Monday, May 15, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5401.  Studies of Pacific Islanders, who ate up to 63 percent of their calories from coconut fat, found them to be lean and free of heart disease or stroke.  Their total cholesterol was higher, but so was their good cholesterol or HDL;
5402.  Other studies have found that lipid profiles improve on high-fat diets containing coconut oil.  Good cholesterol is higher and triglycerides and the number of the small LDL cholesterol particles are lower;
5403.  Coconut fat is associated with lower insulin levels;
5404.  Coconut butter is made from whole coconut flesh with all its delicious fat and solids.  It is essentially pureed or pulverized coconut meat and has a thick, creamy, smooth texture.  It is about 60 percent oil.  The fiber content of coconut butter differentiates it from coconut oil.  One tablespoon of coconut butter has 3 grams of fiber;
5405.  Coconut oil is extracted from the dried flesh of the coconut;
5406.  Coconut oil is made up of 86 percent saturated fat, 6 percent monounsaturated fat and 1.4 percent polyunsaturated fat;
5407.  About half of the saturated fat in coconut oil is a rare, special type of saturated fat called lauric acid.  It is known as a medium-chain triglyceride or MCT;
5408.  In the body, lauric acid converts to monolaurin, one of the compounds found in breast milk that boost a baby’s immune system.  It is like a super fuel for your cells, metabolism, bones and brain;
5409.  If there are expectations, that just means you’re close to something great;
5410.  Staying in a common room in Gadsby’s Tavern in (Old Town) Alexandria used to cost $.05/night;
5411.  Thomas Jefferson stayed in Gadsby’s Tavern’s most expensive room (i.e., the “blue: room) for $5.50/night;
5412.  Our soul wants to expand and grow.  When we stay with the familiar, just because it is familiar, we are responding to a fear of failure that doesn’t support our growth.  If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities.  If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles;
5413.  What if there is no such thing as failure?  Failing is a judgment that we humans place on a given action.  Rather than judgment, substitute this attitude: You cannot fail, you can only produce results.  Then the most important question to ask yourself is, “What do you do with the results you produce?”  It is better to jump in and experience life than to stand on the sidelines fearing that something might go wrong;
5414.  When we step back and examine our limiting belief, we can recognize that nothing can stand in our way of our goals and dreams, but us;
5415.  By remembering that fear is the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real, we can step past it and become who and what we want to be;
5416.  Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.  The fearful are caught as often as the bold;
5417.  You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.  You must do the thing which you think you cannot do;
5418.  The enemy is fear.  We think it is hate, but it is fear;
5419.  Apparently, Kristy doesn’t like to eat anything with bones;
5420.  Kristy wants to visit every continent including Antarctica;
5421.  Connor McDavid (of the Edmonton Oilers) is fast;
5422.  I’ve watched a hockey game with the “Great One” (i.e., Wayne Gretzky);
5423.  Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart.  Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes;
5424.  If you think something is missing in your life it’s probably you!  Realize that only you can fill the void;
5425.  Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth.  Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more than a thought or feeling that you carry around.  These thoughts of resentment, anger and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head.  If you could release them, you would know more peace;

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5351.  You should alternate these kinds of “cutting through the bullshit” gatherings with masculine celebrations.  Even during these celebrations, though, there should be a challenge to remain conscious and undistracted.  They are not occasions for lapsing from fullness, but for communing beyond fear.  Perhaps you can all go swimming in ice cold water together.  Or drink to the point of inebriation and then spend the rest of the night chanting hymns of the mystery of existence.  Whatever you do, share as much loving as you can with your friends, without settling for mediocrity or less than each man’s fullest gift;
5352.  Make sure that you arrange for your woman’s rejuvenative time and your own.  Otherwise, you will rot in the cushions of bargained stagnation and sexual neutralization, which pad your true edge of living your gift in relationship;
5353.  Everyone needs to remember their past, as it shapes all we do, but you’ll do more good in the world if you focus furiously on the horizon and swim toward your future;
5354.  There is no consistent evidence that saturated fat in our diet from meat raises our blood cholesterol.  There is plenty of evidence that eating meat actually improves our cholesterol profile when consumed in the absence of sugar and refined carbs.  How?  By raising the good cholesterol and boosting protective or large, LDL particles;
5355.  In one experiment, a researcher sent ten Australian aborigines with obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure and high blood sugar back into the bush to hunt kangaroo and alligator and gather roots, nuts and berries.  In seven weeks, all their numbers normalized, enabling them to come off their medications and they lost significant amounts of weight as well;
5356.  In study after study, feeding obese, diabetic or heart disease patients a diet higher in fat and high-quality animal protein resulted in better outcomes for everything including weight, body fat, waist circumference, muscle mass, metabolism, blood pressure, triglycerides, HDL and LDL.  People on diets such as these found them much more satisfying and were less hungry than when on high-carb, low-fat, low-meat diets even when the number of calories was exactly the same;
5357.  When the effects of increasing meat intake was studied in Asian countries, using a sample of almost 300,000 people who generally have healthier diets heavy in fish and vegetables and light in processed sugary foods, they found red meat was actually associated with a lower risk of heart disease in men and cancer in women;
5358.  The level of TMAO in meat is far less than that in fish;
5359.  In a review of more than thirty-five prospective studies on colon cancer and meat consumption, there was little risk found;
5360.  In some studies, those with the highest meat intake had lower risk of colon cancer than those with lowest intake;
5361.  What the studies did find was that meat eating was also associated with other dietary and lifestyle habits that promote cancer including a high intake of refined sugar and alcohol and low intake of fruits, vegetables and fiber.  The meat eaters also generally didn’t exercise, smoked more than non-meat eaters and were more overweight all of which are associated with an increased risk of cancer;
5362.  Some studies do link processed red meat such as hot dogs, bacon and luncheon meats to cancer.  The absolute risk of getting cancer would be an increase from a 2.6 percent to a 3.2 percent chance of getting cancer or about a 0.6 absolute increase in risk.  In other words, about three extra appearances of colon cancer in every 100,000 people for bacon eaters;
5363.  High-temperature cooking, grilling, frying, smoking or charring meat including fish and chicken all lead to the production of compounds called polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAH) and heterocyclic amines (HCA).  HCAs and PAHs have been shown to cause cancer in animal models and it is a good idea to reduce your exposure to these toxic compounds;
5364.  Meat is not the only source of PAHs.  Other than meat charred over an open flame, the most common source is vegetables and grains;
5365.  Cooking meat can also produce compounds called AGEs, which result from protein interacting with sugars in food.  These are what make things crispy – the crust that forms on a loaf of bread, crispy chicken skin or the crunchy sugar top on crème brulée.  AGEs damage arteries and the brain and they can cause cancer.  Your best bet is to reduce high-heat cooking and grilling;
5366.  To reduce AGEs, HCAs and PAHs, soak your meat in an acidic marinade with lemon juice or vinegar; this makes it taste better and cuts AGEs in half and HCAs by 90 percent;
5367.  The omega-6 fat arachidonic acid is found in meat.  It is in every one of your cell membranes and helps your body control inflammation, grow and repair.  Grass-fed meat actually increases levels of both omega-3s and the right omega-6s and helps keep that fats in balance;
5368.  In large population studies, those with the highest levels of both omega-3s and arachidonic acid had the lowest levels of inflammation and heart disease;
5369.  In the plowing of fields, clearing of forests and growing of plants, there is wholesale destruction of natural ecosystems including the death of birds, rodents, bugs, worms and trillions of microbes in the soil;
5370.  Agriculture is the most destructive thing humans have done to the planet.  The truth is that agriculture requires the wholesale destruction of ecosystems;
5371.  Vegans are more likely to have nutritional deficiencies of B12, omega-3 fats, fat-soluble vitamins like A and D, iron, calcium, vitamin K2 and zinc;
5372.  When all is said and done, now is all there is and all there ever has been;
5373.  Notice when you are wishing you were somewhere else and bring yourself back to a state of appreciation for where you are.  Remember that not being fully immersed in the present is nothing more than a habit that you have the option of breaking right now, in this moment;
5374.  Discard thoughts of depreciation.  When you find yourself depreciating anyone or anything in your immediate present moment space, see if you can substitute a thought of appreciation.  For example, rather than being bored by a conversation, shift your thoughts to, “I am going to spend the next few moments just loving this person for who s/he is and nothing more.”  This removal of judgment brings you back to being fully in the present;
5375.  Take time to meditate.  Meditation is difficult for many people because their thoughts are always on some distant object or place.  One form of meditation is to label the thought as it appears and then choose to let it go.  This practice helps you first become aware of your thoughts, which many of us need to do, so that we can return to the present moment;
5376.  Practice enjoying each phase of your meal (and your day!) for itself, rather than having your thoughts on dessert, while you are consuming the appetizer.  The essence of the entire message here is to be here now.  Is there really any other place to be?
5377.  Portobello Road gin is rather smooth;
5378.  It’s interesting that women will admit to using body language to try and (subtlety) tell a man (that) she’s not interested while knowing full well that (most) men aren’t good at reading/picking up body language;
5379.  Cows are ruminants that have special stomachs designed to eat grass.  When they are fed grains, the levels of inflammatory omega-6 fats in their bodies, and, thus in the meat we eat, increase;
5380.  Cows have to be given antibiotics to prevent their stomachs from exploding from the bloat caused by their gut bacteria fermenting the corn feed;
5381.  Grass-fed meat has a healthier fat profile than conventionally raised meat with two to five times more omega-3 fats.  It also has lower levels of omega-6 fats;
5382.  The ratio of omega-6 to omega-3 fats in grass-fed beef is about 1.5 to 1.  In grain-fed beef, it is about 7.5 to 1;
5383.  Grain-fed beef has more stearic acid, the saturated fat that has no impact on cholesterol.  I also has two to three times as much conjugated linoleic acid as grain-fed beef, a potent antioxidant that is protective against heart disease, diabetes and cancer and even helps with weight loss and metabolism;
5384.  Grass-fed meat has more vitamin E, beta-carotene, vitamin A, zinc, iron, phosphorous, sodium and potassium than grain-fed meat.  It also has higher levels of antioxidants including glutathione, catalase and superoxide dismutase;
5385.  Egg whites have vitamins B2 (riboflavin) and B3 (niacin), the yolks contain B6 and B12, folic acid (B9), pantothenic acid (B5) and thiamin (B1).  The yolks are also rich sources of vitamins A, E, K and D;
5386.  Egg yolks are one of the few foods that naturally contain vitamin D;
5387.  Eggs are one of the best sources of choline needed for brain health, cell membrane formation and detoxification; it also protects against Alzheimer’s disease;
5388.  Egg yolks contain lutein and zeaxanthin (which gives them their yellow color), antioxidants that help prevent macular degeneration or premature blindness;
5389.  Eggs prevent LDL oxidation and increase LDL and HDL particle size so they protect against heart disease;
5390.  Don’t cook eggs in hot oil.  The fats can oxidize and become harmful.  Poach or soft-boil your eggs or cook them at low temperature;
5391.  There is no good evidence proving butter’s link to heart disease;
5392.  Some studies measuring blood levels of the saturated fats that are in dairy have found them to be associated with a lower risk of heart attacks;
5393.  Cow stomach fermentation turns vitamin K1 (found in leafy greens like kale, chard, spinach and grass) into K2, which then shows up in the dairy fat;
5394.  K2 is important for bone and heart health;
5395.  Grass-fed butter also contains a fatty acid called butyrate that promotes intestinal health and fights inflammation throughout the body especially in the cardiovascular system;
5396.  All of the same nutrients found in grass-fed butter are found in grass-fed ghee.  It is high in vitamins D and A, omega-3 fats, CLA and butyrate;
5397.  Clarified butter has had the water and milk solids removed so it can be used by those allergic to dairy;
5398.  You can make ghee from grass-fed butter by heating it, which separates out the fat from the milk solids and then straining out the milk solids with cheesecloth;
5399.  Countries such as those in the South Pacific with the highest intake of coconut oil eat up to 40 percent of their calories from saturated fat (coconut oil is almost 90 percent saturated fat, while butter is 60 percent saturated fat) yet, surprisingly, they have some of the lowest rates of heart disease in the world;
5400.  There is a surprising amount of research showing that even though coconut oil has the highest amount of saturated fat found in any food and it increases total cholesterol (actually it increases HDL or good cholesterol the most so even though the total cholesterol goes up, the ratio is better), it is not correlated with increased risk of heart attack or stroke;

Monday, April 24, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5301.  Rather than fantasizing or entertaining inward sexual imagery of any kind, remain totally present, aware of your own body, breath and mind, and especially attentive to your partner.  Break the masturbatory habit of inward fantasy by consciously practicing sex as a relational play of love with your partner;
5302.  Keep your body and breath relaxed and full.  Especially keep the front of your body relaxed, so that your belly is vast and your heart is soft and wide.  This will help prevent too much tension from accumulating in any one area;
5303.  Learn to feel into and then through your partner, so that your attention is directed beyond your own sensations and even beyond your partner’s sensations.  Practice feeling outward, without limit, as if you were feeling to infinity.  Whatever you are feeling, feel it fully and then feel through and beyond it so that sex becomes a constant feeling through and beyond every sensation rather than focusing on any particular sensation;
5304.  Throughout the day and during the sexual session, practice breathing so that your inhalation moves energy down the front of your body and the exhalation moves energy up your spine.  Excessive, chronic thinking or addiction to ejaculation is often a sign that your energy is blocked and you are not yet breathing fully in this circle throughout the day;
5305.  During sex, occasionally practice the upward contraction of the floor of your pelvis while breathing sexual energy up your spine so it fills your whole body.  Especially as you begin to approach orgasm, you can combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up the spine in order to shoot your orgasm up into your brain and even out through the top of your head rather than down and out your genitals.  This upward orgasm will then feel like it is gently seeping down through every cell of your body saturating you with thick open light;
5306.  Although you and your woman are equal beings, you are very different creatures.  If she has a feminine sexual essence, her core will be fulfilled when love is flowing.  For example, she can experience difficulties in her career, but if full love is flowing in her life with her children, friends and with you then her core will be fulfilled;
5307.  If you have a masculine sexual essence, then your woman and children can be loving you all day and night, but if your career or mission is obstructed, you will not feel at ease.  You won’t even want to share much intimate time with your woman until you have your career or mission back on track;
5308.  Your woman’s core is fulfilled by love.  Your core is released from stress by aligning your life with your mission.  To you, intimacy is something to be enjoyed in addition to your purpose.  To your woman, intimacy is at the core of her life and the tone of your intimacy colors everything else she does;
5309.  When your intimacy is going great, your woman’s life is filled with the color of love.  She feels good at work, at home, in bed.  When the intimacy is not going so great, when your woman feels unloved, rejected, hurt or abandoned by you then her day will be colored by hurt.  At work, at home and in the bed, the pain of “unlove” will color her disposition;
5310.  When your intimacy is going bad, you can’t wait to leave the house and go to work; there, you can be in your element, aligned with your purpose and happy.  For you, the intimacy is just one aspect of your life.  When you are absorbed in your mission, you often forget entirely about your intimacy.  For your woman, the intimacy is at the core of her life and colors everything else she does.  This is the primary asymmetry in intimacy;
5311.  If your woman has rejected her own feminine core, then she will struggle against her inherent heart-connection with you.  She will try to identify with her masculine side, attempting to de-prioritize you and your relationship.  She will think that she must “live her own life” and put more energy into her own career, for instance.  While it is obviously healthy for every man and woman to learn to become whole and independent, it is self-destructive for your woman to try to lessen the import of your relationship in her life.  If she has a feminine sexual essence, the desire for the flow of love is at her core, no matter how dedicated she is to her career or other activities;
5312.  The desire for intimate loving is as central to your woman’s life as the mission toward freedom – financial, psychological and spiritual – is to yours.  Think of how many hours a day you dedicate to your mission and compare that with how many hours a day you spend serving your woman’s deep desire for the magnification of love.  If you want her to honor and support you in your quest for freedom, you must honor and support her in her love of loving;
5313.  If you have a masculine essence and your woman has a feminine essence, you will never be as concerned, distraught or elated about your intimacy as your woman is.  Don’t fake it.  Don’t try to act concerned for the sake of your woman.  She can feel where you are really at.  Instead, be authentic to your core desires and dedicate your life, with utter impeccability, to your highest goals;
5314.  When your life is truly aligned with your highest purpose, you will become more present, more loving and more humorous.  Your woman will then be the first recipient of your magnified presence, love and humor.  If your intimacy is not constantly growing in this way, your life is not aligned with your highest purpose;
5315.  If your woman devotes herself to her true heart desires, you will feel it.  Her energy, radiance, wisdom and power to create heaven on earth will feed you constantly, even when it is not directed toward you.  You will be inspired by her magic, enchanted by her sexuality, awed by her knowingness and enlivened by the life that flows so lovingly through her body.  However, if she has chosen to deny her heart desire and adopt more masculine goals of purpose and mission as her core needs, both of you will suffer.  Her radiance will diminish, her guardedness will increase and neither of your hearts will feel relaxed in the intimacy;
5316.  Your woman could be a corporate executive and you could be a househusband.  That’s fine as long as you are living your highest purpose and her life is devoted to love.  Honor this primary asymmetry in yourself and in your woman.  Only when you are willing to support each other’s core desires will the intimacy give each of you what you want and then perhaps bring you beyond even that into the utter joy of being of which your relationship is only a hope;
5317.  In a review of studies where people consumed a mixture of omega-3 and omega-6 fats, there was a 27 percent reduction in heart attacks and death;
5318.  If studies increased only omega-6 fats, there was a 13 percent increase in heart attacks;
5319.  Randomized trials that used omega-6 fats alone (without any omega-3 fats) while reducing saturated and trans fats also showed an increased risk of death’
5320.  Many of the current recommendations from studies to consume omega-6 fats omitted a number of important studies and don’t distinguish between studies in which people only consumed omega-6 fats from those in which people consumed a combination of omega-3 and omega-6 fats;
5321.  Omega-6 fats easily oxidize or go rancid, which makes any cholesterol you do have much more likely to cause heart disease.  Even if your cholesterol is low, if it is oxidized or rancid, it is much more likely to cause heart attacks.  These fats are called OXLAMs or oxidized linoleic acid metabolites; think of them as rancid fats.  They are what make up the cholesterol plaques in your arteries;
5322.  There’s a public library in the Watergate (complex);
5323.  Never order a soda at Kingbird (in the Watergate Hotel in D.C).  It’s $6.00 for a dinky, 8 oz. bottle of Coke;
5324.  There are masculine and feminine gifts in intimacy and each gift comes with its own responsibility.  The direction of growth of a relationship is primarily the man’s responsibility.  The energy of an intimacy – pleasure, sexual flow and vitality – is primarily the woman’s responsibility.  A simplified way of saying this is that the man is responsible for the woman’s depth of love or openness of mood and the woman is responsible for the man’s “erection” or energy in the body;
5325.  Once you have grown into independent adulthood, you no longer need somebody to take care of you.  You can be responsible for yourself.  In particular, you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness.  Nobody can live your life for you.  You must create your own health, success and happiness;
5326.  Beyond self-responsibility lies the responsibility to give your gift.  It is important to grow beyond dependence on your intimate partner for your own happiness.  But it’s equally important to grow beyond simple independence and autonomy.  The next stage of intimacy after personal independence has been attained is the mutual flow of gifting or serving each other in love;
5327.  Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be and what you need to do to get there.  If you don’t know one of these then you need to discover it by any means necessary.  This vision is, essentially, the basic gift you have to offer your woman as well as the world.  If you have no higher vision than the day-to-day grind of housework, job, childcare, TV and vacations, you are failing your birthright.  Your woman will feel cheated and ungifted by you as will the world.  And they will both give you less of their gifts in return;
5328.  If your woman is always stressed out, you need to know what she could do with her life, in very practical terms, so she can relax.  If your woman feels unfulfilled most of the time, you need to know what she is missing;
5329.  Your main gift in intimacy is to guide her, moment by moment, out of her moods and into the openness of loving.  And then, day by day, to guide her life into greater degrees of divine love, even beyond the relationship, so that her life becomes primarily communion, gifting and celebration;
5330.  Like a musician practicing his art, you must practice, daily, the art of feeling through your fear, feeling to your edge and then living just beyond your edge neither slinking into private consolation nor pushing so hard you disconnect from your source.  The source that is your deepest truth must become more and more the impulse of your life.  Over time, all of your activities must become aligned to this source and so must your relationship;
5331.  Because you probably tend to become lost in your thoughts, in your goals and in your projects, one of the main gifts your woman can offer you is getting you into your body, into the present, into love, which connects you to your source.  Through her touch, her loving and her attractiveness, she can also give you energy so that your whole body becomes like an erection, full and alive and ready to penetrate the world into love.  If you have a masculine sexual essence, her special gift to you is to bring you back into your body with the attractive force of her feminine energy;
5332.  Direction in life is a masculine priority even in intimate relationship.  A less spiritually mature man may say to his woman, “My way or the highway!”  A man in the process of growing will often soften his direction and seek a compromise with his woman, playing Mr. Nice Guy.  But a superior man will not settle for less than the fullest incarnation of love of which he and his woman are capable.  With compassion, he slices through all bullshit and demands authenticity and humor.  It’s as if he were saying to his woman, “The divine way or the highway!”  It’s the same masculine insistence on direction that a weaker man will demand.  But rather than wanting his woman to follow his personal direction, a superior man wants her to move in the direction that most serves her growth in love and happiness;
5333.  If you don’t know your own direction in life, you certainly will stand on shaky ground offering your woman direction.  The first step is to align your own life so that, at least in this present moment, you are living at your edge, fully aligned with your sense of purpose.  If you are not absolutely certain that, in this moment, you are living exactly the life you need to then your woman will feel your lack of clarity and she will fight any kind of guidance you offer her;
5334.  If you don’t cut through and take direction, your woman will.  Masculine and feminine energies in intimacy are governed by the law of conservation.  The less masculine direction you are living in truth, the more masculine direction your woman will take on.  If you are working hard, but actually not living your true gift then your woman will resent your lack of deep direction.  She will begin to take on the masculine herself, trying to cut through your lolling, so that you feel the urgency, connect to your depth and really give your gift;
5335.  At your core, you are masculine, her masculine attempt to cut through your lolling will depolarize you.  You will bash heads with her, like two rams, since both of you are in your masculine.  And if you move into your feminine, things may get worse.  A deep habit may develop wherein no matter how strong you are in the business world, you become “pussy whipped” in your relationship.  Your woman gets sharp and masculine, you become falsely receptive and agreeable and, meanwhile, both of you feel like vomiting;
5336.  If your woman is chronically sharp with you, it is most likely a sign that, regardless of how successful you are outside of your intimacy, you are not aligning both of your lives with the highest truth.  You are not cutting through the underbrush of your duties and your woman’s moods to reveal the fertile source of your lives.  And so your woman must wield her own sword.  By the law of conservation of masculine and feminine energy, whatever masculine gifts you aren’t offering, your woman will naturally try to offer.  But since, in truth, your core is masculine, her masculine offerings will most likely turn you off, eventually even repulsing you;
5337.  A man rediscovers and fine tunes his purpose in solitude, in challenging situations and in the company of other men who won’t settle for his bullshit.  But women strengthen their feminine radiance best in the company of other women in mutual celebration and play.  A man must arrange for both forms of restoration: his own solitude and men’s gatherings and his woman’s time with other women;
5338.  If you spend too much time with your woman, you will rub off on each other in the worst way.  In order to get along together, she will begin to adopt your masculine patterns of speech, denying her feminine desire to flow in play and pleasure without having to make masculine-style sense or fulfill a purpose.  You will begin to adopt her feminine patterns of touch and affection, denying your desire to get down to it, with your mission or your woman.  Instead, you will find yourself pecking your woman on the cheek or giving her hugs and pats of lovey-dovey reassurance.  In short, the goddess and the warrior will become neutralized householders sharing only the mildest play of sexual polarity;
5339.  In order to enliven her feminine core, your woman should spend time every day in absolute abandon and celebration.  During these times of dancing, singing, laughter and sheer delight, her body and mind should be totally released of any obligation to be masculine – directed, controlled, structured or goal-oriented.  These occasions are most rejuvenating when she is with other women, magnifying and rejoicing in each other’s’ feminine radiance and flow.  If your woman lacks this frequent feminine rejuvenation, she will develop symptoms of depressed feminine energy: disease (especially in her more feminine parts), lack of life energy, low sexual desire and enjoyment and a blue, downhearted, despondent disposition;
5340.  Much of the modern men’s movement has concentrated on men reclaiming their inner feminine energy.  If you want to revitalize your own feminine energy, then you can do pretty much the same as women do to revitalize their feminine energy.  You can go out into the woods and sing and dance and laugh with your friends.  For men who have become rigidly stuck in their masculine direction, without allowing the flow of joy and sharing in their lives, this is good medicine;
5341.  For men who have lost their sense of purpose, who don’t know what their life is about or who have trouble aligning their life with their truth, singing and dancing aren’t the remedy.  The cure for lack of purpose is to be challenged to live at your edge, since you have lost the capacity to live there by yourself;
5342.  The two ways to bring you right to your masculine edge of power are austerity and challenge;
5343.  Austerity means to eliminate the comforts and cushions in your life that you have learned to snuggle into and lose wakefulness.  Take away anything that dulls your edge.  No newspapers or magazines.  No TV.  No candy, cookies or sweets.  No sex.  No cuddling.  No reading of anything at all while you eat or sit on the toilet.  Reduce working time to a necessary minimum.  No movies.  No conversation that isn’t about truth, love or the divine;
5344.  If you take on these disciplines for a few weeks as well as any other disciplines that may particularly cut through your unique habits of dullness then your life will be stripped of routine distraction.  All that will be left is the edge you have been avoiding by means of your daily routine.  You will have to face the basic discomfort and dissatisfaction that is the hidden texture of your life.  You will be alive with the challenge of living your truth rather than hiding from it;
5345.  Unadorned suffering is the bedmate of masculine growth.  Only by staying intimate with your personal suffering can you feel through it to its source.  By putting all your attention into work, TV, sex and reading, your suffering remains unpenetrated and the source remains hidden.  Your life becomes structured entirely by your favorite means of sidestepping the suffering you rarely allow yourself to feel.  And when you do touch the surface of your suffering, perhaps in the form of boredom, you quickly pick up a magazine or the remote control;
5346.  The other means, besides austerity, for rediscovering your masculine core is through challenge.  The more superficial forms of challenge include activities like mountain climbing, ropes courses, competitive sports and boot camp.  These forms of physical challenge instantly enliven the masculine sense of purpose and direction, in men and women;
5347.  Deeper forms of challenge involve directly giving your gift in ways that have been blocked by your fear.  If you have always been afraid of public speaking, you can take on the challenge of speaking in public once a week for three months.  If you fail and miss an appointment one week, the following week you must give three talks.  If you have always wanted to write a novel, but could never finish one, you tell your friends that you are going to complete one chapter a week (or a month) for the next year.  Every time you don’t complete your weekly goal, you owe your friends $100.00.  If you don’t complete your yearly goal, you owe them $10,000.00;
5348.  There must be a consequence for freezing in the face of fear.  There are obvious consequences for freezing in the face of fear when mountain climbing or playing competitive sports.  You must instill consequences throughout the rest of your life, unless you want to cling to the safety net of superficial pleasures;
5349.  Spend time every day in solitude with no distractions.  Just sit, for ten minutes.  No fidgeting, no channel surfing, no magazine thumbing.  Just be, exactly as you are, not trying to change anything.  Stay with your suffering until you fall through it and intuit the source of your life;
5350.  Just as your woman must regularly spend time with only women, you must regularly spend time with only men.  At least once a week, get together with your men friends to serve one another.  Cut through the bullshit and talk with each other straight.  If you feel your friend is wasting his life, tell him so, because you love him.  Welcome such criticism from your friends.  Suggest challenges for each other to take on, in order to bring each other through the fears which limit your surrender in gifting.  Always agree on consequences for not persisting in the challenge.  For instance, if you agree to ravish your wife for three hours every other day for a week, then also agree to mow your friend’s yard if you miss a day of ravishment;

Monday, April 10, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5251.  It is not time that kills delight, but familiarity, neutralization and lack of purpose.  Another man might find your woman to be quite a turn on even though she seems old-shoe to you.  It may not be your woman who has worn out, but your capacity for desire.  You may feel like having as little to do with her as possible.  But your lack of desire is only that: a lack of desire.  You have spent so much time with your woman that you have “rubbed off” on each other, like two magnets that have demagnetized each other.  Familiarity breeds depolarization and depolarization breeds contempt among lovers;
5252.  Every moment you treat your woman as simply a childcare helper or a buddy, you are neutralizing the same sexual differences that would secretly attract you to your female babysitter or business acquaintance.  Over time, you actually begin to behave more sexually neutral with your woman than you do with other women you meet throughout the day;
5253.  When your woman is looking withdrawn, dark or downright ugly, assume she is a goddess and needs your divine invasion of her heart and body.  Notice your incipient feeling of disgust for her dark mood and take utter responsibility for her transformation.  You know how fully committed you could be to, say, finishing a project at work.  Treat her mood with the some ferocity of intent.  Her mood is your challenge;
5254.  A superior man knows that when things get dreary, it is his own doing.  He knows that he is only truly happy when giving his gift, fully and to the last drop.  He knows that depolarization is a sign that he has ceased giving fully of himself and so the world and his woman have ceased responding in fullness;
5255.  A sunchoke is like a potato, but sweeter;
5256.  Sometimes you must move on, to another job or another woman.  That’s fine, if it is a true movement of growth: clear, empowering and an aspect of the ongoing giving of your gift.  But, more often than not, your first impulse to move on comes when you have ceased invading the moment with your fullest capacity to give and instead are droning along, coping rather than creating;
5257.  It only takes a moment of meeting a real challenge to bring a man back to full purpose, an emergency or a threat that demands his best.  And it only takes a moment of praise and deep appreciation to re-evoke a woman’s radiance.  It can happen to your woman at the grocery store or at the spa, when a man signals his appreciation, or it can happen at the kitchen table with you;
5258.  A good woman is a source of inspiration and attraction into the world for a man.  He must never forget, however, that neither the world nor his woman is the purpose of his existence;
5259.  In your worship of women, never forget that they die.  In your enjoyment of pleasure and delight, never forget that your sensations and feelings are fleeting and never absolutely enough.  Women can attract you, heal you and inspire your gifts, but they will never satisfy you absolutely.  Never;
5260.  The play of your body wanting her body is the most obvious hoax of fulfillment.  If you have ever gotten the woman you’ve wanted, you know that it’s never as good as you hoped for, at least not for very long.  And yet you continue to be attracted, over and over and over, to the same woman or to different women.  You are deceived by the mirage of your own desire.  You are deluded by your own excitement.  Women are not to blame.  They are to be cherished;
5261.  Women are the epitome of appearance, all appearance, everything around you, potential and actual.  And like women, all appearance seems to promise you something you want.  You want success from your job.  You want love from your woman.  You want pleasure from your body.  You want obedience from your dog.  When you don’t get what you want – when you lose money, your woman hates you, your body is in pain and your dog bites you – you are unhappy.  When you do get what you want, you are less unhappy;
5262.  Your ultimate desire is for the union of consciousness with its own luminosity, wherein all appearance is recognized as your deep, blissful nature and there is only one.  Your desire for union with a woman is a stepped-down version of this ultimate spiritual need;
5263.  You can use your desire as a doorway to spiritual oneness.  Magnify your desiring to the brink of madness.  Sustain it with full breath, relaxed body and open heart.  Embrace your woman, if you have one, and give her what you want from her.  Give it all to her.  Give it away to her.  Give her so much of what you want from her that you can’t tell who is who, the chaser has become the tail and all motion stops in the intensity of self-release.  There is only one;
5264.  In a moment of attraction, let your desire feel to her, but don’t stop there.  Feel through her.  Do this constantly.  Feel through her body when you are having sex with her.  Feel through her anger when she is raging at you.  Feel through her darkness when she seems ugly.  Feel through her beauty when she most attracts you.  By feeling through all of her forms, the superior man is not distracted or obsessed.  Rather, his attention feels through the mirage of other and he is released of need in the revelation of oneness;
5265.  Ejaculation, for the most part, actually depletes and weakens you.  It feels great for a few moments, but the price you pay for the genital sneeze of ejaculation is a much higher level of mediocrity in your daily life.  You will find that you just don’t have the extra gusto necessary to live your life with utter impeccability.  Excess ejaculations pave the road to living a good life, but not a great life;
5266.  Most women can experience many orgasms and deeper and deeper orgasms.  And more importantly, most women have a natural connection between their genitals and their heart.  When you ejaculate and lose your erection, you are probably depriving your woman of her fullest capacity of heart reception and expression, which is evoked by relaxed, loving, watery hours of your fearless and unstressful genital penetration.  It is not simply your genital penetration that touches her deeply, though.  The main penetration she feels is your yielding into her, through her, in love.  It is the fullness of your presence, the actual invasion of her body by your consciousness that most ravishes her;
5267.  Just as your woman tests you emotionally, so she will test you sexually.  Even when you are trying not to ejaculate, she may energetically begin to “pull” the ejaculation from you.  As always, her deepest pleasure is in feeling your fullness, your strength and your love, even while she is testing you.  When you don’t ejaculate, but demonstrate that the fullness of loving is more important to you than the quick thrill of genital release then she can truly trust you.  But she will continue to test your capacity for loving even once you’ve demonstrated your capacity to bypass ejaculation for the sake of a much more profound bliss;
5268.  The bottom line is this: If ejaculation is not completely a matter of conscious choice for you, your woman knows she controls you sexually.  And as long as she knows she’s in charge, she won’t trust you enough to relax fully in the force of your loving.  She will always keep her heart somewhat protected.  Rather than surrender so deeply in your embrace that she is splayed into divine brightness, she will go for whatever moist pleasures she can get before you lose interest;
5269.  The front of your body, especially your belly, is the place where your energy meets the energy of the world.  When the front of your body is open and relaxed, your power flows freely and your presence fills the room.  You’ve probably been with people who seem to occupy more space in the room than most people.  They seem to command attention even though they are not doing anything obvious to attract it.  The front of their body is so open that their energy flows freely through the room, magnifying their presence;
5270.  If the front of your body has accumulated tension, throughout the day and throughout the years, you will hardly be able to sit up straight.  Your belly and chest will be tight.  Your thoughts will center on yourself.  Your energy will remain constricted in your head and your awareness limited to self-concern.  Your powerful presence won’t fill the room at all.  You might not even be noticed;
5271.  Right now, notice your breath.  Are you inhaling so deeply you feel your genitals bulging slightly?  Is your belly rising and falling with your inhale and exhale like a mighty bellows?  Your belly and lower abdomen are special places of power.  If your breath does not reach these areas, you can’t recharge your batteries.  You will feel weak and unsure of yourself.  Your effect in the world will be minimal, less than your full potential;
5272.  The kinds of saturated fats circulating in the blood that are associated with heart disease are even-chain palmitic and stearic acid.  Most palmitic and stearic acids in the body are produced in your liver when you eat carbohydrates.  They don’t come from eating fat;
5273.  Carbs and alcohol (a form of sugar), not saturated fat, trigger high blood levels of stearic and palmitic acid;
5274.  Alcohol doesn’t trigger much insulin secretion and small amounts may be protective against heart disease;
5275.  Saturated fats (palmitic acid and stearic acid) in your blood that cause heart attacks come from eating sugar and carbs, not fat;
5276.  Saturated fats (margaric acid) that come from dairy and butter show a reduced risk of heart disease;
5277.  Omega-6 fats from vegetable oils show no benefit and may increase risk of heart attacks;
5278.  Omega-6 fats from poultry, eggs and beef (arachidonic acid) seem to be protective against heart disease;
5279.  Omega-3 fats from fish are the most protective against heart disease;
5280.  A study published in Lipids in 2010 compared the effects of a very low-carb, high-fat diet with either high amounts of omega-6 or high amounts of saturated fats.  The researchers examined blood levels of fats, cholesterol and inflammation before and after different dietary changes.  They controlled diets by providing all of the food.  When they then measured blood levels of important markers of cardiovascular health (including blood levels of saturated fat, cholesterol and inflammation markers), they found that more than doubling the dietary intake of saturated fat had no impact.  The group that ate more dietary saturated fat in the absence of sugar or refined carbs had lower levels of inflammation across the board;
5281.  Saturated fats cause inflammation only in the context of two things: low levels of omega-3 fats and high levels of carbohydrates.  Take out the high-carb foods and add omega-3 rich foods or supplements and saturated fat is not a problem;
5282.  Many studies confirm that blood levels of saturated fat (palmitic, stearic and palmitoleic acid) are significantly correlated with the development of type 2 diabetes and heart disease.  But these fats in the blood are not coming from the fat you eat.  They are produced by the liver in response to the carbs in your diet;
5283.  Your total cholesterol should be under 200 mg/dl;
5284.  Your triglycerides should be under 100;
5285.  Your HDL should be over 60 mg/dl;
5286.  Your LDL should ideally be under 80 mg/dl (although this matters less than the LDL particle number and size);
5287.  Your ratio of total cholesterol to HDL should be less than 3:1;
5288.  Your ratio of triglycerides to HDL should be no greater than 1:1 or 2:1.  If elevated, this ratio can indicate insulin resistance;
5289.  The (rosemary,) French fries at The Liberty Tavern (TheLibertyTavern.com) in Clarendon are tasty;
5290.  Saturated fat actually improves your overall cholesterol profile in the face of a low-carb diet by lowering triglycerides, raising HDL and decreasing the small, dangerous LDL particles;
5291.  Cholesterol is a fatty substance produced by the liver that is necessary for thousands of bodily functions.  The body uses it to help build your cell membranes and to cover your nerve sheathes as well as much of your brain.  It’s a key building block for hormone production; without it you would not be able to maintain adequate levels of testosterone, estrogen, progesterone and cortisol.  Even more important, without it, you would die;
5292.  People with the lowest cholesterol as they age are at the highest risk of death;
5293.  Under certain circumstances, higher cholesterol can actually help to increase life span;
5294.  Attraction in women is the feeling of being desired by a powerful man who she can trust.  Power can be expressed many ways.  It does not just mean money or status.  It can be intelligence, humor, confidence or just the ability to get things done.  Expressing a bit of power, whether it is in the way you dress, the way you carry yourself or the way you talk, is the first step to generating attraction;
5295.  One of the big things guys often do not understand is women do not really desire men.  Instead, women desire to be desired;
5296.  True confidence and self-esteem are about not judging yourself at all.  Confidence is a state of non-worry of being present and occupied with the world as it is and not as it ought to be or as we judge it to be.  True self-esteem is the state of accepting oneself for good and for bad;
5297.  Inhale deeply, through your nose, and breathe through whatever tensions you notice in your body.  Inhale deeply into your lower belly.  Then exhale.  On your next inhalation, breathe into your lower and upper belly.  Then exhale.  On your next inhalation, fill your entire belly then your solar plexus and lower chest.  Then exhale.  Then inhale and fill your belly, solar plexus and your entire chest in that order.  For several breaths, inhale fully in this way, filling your lower belly all the way down to your genitals then the rest of your belly, solar plexus and finally your chest.  Then exhale fully, slowly and smoothly.  Throughout the day, practice this kind of breathing in random moments.  Pay special attention to any part of your body that seems particularly tense or closed.  For instance, if the area around your navel seems tight, then inhale into that area.  Literally inhale right into that area and open it with the force of your inhaled breath.  Like filling a balloon, you can stretch open the entire front of your body with your inhale.  In this way, you counter the effects of accumulated fear and anxiety stored in your body, which diminish your presence and force in the world.  Throughout the day, as soon as you feel tension in the front of your body, inhale into that area and open it;
5298.  Consciously contract the muscles of the floor of your pelvis.  This area includes your genitals, anus and perineum, which is the space between your anus and genitals.  This exercise of contracting your pelvic floor feels a lot like you are trying to stop yourself from going to the bathroom.  In addition to contracting the floor of your pelvis, practice pulling it upward into your body and toward your spine.  This upward pull will actually lift your scrotum slightly up toward your body.  As a single movement, practice contracting and pulling upward the entire floor of your pelvis, including the anus, perineum and genitals.  You can practice this in sets of 15 or 20 contractions, holding them as long as you can.  Do several sets like this, three or four times a day;
5299.  While you are having sex, but before you are close to ejaculating, practice contracting your pelvic floor.  While you contract it and pull upward, breathe the energy up your spine.  You will have to experiment to determine whether to inhale or to exhale the energy up your spine, although most people find that exhaling up the spine works best.  If you combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up your spine, you should lose just a little bit of your erection as well as the need to ejaculate.  As you continue making love, repeat this exercise as often as you need to in order to maintain relaxation and openness;
5300.  While practicing this technique, you may notice that you occasionally come very close to having an orgasm.  At this point, stop moving, apply the upward contraction of your pelvic floor and breathe the orgasm energy up your spine.  In addition to the upward contraction of your pelvic floor while breathing up the spine, some men find it helpful to clench their fists and teeth while looking upward with their eyes, especially when the urge toward ejaculation is particularly strong.  With practice, all the muscular action becomes very subtle and gentle until the entire exercise is done primarily through your breath, feeling and intention;

Monday, March 27, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5201.  Dietary saturated fats don’t raise blood saturated fats.  It is carbs and sugar (and excess protein) that cause your liver to produce the saturated fats found in your blood;
5202.  A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her man’s life.  However, if she is the most important thing then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service.  She will feel her man’s dependence on her for his happiness and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging.  A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose and also to love her fully.  Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his highest purpose;
5203.  If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost.  You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart-impulse that moves you.  If you have lost touch with this impulse then you will begin to feel ambiguous in your life.  You will make decisions because you have to, but they won’t be guided by a deeper sense of purpose.  You may take on your woman’s purposes because they are stronger than yours.  You may adapt your need for direction to externally regulated purposes becoming a cogwheel company man or a dead-ended husband and parent without leaving yourself open to your own greatest vision;
5204.  Be careful not to substitute default responsibilities for true purpose.  It is easy to fill your day with chores and obligations coming up for air only long enough to watch some TV or have quick sex.  It’s also easy to give up entirely on living a life of absolute commitment to truth, settling for the common life of absolute commitment to work, family, intimacy and friends.  Yet, you can only be a superior professional, father, husband and friend when you are living these relationships as gifts given from your core not as what’s left over because you don’t have the guts to discover your core impulse and live on its basis;
5205.  If you aren’t living from your core, giving your fullest gifts, everyone will feel your lack of true purpose.  Your kids will challenge your authority.  Your colleagues will take advantage of you.  Your friends won’t expect much of you.  And your wife won’t trust you;
5206.  Even though she may seem to want to be the center of your life, she doesn’t.  She wants you to know the center of your life, so she can trust you.  Even if you must go off somewhere without her to fulfill your purpose, like a man going to war, she will be able to trust you and love you as long as your purpose is real and true;
5207.  If you are always watching TV, reading magazines or gambling, your woman will feel your trivialization of life.  She will feel you settling for less and will resent the frivolity of your will.  But if have discovered the purpose springing from your deepest core and if your entire life is aligned by this deep purpose, your woman will feel the truth of your choices.  Though she may not always like your choices, she will love them and she will love you for having the courage to live your truth.  She can relax and trust you because, even if you enjoy watching TV, reading magazines and gambling now and then, she knows that you would never compromise your highest purpose in life, which includes, but is not centered around nor dependent on your relationship with her;
5208.  Apparently, I can also say I’ve been to a rally with Jessica Chastain and Hermione Granger (i.e., Emma Watson);
5209.  After learning about body language, I (now) find bad posture in a woman (to be) unattractive;
5210.  Inspiration is a state of being here and now in this material world, while at the same time reconnecting to our spiritual origins.  In order to be receptive to inspiration, we need to eliminate the ego clutter that accumulates all too easily for most of us;
5211.  If you’re attempting to simplify your life here, you don’t need to purchase more of what will complicate and clutter your life.  If you can’t afford it, let it go until you can.  By going into debt, you’ll just add layers of anxiety onto your life.  That anxiety will then take you away from your peace, which is where you are when you’re in-Spirit.  When you have to work extra hard to pay off debts, the present moments of your life are less enjoyable; consequently, you’re further away from the joy and peace that are the trademarks of inspiration.  You’re far better off to have less and enjoy the days of your life than to take on debt and invite stress and anxiety where peace and tranquility could have reigned;
5212.  Do what your heart tells you will bring you joy rather than determining whether it will be cost-effective.  If you’d really enjoy that whale-watching trip, for instance, make the decision to do so.  Don’t deny yourself the pleasures of life because of some monetary detail.  Don’t base your purchases on getting a discount and don’t rob yourself of a simple joy because you didn’t get a break on the price.  You can afford a happy, fulfilling life;
5213.  Make an attempt to free yourself from placing a price tag on everything you have and do, after all, in the world of Spirit, there are no price tags.  Don’t make money the guiding principle for what you have or do; rather, simplify your life and return to Spirit by finding the inherent value in everything.  A dollar does not determine worth even though you live in a world that attempts to convince you otherwise;
5214.  Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life.  When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs.  Rather than atoning for faults with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service.  You will begin to do what you originally came here to do;
5215.  Notice the acts of kindness other people do rather than their shortcomings.  We are all good, decent, loving souls who occasionally get lost.  When you can focus on the good in another and hold that in your mind, you are acting from your higher self.  This can help dissipate fear and anger;
5216.  Remind yourself of how much you have to give away and of how precious and valuable your giving is;
5217.  Accept that you are enough.  You do not need to be anything you are not.  You do not need to prove yourself;
5218.  The joy and fulfillment found in the process of achieving your dreams and living with passion is often confused with the result of being rich.  Do not measure your life’s journey to success with the fickle accompaniment of monetary and riches.  Your journey should be measured by the memories gathered, not the receipts; the moments spent in passion, not cash; and happiness shared, not bought;
5219.  How to Find Your Money Personality: 1.  Protector (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTJ & ISFJ): By nature, you’re very conservative.  You think ahead and plan for the future.  You are consistent in your plan and often end up working the banking system, but not taking big Wall Street risks.  Though it’s a great way to be, it’s hard for you to spend in the here and now on things like taking a vacation.  You could also make bad on-the-spot decisions out of sheer panic.  Advice: Prepare for the unexpected by having a full emergency fund, which should cover at least six months of net income; 2.  Planner (Myers-Briggs Types: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ & INTP): Definitely a more long-term investing type of person, you are okay to take a calculated risk as long as you have a contingency plan.  You’ll likely track your finances closely.  You’re great at big-picture thinking, but be careful that you don’t become so focused on the forest that you don’t see the trees.  You could miss the opportunities right in front of you because of “analysis paralysis.”  Advice: Choose a portion of your income to divert immediately to long-term savings and set up another account specifically for “mad money” to use for indulgences today; 3.  Pleaser (Myers-Briggs Types: ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ & INFP): You take money personally.  It’s like an extension of yourself.  How you spend and save is an expression of your identity.  Think of the word pleaser two ways; pleasing yourself or others.  It’s different from planning because a pleaser is about emotional and relational needs in themselves and others.  Be careful others don’t take advantage of you and watch out for overspending because “you’re worth it.”  Advice: Steer clear of toxic friends who can manipulate your best intentions; and 4.  Player (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTP, ESFP, ISTP & ISFP): You love having the freedom to react to the moment and, since you’re characterized by a tendency to be compulsive, you’re unlikely to think long-term.  You’re often in the group with the highest financial risk.  The good news is you’re optimistic, resourceful and have a can-do attitude.  Most entrepreneurs are this personality type.  Advice: Slow down and focus on the advantages of your personality type to bring in and save money;
5220.  A man’s track record means nothing to the feminine.  A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he’s an asshole for 30 seconds his woman acts like he’s always been one.  The feminine responds to the moment of energy forgetting her man’s history of past behavior.  A man’s past behavior is irrelevant to his woman’s feeling in the moment.  But men base much on another man’s history of behavior so they think their own track record should count for something.  But to a woman, it doesn’t;
5221.  Instead of getting angry because she’s so upset that you made one little mistake in a long series of successes, instantly shift the energy between you.  Remember, history is irrelevant to the feminine, so your mistake is as easily forgotten as your successes.  As soon as you see she’s upset, immediately assume happiness.  Shock her with your love.  Make her smile and laugh with your humor.  Lick her neck or lift her off the ground and pretend you’re King Kong.  Surprise her in some loving way and the emotional slate will be wiped clean.  Your momentary failure will be effectively vanished as irrelevant as the long line of your successes;
5222.  Restore love and happiness in the present moment and don’t justify your little mistake by referring to your long line of successes;
5223.  A woman must be able to trust you to take charge if she relaxes her own masculine edge.  This is true financially, sexually, emotionally and spiritually.  The man doesn’t have to actually do all the work, but he must be able to steer the course if his woman is going to relax into her feminine without fear;
5224.  If you want your woman to be able to relax into her feminine and shine her natural radiance then you must relieve her of the necessity to be in charge.  This doesn’t mean you need to boss her around.  It means you need to know where you are heading and how you are going to get there, in every way, including financially and spiritually;
5225.  If you have the slightest uncertainty or ambiguity about your financial future, your woman will feel it.  You don’t have to say anything about it.  She’ll feel your doubt or ambiguity in your body, eyes and the tone of your voice.  It’s not that you have to make a lot of money; you just have to be responsible for your finances and take your future into account.  What’s important is that you are clear, accountable and directed from your deepest core of wisdom.  Then, your woman can relax.  She knows where you stand and what your plans are.  She can feel your integrity.  She can trust your direction because she knows it comes from your deepest core.  She is not swimming in the air of your uncertainty, but standing on solid ground, the ground that you’ve provided by your clarity;
5226.  The more ambiguous you seem, financially and spiritually, the more she will need to pour her energy and attention into her own masculine direction and goals.  For some women, this is great; they need to develop their own masculine energy.  Other women, however, have already developed their masculine.  They would like the opportunity to relax their own masculine and receive yours as a gift.  How can you tell if your woman’s self-direction is healthy for her?  If she becomes more and more full and happy as she pursues her direction then it is good for her.  If she becomes more and more stressful, taut and emotionally angular then she is animating excess masculine direction.  She is pushing herself in ways that may signal your irresponsibility;
5227.  You become more responsible by knowing your deepest purpose and then arranging your finances and spiritual life from that knowingness.  For your woman to relax in her radiance and feminine happiness, she needs to feel that she can get on your train and that it’s going exactly where she wants to go.  It doesn’t matter if your woman earns more or less money than you or even if she earns all the money in the relationship.  What matters is if she can feel your loving clarity, wisdom and certainty of direction.  As long as she can feel that you are taking the finances into account and arranging your lives together so that the deepest love and fullest gifts can manifest, she will be able to trust your masculine direction and relax in her feminine heart of radiance;
5228.  War, which is motivated by the desire for freedom, is a quintessential masculine pursuit.  Most sports are ritualized war, but actual war itself resonates with the core of most men.  Even movies about war, men being at their edge, giving it all they’ve got, up against death itself and motivated by a higher cause, evoke intense emotion in men.  The capacity to face death for the sake of freedom, whether actually in war or ritually on the football field or chess board, is the ultimate masculine act, evoking men’s deepest emotions;
5229.  The same capacity to face death is necessary for spiritual freedom.  To live free in spirit, you must be willing to face your fears and let go of anything that limits your love.  The attachment to comfort and security is what limits most men in their capacity to make a spiritual touchdown;
5230.  The feminine, on the other hand, is not seeking freedom, but love.  A woman’s bliss is not in emptiness, but in fullness.  Her means is not release, but surrender;
5231.  The feminine seeks fullness and abhors emptiness.  She will fill her empty shelves with knickknacks, seashells and pebbles collected from special places.  When she does not feel full of love, she seeks to fill herself with ice cream, chocolate or conversation.  Her dark side enjoys the emotional aggression in soap operas and romance novels.  She longs to fill her sense of spiritual emptiness by surrendering her heart and being filled with love.  Her basic means toward spiritual unity is surrender into the devotional fullness of unbounded love;
5232.  In the end, the feminine search for love and the masculine search for freedom reach the same destination: the unbounded and infinite ground of being who you are, which is both absolute love and freedom;
5233.  When you are unable to express your dark passions with love then they go underground in your psyche.  Your dark desires become disconnected from your heart.  Instead of being moved to embrace your woman with masculine force and aggressive passion – throwing her down on the bed, ripping off her clothes and pinning her down beneath your body as you both yield yourselves in ecstatic loving – you begin to fantasize about controlling and dominating women in unloving ways;
5234.  The desire to ravish is the sexual aspect of the same masculine desire that wants to break through opponents on a basketball court, break through philosophical barriers to intellectual insight or break through the fear of death into spiritual freedom.  The desire to ravish is the desire to break through a woman’s resistances to open her heart and body into ecstatic loving.  The pleasure is in releasing her from all the conventional restraints of her psyche, so she has no choice but to surrender in love;
5235.  When this masculine desire to ravish becomes dissociated from your heart then you will settle for breaking through a woman’s resistance without love, through violence or coercion;
5236.  Most men have entertained fantasies about forcing a woman to have sex against her will.  In fact, most women have entertained fantasies of being forced to have sex against their will.  The dark feminine desire, to be forced to surrender, is as strong as the dark masculine desire to penetrate through a woman’s resistance.  The difference between rape and ravishment is love;
5237.  Fearlessness or the capacity to transcend the fear of death for the sake of love, is a quintessential form of the ultimate masculine gift;
5238.  Although your woman doesn’t want you to be a killer, she is turned on by your capacity to kill and she is turned off by your lack of this capacity.  She doesn’t want you to be a killer, but she does want to feel that you are capable of facing death, if necessary.  In fact, she wants to feel you are capable of killing, if necessary;
5239.  A product labeled “trans fat free” can still contain up to 0.5 grams of trans fat content;
5240.  The best option is the one that creates more options;
5241.  There is one type of trans fat that is fine to eat and is even healthy.  Dairy and beef contain C.L.A. (conjugated linoleic acid), a different, naturally occurring trans fat that has beneficial effects on health and metabolism;
5242.  A study from Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center showed that diets high in trans fat increase belly fat and weight gain even without an increase in total calories;
5243.  A good way to get to know your partner sexually is to have her/him write down what turns her/him on (that) s/he wants to explore, what turns her/him on (that) s/he wants to keep as fantasy and what turns her/him off;
5244.  A man must be able to meet his woman with consciousness equivalent to her energy.  The feminine destructress must be met by the masculine destroyer.  The goddess of devotion must be met by the god of all-pervading love.  Dark or light, a man can’t be stuck in or avoid any areas of his masculine capacity or his woman will test him there.  These areas of testing are usually first on the dark side.  Only after trust is established there, only when the dark feminine lover knows she will be met by the dark masculine lover, will testing proceed toward the light;
5245.  Youthful sexual attractiveness is a temporary aspect of a much deeper and more fundamental quality of feminine energy: radiance.  Feminine radiance is not only the flush of a young woman’s cheeks or the glow of her skin, but is the shine of life force itself.  A woman’s true radiance reveals the degree to which she is open, trusting, connected and loving.  Her capacity to love, in turn, allows her body to be moved by the power of life force itself.  Herein lies the true nature of feminine radiance and power far beyond the simple sexiness of a naive young woman;
5246.  When a woman is young, her body more easily conducts life force and so she appears more radiant, in general, than an older woman.  But even amongst young women there are those who are pretty just on the outside and those whose beauty springs from their depths.  As a woman ages, her skin begins to lose its youthful capacity to conduct life force.  What remains obvious of her feminine radiance is primarily her beauty of depth;
5247.  If you are disconnected from your deep, masculine core of purpose and consciousness then you will also be disconnected from a woman’s depth.  You will see only skin deep and you will be attracted to the superficial display of a woman’s radiance, which often disappears with the passing of youth.  You will inadvertently dishonor the true and deep forms of feminine radiance and so contribute to the social cult of youth, wherein women try to look and behave younger and more superficial than they truly are denying the power and radiance springing from their depths;
5248.  When a man sees a beautiful woman, it is natural for him to feel energy in his body, which he usually interprets as sexual desire.  Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy.  He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body.  He should treat his heightened energy as a gift, which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world.  Through these means, his desire is converted into fullness of heart.  His lust is converted into service.  His desire is not converted by denying sexual attraction, but by enjoying it fully, circulating it through his body (without allowing it to stagnate as mental fantasy) and returning it to the world from his heart;
5249.  The purpose of sexual desire is creation.  Reproduction is but the biological aspect of creation.  As a man, you probably have much more to give the world than your children.  Just as beautiful women inspire biological procreation, they also inspire artistic, social and spiritual creativity.  When it comes down to it, most creative men will admit that, one way or another, women are their muse and inspiration.  Women bring them into the world.  Women move them to create and serve humanity.  In fact, some men would go so far as to say that, if it weren’t for women, they wouldn’t be interested in the world much at all;
5250.  When a man denies his desire for the feminine, either by choice or due to familiarity, it is a sign of his depolarization even toward the world.  He may seek a mistress in order to reinvigorate him, but this is usually only a temporary and complicated solution since it is only a matter of time before his mistress also becomes familiar and, thus, tiresome.  Any woman toward whom a man becomes depolarized will feel his rejection, disgust and turning away.  In response, she will become angry and destructive.  Her “unhusbanded” energy will begin to move chaotically, becoming even self-destructive.  A man has no excuse; he must cultivate a polarized relationship to his woman and his world if he is to remain in relationship with them;