Monday, December 19, 2022

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0216

10751.  Misery lies between your expectations and reality.  Close the gap;
10752.  The universe is very giving.  Nobody has tried 100% and never got what they wanted;
10753.  Jealousy can either be demotivating or used to beat them;
10754.  Motivation is not a real thing; discipline is;
10755.  The result of everything that happens to you either good or bad is completely and utterly your fault;
10756.  If you allow life to happen to you and you’re not going to happen life, you’re at the mercy of the wind;
10757.  Don’t make excuses.  Don’t play the victim  .You’ll end up stagnating and going around in circles;
10758.  People complain for sympathy and dopamine;
10759.  Nothing happens by accident.  Calculate, plan and reflect;
10760.  It’s very easy to become a professional at big things when you’ve mastered being a professional at small things (e.g., never be late, wake up on time, replay to calls/e-mails punctually, etc.);
10761.  Women, who mean the most truly protect my spirit, love, care and use intuition to truly want the best for me;
10762.  Respect your elders.  Confront adversity with respect.  Phrase questions or challenge ideas in a thoughtful and respectful way;
10763.  The way you perceive stress or any stimulus will affect the outcome.  Negativity breeds negativity; positivity breeds positivity.  Outlook is key;
10764.  Get off the internet, interact and put yourself in difficult scenarios;
10765.  To the older population, we are the weirdos; understand the variety of different upbringings in different eras.  Don’t be so narrowminded and arrogant;
10766.  Status signaling has been around from the dawn of time; peacocks have feathers for a reason;
10767.  Money, status and power are driven by the innate ability to (want to) find the best partner;
10768.  Men also want the respect from/of other men;
10769.  Discomfort and trauma, channeled in the right way, can birth amazing things;
10770.  The most monumental things achieved in life have been on the backs of being pissed off or sad;
10771.  For average guys, social media can be a very negative experience.  Do you use that negative experience as motivation or sulk and victim blame?
10772.  Wherever you’re at in your life, how can you add to your quality of life by subtraction?
10773.  Anger is just an emotion that covers up hurt.  Hurt is just an emotion that covers up fear.  Fear is just an emotion that covers up insecurities;
10774.  When you are angry, don’t feed into it.  Stop, pause and ask yourself what is hurting me?
10775.  Nolan Ryan never won a Cy Young( Award for best pitcher in Major League Baseball);
10776.  Gordie Howe only had 2 Gordie Howe hat tricks (i.e., a goal, an assist and a fight) in his (very long) career;
10777.  Freedom of expression does not equal the absence of consequence;
10778.  Skrewball whiskey does tastes like a peanut butter cup;
10779.  According to a real estate agent friend( of mine), a little known rule about multiunit housing with a FHA loan is that the units you aren’t living in need to cash flow the entire property;
10780.  Laura Benanti’s mom(, Linda,) is a vocal coach. . . . She lives in McLean(, Virginia);
10781.  The motions of a symphony are called “movements” because the music should “move” you;
10782.  Liz Phair had an affair (with her manager) towards the end of her marriage;
10783.  Charlie (Dog) likes pumpkin;
10784.  The bottom 80% of men are fighting over the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are fighting over the top 20% of men on Tinder/dating app(lication)s;
10785.  The male is likely to “like” the female 6.2 times more often than the female “likes” the male on Tinder/dating app(lication)s;
10786.  The United States currently has one of the higher Gini coefficients (i.e., most income inequality) of all of the world’s biggest economies at a value of 0.41.  The Tinder Gini coefficient is even higher at 0.58.  This may not seem like a big difference, but it is actually huge.  The United States Gini coefficient is higher than 62% of the world’s countries.  The Tinder economy has a higher Gini coefficient than 95.1% of the countries in the world.  The only countries that have a higher Gini coefficient than Tinder are Angola, Haiti, Botswana, Namibia, Comoros, South Africa, Equatorial Guinea and Seychelles;
10787.  A man of average attractiveness can only expect to be “liked” on Tinder/dating app(lication)s by slightly less than 1% of females (i.e., 0.87%).  This equates to 1 “like” for every 115 females;
10788.  You can be above average attractiveness and still only get liked by a few percent of women on Tinder/dating app(lication)s;
10789.  If you aren’t in the very upper echelons of Tinder wealth (i.e., attractiveness), you aren’t likely to have much success using Tinder/dating app(lication)s;
10790.  At the root of emotional immaturity is the lack of ability to regulate our emotions or to sit in emotional discomfort;
10791.  We skip from big moment to big moment and that’s the story we tell ourselves about our lives, but most of what we do is small, private and individually witnessed and experienced;
10792.  We might deepen our healing if we stop chronically dissecting our partner’s avoidance, narcissism or emotional availability and begin asking ourselves why we pursue people who cannot care for us in the ways that we need;
10793.  No one is coming to save you;
10794.  Personal accountability is the path to freedom;
10795.  Creating a different life means creating new habits;
10796.  Not everyone will want the best for you and that’s okay;
10797.  Old Ebbitt Grill is (Washington) D.C.’s oldest (bar and) restaurant;
10798.  (Remember to )check when the quarter ends;
10799.  Being negative only makes the journey more difficult. . . . You may be given a cactus, but you don’t have to sit on it;
10800.  My dad is a hypochondriac;