live television interviews is the intensity of it – two people are
literally staring at each other for five minutes straight talking, sometimes
tensely. The problem is, in real life,
nobody talks to each other that way.
Most of us are half engaged in our conversations, thinking about what we
want to eat, our dinner plans or the work on our desk. At cocktail parties, many of us find
ourselves looking over the shoulder of the person in front of us to see who’s
around. Stop looking around the room
physically or looking around the room in your brain. Five minutes spent fully engaging with one
person as if s/he is the only thing in the room at the moment is worth 10 times
more than 15 minutes half-heartedly tittering on about the dullest subjects;
3961. It seems to me that, when you’re in a
relationship, sex is a big deal before you have it, but after you do, it really
isn’t anymore;
3962. Done is better than perfect. Progress is better than perfection;
3963. Start every morning with three “E’s:” 1. Exercise; 2.
Education; and 3. Enlightenment;
3964. Are you going to let the universe affect you
or are you going to affect it?
3965. Are your beliefs serving you or are they
holding you back?
3966. Choose what you’re going to be. Choose who you are, accept that, live that,
embrace that instead of having (all of) these conditional beliefs that hold you
back;
3967. You can never have back the memories that you
don’t ever have. And if you miss out on
life, you may never get a second chance;
3968. Money is still important, but it’s only a
part of the equation. I want to know
what kind of experiences I can have and what kind of quality of life can come
about;
3969. There are five tracks of wealth in life. There’s financial. There’s “soul” purpose. There’s the mentality or mindset. There’s the physical well-being. And then there’s the social aspect, which are
the relationships and the people that you want to spend time with. The best way to have those five areas work
for you is to always share and show gratitude for them. If you can appreciate and acknowledge
gratitude in those areas, if you look at every circumstance or incident as
something to teach you a lesson of either what to do or what not to do, and, if
you look at every person in your life as someone who’s going to be an example
of what to do or what not to do, it takes away becoming a victim of
circumstances, where you can instead say, “That’s a good lesson to learn. I’m going to move forward;”
3970. You don’t always have a choice of what the
circumstances are or what happens, but you do have a choice of what you do
about it;
3971. We have thoughts that come into our
mind. We don’t control every thought
that comes in, but we control which thoughts we give attention to and what
we’re going to do about those thoughts;
3972. Get absolute clarity about what it is that
you find most important in life and what makes you feel important and that
becomes your scorecard to work towards;
3973. Over 83% of people don’t know both (of) their
great-grandparents’ names;
3974. If you say “yes” to everybody, then you don’t
say “yes” to yourself;
3975. If everybody is “special,” then nobody is;
3976. Enslavement by illusion is comfortable; it is
the liberation by truth that people fear;
3977. When we say, “It sounds too good to be true,”
what we really mean is that we don’t know how to do it, so we are skeptical;
3978. There are risks and costs to a program of
action. But they are far less than the
long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction;
3979. Try not to become a man of success, but
rather try to become a man of value;
3980. People, not material things, have intrinsic
value and people make individual, personal determinations of the value of
material things;
3981. The principle that exchange creates
individual and community wealth implies that by continuously exchanging goods
and services we can create infinite value from those goods and services. Even if resources are finite, scarce resources
plus human ingenuity, individual ideas of value and continual exchange can
create infinite productivity from the available resources;
3982. The quality of our lives is not determined by
the quantity of our stuff;
3983. If a home has intrinsic, or inherent, value,
how could its market value change?
3984. None of us value material things
equally. This means that resources are
infinite according to our individual perceptions of value. There’s no productive reason to hoard
material things because we all have different desires;
3985. We only give up something in an exchange when
we value what we’re receiving more than we value what we’re giving up. We never trade like value for like value,
because we have no incentive to do so.
We trade what we have for what we actually want more;
3986. Exchange can only occur in an atmosphere of
disagreement. In a free market, the
final sale price of any object is always an amount that the seller and the
buyer both disagree that the object is worth;
3987. What you leave behind is not what is engraved
in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others;
3988. If we want to have more, then we should start
by being better people; in order to be better, we start doing better things,
which leads to having more of what we want.
When we become who we were born to be every resource imaginable becomes
available to fulfill our mission;
3989. If we want to prosper, we must learn that
happiness does not come from material things.
We must become aware that happiness comes from inside ourselves; nothing
external can dictate our lasting happiness;
3990. Taking responsibility for and shaping our
beliefs and habits is the first step toward happiness and prosperity. The irony is that the healthier our beliefs
are, the more material and spiritual prosperity we will experience;
3991. All external changes in the forms of life,
not having a change of consciousness at their base, do not improve the
condition of the people, but generally make it worse. A better life can only come when the
consciousness of men is altered for the better; and therefore all the efforts
of those who wish to improve life should be directed to changing their own and
other people’s consciousness;
3992. When individuals bring unique skills and
talents to a combined project, the total value of that project increases at a
greater rate than the individual value each of those people contributed. Through the synergy created by sharing and
exchanging our full human potential, everyone benefits and becomes far
wealthier than if they were to hoard their talents and energy to themselves;
3993. The abundance paradigm helps us to see the
possibility of and the value in win-win exchanges and transactions. People who are operating in abundance know
that by serving the wants and needs of others, and thus creating happiness in
the lives of others, they actually bring more happiness to themselves. The goal is to serve others, not to exploit
or dominate them. They are able to serve
wholeheartedly and completely because they know that by so doing, they aren’t
in any way diminishing their own happiness; in fact, they are generating more
happiness and success in their own lives;
3994. Men do not attract that which they want, but
that which they are;
3995. A Gallup survey showed that 75 percent of workers
want to retire before age sixty, yet only 25 percent actually think that they
will;
3996. According to a study conducted by the U.S.
Department of Commerce, only 5 percent of all Americans are financially
independent at age sixty-five. This
study further indicated that 75 percent of all retirees are forced to depend on
family, friends and Social Security as their only sources of income;
3997. Fifty-one percent of retirees today have
incomes below $10,000.00 per year;
3998. Apparently, spammers take vacations too. I seem to be getting more spam since the
(beginning of the) New Year;
3999. People are often unreasonable and
self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of
ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be
jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten
tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may
never be enough. Give your best anyway;
for you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway;
4000. Life is a journey not a destination. We determine our destiny by the direction we
take;
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