Sunday, January 24, 2016

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

4001.  The only way to improve is to try, but we’re taught to fear rejection more than we desire to succeed;
4002.  When you choose failure, you’re guaranteed to get it.  But when you choose to take action, you’re guaranteed a chance at success.  Isn’t having a chance at achieving your goals better than a guarantee that you won’t?  So stop choosing failure.  Instead, choose a chance at success;
4003.  The moment you stop, the moment you hesitate, the moment you let up and decide to just do it tomorrow, you’ve lost.  At that point, you’ve chosen failure;
4004.  Being a hard worker is important, but working hard alone will never make you wealthy;
4005.  In order to succeed, you have to be willing to fail many times;
4006.  People are very good at misleading themselves and others around them by claiming to be preparing for an opportunity.  In their minds, they are getting ready.  Unfortunately, what they are really doing is procrastinating because they are scared of what could happen if they fail.  As a result, the opportunity that presented itself usually goes away;
4007.  Self-doubt, fear and worry are the greatest obstacles to success;
4008.  Watch out for the Dermalactives saleswomen at the Fashion Centre at Pentagon City.  They’re (really) good. . . . You’ll end up buying stuff you didn’t want;
4009.  Fear is the mind-killer;
4010.  Net worth is only potential value.  It is worthless until realized, just as a person’s potential is worthless until it is realized through serving and creating value for others;
4011.  The way to bridge the gap between the potential of net worth and the productivity of cash flow is through creating value – finding ways to meet the perceived needs and wants of other people;
4012.  The myth that prosperity can be reduced to and quantified by math destroys our human life value because it is focused on the effect, rather than the cause of prosperity.  It causes people to work for money and to pursue a number on their bank balance or a calculation of net worth instead of creating value, and it leads us to make unwise decisions regarding money;
4013.  In a world of cause and effect, money is an effect while creating value for people is the cause;
4014.  Numbers on paper can’t help you understand the opportunity costs of the financial and life decisions you make;
4015.  Opportunity costs are the paths not taken, the opportunities we lose when we choose a particular course of action – what our money could have been or the experiences we could have had or the jobs we might hold had we made different choices.  When we place too much value on the numbers on our balance sheets and in our retirement accounts, we run the risk of staying in miserable and limiting situations because the numbers dangle in front of us like the proverbial carrot.  We make decisions based on how much money we can make, rather than focusing on how much value we can create for others and for ourselves.  Can you quantify the burnout that eventually hits people doing things that make them miserable, even if they make good money?  Furthermore, can you quantify the lost production that comes from people working for money instead of working to create value?
4016.  A number on a balance sheet that says $1 million is nothing but a quantity and it says nothing about the quality of life of the individual millionaire;
4017.  If our sense of happiness is based primarily on our amount of money, it is an illusory and transitory happiness at best;
4018.  Quality and quantity are fundamentally different from each other and one cannot be substituted for the other.  If we can learn to focus more on quality and less on quantity, we will be more able to utilize and maximize the productivity of any amount of money that flows to us;
4019.  Nobody wants money; they want what money can buy;
4020.  Everyone wants to be happy and it’s that desire for happiness that drives all human behavior.  Many people seem to think that happiness is a function of the amount of money that we have.  But it’s self-evident that money cannot bring us happiness.  It can certainly facilitate the purchase of items that contribute to our joy in life, but money in and of itself has no intrinsic value;
4021.  Prosperity means to be truly happy and to be free of worries and stress about money;
4022.  One of the most destructive lies that we can fall prey to is thinking that having more money will change us.  Many people fear wealth because they think it will change them for the worse and still others invite wealth because they think that it will make them happy.  The amount of currency available to you does nothing, but make you more of what you already are.  If you are naturally generous, increased wealth will simply give you greater opportunity to be generous.  If you are greedy, wealth will do nothing but manifest your greed even more clearly;
4023.  A bank balance does not have the power to change people; only people can change their understanding of and relationship with their bank balance.  If you’re not happy without money, you’ll never be happy with it.  Money is important and useful, but if you think that money will fix your problems, that thought is the problem;
4024.  Nobody is responsible for you, but you.  You are the one with the responsibility and the power to change anything about your life that you don’t like;
4025.  Great wealth can come to you only as a result of doing things you don’t want to do;
4026.  Successful people share five characteristics: 1.  They are persistent; 2.  They are patient; 3.  They are willing to handle both the “nobler and the pettier” aspects of their job; 4.  They have an increasingly noncompetitive attitude towards the people with whom they work with; and 5.  Their investment activities – aside from their main careers – consumed a minimum of their time and attention;
4027.  Investing in yourself, what you do and with whom you do it are the most important determining factors of wealth;
4028.  Security is mostly a superstition.  It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it.  Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.  Life is either a daring adventure or nothing;
4029.  People are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they, therefore, remain bound;
4030.  What we know and do not act on cannot help us;
4031.  Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts;
4032.  Consumers focus on what they get instead of what they can give, they avoid responsibility, they depend on others for their happiness and they rarely create real value.  Consumers operate in scarcity, so they view the world through eyes that see poverty and limitations.  They think there isn't enough to go around, so they should get what they can before it all runs out.  They take and leave nothing in place of what they take.  They often feel victimized by other people and external circumstances when they don't get what they think they should.  They believe that material things, not people, have intrinsic value.  Because they feel entitled to everything that is given to them, they are poor stewards and allow their human life value to degenerate;
4033.  Producers know that people, not material things, have intrinsic value.  They love people and use material things to serve others.  They operate in abundance and they view the world through eyes that see limitless possibilities for value creation.  They are wise stewards over everything that they have been blessed with;
4034.  People quickly answer two questions when they first meet you: Can I trust this person?  Can I respect this person?  Psychologists refer to these dimensions as warmth and competence respectively, and ideally you want to be perceived as having both;
4035.  Most people, especially in a professional context, believe that competence is the more important factor.  After all, they want to prove that they are smart and talented enough to handle your business.  But in fact warmth or trustworthiness is the most important factor in how people evaluate you;
4036.  While competence is highly valued, it is evaluated only after trust is established;
4037.  If someone you’re trying to influence doesn’t trust you, you’re not going to get very far; in fact, you might even elicit suspicion because you come across as manipulative;
4038.  A warm, trustworthy person, who is also strong, elicits admiration, but only after you’ve established trust does your strength become a gift rather than a threat;
4039.  When you’re in a parking garage, you’re trying to turn and there’s another car blocking your way, back up and let the other car pass. . . . Your paintjob (and insurance company) will thank you;
4040.  The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances – to choose one’s own way;
4041.  Victimhood is a choice, not an event;
4042.  Ideas are potential value, not value in themselves.  If you don’t follow through on a good idea, it won’t improve anyone’s life, not even your own;
4043.  Money does not have to control our lives.  Unfortunately, we often let it.  We do this by believing that it has power, that it holds intrinsic value (either good or bad) and that it represents solutions to problems;
4044.  What our money does is reflect who we are.  If we use our money to serve people, that’s a good thing.  If we use it to buy cocaine, that’s a bad thing.  The truth is that it’s not the money that matters; it’s the context in which it is used;
4045.  Apparently, auto body shops get a lot of business the day after (heavy) snow or rain;
4046.  The only time we are in debt, in the true accounting sense, is when our liabilities are greater than our assets, those things that provide income or potential cash flow in our lives.  We do want to avoid true debt (i.e., having more liabilities than assets), but we don’t want to avoid incurring liabilities (i.e., owing something to someone else) that can be beneficial to our productivity, value creation and prosperity.  In fact, in many instances, the way to increase our prosperity and wealth is to increase – not decrease – our liabilities;
4047.  The name of the game of wealth is not to focus on ridding our lives of as many liabilities as possible.  Rather, it’s to identify which liabilities are consumptive (i.e., take more value from our lives than they put into it) and which are productive (i.e., provide more value to our lives than they take from it) and then focus on increasing our productive liabilities;
4048.  Correctly understood, debt is bad, but liabilities are essential to building wealth;
4049.  Any time we concentrate on fear and scarcity we are, by default, limiting our potential;
4050.  If it’s right that you attract people who are like yourself, it makes sense why a relationship or a marriage ends when one person changes and the other doesn’t;

Monday, January 11, 2016

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

3951.  It seems to me that, when you’re in a relationship, sex is a big deal before you have it, but after you do, it really isn’t anymore;
3952.  Done is better than perfect.  Progress is better than perfection;
3953.  Start every morning with three “E’s:” 1.  Exercise; 2.  Education; and 3. Enlightenment;
3954.  Are you going to let the universe affect you or are you going to affect it?
3955.  Are your beliefs serving you or are they holding you back?
3956.  Choose what you’re going to be.  Choose who you are, accept that, live that, embrace that instead of having (all of) these conditional beliefs that hold you back;
3957.  You can never have back the memories that you don’t ever have.  And if you miss out on life, you may never get a second chance;
3958.  Money is still important, but it’s only a part of the equation.  I want to know what kind of experiences I can have and what kind of quality of life can come about;
3959.  There are five tracks of wealth in life.  There’s financial.  There’s “soul” purpose.  There’s the mentality or mindset.  There’s the physical well-being.  And then there’s the social aspect, which are the relationships and the people that you want to spend time with.  The best way to have those five areas work for you is to always share and show gratitude for them.  If you can appreciate and acknowledge gratitude in those areas, if you look at every circumstance or incident as something to teach you a lesson of either what to do or what not to do, and, if you look at every person in your life as someone who’s going to be an example of what to do or what not to do, it takes away becoming a victim of circumstances, where you can instead say, “That’s a good lesson to learn.  I’m going to move forward;”
3960.  You don’t always have a choice of what the circumstances are or what happens, but you do have a choice of what you do about it;
3961.  We have thoughts that come into our mind.  We don’t control every thought that comes in, but we control which thoughts we give attention to and what we’re going to do about those thoughts;
3962.  Get absolute clarity about what it is that you find most important in life and what makes you feel important and that becomes your scorecard to work towards;
3963.  Over 83% of people don’t know both (of) their great-grandparents’ names;
3964.  If you say “yes” to everybody, then you don’t say “yes” to yourself;
3965.  If everybody is “special,” then nobody is;
3966.  Enslavement by illusion is comfortable; it is the liberation by truth that people fear;
3967.  When we say, “It sounds too good to be true,” what we really mean is that we don’t know how to do it, so we are skeptical;
3968.  There are risks and costs to a program of action.  But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction;
3969.  Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value;
3970.  People, not material things, have intrinsic value and people make individual, personal determinations of the value of material things;
3971.  The principle that exchange creates individual and community wealth implies that by continuously exchanging goods and services we can create infinite value from those goods and services.  Even if resources are finite, scarce resources plus human ingenuity, individual ideas of value and continual exchange can create infinite productivity from the available resources;
3972.  The quality of our lives is not determined by the quantity of our stuff;
3973.  If a home has intrinsic, or inherent, value, how could its market value change?
3974.  None of us value material things equally.  This means that resources are infinite according to our individual perceptions of value.  There’s no productive reason to hoard material things because we all have different desires;
3975.  We only give up something in an exchange when we value what we’re receiving more than we value what we’re giving up.  We never trade like value for like value, because we have no incentive to do so.  We trade what we have for what we actually want more;
3976.  Exchange can only occur in an atmosphere of disagreement.  In a free market, the final sale price of any object is always an amount that the seller and the buyer both disagree that the object is worth;
3977.  What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others;
3978.  If we want to have more, then we should start by being better people; in order to be better, we start doing better things, which leads to having more of what we want.  When we become who we were born to be every resource imaginable becomes available to fulfill our mission;
3979.  If we want to prosper, we must learn that happiness does not come from material things.  We must become aware that happiness comes from inside ourselves; nothing external can dictate our lasting happiness;
3980.  Taking responsibility for and shaping our beliefs and habits is the first step toward happiness and prosperity.  The irony is that the healthier our beliefs are, the more material and spiritual prosperity we will experience;
3981.  All external changes in the forms of life, not having a change of consciousness at their base, do not improve the condition of the people, but generally make it worse.  A better life can only come when the consciousness of men is altered for the better; and therefore all the efforts of those who wish to improve life should be directed to changing their own and other people’s consciousness;
3982.  When individuals bring unique skills and talents to a combined project, the total value of that project increases at a greater rate than the individual value each of those people contributed.  Through the synergy created by sharing and exchanging our full human potential, everyone benefits and becomes far wealthier than if they were to hoard their talents and energy to themselves;
3983.  The abundance paradigm helps us to see the possibility of and the value in win-win exchanges and transactions.  People who are operating in abundance know that by serving the wants and needs of others, and thus creating happiness in the lives of others, they actually bring more happiness to themselves.  The goal is to serve others, not to exploit or dominate them.  They are able to serve wholeheartedly and completely because they know that by so doing, they aren’t in any way diminishing their own happiness; in fact, they are generating more happiness and success in their own lives;
3984.  Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are;
3985.  A Gallup survey showed that 75 percent of workers want to retire before age sixty, yet only 25 percent actually think that they will;
3986.  According to a study conducted by the U.S. Department of Commerce, only 5 percent of all Americans are financially independent at age sixty-five.  This study further indicated that 75 percent of all retirees are forced to depend on family, friends and Social Security as their only sources of income;
3987.  Fifty-one percent of retirees today have incomes below $10,000.00 per year;
3988.  Apparently, spammers take vacations too.  I seem to be getting more spam since the (beginning of the) New Year;
3989.  People are often unreasonable and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.  If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.  Be kind anyway.  If you are honest, people may cheat you.  Be honest anyway.  If you find happiness, people may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.  The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.  Do good anyway.  Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.  Give your best anyway; for you see, in the end, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway;
3990.  Life is a journey not a destination.  We determine our destiny by the direction we take;
3991.  Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds;
3992.  Success often boils down to whether or not you believe your intelligence level is fixed or if it is something that can be improved upon;
3993.  You need to stop making excuses in every aspect of your life.  That means actually doing what you say you’re going to do.  Be an action taker not an excuse maker;
3994.  Excuses are preventers; they prevent you from accomplishing anything in life.  When you push away a spark of motivation with one of your well-rehearsed excuses, you are preventing yourself from taking action every single time.  For the rest of your life, you’re going to be faced with problems and goals.  You might as well tackle them the right way; starting with eliminating excuses from your lexicon;
3995.  Happiness is the most important thing in life.  Now what exactly happens in your life when you justify your inaction with an excuse?  You postpone your own happiness;
3996.  If you really want anything to change, comfort is the last thing you should be seeking;
3997.  When you get to the point where all you want to do is to be as successful as badly as you want to breathe, then you will be successful;
3998.  If you want to succeed in life, you have to do so much more than just be yourself.  You need to be the best version of yourself;
3999.  Motivation is a fickle thing.  It’s no different from any other emotion – valid, but utterly fleeting and wholly undependable.  Habits are reliable.  Motivation is not;
4000.  Don’t be yourself, better yourself;

Monday, December 14, 2015

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

3901.  There are no wrong roads to anywhere.  There are no accidents.  As we go along, there are course corrections that we can make if we choose to reroute ourselves.  Every experience we have in life is there to teach us something;
3902.  What seems like coincidence is truly the tapestry of our life woven together by the many choices we make;
3903.  To think negatively is draining and weakens both the mind and the body;
3904.  You, yourself, can work to improve yourself further in order to reach a higher self;
3905.  Luke Spiller (the lead singer of “The Struts”) is like a mix of Freddie Mercury (i.e., his voice), Mick Jagger (i.e., his moves) and (a young) Tim Curry (i.e., his looks);
3906.  David Boyd (the lead singer of “New Politics”) is ripped . . . and he (sure) likes to show it off;
3907.  Aaron Bruno (the lead singer of “AWOLNation”) reminds me of Zack de la Rocha (the former lead vocalist for “Rage Against the Machine”);
3908.  Apparently, you should (also) brush your cheeks;
3909.  Bonchon (Bonchon.com) is good, but (a little) overrated;
3910.  The “Neon Trees” put on a (really) good show (and I’m not even a fan);
3911.  Justin Anderson’s (of the Dallas Mavericks) most memorable moment of playing basketball at the University of Virginia is beating (then No. 4 ranked) Syracuse (75-56) to win the (outright,) regular season, A(tlantic )C(oast )C(onference) title;
3912.  Cortisol, responsible for stress, is often found in lower concentrations within high achieving and powerful people.  Conversely, testosterone usually exists in high concentrations in these same individuals;
3913.  Testosterone is not only the key driver for male sexual maturation, but it also underlies confidence and the propensity to take on risk;
3914.  Adopting high power poses increases explicit and implicit feelings of power and dominance, risk-taking behavior, action orientation, pain tolerance and testosterone (i.e., the dominance hormone), while reducing stress, anxiety and cortisol;
3915.  Status and dominance are both inextricably linked to testosterone.  Both internal and external stimuli can bolster testosterone levels, which resultantly increase the frequency of subsequent dominant behaviors;
3916.  Testosterone levels typically spike after experiencing victory in a competition, and conversely drop after enduring defeat;
3917.  It is important to note that cortisol levels typically jump in response to challenging situations for all individuals, but what is consistently observed in powerful people is a lower average concentration of cortisol when faced with difficulty;
3918.  Accordingly, a neuroendocrine profile of high testosterone coupled with low cortisol appears to be optimally adaptive for success and leadership;
3919.  Individuals, who take on high power poses, experience elevation of the dominance hormone testosterone, reduction of the stress hormone cortisol and increases in behaviorally demonstrated risk tolerance and feelings of power.  Conversely, people, who strike a low power pose, had inverted results, experiencing a rise in cortisol levels and a concurrent drop in testosterone;
3920.  Taking on powerful poses lead to an average rise in testosterone of 20% and a simultaneous drop in cortisol by approximately 25%;
3921.  Brownies can have a ridiculous amount of butter;
3922.  Don’t shrink because it’s easier, don’t shrink because you’re scared, don’t not go after your dream job because it’s hard;
3923.  What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be;
3924.  Pho is Luisa’s chicken soup;
3925.  Daily power poses: Find a time during the day when you are at home and alone.  Go into the bathroom, turn on your favorite song and do the following: 1.  Plaster a relaxed and confident smile on your face – smiling will instantly boost your endorphin levels and make you feel happy.  This will also provide an additional opportunity to work on developing a natural and contagious smile; 2.  Turn on your favorite song – play music that will make you feel good.  It is important to set the mood correctly, especially if this is something you are doing first thing in the morning; and 3.  Strike a power pose – perhaps the “victory stance.”  Hold this position for the duration of the song while smiling;
3926.  Using your body to bolster your mood during the day: Whether you’re out at a bar, in the middle of an interview or seated at a dinner table with your girlfriend’s family, you might suddenly notice your state drop.  It could be triggered by an unfriendly comment or simply from a lull in the conversation.  Whatever might set you off; you can pull yourself out of the gutter by fixing your posture.  There are a few key areas that you should immediately check when attempting to reinvigorate your emotional state.  When looking to perk yourself up via body language, follow the steps outlined below: 1.  Straighten your back – whether you are sitting or standing, make sure that your back is straight.  A curved back is the central tenet of a low power pose.  Accordingly, keeping your spine compressed will inevitably have your body firing off a bad cocktail of hormones replete with high doses of cortisol.  Sit or stand tall and nudge your mental state in the right direction; 2.  Pull back your shoulders and push out your chest – relaxed shoulders go hand in hand with a straight back.  Again, the overarching message you want to send is openness and dominance.  Pulled back shoulders not only increase your size, but they make your body appear less defensive and closed off; 3.  Try to smile – Actively seek an opportunity to flash those pearly whites.  Once that happens, try to make an active effort to keep some remnant of a smile on your face throughout the rest of the conversation.  Not only will this make you feel better, but it will lighten the mood and encourage others to smile as well; and 4.  Keep your arms relaxed and at your side – 9 times out of 10, if you’re feeling anxious, your arms are crossed or your hands are buried in your pockets.  Make sure that this is not the case.  At the very least, position your hands behind your back so that you appear more open and relaxed;
3927.  Heart Rate Variability (“HRV”) is simply the notion that your heart rate fluctuates in response to your breathing pattern.  The degree to which your heart rate can change in accordance with your breath is linked to health and flexibility.  This means that if your heart rate generally stays constant without much change throughout the normal course of a day, it is a sign of aging and poor health.  Conversely, regular fluctuations and changes in HRV are usually positive indications of good health;
3928.  HRV measurements have become a cornerstone of standard health assessments by physicians because of their excellent ability to predict stress level and age.  Low HRV is directly correlated with coronary heart disease and a variety of other ailments;
3929.  Heart rate variability is a key indicator of the overall integrity and well-being of the human organism;
3930.  Breathing patterns have a direct impact on the heart rate of a reasonably healthy individual;
3931.  A slower heart rate translates to a greater level of calmness and hence breathing is a key pathway to slowing down the mind and reducing stress levels;
3932.  Another way that breathing can affect your state and positively impact your emotions is by switching off the worry centers in your brain.  Slow and deliberate breathing stimulates the vagus nerves, which sends communications to the cerebral cortex to quiet thinking activity.  Additionally, other branches of the pathway enter the centers of emotion regulation in the prefrontal cortex and in the limbic system, including the amygdala and hippocampus, where they help reduce anxiety and negative thoughts and emotions;
3933.  Focused breathing does not only calm worry centers and reduce anxiety, but it simultaneously enhances physical, mental and social abilities;
3934.  Coherent breathing, if done correctly and regularly, will enable you to synchronize your heart rate variability and breathing cycle;
3935.  If you don’t want unsolicited advice (on something), don’t bring up the subject.  Don’t plant the seed of conversation;
3936.  I think( ,for the most part,) people talk about their problems to complain and/or vent and they’re not (really) looking for (any) advice;
3937.  I think (most) people don’t like being told what to do even if they know what they’re being told (to do) is right;
3938.  We use our pain to justify our lack of success; as long as we’re in pain we have something or someone to blame;
3939.  Victimhood can become comfortable and habitual;
3940.  In his book Authentic Happiness, “positive psychologist” Martin Seligman reports finding three levels of happiness from his research: pleasure, engagement (the depth of involvement with one’s family, work, romance and hobbies) and meaning (using personal strengths to serve some larger end).  He insists that of these three paths to a happy life, pleasure is the least consequential.  This is newsworthy because so many Americans build their lives around pursuing pleasure.  It turns out that engagement and meaning are much more important;
3941.  Confidence is knowledge;
3942.  By gaining experience in the things that give you social anxiety, you’ll learn what the likely outcomes are and how others might behave.  The only way to be confident in social situations is to experience them;
3943.  Scientists and medical specialists alike have found that by rhythmically tapping on your meridian points, you send a decisive message that deactivates the amygdala’s alarm and emits a calming response to the body;
3944.  In order to effectively utilize tapping to calm your state and regulate your emotions, you must first face whatever fear or negative memory is triggering your amygdala.  Once you have your mental focus firmly fixed on this particularly scary event, begin tapping two of the meridian points with your thumb and your index finger between 4-6 times per second.  Continue the tapping motion for 5 to 10 minutes.  As you tap, concentrate on accepting and resolving the negative emotions surrounding this particular act or event.  With focus and repetition, tapping enables individuals to come to terms with and conquer irrational fear or anxiety responses;
3945.  Over the last few decades, an abundance of research has been carried out to validate the dramatic effects of tapping.  Studies conducted at Harvard Medical School show unequivocally that the fear response initiated by the amygdala can indeed be lessened by stimulating meridian points used in acupuncture and tapping;
3946.  Another study undertaken by Dr. Dawson Church, founder of the Institute for Integrative Healthcare and editor of Energy Psychology, sought to determine how an hour-long tapping session would impact the stress levels of 83 subjects.  Dr. Church and his team measured the subjects’ cortisol levels and found an average reduction of approximately 24%.  For the test subjects, who did not undergo tapping therapy, there was no significant reduction in cortisol;
3947.  During the first 10 seconds of meeting a woman, the average male will spend more than half of the time looking at her lips;
3948.  As you grow older your Christmas list gets smaller because the things you really want can’t be bought;
3949.  Listening will help you in almost every aspect of your life.  It will make you a better leader, a better conversationalist, a better spouse, a better sales executive and it will instantly make you more likeable and the most popular person at a party;
3950.  Three things go a long way in connecting with people: 1.  Mirror people’s words; 2.  Ask questions; and 3.  Stop looking around the room;

Monday, November 16, 2015

My favorite D.C. area things:

1.  Favorite bakery: baked & wired
2.  Favorite brunch: The Source
3.  Favorite cafeteria: Mitsitam Native Foods Café in the National Museum of the American Indian
4.  Favorite cheap brunch: Murphy's Grand Irish Pub
5.  Favorite coffee shop: Killer E.S.P.
6.  Favorite cupcake: Georgetown Cupcake
7.  Favorite festival: Smithsonian Folklife Festival
8.  Favorite fountain: Fountain in the National Gallery of Art Sculpture Garden on the National Mall
9.  Favorite fountain in Alexandria: The fountain in Dulany Gardens in front of the U.S. Patent & Trademark Office at night
10.  Favorite French fries: Eammon's: A Dublin Chipper
11.  Favorite French restaurant: Bastille Restaurant & Wine Bar
12.  Favorite lobster roll: Hank’s Oyster Bar
13.  Favorite local burger place: Ray’s: To the Third (formerly Ray’s Hell Burger)
14.  Favorite pizza: Pizzeria Paradiso
15.  Favorite deep-dish pizza: District of Pi
16.  Favorite place for coffee: Portico Café at the National Portrait Gallery (mainly for the view)
17.  Favorite place to eat after a night of drinking in Alexandria: Stage Door Deli
18.  Favorite presidential memorial: Thomas Jefferson Memorial
19.  Favorite restaurant: Restaurant Eve
20.  Favorite restaurant in Alexandria: Daniel O’Connell’s Restaurant
21.  Favorite Indian restaurant: Rasika
22.  Favorite Italian restaurant: Palena
23.  Favorite Mexican restaurant: Oyamel Cocina Mexicana
24.  Favorite park: The Yards Park
25.  Favorite room: Main Hall of Union Station
26.  Favorite view: View from the top steps of the Thomas Jefferson Memorial looking towards the Tidal Basin and the Washington Monument when the cherry blossoms are blooming
27.  Favorite view from a restaurant: Windows facing the fountains at the Mitsitam Native Foods Café in the National Museum of the American Indian
28.  Favorite war memorial: National World War II Memorial

What I’ve learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

3851.  It doesn’t make any sense to start paying extra on loans until you have at least three months of income, and ideally six months, in a liquid savings account.  This creates safety;
3852.  If you have no cash reserves, what happens when you pay down your loans, but then experience an unexpected cash flow crunch?  You simply increase your loan balances again or even worse, miss payments and hurt your credit score, therefore, getting charged more for future loans;
3853.  You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him;
3854.  Success and likability go hand in hand for men; however, a woman’s likability goes down as her success goes up;
3855.  Shirley Manson (the lead singer of “Garbage”) likes to dance onstage only when she’s in D.C.;
3856.  “Garbage” has played in D.C. every time they’ve gone on tour;
3857.  Apparently, Shirley Manson had her first orgasm at the age of 13 thanks to a sex book;
3858.  The drummer from “Garbage” (i.e., Butch Vig) produced Nirvana’s “Nevermind” album;
3859.  A study published in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine proposes that while marriage can make you healthier, a less-than-happy – but not actually unhappy – union might be taking years off your life, thanks to higher blood pressure and the cardiovascular problems that come with it.  Researchers at Brigham Young University studied a group of married people and found that the quality of your marriage might matter more than being hitched in and of itself;
3860.  Research has proven that exposure to cold water – either through taking a shower or by drinking a glass of ice water – can activate the sympathetic nervous system and boost your adrenaline;
3861.  How do you blow up a pumpkin?  The answer is: Dry ice in a Gatorade bottle;
3862.  (I can say) I’ve been hit by pumpkin shrapnel;
3863.  The universal consensus seems to be that airfares tend to be lowest for flights that depart on Tuesdays and Wednesdays.  Some sources, including Fodor’s, add Thursday, and others, add Saturday;
3864.  Expedia concludes that, for long-haul flights, leaving on Thursday and returning on Monday costs around 20 percent less than leaving on Friday and returning on Saturday.  The lowest in-and-out combinations tend to include outbound flights on Sunday, Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday with return flights on Sunday, Monday, Wednesday or Thursday.  For short-haul trips, Expedia’s lowest-fare groupings are Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday both ways;
3865.  Several sources publish data on the correlation between advance purchase period and airfares.  The ideal time to buy a domestic ticket is 54 days in advance, says CheapAir, or seven weeks ahead, says Expedia, which are essentially the same findings.  For international trips, the ideal period is 171 days ahead of departure, according to the same Expedia report.  CheapAir refines the estimates: 96 days before trips to Europe and 96 days prior to Latin America trips.  Both sources indicate that you can come close to the absolute lowest price over a wide range of dates: CheapAir’s “window” for good deals on domestic tickets is 27-114 days in advance; Expedia’s window is 50-100 days;
3866.  Avoid booking too early and too late.  Too late is especially bad; you pay a huge premium for buying within a week or two of departure – even on airlines that nominally assess no advance-purchase limits;
3867.  Many airlines tend to announce sales on a Monday, leading other airlines to match certain fares the following day, but this is not a hard and fast rule;
3868.  With almost all U.S. airlines, you can cancel your ticket within 24 hours of booking at no charge.  Even if you’ve already bought your fare, you can keep looking for a better offer within that 24-hour window;
3869.  Popular metasearch agency Fare Compare is pretty sure that the best day of the week to book airfare is Tuesday (and to be even more specific, Tuesday around 3:00 PM EST);
3870.  Joshua Radin lived one summer in Foggy Bottom (during college);
3871.  Joshua Radin is a whiskey drinker;
3872.  Joshua Radin doesn’t own a CD player only a record player;
3873.  You can look to others for inspiration and guidance, but you must define your own path to success;
3874.  Success requires soul searching and learning what you need to be happy;
3875.  Try your best each day, but don’t chastise yourself for having an imperfect day;
3876.  Your definition of success can evolve as you evolve.  Wanting different things at different points in life is part of being human;
3877.  You have to shed society’s definition of success in order to find your own;
3878.  Dollars follow value;
3879.  No one shrinks their way to wealth;
3880.  The greatest tax shelter in the world is to earn another dollar;
3881.  Fundamentals first, tax savings second;
3882.  Automate your savings; be deliberate with your investing;
3883.  Wallets are expensive;
3884.  (RumChata) Horchata (con Ron) and pumpkin cheesecake isn’t a bad combination;
3885.  Being spoon fed (RumChata) Horchata (con Ron) and pumpkin cheesecake by Amy isn’t bad either;
3886.  Researchers completed a preliminary study on vitamin D and found that if you do happen to get enough of this essential vitamin, it not only reduces the risk of heart disease, but also helps you exercise more strenuously, while simultaneously exhibiting lower signs of exertion.  In layman’s terms, vitamin D helps you exercise harder without becoming more tired;
3887.  What you do today can improve all of your tomorrows;
3888.  For lunch on weekdays, Restaurant Eve has the “Lickity Split” (from 11:30 AM to 3:30 PM).  You can get any two items from this (special) menu for $14.98, but only in the bar and lounge (area);
3889.  The price creep for iced tea and soda at sit-down restaurants is getting out of hand;
3890.  You can find charities that are the most effective at doing the most good with your money at “Give Well” (GiveWell.org), “Animal Charity Evaluators” (AnimalCharityEvaluators.org) and at “The Life You Can Save” (TheLifeYouCanSave.org);
3891.  Life is like a camera; focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives, and if things don’t work out, just take another shot;
3892.  The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it;
3893.  Apparently, your stomach is about the size of your fist when it’s empty and it can stretch up to the size of a gallon of milk when it’s full;
3894.  You can blame the turkey (i.e., tryptophan) all you want, but the real reason for a food coma is the plate of mashed potatoes, stuffing, rolls and pie – and all the sugar they contain.  With so much sugar hitting your system all at once, your body has to (pretty much) shut everything down to digest it all;
3895.  Apparently, your tongue can sweat.  Just eat a raw jalapeño and you’ll find out;
3896.  Luisa likes Scotch/whiskey/bourbon;
3897.  Justin Williams (of the Washington Capitals) is really good at protecting the puck;
3898.  Advice doesn’t make you smarter;
3899.  As time passes (by), we’re constantly evolving.  The (real) question is: Are we better or are we worse?
3900.  You don’t need a reason to be happy.  Your desire to be so is sufficient.  Embrace who you are and give no apology for it;

Monday, October 26, 2015

What I’ve learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

3801.  Education doesn't stop at books, you need to take action and apply what you've learned.  That is when the most powerful learning happens;
3802.  That which we persist in doing becomes easier for us to do; not that the nature of the thing itself is changed, but that our power to do it is increased;
3803.  That which we resist in doing becomes harder for us to do; not that the nature of the thing itself is changed, but that our power to do it is decreased;
3804.  We can try to change the system or we can change ourselves;
3805.  The way to win is to learn to play the game a better way.  Better not to worry about trying to change the game – just learn to play it well;
3806.  Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference;
3807.  Ultimately, blaming and complaining will not improve your situation.  You may have a valid point and your complaints may be justified, but complaining will not help fix your problem;
3808.  (The) parking at the Birchmere (Birchmere.com) is weird;
3809.  It’s (kind of) weird going to a concert and sitting at a table next to strangers without any seats between you;
3810.  Some pretty famous musicians (i.e., Johnny Cash, Vince Gill, Merle Haggard, etc.) have sung at the Birchmere;
3811.  Matt Nathanson has 13 guitars. . . . He doesn’t name them;
3812.  Matt Nathanson shops at Whole Foods (Market), including the store in (Old Town) Alexandria;
3813.  Hope is what we stand on when we have no control;
3814.  When you marry, your credit report stays the same.  The only information on both spouses’ reports is joint accounts and accounts where the other spouse is an authorized user;
3815.  How to organize your kitchen: Keep pots and pans in one cabinet and cookie sheets, muffin tins and cake pans in another cabinet.  The pots and pans should be in an area that is more accessible than the bakeware because you use them every day;
3816.  It’s a terrible thing in life to wait until you’re ready.  Actually no one is ever ready to do anything.  There is almost no such thing as ready.  There is only now.  And you may as well do it now.  Now is as good a time as any;
3817.  Fear is just an illusion.  It’s not real;
3818.  Once you figure out what is keeping you in fear, you can take action to produce real results.  Identifying what makes you afraid should help you to release it.  If this is not the case, consider that you may not have identified the root of the fear or it may be layered;
3819.  Once you figure out what is keeping you fearful, the trick is to turn that feeling or emotion into an act of courage.  Think of one step or a series of steps that you can take rather than stay paralyzed in fear.  Make a list.  Ask yourself, if I had no fear, what would it look like?  What would the actions of a brave person be?  Write them down and pick one.  It can be baby steps;
3820.  Without fear, there would be no bravery;
3821.  Allow fear to occur as an opportunity for bravery.  Consciously choose actions that would be brave.  If you’re not totally buying it, just do it anyway.  Fake it until you make it.  Courage is measured in actions.  It all looks the same from the outside;
3822.  Life is a mirror: Things show up based on how you are vibrating.  You cannot attract what you don’t reflect.  Say you find yourself dating a partner who can’t commit to you; I would ask, where in your life are you not all in?  Your job?  Why is this showing up?  You get what you put out in the world;
3823.  In the U.S., 47 percent of women over the age of 50 are single;
3824.  I can say I’ve taken a class taught by the Director of the F.B.I. (i.e., James “Jim” Comey);
3825.  Scientists at Duke University in Durham, North Carolina found women need more sleep than men;
3826.  Professor Jim Horne, director of the Sleep Research Centre at Loughborough University, England found women need 20 minutes more shut-eye because of the “female multi-tasking brain;”
3827.  Women tend to multi-task – they do a lot at once and are flexible – and so they use more of their actual brain than men do.  Because of that, their sleep need is greater;
3828.  Women’s health is compromised more than men from lack of sleep too.  They have a higher risk of heart disease, depression and psychological problems, including extra clotting factors in their blood, which can lead to stroke;
3829.  If you find it impossible to get enough sleep at night, then sleep expert, Dr. Mchael Breus suggests taking strategic naps of either 25 minutes or 90 minutes long; anything longer than this will make you feel worse when you wake up;
3830.  Some experts estimate that the average American consumes 350 to 440 calories of added sugars – the equivalent of 22 to 28 teaspoons – every day.  And pretty much every medical professional agrees that it’s contributing to our weight gain, high blood-sugar levels and record-high diabetes rates;
3831.  According to recent research published in JAMA Internal Medicine, a sugar-filled diet can increase your risk of death by heart disease – even if you aren’t overweight;
3832.  Eating significant amounts of sugar from any source – be it table sugar, honey or orange juice, can compromise your immune system’s ability to fight viruses, bacteria and parasites, according to Debra Nessel, R.D.N., C.D.E., a registered dietitian nutritionist and certified diabetes educator with the Torrance Memorial Medical Center in California;
3833.  A 2015 study from the USDA Agricultural Research Service (funded by National Honey Board) found that honey, table sugar and high-fructose corn syrup all have similar effects on the body;
3834.  Some research has linked high sugar intake to cancer;
3835.  In one Journal of Behavioral Neuroscience study, rats that consumed the popular artificial sweetener saccharine for 14 days ate more food and gained more weight than rats that ate sugar.  Plus, their core body temperatures actually dropped and their metabolisms slowed. That may be because artificial sweeteners are up to 13,000 times sweeter than sugar, which cannot only trigger your body to crave more of the sweet stuff, but also damage your body’s ability to gauge how many calories you’ve consumed – and how many more you should crave, according to the Harvard School of Public Health;
3836.  Current research published in the Journal of General Internal Medicine shows that people who consume two or more diet drinks daily are 30 percent more likely to suffer heart attacks and strokes and are 50 percent more likely to die from heart disease compared to those who never or rarely drink diet drinks.  The bottom line is that even small amounts of artificial sweeteners can play tricks on your body, causing it to over respond to signals from your taste buds, in many cases leading to weight gain;
3837.  Apparently beet juice contains a molecule that provides a “dramatic boost” to your muscle power. . . . . Nine people with heart failure were recruited for a recent study, which appeared in the September issue of Circulation: Heart Failure journal.  Each subject was given 140 milliliters or about two thirds of a cup of concentrated beet juice.  The upshot was that the subjects’ muscle power was boosted by an average of 13 percent almost immediately after drinking it.  According to Andrew Coggan, a study coauthor and assistant professor of radiology at Washington University, this improvement is equivalent to what a person can expect after two to three months of resistance training.  The magic element is nitrate, also found in high densities in spinach, which is converted into nitric oxide when ingested;
3838.  Your thoughts control your feelings, and in order to become a happier person, you need to think happier thoughts.  While it seems simple, it actually takes a lot of practice because you need to retrain your brain.  A good example that a lot of people can relate to is the thought or idea of not being enough – not skinny enough, rich enough, smart enough and the list goes on. When you begin to tell yourself – and realize – that you are enough, you can experience abundance;
3839.  Whether you need to forgive yourself or someone else, it’s important to recognize that until you can forgive, you’ll never be fully liberated and able to live life to its fullest;
3840.  Money is going to come and go your entire life.  You’ll make it, spend it, lose it and invest it.  What is the thing in your life that’s only going to go?  Time.  When you’re retired and looking back on your life, you’ll wish you spent your brief time on this Earth as preciously as you’ve spent your money.  Be responsible in preparing for the future, but don’t overlook the importance of enjoying the present while you’re at it;
3841.  Not only is traveling physically harder as you age, but logistically it becomes more difficult the older you get.  Growing more established in your career, buying a home and starting a family are all things that won’t make travel impossible, but will certainly make it more complicated than it is when you are young and untethered;
3842.  Apparently, they do give out gift cards for filling out (restaurant) customer surveys;
3843.  A recent study published in the International Journal of Sport Nutrition found that athletes who consumed 4.5 milligrams of caffeine per kilogram of body weight before exercise burned about 15 percent more calories for three hours post-exercise than those who ingested a placebo.  For a 185-pound man, that comes out to about 378 mg of caffeine – roughly the amount in about 16 ounces of brewed coffee;
3844.  A 2008 study, conducted at the University of Illinois, found that consuming the amount of caffeine found in two to three cups of coffee one hour before a 30-minute, high-powered workout actually reduced muscle pain.  Less pain means a greater ability to push yourself, leading to better gains;
3845.  A Japanese study from 2013 had participants drink five-ounce cups of either regular or decaf coffee, then tested blood flow (via the finger) to gauge the effect on small-blood-vessel function.  Researchers found that the people who drank caffeinated coffee experienced a 30 percent increase in blood flow over a 75-minute period.  When it comes to exercise, that’s a significant advantage because better blood flow means more oxygen for your muscles – meaning an ability to get more out of your workout;
3846.  Sports scientists at Coventry University found that caffeine consumption can help to protect muscles from deteriorating, which means it could also help to prevent age-related injuries while exercising;
3847.  Running around in a “bubble ball” is (rather) tiring;
3848.  Researchers followed people who lifted weights once a week, twice a week or not at all for a year and then compared their brain scans.  They found that the twice-per-week group had less of a type of brain lesion that is a common sign of aging;
3849.  I hate buttery caramel corn;
3850.  Do not borrow to consume.  Use cash for luxuries and only borrow for productive assets and resources or necessities;

Sunday, October 4, 2015

What I’ve learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

3751.  Apparently, I wear a size 6 ½ ring if it’s a thin band and a size 7 if it’s a thick one;
3752.  Apparently, if your ring has a thick band, you should go half a size bigger than if your ring has a thin one;
3753.  Mike Isabella (i.e., former contestant on “Top Chef”) (and his wife) eat(s) (brunch) at Del Campo in D.C.;
3754.  According to a 2015 study conducted at the Netherlands Centre for Human Drug Research, men who drank the equivalent of just two drinks (i.e., 20 grams of alcohol) increased their subsequent food intake by 19 percent;
3755.  People tend to prefer high fat, savory and salty foods after consuming alcohol;
3756.  If you’re set on having a bottled juice or smoothie, first check the ingredients label and make sure it contains no more than 15 grams of carbohydrates per serving.  Ideally, it should only contain one serving of fruit.  The rest should be vegetables;
3757.  Many veggie chips are just as fattening as the potato chips you’re likely trying to avoid;
3758.  When you remove the gluten out of a food product, you’re taking away the ingredient that provides that delicious, chewy texture in breads, muffins, cakes, pasta and more.  To make up for the loss of flavor and texture, food manufacturers often add in other fillers, including sugars, fats and other chemical additives.  Ultimately, your gluten-free snacks end up with more calories and sugars and don’t even taste as good;
3759.  Far too often, “smart,” “whole grain” and “healthy” cereals aren’t all that different from the sugary stuff you ate as a kid.  On average, foods displaying the yellow “Whole Grain Stamp” contain more sugar and calories than do whole-grain foods that don’t sport the label, according to research from Harvard University.  Instead of looking at the front of the box to make your selection, you should look at the back.  The cereal should contain fewer than 10 grams of sugar per serving, at least 5 grams of fiber per serving and contain bran in the ingredients;
3760.  The fiber in bran has been shown to help reduce cholesterol, regulate blood sugars and contain beneficial antioxidants.  However, commercially produced fiber like resistant starch, polydextrose, indigestible dextrins and inulin may not provide the same benefits of plant-based fibers like wheat and oat bran;
3761.  Many protein bars contain as much sugar as a candy bar but with a few extra grams of protein;
3762.  Many quinoa pastas contain more corn flour, a cheap gluten-free flour, than anything else.  The result: It contains just as many calories, more carbs and fewer grams of protein than if you just stuck with wheat pasta.  Before buying any quinoa pasta, flip over the box.  Look for brands that contain one ingredient: quinoa flour;
3763.  Multigrain breads only indicate that the bread contains multiple grains.  It says nothing about their degree of refinement.  Refined grains have been extensively processed, and their bran and germ, the fiber-, vitamin- and mineral-containing part of the grain, have been removed, leaving only simple carbs that spike your blood sugar and promote weight gain.  Look for breads that have some sort of whole grain – whole wheat, whole rye, whole oats – as their first ingredient;
3764.  Some nut butters, even those labeled as natural, contain added sugars or trans fats, harmful fats that increase bad cholesterol and decrease good cholesterol.  Before you buy, make sure the only ingredient is nuts.  And even if your nut butter doesn’t contain additives, you still need to limit serving sizes.  A single tablespoon contains nearly 100 calories;
3765.  A typical six-ounce fruit-at-the-bottom yogurt container contains 29 grams of carbs and 24 grams of sugar.  That’s the equivalent of a candy bar.  Opt for buying plain yogurt and adding in fresh fruit;
3766.  Many prepackaged salads you’ll find at restaurants, airport terminals and supermarkets contain upwards of 1,000 calories.  Meanwhile, the cheese, croutons and meats pack a ton of sodium, which is used both as a preservative and to boost the salad’s flavor.  Unfortunately, many prepackaged salads don’t come with ingredient or nutrition labels.  If that’s the case with whatever salad you’re eying, don’t buy it.  Look for ingredient labels and make sure neither calories nor sodium is through the roof;
3767.  Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing, the people around you have nothing to do with you, just do your own thing and stop.  Everyone has this tendency to mark themselves against other people and the world just does not work that way;
3768.  The Friday night concert series at Yards Park (in D.C.) is like “Jazz in the Garden” (at the National Gallery of Art Sculpture Garden) except there’s more space . . . and you can still bring your own booze;
3769.  Unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind.  It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling.  You love someone purely because you love them and not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated.  You are admiring something for its beauty without needing to own it;
3770.  The Shakespeare Theatre Company hires some (pretty) accomplished actors/actresses;
3771.  Sara Topham (of the Shakespeare Theatre Company) is rather attractive in person;
3772.  Apparently, they had carni(val) food (i.e., funnel cakes, pie on a stick, smoked turkey legs, etc.) during the Renaissance;
3773.  Smoked turkey legs taste like ham;
3774.  Smoked turkey legs are rather tough. . . . They’re (really) chewy with a lot cartilage and gristle;
3775.  Apparently, there’s no tax for groceries in D.C.;
3776.  Apparently, I’m not as clever as I thought. . . . I wouldn’t make a very good assistant for Sherlock Holmes.  Just ask Cuba, Ireland and New Zealand;
3777.  Sun-kissed is a good look . . . sun-scorched, not so much;
3778.  Strength training primarily works your fast-twitch fibers, which is contributed to high-intensity, short-duration exercises.  In response to training, the fibers get stronger by becoming bigger and growing in number – which is to thank for any size gains in your biceps;
3779.  Endurance exercise primarily trains your body’s slow-twitch fibers, which are responsible for fueling low-intensity, high-duration exercises like running, swimming, and biking.  They are tiny, and while they are vital to sticking with any cardio class or endurance event, they don’t really add to your body’s muscle bulk;
3780.  While strength training largely leaves slow-twitch fibers alone and lets them do their thing, there is some evidence that cardiovascular exercise can convert fast-twitch fibers into slow-twitch fibers;
3781.  Cardio can also disrupt the growth of fast-twitch fiber through what’s called the interference effect.  During exercise, your body sends out both anabolic (muscle-building) and catabolic (muscle-breaking) signals, and it’s believed that aerobic exercise can promote a more catabolic environment;
3782.  On Mondays( all day), you can get a Black Angus steak (with mashed potatoes and a side salad) for $10.95 at Overwood Wood-Fired American Kitchen (TheOverwood.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria;
3783.  If you want to roast a pig, Seth’s your man;
3784.  Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing;
3785.  If you follow the herd, you’ll end up stepping in shit.  The shit is living with yourself when you ignore what you know to be right and true and instead follow the instructions of others who are afraid to leave the herd and want you to be just like everybody else;
3786.  A study published in the Journal of the International Society of Sports Nutrition found that subjects who drank both water and beer after an hour-long run were equally as rehydrated as those who drank just water, suggesting that beer isn’t quite as dehydrating as previously thought (probably due in part to the drink's, well, high water content).  That said, if you’re trying to lose weight, water is still the better option;
3787.  Research shows that sports drinks aren’t any more effective than water at preventing dehydration and most varieties are also high in calories and sugar (some contain the equivalent of 10 teaspoons);
3788.  It turns out stretching before a workout won’t keep you from pulling a muscle after all; in fact, one 2004 study found that stretching before activities such as cycling, jogging and swimming actually did nothing to prevent injuries;
3789.  According to one 2012 study by McMaster University, muscle protein synthesis may continue for 24 to 48 hours after exercising (as opposed to one hour, as commonly believed), but you don’t want to wait too long after working out to eat, as this will cause your body to go into starvation mode;
3790.  Stopping doesn’t mean apologizing.  Stopping doesn’t mean you can’t do something else or try again later (unless that’s what s/he’s asking you to stop);
3791.  The measure of love is not in saying you love, the measure of love is the time that you take toward the showing of love and the actions of love;
3792.  Money buys comfort; comfort is not happiness or satisfaction.  While it is good to be comfortable, it is more satisfying to be happy;
3793.  According to a study, rich kids have a higher risk of depression, anxiety and substance abuse than their less affluent peers.  Financial abundance usually provides more security, assets and opportunities, but research by professor Suniya Luthar of Arizona State University, published in the Journal of Development & Psychopathology, shows that young people whose parents have a combined income of $160,000 per year or more experience twice the standard national rate of depression and anxiety than those from less well-to-do families;
3794.  Most people could increase their happiness by devoting less time to making money and more to non-pecuniary goals, such as family life and health;
3795.  According to Orbitz, the best time to book holiday flights is the week of October 5th.  That’s for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve travel;
3796.  When to book Thanksgiving flights: Orbitz says the best day for those who haven’t booked yet will be October 6th;
3797.  When to book Christmas flights: Because it’s the holiday with the greatest number of people taking to the skies, the sweet spot to book cheap Christmas flights is much earlier than the actual travel date: October 9th, to be exact.  You may also get a second chance at a reasonable (though slightly higher) fare if you book on November 6th or 7th;
3798.  When to book New Year’s Eve flights: Solidify your New Year’s Eve plans by October 10th – the best day to book flights averaging in the $362 range for the last holiday of the year.  The latest you can book and still expect to see some savings is December 2nd.  If you end up booking after Thanksgiving, you’ll be competing with half of all travelers;
3799.  Education that is not put into action is a waste.  Knowledge without action is pointless.  To achieve anything, you must take action;
3800.  Education is key, but remember that part of your education should be doing;