Monday, March 13, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5201.  Dietary saturated fats don’t raise blood saturated fats.  It is carbs and sugar (and excess protein) that cause your liver to produce the saturated fats found in your blood;
5202.  A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her man’s life.  However, if she is the most important thing then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service.  She will feel her man’s dependence on her for his happiness and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging.  A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose and also to love her fully.  Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his highest purpose;
5203.  If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost.  You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart-impulse that moves you.  If you have lost touch with this impulse then you will begin to feel ambiguous in your life.  You will make decisions because you have to, but they won’t be guided by a deeper sense of purpose.  You may take on your woman’s purposes because they are stronger than yours.  You may adapt your need for direction to externally regulated purposes becoming a cogwheel company man or a dead-ended husband and parent without leaving yourself open to your own greatest vision;
5204.  Be careful not to substitute default responsibilities for true purpose.  It is easy to fill your day with chores and obligations coming up for air only long enough to watch some TV or have quick sex.  It’s also easy to give up entirely on living a life of absolute commitment to truth, settling for the common life of absolute commitment to work, family, intimacy and friends.  Yet, you can only be a superior professional, father, husband and friend when you are living these relationships as gifts given from your core not as what’s left over because you don’t have the guts to discover your core impulse and live on its basis;
5205.  If you aren’t living from your core, giving your fullest gifts, everyone will feel your lack of true purpose.  Your kids will challenge your authority.  Your colleagues will take advantage of you.  Your friends won’t expect much of you.  And your wife won’t trust you;
5206.  Even though she may seem to want to be the center of your life, she doesn’t.  She wants you to know the center of your life, so she can trust you.  Even if you must go off somewhere without her to fulfill your purpose, like a man going to war, she will be able to trust you and love you as long as your purpose is real and true;
5207.  If you are always watching TV, reading magazines or gambling, your woman will feel your trivialization of life.  She will feel you settling for less and will resent the frivolity of your will.  But if have discovered the purpose springing from your deepest core and if your entire life is aligned by this deep purpose, your woman will feel the truth of your choices.  Though she may not always like your choices, she will love them and she will love you for having the courage to live your truth.  She can relax and trust you because, even if you enjoy watching TV, reading magazines and gambling now and then, she knows that you would never compromise your highest purpose in life, which includes, but is not centered around nor dependent on your relationship with her;
5208.  Apparently, I can also say I’ve been to a rally with Jessica Chastain and Hermione Granger (i.e., Emma Watson);
5209.  After learning about body language, I (now) find bad posture in a woman (to be) unattractive;
5210.  Inspiration is a state of being here and now in this material world, while at the same time reconnecting to our spiritual origins.  In order to be receptive to inspiration, we need to eliminate the ego clutter that accumulates all too easily for most of us;
5211.  If you’re attempting to simplify your life here, you don’t need to purchase more of what will complicate and clutter your life.  If you can’t afford it, let it go until you can.  By going into debt, you’ll just add layers of anxiety onto your life.  That anxiety will then take you away from your peace, which is where you are when you’re in-Spirit.  When you have to work extra hard to pay off debts, the present moments of your life are less enjoyable; consequently, you’re further away from the joy and peace that are the trademarks of inspiration.  You’re far better off to have less and enjoy the days of your life than to take on debt and invite stress and anxiety where peace and tranquility could have reigned;
5212.  Do what your heart tells you will bring you joy rather than determining whether it will be cost-effective.  If you’d really enjoy that whale-watching trip, for instance, make the decision to do so.  Don’t deny yourself the pleasures of life because of some monetary detail.  Don’t base your purchases on getting a discount and don’t rob yourself of a simple joy because you didn’t get a break on the price.  You can afford a happy, fulfilling life;
5213.  Make an attempt to free yourself from placing a price tag on everything you have and do, after all, in the world of Spirit, there are no price tags.  Don’t make money the guiding principle for what you have or do; rather, simplify your life and return to Spirit by finding the inherent value in everything.  A dollar does not determine worth even though you live in a world that attempts to convince you otherwise;
5214.  Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life.  When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs.  Rather than atoning for faults with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service.  You will begin to do what you originally came here to do;
5215.  Notice the acts of kindness other people do rather than their shortcomings.  We are all good, decent, loving souls who occasionally get lost.  When you can focus on the good in another and hold that in your mind, you are acting from your higher self.  This can help dissipate fear and anger;
5216.  Remind yourself of how much you have to give away and of how precious and valuable your giving is;
5217.  Accept that you are enough.  You do not need to be anything you are not.  You do not need to prove yourself;
5218.  The joy and fulfillment found in the process of achieving your dreams and living with passion is often confused with the result of being rich.  Do not measure your life’s journey to success with the fickle accompaniment of monetary and riches.  Your journey should be measured by the memories gathered, not the receipts; the moments spent in passion, not cash; and happiness shared, not bought;
5219.  How to Find Your Money Personality: 1.  Protector (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTJ & ISFJ): By nature, you’re very conservative.  You think ahead and plan for the future.  You are consistent in your plan and often end up working the banking system, but not taking big Wall Street risks.  Though it’s a great way to be, it’s hard for you to spend in the here and now on things like taking a vacation.  You could also make bad on-the-spot decisions out of sheer panic.  Advice: Prepare for the unexpected by having a full emergency fund, which should cover at least six months of net income; 2.  Planner (Myers-Briggs Types: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ & INTP): Definitely a more long-term investing type of person, you are okay to take a calculated risk as long as you have a contingency plan.  You’ll likely track your finances closely.  You’re great at big-picture thinking, but be careful that you don’t become so focused on the forest that you don’t see the trees.  You could miss the opportunities right in front of you because of “analysis paralysis.”  Advice: Choose a portion of your income to divert immediately to long-term savings and set up another account specifically for “mad money” to use for indulgences today; 3.  Pleaser (Myers-Briggs Types: ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ & INFP): You take money personally.  It’s like an extension of yourself.  How you spend and save is an expression of your identity.  Think of the word pleaser two ways; pleasing yourself or others.  It’s different from planning because a pleaser is about emotional and relational needs in themselves and others.  Be careful others don’t take advantage of you and watch out for overspending because “you’re worth it.”  Advice: Steer clear of toxic friends who can manipulate your best intentions; and 4.  Player (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTP, ESFP, ISTP & ISFP): You love having the freedom to react to the moment and, since you’re characterized by a tendency to be compulsive, you’re unlikely to think long-term.  You’re often in the group with the highest financial risk.  The good news is you’re optimistic, resourceful and have a can-do attitude.  Most entrepreneurs are this personality type.  Advice: Slow down and focus on the advantages of your personality type to bring in and save money;
5220.  A man’s track record means nothing to the feminine.  A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he’s an asshole for 30 seconds his woman acts like he’s always been one.  The feminine responds to the moment of energy forgetting her man’s history of past behavior.  A man’s past behavior is irrelevant to his woman’s feeling in the moment.  But men base much on another man’s history of behavior so they think their own track record should count for something.  But to a woman, it doesn’t;
5221.  Instead of getting angry because she’s so upset that you made one little mistake in a long series of successes, instantly shift the energy between you.  Remember, history is irrelevant to the feminine, so your mistake is as easily forgotten as your successes.  As soon as you see she’s upset, immediately assume happiness.  Shock her with your love.  Make her smile and laugh with your humor.  Lick her neck or lift her off the ground and pretend you’re King Kong.  Surprise her in some loving way and the emotional slate will be wiped clean.  Your momentary failure will be effectively vanished as irrelevant as the long line of your successes;
5222.  Restore love and happiness in the present moment and don’t justify your little mistake by referring to your long line of successes;
5223.  A woman must be able to trust you to take charge if she relaxes her own masculine edge.  This is true financially, sexually, emotionally and spiritually.  The man doesn’t have to actually do all the work, but he must be able to steer the course if his woman is going to relax into her feminine without fear;
5224.  If you want your woman to be able to relax into her feminine and shine her natural radiance then you must relieve her of the necessity to be in charge.  This doesn’t mean you need to boss her around.  It means you need to know where you are heading and how you are going to get there, in every way, including financially and spiritually;
5225.  If you have the slightest uncertainty or ambiguity about your financial future, your woman will feel it.  You don’t have to say anything about it.  She’ll feel your doubt or ambiguity in your body, eyes and the tone of your voice.  It’s not that you have to make a lot of money; you just have to be responsible for your finances and take your future into account.  What’s important is that you are clear, accountable and directed from your deepest core of wisdom.  Then, your woman can relax.  She knows where you stand and what your plans are.  She can feel your integrity.  She can trust your direction because she knows it comes from your deepest core.  She is not swimming in the air of your uncertainty, but standing on solid ground, the ground that you’ve provided by your clarity;

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5151.  If a man is very masculine by nature, then he will be attracted to a very feminine woman, who will compliment his energy.  The more neutral or balanced he is, the more balanced he will prefer his woman.  And, if a man is more feminine by nature, his energy will be complemented by the strong direction and purposiveness of a more masculine woman.  By understanding their own needs, men can learn to accept the “whole package” of a woman.  For instance, a more masculine man can expect that any woman who really turns him on and enlivens him will also be relatively wild, undisciplined, “bonkers,” chaotic, prone to changing her mind and “lying.”  Still, from an energetic perspective, this kind of woman will be much more healing and inspiring to him than a more balanced or neutral woman who is steady, reasonable, “trustworthy” and able to say what she means in a way he can understand;
5152.  A woman’s feminine shine, the energy that moves her body, her utterly refreshing spontaneity and mystery, not to mention her delightful smile, are what attract you.  And the more feminine a woman is at her core, the less she is likely to evidence strong masculine traits, such as speaking clearly and unequivocally about thoughts and desires, rather than primarily expressing her feelings of the moment;
5153.  A woman with a more feminine sexual essence will say she loves you one moment and then, when you have done something you are not even aware of, she will say she hates you;
5154.  You are always attracted to your sexual reciprocal;
5155.  If you have a more feminine sexual essence, you will be attracted to a more masculine woman.  You have probably seen men and women in couples like this.  The man is more radiant and lively than the woman.  The woman is more committed to her direction in life than the man.  The relationship is more important to the man, whereas the woman likes to be left alone much of the time.  These are signs of a relationship where the man has a more feminine essence and the woman’s essence is more masculine;
5156.  Men, with more neutral sexual essences, prefer women who are also more neutral, neither particularly masculine nor feminine.  This kind of couple can talk about anything and they like talking about everything.  They share hobbies, friends, even career goals.  Though equally loving, this kind of couple is usually less sexually passionate than highly polarized couples.  It would be unusual to hear about this kind of neutral or balanced couple yelling at each other, throwing pillows, wrestling each other down to the floor and passionately making love right there and then;
5157.  Through lack of understanding, you might have depolarized yourself and your partner into a relationship that seems neutral, but actually isn’t.  Only about 10% of couples are actually the neutral or balanced type in their true essence.  Another 10% of couples are made up of a feminine man and masculine woman.  But if you are like 80% of couples, you have a masculine sexual essence and your woman has a feminine one.  That is, her feminine way frustrates you, drives you crazy, inspires you or turns you on, more often than she is simply your sexually neutral buddy;
5158.  The false neutralization or depolarization, of relationships is one of the main reasons that couples break up.  The rejuvenative charge of sexual loving becomes weak, while all the things that irritate you and your partner remain just as strong as ever.  The secret is not to try to change your woman’s irritating feminine ways, but to help cultivate the depth and rejuvenative power of her feminine blessings;
5159.  Choose a woman who is your complimentary opposite, which for most men means a more feminine woman.  It is only a feminine woman who can give the gifts that you, as a masculine man, need.  Along with these gifts, however, come the relative chaos and emotional weather storms that most men dread.  Realize these are aspects of the same energy that turns you on;
5160.  You will only be happy in intimacy if you choose a woman who is your sexual reciprocal as a partner.  And you will only be able to survive such an intimacy if her dark and light sides are equally embraceable to you.  It takes time to develop such skill and strength, but in doing so you learn to provide your woman with a man whose gifts are uncompromised by fear of feminine power and chaos;
5161.  The more you seek a woman who gives you everything, the less you get of anything.  When you don’t prioritize the purpose of your relationship, these different energies often cancel each other out and you are left with a sexually neutralized alliance;
5162.  Because you expect your intimate relationship to serve so many purposes, it begins to veer toward the utilitarian.  By constantly talking about finances, work, household and children, you turn your woman into a neutral companion.  You become so familiar with each other that the mystery of sexual enchantment becomes standardized into the ritual mechanics of kiss, stroke, lick, pump, spurt and snore.  You begin to long for the depth of desire you once felt with your woman.  Domesticity replaces mystery and talk replaces tumble;
5163.  You are the only one who can decide what is important to you in your relationship.  You are the only one who can clarify for yourself what the purpose of your intimacy is.  If you decide, however, that the purpose of your intimacy is the passionate transmission of love, the rejuvenative healing of sexual energy and the cultivation of heart through your mutual commitment to spiritual awakening, then be careful.  Don’t force your woman to be your on-call accountant.  Don’t expect her to always help you with your financial problems, like a career consultant.  Don’t emphasize the daily chores while disregarding the bodily transmission of love for days and days.  Don’t squash the fullness of her feminine energy into merely functional roles.  Your woman has the capacity to awaken your heart and fill your body with life.  You, however, must give her the opportunity as well as the fullness of your masculine transmission of love;
5164.  Any man with a masculine sexual essence will desire sexual variety.  Even if he loves his intimate partner and is completely committed to her, he will naturally want sexual occasions with other women besides his chosen intimate partner.  How a man deals with his desire for other women is up to him.  He should know, however, that there is no way to avoid such desires.  He should also know that acting on such desires, though temporarily enlivening and exhilarating, often ends up complicating his life far more than the occasion itself is worth;
5165.  Even if you are totally committed to your intimate partner in love, you probably think about having sex with other women.  Even if you are totally fulfilled by the sex you share with your woman, you probably still desire sex with other women.  Your desire for other women is not a reflection of any lack in your intimacy, it is a reflection of your nature as a masculine sexual being;
5166.  The desire for sex with other women is not an excuse for promiscuity any more than your enjoyment of television is an excuse for becoming an obese couch potato.  Desire springs from many sources, such as your addictions, your biological heritage, your childhood conditioning and your open heart.  To live a life of impeccable integrity, you must discriminate the source of your desire, so you know when to discipline your behavior for everyone’s benefit, including yours;
5167.  The fact is you probably want to have sex with other women besides your intimate partner; how you respond to this fact is a reflection of your purpose in life.  If your purpose is to enjoy physical pleasure no matter the consequences, then you should screw as many women as you want.  If your purpose is to be a nice boy and please “mommy,” then you should do what makes your woman happy.  If your purpose is to liberate yourself and others into love and freedom, then you should do whatever magnifies the love and freedom in your life and in the lives of those whom your actions affect;
5168.  Self-discipline is not self-suppression.  Suppression is when you resist and fight against your desires, keeping them as buried and unexpressed as possible.  Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion;
5169.  How many women you have sex with is your business.  Before you consider more than one, however, it is best to prove your capacity with one.  If you can’t handle one – if deep communion, rejuvenating passion and spiritual happiness are not the main features of your present intimacy – then you have not passed the test and it is best to discipline your desire for other partners since nobody is likely to be served;
5170.  Uncompromised, youthful, feminine energy turns you on and opens your heart.  You actually feel happier around young women.  You feel more energetic, alive and loving.  As women get older, they typically take on more and more masculine tasks and responsibilities in our culture so their radiance begins to decrease;
5171.  Some women are hotter, some are cooler.  In general, blonde, light-skinned, Japanese and Chinese women are cooler.  Dark-skinned, brunette, redheaded, Korean and Polynesian women are hotter.  Even though a man might choose to remain in a committed intimacy with one woman, his needs for different temperatures of feminine energy may change over time.  A hot woman, who aroused his passion several years ago, may irritate him now.  A cooler woman, who soothed his heart several years ago, may seem tiresome to him now.  By understanding how different temperatures of feminine energy may affect him, a man could make more skillful life choices without confusion;
5172.  Most men have a good intuitive sense of the difference between a woman who is cool and soothing and a woman who is hot and exciting, regardless of how they describe it.  And this difference has a lot to do with why men have different tastes for women and why your taste could change over time;
5173.  More than simple psychological preference determines your taste in women.  Energy plays a major role.  Sometimes you can be with a beautiful woman who just doesn’t do it for you.  You can see she is beautiful, you can understand why your friends find her attractive, but she just doesn’t suit your taste.  Different women offer different kinds of feminine energy.  And one of the simplest forms of this difference is the difference between hot and cool feminine energy;
5174.  If you are a particularly easygoing man, perhaps a man who has difficulty getting motivated, then a hot woman is probably better for you.  Her fiery nature can heat up your system and get you moving.  On the other hand, if you tend to be quick tempered and hot yourself, you might find that a more cooling woman heals you and brings a balance to your body and psyche;
5175.  Depending on your health, your lifestyle, your work demands and your emotional state, you may need different types of energy at different times.  The important thing is to know there is a difference so that you can be conscious of the choice you are making and how it might affect you;
5176.  You could get a professional massage, for instance, from a woman with cooling energy.  Sometimes all you need to do is spend a little time in the same room with a cool woman.  It’s important to realize that your needs for different kinds of energy will change throughout your life.  It’s something you will need to learn how to deal with.  It’s important that, in the meantime, you don’t mistake a changing energy need for a reason to end your marriage.  It’s also important to know that you can receive energy from different women in entirely nonsexual ways if you so choose;
5177.  When one man’s energy needs change and he finds himself getting the energy he needs from the woman in the office next door – the kind of energy that he isn’t getting from his wife – then he might end up having an affair or getting divorced.  Another man might communicate his changing energy needs to his wife and then find that she is more than able to creatively provide him with the flavor of feminine energy that most heals and rejuvenates him;
5178.  Don’t confuse your energy needs with a commitment in love.  Energy needs are relatively easy to balance.  You can probably get the energy you need from a masseuse or a change in diet.  If you react drastically and decide to leave your wife for a woman whose energy enlivens you more, you may be surprised when, in a few months, your energy needs change again and you realize you have made a very superficial choice;
5179.  If a man wants a woman who doesn’t want him, he cannot win.  His neediness will undermine any possible relationship and his woman will never be able to trust him.  A man must determine whether a woman really wants him, but is playing hard to get or whether she really doesn’t want him.  If she doesn’t want him, he should immediately cease pursuing her and deal with his pain by himself;
5180.  People who change their behavior over the long run also change the beliefs that cause their behavior.  Put another way, it is nearly impossible to make long-term changes to your behavior without also changing the way you think!
5181.  There are two parts to changing your beliefs: the first part is addressing and dealing with negative beliefs you might have accumulated that hold you back and the second is creating new positive beliefs that motivate you towards success;
5182.  Once you have identified a limiting belief, think about it a bit.  Is that belief rational?  Is there a simple way to go about changing it?
5183.  Once you have identified the limiting belief that is holding you back, the next step is to work towards changing that belief.  Sometimes, it is enough for us to simply realize that our beliefs are irrational or counterproductive, but often a deep-seated belief requires work or mental exercise to eliminate;
5184.  Now that you have figured out what new beliefs you want to instill in yourself, the next step is to try to drill these beliefs deep down into your brain.  It’s not enough to just consciously think these new thoughts, you need to practice them until they are part of your natural way of looking at the world.  Two good ways to drill yourself into acquiring new beliefs: 1.  Affirmations: Just as exercise shapes your body, thinking or saying things over and over to yourself shape your habitual thought patterns; and 2.  Visualization: Visualization is a very powerful way to change your deep behavior.  When you visualize something, in great detail, your subconscious tends to treat it as if it were a real experience;
5185.  The priority of the masculine core is mission, purpose or direction in life.  The priority of the feminine core is the flow of love in intimacy.  If a woman feels your feminine is stronger than hers, if she feels that the intimacy is more important to you than to her, then she will naturally animate her masculine.  She will want space, she will want freedom to pursue her own direction and she will be repulsed by your clinginess;
5186.  If it turns out that she really doesn’t want to be with you as much as you want to be with her then it is time to realize the relationship won’t work.  In such a case, the poles have become reversed, with your feminine desire for love meeting her masculine desire for freedom.  This is not viable grounds for intimacy between a man with a masculine essence and a woman with a feminine essence.  It is better to move on and work with your hurt than it is to continue demonstrating that your feminine desire is stronger than hers;
5187.  Sometimes a woman will make a request of her man in plain English, not to get him to do something, but to see if he is so weak that he will do it.  She is testing his capacity to do what is right, not what she is asking for.  In such cases, if the man does what his woman asks, she will be disappointed and angry.  The man will have no idea why she is so angry or what could possibly please her.  He must remember that her trust is engendered not by him fulfilling her requests, but by him magnifying love, consciousness and success in their lives, in spite of her requests;
5188.  Your woman will ask you to do all kinds of things every day.  Do not allow yourself to be swayed from your truth from the direction of your heart.  Underneath your woman’s superficial request is her actual desire and need: she wants your passionate fullness to pervade her, she wants to be able to trust the unshakability of your loving and she wants to feel in her bones that your divine masculine presence is stronger than your distractibility;
5189.  The thing your woman is complaining about is rarely the thing she is complaining about.  It is a mistake to believe the content of what she is saying and then respond to her complaints, point by point;
5190.  When she complains about financial issues, she is usually feeling a lack in your masculine capacity to direct your life with clarity, purpose, integrity and wisdom.  The money itself is secondary.  If you were poor but totally conscious, happy, full of integrity, fearless, humorous, loving and giving your fullest gift to the world and to your woman, she wouldn’t complain about lack of money;
5191.  Your word is a demonstration of your purpose of your masculine core.  When you don’t follow through with what you say you are going to do, she feels that your masculine core is weak.  She feels let down.  She can’t trust your masculine direction.  And so she feels a great loss.  Over time, she will begin to build up her own masculine protection against your lack of integrity.  She will begin to guard herself against the hurt that your lack of carry-through causes.  She will harden herself, becoming angular and tense;
5192.  One can of soda a day increases a child’s risk of becoming obese by 60 percent;
5193.  One can of soda a day increases a woman’s risk of type 2 diabetes by 80 percent;
5194.  Those with the highest intake of sugar have a 275 percent increased risk of heart attacks and those with the lowest intake have a 30 percent increased risk;
5195.  Even if you are skinny and drink sodas and never gain a pound, your risk of heart disease still goes up dramatically;
5196.  Saturated fat is bad when eaten with carbohydrates, but when eaten alone, not so much;
5197.  I can say I’ve been to a rally with Black Widow (i.e., Scarlett Johansson) and Supergirl (i.e., Melissa Benoist);
5198.  I can also say I’ve been to a rally with Dolores Abernathy (i.e., Evan Rachel Wood), Halsey, Bella Thorne and Ashley Judd too;
5199.  I can say I’ve marched in D.C. (sort of . . . I didn’t walk the whole way);
5200.  Apparently, Madonna and Alicia Keys were at the rally too;

Monday, February 27, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5101.  The spicy oxtail stew (i.e., oxtail, habanero, tomato, thyme, scallion & basmati rice) at Compass Rose (CompassRoseDC.com) in D.C. is pretty tasty too;
5102.  (Grilled) duck hearts remind me of sausage;
5103.  Massachusetts was the first colony to legalize slavery in 1641;
5104.  At least 700 black soldiers served at Valley Forge (during the Revolutionary War);
5105.  The Bank of the United States sold bonds in slaves that helped finance roads, levees, canals and railroads;
5106.  Insurance companies sold policies to guarantee the “soundness” of slaves’ bodies;
5107.  Abraham Lincoln won the 1860 election with less than 40 percent of the popular vote and without winning a single southern state;
5108.  If you’re craving a (Turkish) simit, try Simit + Smith (SimitAndSmith.com) in Georgetown;
5109.  Happiness doesn’t happen to you.  It’s something you create;
5110.  Action will always bring results.  Sometimes they are results we don’t like and sometimes things still go wrong, but you learn from that;
5111.  The only sure way to change your situation from what it is now to where you want it to be is to take action;
5112.  Doing nothing will always result in nothing happening;
5113.  It’s your life.  If you don’t like something, change it.  No one else will change it for you;
5114.  It’s easier to accept that something is impossible than it is to accept that you need to improve something about yourself;
5115.  Clarity comes in degrees.  And you only need enough light for the next step;
5116.  Waiting feels safe, but waiting kills dreams;
5117.  Watch out for the knockoff ad(vertisement)s on Instagram;
5118.  Apparently, you can depreciate residential real estate (i.e., the house, not the land, which is usually 80% of the purchase price) over 27 ½ years;
5119.  I don’t like mint tea;
5120.  The masculine grows by challenge, but the feminine grows by praise.  A man must be unabashed and expressed in his appreciation for his woman.  Praise her freely;
5121.  Only the masculine side of your woman will grow through challenge.  The feminine side thrives on support and praise;
5122.  Praise always magnifies the quality of your woman that you praise;
5123.  When speaking to your woman, it is always better to call the glass half full than half empty;
5124.  Praise is literal food for feminine qualities.  If you want your woman to grow in her radiance, health, happiness, love, beauty, power and depth, praise these qualities.  Praise them daily, a number of times;
5125.  It is a difficult practice for most men to learn, but you must learn to praise the very qualities you feel are not yet praiseworthy in order for them to become so;
5126.  Intimacy is about growing more than you could by yourself through the art of mutual gifting;
5127.  Just remember that any woman you are with, if she has a feminine sexual essence, will cycle through moods of closure every day which seem to have no “reason” to them.  You cannot avoid this by changing women or waiting for the moods to stop.  You can only develop your skill in serving your woman into openness.  It never ends though, even if you are passionate, fearless, loving and humorous with her;
5128.  90% of a woman’s emotional problems stem from feeling unloved;
5129.  Give her your love.  Walk over to her, look deeply into her eyes, hold her and stroke her, tell her how much you love her, smile, hum her favorite song and dance with her and chances are, her emotional problem will evaporate.  She may still have some situation to deal with and you may be able to help her with that, but the emotional aspect will be converted to love;
5130.  It is a very rare occasion when your analysis of her mood relieves her of it.  Most often, your analysis and attempts to fix her will just piss her off more;
5131.  Give her love through your eyes, touch, movement and tone of voice.  Then and only then, after the connection of love has been made, find out what remains to be talked about;
5132.  As a man, you can learn a lot about yourself by clearly analyzing your problems.  One of the best ways for you to grow is to use your discrimination, feeling what is causing unnecessary pain in your life and then changing whatever you need to change;
5133.  One of the deepest feminine desires in intimacy (though not in business or simple friendship) is to be able to relax and surrender knowing that her man is taking care of everything.  Then, she can simply enjoy without having to plan it all herself and tell her man what to do.  She can be pure energy, pure motion and pure love without having to analyze all the options and decide which ones are best.  She can enjoy her man taking responsibility for the direction so she can be what the feminine is: pure energy;
5134.  The masculine chooses a single goal and moves in that direction.  Like a ship cutting through a vast ocean, the masculine decides on a course and navigates the direction: the feminine energy itself is undirected, but immense, like the wind and deep currents of the ocean, ever changing, beautiful, destructive and the source of life;
5135.  (I can say) I was at Karl Alzner’s 500th consecutive(, regular-season) NHL game;
5136.  Apples, blackberries, celery and carrots (all) act as natural toothbrushes.  They are fibrous enough to clean teeth, but also can kill bacteria that cause bad breath;
5137.  Any time you try to force your woman to be more like a ship than an ocean, you are negating her feminine energy.  Any time you talk to her and expect her to analyze her mood and situation to the point of being able to fix it, you are talking “masculine” with her.  She can do it, she might even be better at it than you, but it won’t make her a happy woman;
5138.  A happy woman is a woman relaxed in her body and heart: powerful, unpredictable, deep, potentially wild and destructive or calm and serene, but always full of life, surrendered to and moved by the great force of her oceanic heart;
5139.  Women do not become free by analyzing themselves.  They become free by surrendering into love, not your love, their love.  They become free by surrendering to the immense flow of love that is native to their core and allowing their lives to be moved by this force in their heart.  It may involve moments of analysis, but primarily it involves deep trust;
5140.  One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present and unreactive in the midst of his woman’s emotional storms.  When he stays present with her and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trust ability and she can relax;
5141.  The way you relate to your woman’s chaos reflects the way you react to the chaos of the world.  If you are the kind of man who needs everything placed neatly in its nice little box, then you will also try to box your woman’s emotions.  If you are the kind of man who would rather hire other people to take care of the chaos in your attic or the chaos of your finances, you would probably also rather leave it to someone else to take care of the chaos of your woman;
5142.  A man abandons responsibility by expecting that his woman will always make her own decisions and then be accountable for the results.  This expectation is a withholding of his masculine gift.  It puts a woman in the position of magnifying her own masculine;
5143.  Your woman asks you for your input and you say, “Whatever you want to do is fine with me.”  This is the statement of a friend not a lover.  As friends, you want to treat each other fairly and give each other space and independence.  As lovers, you and your woman are more than just friends.  You are playing the full dynamic of masculine and feminine polarity.  Wouldn’t you like your woman to be a goddess and offer you her feminine gifts?  To evoke them, you must offer her your masculine gifts.  One of your most valuable masculine gifts is the ability to see all the options and make a decision based on this view of all the potential outcomes;
5144.  Feminine decisions are based on what feels right and often this is the best way to make a decision.  However, the point in intimacy is not simply to make the best decision, but to make the best decision while maintaining the force of masculine/feminine polarity that attracted you together to begin with.  If that polarity begins to diminish, conflicts will begin to increase.  When that polarity disappears, attraction disappears and the life of the intimacy disappears with it;
5145.  You need to play the masculine pole if you want your woman to play the feminine.  Offering your perspective on decisions is one way to give your masculine gift.  Even on the most trivial decisions, never say, “Do whatever you want.”  If she asks you which shoes you think look better on her, make a decision and tell her.  Don’t just say, “They’re both nice.”  Say something like, “I like the red shoes, but what’s most important to me is that you’re happy.”  She is, of course, free to wear whatever shoes she wants, but she is also the recipient of your masculine gift of decisiveness;
5146.  If you refuse to offer your masculine gift by saying things like, “I don’t really care.  It’s up to you,” then she will have to learn to depend on her own masculine capacity.  Another way to say this is that she will begin to trust her own masculine more than yours.  Then, you will find that she trusts you less and less across the board.  She will refuse to surrender to you even sexually because she hasn’t been able to relax and trust you all day; you haven’t offered her your masculine clarity and perspective, so she has to be her own man and give it to herself;
5147.  As a practice, always help your woman make decisions by giving her your perspective and telling her your choices, while letting her know that you love her regardless of the decision she makes;
5148.  If you feel uncomfortable with your attraction to women, you are probably uncomfortable with your own masculine essence.  If you feel it is demeaning for a woman to be the “object” of your polar attraction, then you have probably disowned your masculine core.  You have energetically emasculated yourself by condemning and suppressing your native desires.  You are negating your sexual essence, rather than being at home with it;
5149.  Any negative attitude you have about your attraction to women is a sign of fear; somewhere along the line you learned that such attraction was “bad” or “evil.”  Your attraction to women, all kinds of women, is natural, normal and beautiful;
5150.  Sexual attraction is very different from having sex.  There is a big difference between choosing to be intimate with a woman and simply being attracted to her energy and radiance.  Intimacy is a choice between people who want to commit to loving and serving one another.  Whereas the zing of attraction is a choiceless natural flow of energy between your masculine core and feminine energy, wherever it is found.  When a woman is relaxed in her feminine radiance, she is like beautiful music or a warm ocean breeze.  You don’t need to have sex with her to savor inexpressible joy;

Monday, February 20, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5051.  Job satisfaction requires three components: 1.  Passion – This is where it begins.  What do you care about?  What moves you?  What problems do you want to solve or issues you want to address?  If your heart is not in your work, you have a job but not a calling; 2.  Proficiency – Passion alone is not enough.  You have to be good at what you do.  Being good enough will not give you the satisfaction you desire.  You have to excel at your craft and be awesome.  Mastery is the goal; and 3.  Profitability – To enjoy a successful career, people must be willing to pay you for what you do.  You don’t have to get rich, but there must be a market for your product or service.  Otherwise, your career is not sustainable;
5052.  If you have passion and proficiency without profitability, you have a hobby;
5053.  If you have passion and profitability without proficiency, you have failure;
5054.  If you have proficiency and profitability without passion, you have boredom;
5055.  If you want to win with people, they not only have to know you; they also have to trust you.  Likability is the bridge between the two.  It’s a prerequisite to trust.  Why?  You’re not going to trust someone you don’t like;
5056.  Seven easy ways you can improve your likability quotient and up your trust with the people you meet and work with: 1.  Smile more.  Smiling is ground zero for likability.  It puts people at ease and draws them in.  It’s also contagious, so it lifts everyone’s mood.  Of course, the reverse is also true; 2.  Remember people’s names.  This isn’t easy for most of us.  And that’s all the more reason to try to improve. It sets you apart and gives you an edge.  Why?  People love being remembered and acknowledged by name; 3.  Look in people’s eyes.  Looking into people’s eyes communicates interest and worth.  When we connect eye-to-eye we demonstrate how much we value and appreciate the other person; 4.  Ask questions.  People love talking about themselves.  That’s important to know for two reasons.  First, it’s easy for leaders to monopolize conversations and alienate people.  Second, if you want to help people feel happy and engaged, giving them the freedom to talk about their own interests and projects is one of the easiest ways to do it.  That starts by asking great questions; 5.  Listen carefully.  It’s not enough to ask questions, you need to really listen.  We crave empathy and tend to like those who offer it to us; 6.  Be grateful.  If you want to make people feel as if their contribution really matters, take note and show gratitude.  When a teammate does something positive or helpful, recognize it.  When people feel valued by others, they usually respond in kind; and 7.  Celebrate milestones.  High achievers sometimes struggle with this last one.  Writing in Harvard Business Review, Teresa Amabile and Steven J. Kramer say this, “Of all the things that can boost emotions, motivation and perceptions during a workday, the single most important is making progress in meaningful work.”  Leaders, they say, “have more influence than you may realize over employees’ well-being, motivation and creative output.”  When we celebrate our progress, we not only validate our work, we also improve the mood.  All seven of these ways share one thing in common.  They demonstrate value and appreciation and that’s the key to likability;
5057.  Even if you don’t consider yourself a good listener, anybody can develop this skill.  Try these five practices: 1.  Be fully present; 2.  See it from their perspective; 3.  Clarify and echo key points; 4.  Focus on them, not your response; and 5.  Develop genuine curiosity;
5058.  Whatever the game, it usually takes more than skill to prevail.  Believe it’s possible, believe you are uniquely equipped to succeed and stay focused on bringing home the win;
5059.  We cannot always control our circumstances, but we can choose how we respond.  The hard thing is that sometimes we forget we have a choice.  We feel like the choice has already been made for us and we’re stuck with it;
5060.  No one runs your life unless you let them.  And you have far more power than you think;
5061.  Until you take responsibility, you are a victim;
5062.  The great thing about responsibility is, once you own it, you can begin fixing it.  This eliminates a lot of wasted effort in playing the victim and blaming others;
5063.  It is also important for leaders to take responsibility for the good results they produce;
5064.  Acknowledge what happened.  You can’t move past a setback if you don’t;
5065.  Failure is not the end unless you quit;
5066.  Tickets on the (Washington) Capitals Ticket Exchange (TicketExchangeByTicketmaster.com/Washington-Capitals-Tickets) may be cheaper than (tickets on) StubHub!;
5067.  Debbie Matenopoulos is rather attractive;
5068.  (I can say) I’ve been to the National Christmas Tree Lighting;
5069.  The Hallmark Channel has some serious directing issues (at least for the National Christmas Tree Lighting);
5070.  (I can say) I’ve sang Christmas carols (specifically “Feliz Navidad” and “Jingle Bells”) with President Obama(, Marc Anthony, Garth Brooks, James Taylor, Trisha Yearwood, Kelly Clarkson, The Lumineers, Yolanda Adams, Chance the Rapper and Eva Longoria);
5071.  Braden Holtby (of the Washington Capitals) orders carryout at Virtue (Feed & Grain) (VirtueFeedAndGrain.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria;
5072.  Kristy has cold hands;
5073.  Apparently, 1 in 10 babies in Europe is conceived in a bed made by IKEA;
5074.  Who would’ve thought that bacon and chocolate actually work (well) together?
5075.  Hot chocolate with rye whiskey is actually pretty good;
5076.  According to Luisa, I give good back massages;
5077.  The amount of (acting) talent in “Love Actually” is (rather) staggering;
5078.  Apparently, Tove Lo’s idea of a bra is pink tape covering her nipples;
5079.  Tove Lo can sing;
5080.  Daya can sing too;
5081.  It’s (kind of) strange when your date won’t look you in the eye when she’s talking to you;
5082.  The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what you dream your life is meant to be and the daily habits that drain life from that dream.  You can create a new alignment with your mental energy and instruct the universe to send opportunities to correct this imbalance;
5083.  However absurd it may seem to others, if you want to restore the balance between your dreams and your habits, you need to make a shift in the energy that you’re contributing to your dreams.  If you’re out of balance, it’s primarily because you’ve energetically allowed your habits to define your life.  Those habits, and the consequences thereof, are the result of the energy you’ve given them;
5084.  You get what you think about, whether you want it or not.  Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.  Give your personal dreams a place to hang out on the balance scale so that you can see them in your imagination and they can soak up the energy they deserve.  Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire.  You must learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want, even though you may feel compelled to continue your habitual behavior.  Your body might continue, for a while, to stay where it’s been trained to be, but meanwhile, thoughts are being aligned with your dreams;
5085.  Far away in the sunshine are my highest inspirations.  I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty, believe in them and try to follow where they lead;
5086.  Your intention to feel successful and experience prosperity and abundance depends on what view you have of yourself, the universe and, most importantly, the field of intention from which success and abundance will come.  The way you look at life is essentially a barometer of your expectations, based on what you’ve been taught you’re worthy of and capable of achieving.  These expectations are largely imposed by external influences such as family, community and institutions, but they’re also influenced by that ever-present inner companion: your ego;
5087.  Your expectations are largely based on the beliefs of limitation, scarcity and pessimism about what’s possible for you.  If these beliefs are the basis for how you look at life then this perception of the world is what you expect for yourself.  Attracting abundance, prosperity and success from these limiting viewpoints is an impossibility;
5088.  Kristy is an I.N.T.J.;
5089.  Georgia is north of Turkey;
5090.  Apparently, they serve turkey in Georgia, but not in Turkey;
5091.  Short-wavelength blue light plays an important role in determining your mood, energy level and sleep quality.  In the morning, sunlight contains high concentrations of this blue light.  When your eyes are exposed to it directly, it halts production of the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin and makes you feel alert.  In the afternoon, the sun’s rays lose their blue light, which allows your body to produce melatonin and this starts making you sleepy.  By the evening, your brain doesn’t expect any blue light exposure and is very sensitive to it.  Most of our favorite evening devices – laptops, tablets and mobile phones – emit short-wavelength blue light brightly and right in our faces.  This exposure impairs melatonin production and interferes with your ability to fall asleep as well as with the quality of your sleep once you do nod off;
5092.  If you can’t appreciate what you have now, you won’t be able to appreciate the “good life” if you ever get it;
5093.  You can edit a bad page, but you can’t edit a blank page;
5094.  I really like the Shepherd’s Pie at Ireland’s Four Courts (IrelandsFourCourts.com) in Arlington.  I think it’s (because of) the gravy;
5095.  Chicken has more flavor if you cook it with the skin on;
5096.  Reflection: 1.  What was awesome about this year?  List 3 awesome things that happened in each month of the year; 2.  Next questions are: A) What are you grateful for this year?  B) How did you feel about your life this year?  C) How do you want to feel in your life next year?  List as many things as you can in the gratitude department.  Reflect on how you felt about your life in 2016 without judgement.  Allow yourself those feelings.  No matter what they were, acknowledge and honor them.  Do a little meditation on how you want to feel in your life next year; 3.  Think about how you can apply the lessons you learned this year: A) What did you learn?  B) What could you have done to make this year better?  C) How can you build upon the lessons of this year to make next year rock?  Take your time with this process.  Reflection is not meant to be rushed.  Allow yourself to steep in the reflections for the last few weeks of this year.  Do some journaling on it.  Keep a notebook with you and jot things down as they come to mind; 4.  Finally, when you’ve done all that, say a little prayer of sorts.  Thank the universe for guiding you and helping your true potential to unfold.  Express your trust that everything is happening for your highest good and your belief that the universe has your back always and in all ways;
5097.  You won’t learn anything new if you think you know everything;
5098.  There are free performances every day at 6 o’clock (in the evening) at the Millennium Stage inside the Kennedy Center (Kennedy-Center.org/Video/Upcoming);
5099.  (George Frideric) Handel repeats a lot of lyrics in the “Messiah;”
5100.  The duck jerky at Left Door (LeftDoorDC.com) in D.C. is pretty tasty;

Monday, February 6, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5001.  Don’t pester your friends with your problems.  That’s not productive advice-seeking; it’s pointless whining;
5002.  The plain truth is that most people don’t want workable advice from certified mentors, who will propel them to the next level.  They want commiseration, comfort, understanding and justification for why they’re stuck;
5003.  What many people really want when they solicit advice is not advice at all, but rather validation that they’re right;
5004.  We say we need help getting outside of our box, but what we really want is for people to crawl into our box, relate to us and share our pain.  The only people qualified and able to get you out of your box are those who refuse to crawl inside with you.  Friends will cozy up with you inside your box.  True mentors won’t;
5005.  People will solicit advice.  They won’t like what they hear because it clashes with their preconceived notions.  So they’ll justify not following it by labeling it “negative;”
5006.  Legitimate mentors will tell you things you don’t want to hear.  It will feel like they’re insensitive to your pain while they tear your dream apart.  But all they’re doing is revealing the same pitfalls they fell into along your same path;
5007.  Within minutes, the right mentor can analyze your situation and tell you exactly what you’re doing wrong and how to fix it.  They’re not being negative or insensitive; they’re being realistic from hard-earned experience;
5008.  Sometimes change isn’t comfortable and sometimes neither is growth, but you can’t get anywhere in life without taking action;
5009.  Financial risk is in the investor, not the investment.  Mitigate risk by increasing your knowledge;
5010.  A woman often seems to test her man’s capacity to remain unperturbed in his truth and purpose.  She tests him to feel his freedom and depth of love, to know that he is trustable.  Her tests may come in the form of complaining, challenging him, changing her mind, doubting him, distracting him or even undermining his purpose in a subtle or not so subtle way.  A man should never think his woman’s testing is going to end and his life will get easier.  Rather, he should appreciate that she does these things to feel his strength, integrity and openness.  Her desire is for his deepest truth and love.  As he grows, so will her testing;
5011.  Every moment of your life is either a test or a celebration.  The same is true about every moment with your woman, only doubly so.  Not only is her simple existence a test for you, but one of her deepest pleasures in intimacy is testing you and then feeling you are not moved off course by her challenge;
5012.  It never ends.  This is the secret.  Finding a different woman won’t get you out of it.  Therapy won’t get you out of it.  Financial or sexual mastery won’t get you out of it.  Your woman is testing you because she loves you.  She wants to feel your truth.  She wants to feel your love.  And she wants to feel that your truth and love are stronger than the barbs she can throw at you.  Then she can relax and surrender into the polarity of man and woman.  Then she can trust you;
5013.  The most loving women are the women who will test you the most.  They want you to be your fullest, most magnificent self;
5014.  “Keeping your word” is a masculine trait in men or women.  A person with a feminine essence may not keep his/her word, yet it is not exactly “lying.”  In the feminine reality, words and facts take a second place to emotions and the shifting moods of relationship.  When she says, “I hate you,” “I’ll never move to Texas,” or “I don’t want to go to the movies,” it is often more a reflection of a transient feeling-wave than a well-considered stance with respect to events and experience.  On the other hand, the masculine means what it says.  A man’s word is his honor.  The feminine says what it feels.  A woman’s word is her true expression in the moment;
5015.  When you listen to your woman, listen to her as you would the ocean or the wind in the leaves.  The sounds you hear from her are sounds of the motion of her feeling-energy.  Of course, there are times when she speaks in the masculine style of meaning exactly what she says, but, more often and almost always in emotional moments, what she says is the sound of her feelings.  Her feminine speech is far more like poetry than like a clear cut agenda for action.  In an emotional moment, what she says she is going to do is actually an expression of what she feels like doing in the moment.  Her feelings and, therefore, what she is actually going to do, could change in five minutes.  It could change every five minutes;
5016.  The basic rule is this: Don’t believe the literal content of what your woman says unless love is flowing deeply and fully in the moment when she says it.  And even then, know that she is probably talking about her current feelings not necessarily about the subject of whatever she is talking about.  Never base your plans on what a woman says she wants to do unless she is in the full flow of love when she says it.  And then expect her to change her mind at any moment when her feelings change.  Remember that a woman’s feelings may be more sensitive to an unseen realm of nature than are yours.  Try to differentiate between your woman’s shifting moods and her sensitive wisdom;
5017.  Women are not liars although they often seem that way to men.  This is why a man must ultimately be responsible for making his own decisions based on the deepest truth he can fathom.  Otherwise, if he bends his course of truth to compromise for his woman’s current and changing expressions, he will probably end up blaming her;
5018.  You should hear what your woman has to say and feel her depth carefully.  Then, after you have fully considered her input, make your best possible decision from your own deep core.  This way, if your woman subsequently changes her mind, you won’t resent her for compromising your path;
5019.  When you get a letter from the I.R.S., first notice the color of the envelope.  If it’s brown, fear not, the I.R.S. has sent you a check, but if it’s white, you may be the subject of an audit;
5020.  How to handle an audit: 1.  Never talk to the I.R.S. yourself, let your C.P.A. do it; 2.  Don’t give any more information than the I.R.S. requires; and 3.  Be nice to your I.R.S. auditor;
5021.  There are two perceptive realities: one based on fear and one based on love.  They are both real, in a way, because they shape how we experience the world, but we get to choose;
5022.  Nothing’s going to happen for you if you just sit around waiting for something to happen.  Action has to be taken.  But not all actions are created equal.  Not all actions are the right actions.  It’s a matter of taking action that’s in alignment with your core values and beliefs;
5023.  Dark times are not always a bad thing.  They might suck at the time and they sure are painful to go through, but they can lead us to face uncomfortable truths about our lives that we often are unwilling to look at when things are just chugging along.  The truth remains unconscious until the pain of denial becomes stronger than the pain of facing up to it;
5024.  We tend to think of our lives as dull or small when we don’t love our lives the way they are and we feel like there’s something more exciting we could be doing with them, but often what we’re doing, when we feel like this, is we’re comparing our current reality to our dream reality;
5025.  No matter how much craziness is going on in your life, in society, on social media, in the news, you can choose peace instead of that.  It doesn’t mean that you can necessarily change what’s happening, but you can accept what is.  It doesn’t mean that you necessarily like it, but you can accept that it is what it is right now.  That’s the fact of the matter.  It doesn’t necessarily mean that you will do nothing about it moving forward, but you have to acknowledge, understand and accept what is, accept the fact that things are the way they are, before you can move forward in a meaningful way;
5026.  Do not be discouraged by your inability to dispel darkness from the world.  Light your little candle and step forward;
5027.  Remember that chemistry is inherently personal.  Even if you think she is the hottest thing since Adam and Eve that doesn’t mean that she has a crazy dating life or even gets hit on a lot.  In fact, if you’re talking to her and you actually have real chemistry, she probably feels exactly the same way about you;
5028.  Recognize that the desire to do something “special” comes from the belief that you are not enough by yourself(, but you are enough);
5029.  The most successful entrepreneurs put no time or energy into stressing about their failures as they see failure as a small and necessary step in the process of reaching their goals;
5030.  My (maternal) grandfather was editor-in-chief of the second largest newspaper in Kowloon and (in) Hong Kong;
5031.  My (maternal) grandfather died in a(n America) bombing raid three months before the end of World War II.  My mom was two and a half (years old) at the time;
5032.  My (maternal) grandmother was born in 1918;
5033.  My (maternal) grandmother was under 18 when she married my grandfather;
5034.  Positive emotions like gratitude help us become more resilient;
5035.  Gratitude keeps us hopeful;
5036.  Gratitude expands our possible responses.  Gratitude moves us into a place of abundance, a place where we’re more resourceful, creative, generous, optimistic and kind.  When we’re operating from a place of scarcity, it tends to make us reactionary, close-minded, tight-fisted, gloomy and even mean;
5037.  Positive emotions, say researchers, “broaden one’s thought-action repertoire, expanding the range of cognitions and behaviors that come to mind.  These broadened mindsets, in turn, build an individual’s physical, intellectual and social resources.”  In other words, they make us more resilient;
5038.  One of the challenges in reaching our long-term goals is getting derailed by short-term gains.  These are decisions that look good in the moment; instant gratification usually does.  But they actually prevent us from making progress or even set us back;
5039.  Gratitude keeps you going.  In one study researchers, Robert A. Emmons and Anjali Mishra, had students list goals they hoped to reach over a two month period.  Ten weeks later they checked back and found the grateful students were closer than others in the study to reaching their goals;
5040.  Gratitude improves your patience.  A lot of times we take the easy out because we’re impatient.  Achieving big goals takes time and effort.  Thankfully, gratitude can keep you in the game;
5041.  Gratitude lowers your stress;
5042.  The seven steps to thinking big: 1.  Imagine the possibilities.  Give yourself permission to dream; 2.  Write down your dream.  This is the act that transforms a dream into a goal.  Amazing things happen when you commit something to writing.  Writing down your goals forces you to clarify what you want, motivates you to take action, helps you overcome resistance and gives you a way to objectively measure your success; 3.  Connect with what is at stake.  This is your rationale.  Unfortunately, it is a crucial step that people often omit.  Before you can find your way, you must discover your why.  Why is this goal important to you?  What will achieving it make possible?  What is at stake if you don’t?  What will you lose?  Your rationale provides the intellectual and emotional power to keep going when the path becomes difficult (which it will); 4.  Outline what would have to be true.  Rather than merely asking how to get from where you are to where you want to go, ask what would have to be true for your dream to become a reality.  Start with the dream and work backwards.  It’s the same for any goal; 5.  Decide what you can do to affect the outcome.  This is where you transition from the big picture to daily actions.  This is where people often get derailed.  They can’t see all the steps that will take them to their goal.  So rather than doing something, they do nothing.  You will never see the full path.  The important thing is to do the next right thing.  What can you do today to move you toward your dream? 6.  Determine when this will happen.  Someone once said that a goal is simply a dream with a deadline.  A deadline is one way to make the dream more concrete, which is exactly what thinking big is about.  A deadline also creates a sense of urgency that will motivate you to take action.  Force yourself to assign a “by when” date to every goal.  (If you get stuck, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen if I don’t hit this?”); and 7.  Review your goals daily;
5043.  You ought to be glad for the troubles on your job because they provide about half your income.  If it were not for the things that go wrong, the difficult people with whom you deal and the problems of your working day, someone could be found to handle your job for half of what you are being paid.  So start looking for more troubles.  Learn to handle them cheerfully and with good judgment, as opportunities rather than irritations, and you will find yourself getting ahead at a surprising rate.  There are plenty of big jobs waiting for people who are not afraid of troubles;
5044.  Problems can signal existing success.  Most of us accept the fact that failure brings problems, but sometimes we are surprised that success does too.  Achieving success doesn’t mean our problems disappear.  It means we get different challenges that correlate to our achievements.  There’s usually a link between the complexity of our challenges and the level of our responsibility.  Chances are good the bigger your problems, the greater success you have and are already experiencing;
5045.  Problems spur greater success.  Solving problems stretches us personally and professionally.  Without problems, there aren’t opportunities.  And without opportunities, we can’t grow, be given more responsibility or make more money.  In fact, if you ever find yourself in a job without problems, you should immediately start looking for another one.  It’s a sure sign you’re stuck;
5046.  Problems engender confidence.  This is one of the key reasons Navy SEALs endure the most grueling training imaginable.  “You can’t learn the confidence adversity teaches you in a classroom or from a book,” SEAL Alden Mills says, “You learn it from experience.”  Only when we see ourselves overcoming problems do we gain the confidence to know we can do it again;
5047.  Problems expand our understanding.  When we’ve faced challenges, we know what it’s like.  And we can apply that knowledge to others, a critical skill for leaders to develop.  A leader who’s overcome significant problems will know what s/he can expect from her/his team.  And s/he’ll know how to help them reach their goals;
5048.  Fears are almost always based on unknowns, when we become familiar with our fears, it often kills them;
5049.  Apparently, (unopened) cans of “Red Bull” will explode after 12 years or so;
5050.  Anger can be healthy, if it’s directed in the right way.  The most helpful way to direct your anger is to use it as motivation to find a solution.  This is the most peaceful, helpful, productive way to use your anger.  The least helpful way to use your anger is to direct it into an unproductive loop of blame, complain and demean;