Monday, October 25, 2021

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0201

10001.  Apparently, you shouldn’t have a big steak dinner (specifically at Voltaggio Brothers Steak House in MGM National Harbor) before playing a concert;
10002.  Apparently, Tom DeLonge likes (red) wine;
10003.  “Blink-182” wouldn’t exist if Tom DeLonge hadn’t been expelled from (Poway) High School;
10004.  I can say I heard “Angels & Airwaves” play “Losing My Mind” (live) for the second time ever;
10005.  Ilan Rubin, the drummer for “Angels & Airwaves” is also the drummer for “Nine Inch Nails;”
10006.  If you have a craving for kettle corn, buy yourself a bag of O Organics “Sweet & Salty Organic Kettle Corn” from Safeway;
10007.  Set aside some time to talk and to think about the illness or other crisis and how it should be managed every day.  Do not talk or think about it otherwise.  If you do not limit its effect, you will become exhausted and everything will spiral into the ground;
10008.  When worries associated with the crisis arise at other times, remind yourself that you will think them through during the scheduled period;
10009.  The parts of your brain that generate anxiety are more interested in the fact that there is a plan than in the details of the plan;
10010.  Don’t schedule your time to think in the evening or at night.  You won’t be able to sleep.  If you can’t sleep then everything will go rapidly downhill;
10011.  Aim high like Pinocchio’s Geppetto.  Wish upon a star and then act properly in accordance with that aim.  Once you are aligned with the heavens, you can concentrate on the day.  Be careful.  Put the things you can control in order.  Repair what is in disorder and make what is already good better.  It is possible that you can manage if you are careful;
10012.  People can survive through much pain and loss.  But to persevere they must see the good in being.   If they lose that they are truly lost;
10013.  Every day, the prayers of desperate people go unanswered.  But maybe this is because the questions they contain are not reasonable to ask god to break the rules of physics every time we fall by the wayside or make a serious error.  Perhaps in such times you can’t put the cart before the horse and simply wish for your problem to be solved in some magical manner.  Perhaps you could ask, instead, what you might have to do right now to increase your resolve, buttress your character and find the strength to go on.  Perhaps you could instead ask to see the truth;
10014.  What had we each done to contribute to the situation we were arguing about?  How was I wrong?  The problem with asking yourself such a question is that you must truly want the answer.  And the problem with doing that is that you won’t like the answer.  When you are arguing with someone, you want to be right and you want the other person to be wrong.  Then it’s her/him that has to sacrifice something and change not you and that’s much preferable.  If it’s you that’s wrong and you that must change then you have to reconsider yourself – your memories of the past, your manner of being in the present and your plans for the future.  Then you must resolve to improve and figure out how to do that.  Then you actually have to do it.  That’s exhausting.  It takes repeated practice to instantiate the new perceptions and make the new actions habitual.  It’s much easier just not to realize, admit and engage.  It’s much easier to turn your attention away from the truth and remain willfully blind;
10015.  You must decide whether you want to be right or you want to have peace;
10016.  You must decide whether to insist upon the absolute correctness of your view or to listen and negotiate;
10017.  You don’t get peace by being right.  You just get to be right while your partner gets to be wrong – defeated and wrong;
10018.  More than 50% of the surface of the brain is devoted to processing visual information.  Closing our eyes frees up the energy associated with that 50% and allowing our brains much needed recovery.  We can tap into the unconscious processes that help us connect with our innovative ideas and solve problems more efficiently simply by decreasing visual input;
10019.  The adult brain, a mere 2% of body weight, is responsible for around 20% of oxygen consumption;
10020.  An Atkins “caramel chocolate nut roll bar” tastes like a “Baby Ruth”( candy bar);
10021.  To seek peace, you have to decide that you want the answer more than you want to be right.  That’s the way out of the prison of your stubborn preconceptions;
10022.  Perhaps true prayer is the question, “What have I done wrong and what can I do now to set things at least a little bit more right?”
10023.  There is no enlightened one.  There is only the one who is seeking further enlightenment;
10024.  Proper being is process not a state; a journey not a destination.  It’s the continual transformation of what you know through encounter with what you don’t know rather than the desperate clinging to the certainty that is eternally insufficient in any case;
10025.  Always place your becoming above your current being;
10026.  Remember those who have nothing and strive to be grateful;
10027.  You may be blocked in your progress not because you lack opportunity, but because you have been too arrogant to make full use of what already lies in front of you;
10028.  He who has many material things may be described as rich, but he who knows he has enough and is at one with the Tao might have enough of material things and have self-being as well;
10029.  To give is to do what you can to make things better;
10030.  If we put ourselves in order perhaps we will do the same for the world;
10031.  Strength in the face of adversity is very different from the wish for a life free of trouble;
10032.  When everything has become chaotic and uncertain, all that remains to guide you might be the character you constructed previously by aiming up and concentrating on the moment at hand.  If you have failed in that you will fail in the moment of crisis and then god help you;
10033.  The best way to fix the world is to fix yourself;
10034.  Failure to make the proper sacrifices, failure to reveal yourself, failure to live and tell the truth – all that weakens you;
10035.  The terrible suffering of unfortunate souls becomes attributable, by their own judgment, to mistakes they made knowingly in the past: act of betrayal, deception, cruelty, carelessness, cowardice and, most commonly of all, willful blindness;
10036.  To suffer terribly and to know yourself as the cause: that is hell.  And once in hell it is very easy to curse being itself;
10037.  Lay’s “Magic Masala” chips are tasty;
10038.  There are a lot of burger places in Toronto;
10039.  Chip bags in Canada seem to use less packaging;
10040.  There are black squirrels in Toronto;
10041.  Billy Bishop (Toronto City) Airport is right next/within walking distance to CN Tower;
10042.  Dr. Clive Hamilton, a visiting scholar at Cambridge University, set out to study the “suffering rich” and found that 4 of every 10 people earning $80,000.00 at the time felt “deprived;”
10043.  Another recent survey in the United States found that 45% of those with a net worth (excluding their home) over $1 million were worried about running out of money before they died.  Over one third of those with more than $5 million had the same concern;
10044.  He is richest who is content with least for contentment is the wealth of nature;
10045.  When communities grow beyond the point where every individual has at least a passing acquaintance with everyone else, our behavior changes, our choices shift and our sense of the possible and of the acceptable grows ever more abstract;
10046.  Community ownership doesn’t work in large-scale societies where people operate in anonymity;
10047.  The size of human societies and cultures matters because larger societies will naturally have more concentrated social power.  Larger societies will be less democratic than smaller societies and they will have an unequal distribution of risks and rewards;
10048.  Human nature functions one way in the context of intimate, interdependent societies, but, set loose in anonymity, we become a different creature.  Neither beast is more nor less human;
10049.  Apparently, Norfolk(, Virginia,) had a techno scene . . . until all of the illegal Europeans were deported;
10050.  Apparently, Dan Deacon (the deejay) hangs out at “The Auld Shebeen( Irish Pub & Restaurant)” in (Old Town) Fairfax on Wednesday nights for “Transit Party;”

Monday, October 4, 2021

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0200

9951.  According to Jack Antonoff, the concert at The Anthem (in D.C.) on (Friday,) September 24, 2021 is the largest “Bleacher’s” concert ever played or scheduled;
9952.  “Rollercoaster” was the first song Jack Antonoff wrote for “Bleachers;”
9953.  There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so;
9954.  Relationships require more than just love. . . . It takes time, patience, loyalty, respect, communication, forgiveness and selflessness. . . . Maintaining a healthy relationship isn’t easy.  It takes hard work. . . . To receive you must give, mutually, equally and not more than the other and vice versa. . . . Relationships are important.  You need them to grow.  You need these special, rare and beautiful interactions with people. . . . Love is so very important, but it also takes so much more than you think;
9955.  A regular-sized hip flask holds 8 ounces so a little over 5 shots;
9956.  Charlie (Dog) likes carrots;
9957.  Don’t doubt your worth just because someone couldn’t see it;
9958.  The habits that you develop now will determine the way you’ll feel about yourself in the future;
9959.  Don’t force yourself to be happy or productive every day;
9960.  You’re doing your best with what you’re given.  Go easy on yourself;
9961.  Move on and don’t let memories of past mistakes weigh you down for the rest of your life;
9962.  Don’t wait to feel grateful and happy for your life;
9963.  Apparently, fundraisers love/target donors who give annually (over many years) across multiple areas/categories;
9964.  Ultimately, it’s you who has to live with the consequences not them.  Choose what’s right for you;
9965.  If you’re thinking about an ex, you’re usually not (actually) missing her/him, but you’re missing something you got from her/him (e.g., comfort, love, closeness, etc.);
9966.  Other people’s reactions to you are usually not about you, it’s about what’s going on inside of them.  If someone blows up on you, that’s more about the triggering going on inside of them and it really has nothing to do with you;
9967.  Even successful people feel lost, sad and lonely at times.  These are normal emotions that everyone feels no matter how good your life is . . . and it’s okay and normal to feel this way;
9968.  Be gentler on yourself. . . . Pushing yourself to always be perfect and to live up to unrealistic standards is not a fun way to go through life.  Having a little more compassion for your inner child and allowing yourself to make mistakes can do wonders for you;
9969.  Bad things and good things can happen simultaneously in your life.  Choose which one you want to focus on more;
9970.  Agreeable, compassionate, empathic, conflict-averse people (all those traits group together) let people walk on them and they get bitter.  They sacrifice themselves for others, sometimes excessively, and cannot comprehend why that is not reciprocated;
9971.  Agreeable people are compliant and this robs them of their independence;
9972.  Agreeable people will go along with whoever makes a suggestion instead of insisting, at least sometimes, on their own way.  So they lose their way and become indecisive and too easily swayed;
9973.  The Oedipal mother makes a pact with herself, her children and the devil himself.  The deal is: “Above all never leave me.  In return, I will do everything for you.  As you age without maturing you will become worthless and bitter, but you will never have to take any responsibility and everything you do that’s wrong will always be someone else’s fault;”
9974.  Your pain and your struggles are real, but you don’t have to succumb to them;
9975.  You can find life rich and valuable without following society’s definition of success;
9976.  If they’re healthy, women don’t want boys.  They want men.  They want someone to contend with; someone to grapple with.  If they’re tough, they want someone tougher.  If they’re smart, they want someone smarter.  They desire someone who brings to the table something they can’t already provide;
9977.  It’s hard for tough, smart and attractive women to find mates.  There just aren’t that many men around who can outclass them enough to be considered desirable (who are higher, as one research publication put it, in “income, education, self-confidence, intelligence, dominance as social position”);
9978.  Apparently, (some) congressman (specifically Doug Lamborn) have a(n official) scheduler (specifically Meghan Selip);
9979.  (To me,) NEEDTOBREATHE’s music is (very) hopeful/joyful;
9980.  What can be truly loved about a person is inseparable from their limitations;
9981.  Being of any reasonable sort appears to require limitations;
9982.  Being requires becoming as well as mere static existence and to become is to become something more or at least something different.  That is only possible for something limited;
9983.  What is an exercise in futility?  The answer is: Trying to please everyone;
9984.  Don’t let negativity be the only available response to things you are experiencing;
9985.  Failure is more common than success.  It isn’t personal though we still manage to take it that way.  (The first step is to) stop taking failure personally;
9986.  You should actively anticipate failure and prepare for it, so that when it (might) come, you’re ready.  This is not to say you should be negative-minded;
9987.  Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts;
9988.  The way your parents spoke to you, treated you or dealt with their own emotions is a reflection of their own childhood trauma not a reflection of who you are;
9989.  Awakening or becoming conscious will bring up lots of pain and unresolved trauma.  As you heal, you’ll realize that you are a powerful alchemist able to turn your pain into wisdom;
9990.  The desire to produce suffering for the sake of suffering is the very essence of evil;
9991.  When existence reveals itself as existentially intolerable, thinking collapses in on itself.  In such situations, in the depths, it’s noticing (i.e., feeling) not thinking that does the trick;
9992.  You shouldn’t stop trying to make life better or let suffering just be, but there appear to be limits on the path to improvement beyond which we might not want to go lest we sacrifice our humanity itself;
9993.  Apparently, I issued Google’s MapReduce patent;
9994.  The fat from grass-fed beef (does) taste(s) different than (the) fat from corn-fed beef;
9995.  Grass-fed beef does taste gamier than corn-fed beef;
9996.  Apparently, you don’t need to cook grass-fed beef as long as corn-fed beef (because of the lower fat content);
9997.  I just realized that Arlington National Cemetery is right next to the Pentagon( and only separated by George Washington Memorial Highway);
9998.  I can say that I saw “1990nowhere” on their first tour;
9999.  Opening for “Angels & Airwaves’” “Lifeforms Tour 2021” is the first time “Bad Sun” has played live/toured in 2 years;
10000.  Tom DeLonge (the lead singer and guitarist for “Angels & Airwaves” and formerly of “Blink-182”) likes cheese;