Monday, April 24, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5301.  Rather than fantasizing or entertaining inward sexual imagery of any kind, remain totally present, aware of your own body, breath and mind, and especially attentive to your partner.  Break the masturbatory habit of inward fantasy by consciously practicing sex as a relational play of love with your partner;
5302.  Keep your body and breath relaxed and full.  Especially keep the front of your body relaxed, so that your belly is vast and your heart is soft and wide.  This will help prevent too much tension from accumulating in any one area;
5303.  Learn to feel into and then through your partner, so that your attention is directed beyond your own sensations and even beyond your partner’s sensations.  Practice feeling outward, without limit, as if you were feeling to infinity.  Whatever you are feeling, feel it fully and then feel through and beyond it so that sex becomes a constant feeling through and beyond every sensation rather than focusing on any particular sensation;
5304.  Throughout the day and during the sexual session, practice breathing so that your inhalation moves energy down the front of your body and the exhalation moves energy up your spine.  Excessive, chronic thinking or addiction to ejaculation is often a sign that your energy is blocked and you are not yet breathing fully in this circle throughout the day;
5305.  During sex, occasionally practice the upward contraction of the floor of your pelvis while breathing sexual energy up your spine so it fills your whole body.  Especially as you begin to approach orgasm, you can combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up the spine in order to shoot your orgasm up into your brain and even out through the top of your head rather than down and out your genitals.  This upward orgasm will then feel like it is gently seeping down through every cell of your body saturating you with thick open light;
5306.  Although you and your woman are equal beings, you are very different creatures.  If she has a feminine sexual essence, her core will be fulfilled when love is flowing.  For example, she can experience difficulties in her career, but if full love is flowing in her life with her children, friends and with you then her core will be fulfilled;
5307.  If you have a masculine sexual essence, then your woman and children can be loving you all day and night, but if your career or mission is obstructed, you will not feel at ease.  You won’t even want to share much intimate time with your woman until you have your career or mission back on track;
5308.  Your woman’s core is fulfilled by love.  Your core is released from stress by aligning your life with your mission.  To you, intimacy is something to be enjoyed in addition to your purpose.  To your woman, intimacy is at the core of her life and the tone of your intimacy colors everything else she does;
5309.  When your intimacy is going great, your woman’s life is filled with the color of love.  She feels good at work, at home, in bed.  When the intimacy is not going so great, when your woman feels unloved, rejected, hurt or abandoned by you then her day will be colored by hurt.  At work, at home and in the bed, the pain of “unlove” will color her disposition;
5310.  When your intimacy is going bad, you can’t wait to leave the house and go to work; there, you can be in your element, aligned with your purpose and happy.  For you, the intimacy is just one aspect of your life.  When you are absorbed in your mission, you often forget entirely about your intimacy.  For your woman, the intimacy is at the core of her life and colors everything else she does.  This is the primary asymmetry in intimacy;
5311.  If your woman has rejected her own feminine core, then she will struggle against her inherent heart-connection with you.  She will try to identify with her masculine side, attempting to de-prioritize you and your relationship.  She will think that she must “live her own life” and put more energy into her own career, for instance.  While it is obviously healthy for every man and woman to learn to become whole and independent, it is self-destructive for your woman to try to lessen the import of your relationship in her life.  If she has a feminine sexual essence, the desire for the flow of love is at her core, no matter how dedicated she is to her career or other activities;
5312.  The desire for intimate loving is as central to your woman’s life as the mission toward freedom – financial, psychological and spiritual – is to yours.  Think of how many hours a day you dedicate to your mission and compare that with how many hours a day you spend serving your woman’s deep desire for the magnification of love.  If you want her to honor and support you in your quest for freedom, you must honor and support her in her love of loving;
5313.  If you have a masculine essence and your woman has a feminine essence, you will never be as concerned, distraught or elated about your intimacy as your woman is.  Don’t fake it.  Don’t try to act concerned for the sake of your woman.  She can feel where you are really at.  Instead, be authentic to your core desires and dedicate your life, with utter impeccability, to your highest goals;
5314.  When your life is truly aligned with your highest purpose, you will become more present, more loving and more humorous.  Your woman will then be the first recipient of your magnified presence, love and humor.  If your intimacy is not constantly growing in this way, your life is not aligned with your highest purpose;
5315.  If your woman devotes herself to her true heart desires, you will feel it.  Her energy, radiance, wisdom and power to create heaven on earth will feed you constantly, even when it is not directed toward you.  You will be inspired by her magic, enchanted by her sexuality, awed by her knowingness and enlivened by the life that flows so lovingly through her body.  However, if she has chosen to deny her heart desire and adopt more masculine goals of purpose and mission as her core needs, both of you will suffer.  Her radiance will diminish, her guardedness will increase and neither of your hearts will feel relaxed in the intimacy;
5316.  Your woman could be a corporate executive and you could be a househusband.  That’s fine as long as you are living your highest purpose and her life is devoted to love.  Honor this primary asymmetry in yourself and in your woman.  Only when you are willing to support each other’s core desires will the intimacy give each of you what you want and then perhaps bring you beyond even that into the utter joy of being of which your relationship is only a hope;
5317.  In a review of studies where people consumed a mixture of omega-3 and omega-6 fats, there was a 27 percent reduction in heart attacks and death;
5318.  If studies increased only omega-6 fats, there was a 13 percent increase in heart attacks;
5319.  Randomized trials that used omega-6 fats alone (without any omega-3 fats) while reducing saturated and trans fats also showed an increased risk of death’
5320.  Many of the current recommendations from studies to consume omega-6 fats omitted a number of important studies and don’t distinguish between studies in which people only consumed omega-6 fats from those in which people consumed a combination of omega-3 and omega-6 fats;
5321.  Omega-6 fats easily oxidize or go rancid, which makes any cholesterol you do have much more likely to cause heart disease.  Even if your cholesterol is low, if it is oxidized or rancid, it is much more likely to cause heart attacks.  These fats are called OXLAMs or oxidized linoleic acid metabolites; think of them as rancid fats.  They are what make up the cholesterol plaques in your arteries;
5322.  There’s a public library in the Watergate (complex);
5323.  Never order a soda at Kingbird (in the Watergate Hotel in D.C).  It’s $6.00 for a dinky, 8 oz. bottle of Coke;
5324.  There are masculine and feminine gifts in intimacy and each gift comes with its own responsibility.  The direction of growth of a relationship is primarily the man’s responsibility.  The energy of an intimacy – pleasure, sexual flow and vitality – is primarily the woman’s responsibility.  A simplified way of saying this is that the man is responsible for the woman’s depth of love or openness of mood and the woman is responsible for the man’s “erection” or energy in the body;
5325.  Once you have grown into independent adulthood, you no longer need somebody to take care of you.  You can be responsible for yourself.  In particular, you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness.  Nobody can live your life for you.  You must create your own health, success and happiness;
5326.  Beyond self-responsibility lies the responsibility to give your gift.  It is important to grow beyond dependence on your intimate partner for your own happiness.  But it’s equally important to grow beyond simple independence and autonomy.  The next stage of intimacy after personal independence has been attained is the mutual flow of gifting or serving each other in love;
5327.  Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be and what you need to do to get there.  If you don’t know one of these then you need to discover it by any means necessary.  This vision is, essentially, the basic gift you have to offer your woman as well as the world.  If you have no higher vision than the day-to-day grind of housework, job, childcare, TV and vacations, you are failing your birthright.  Your woman will feel cheated and ungifted by you as will the world.  And they will both give you less of their gifts in return;
5328.  If your woman is always stressed out, you need to know what she could do with her life, in very practical terms, so she can relax.  If your woman feels unfulfilled most of the time, you need to know what she is missing;
5329.  Your main gift in intimacy is to guide her, moment by moment, out of her moods and into the openness of loving.  And then, day by day, to guide her life into greater degrees of divine love, even beyond the relationship, so that her life becomes primarily communion, gifting and celebration;
5330.  Like a musician practicing his art, you must practice, daily, the art of feeling through your fear, feeling to your edge and then living just beyond your edge neither slinking into private consolation nor pushing so hard you disconnect from your source.  The source that is your deepest truth must become more and more the impulse of your life.  Over time, all of your activities must become aligned to this source and so must your relationship;
5331.  Because you probably tend to become lost in your thoughts, in your goals and in your projects, one of the main gifts your woman can offer you is getting you into your body, into the present, into love, which connects you to your source.  Through her touch, her loving and her attractiveness, she can also give you energy so that your whole body becomes like an erection, full and alive and ready to penetrate the world into love.  If you have a masculine sexual essence, her special gift to you is to bring you back into your body with the attractive force of her feminine energy;
5332.  Direction in life is a masculine priority even in intimate relationship.  A less spiritually mature man may say to his woman, “My way or the highway!”  A man in the process of growing will often soften his direction and seek a compromise with his woman, playing Mr. Nice Guy.  But a superior man will not settle for less than the fullest incarnation of love of which he and his woman are capable.  With compassion, he slices through all bullshit and demands authenticity and humor.  It’s as if he were saying to his woman, “The divine way or the highway!”  It’s the same masculine insistence on direction that a weaker man will demand.  But rather than wanting his woman to follow his personal direction, a superior man wants her to move in the direction that most serves her growth in love and happiness;
5333.  If you don’t know your own direction in life, you certainly will stand on shaky ground offering your woman direction.  The first step is to align your own life so that, at least in this present moment, you are living at your edge, fully aligned with your sense of purpose.  If you are not absolutely certain that, in this moment, you are living exactly the life you need to then your woman will feel your lack of clarity and she will fight any kind of guidance you offer her;
5334.  If you don’t cut through and take direction, your woman will.  Masculine and feminine energies in intimacy are governed by the law of conservation.  The less masculine direction you are living in truth, the more masculine direction your woman will take on.  If you are working hard, but actually not living your true gift then your woman will resent your lack of deep direction.  She will begin to take on the masculine herself, trying to cut through your lolling, so that you feel the urgency, connect to your depth and really give your gift;
5335.  At your core, you are masculine, her masculine attempt to cut through your lolling will depolarize you.  You will bash heads with her, like two rams, since both of you are in your masculine.  And if you move into your feminine, things may get worse.  A deep habit may develop wherein no matter how strong you are in the business world, you become “pussy whipped” in your relationship.  Your woman gets sharp and masculine, you become falsely receptive and agreeable and, meanwhile, both of you feel like vomiting;
5336.  If your woman is chronically sharp with you, it is most likely a sign that, regardless of how successful you are outside of your intimacy, you are not aligning both of your lives with the highest truth.  You are not cutting through the underbrush of your duties and your woman’s moods to reveal the fertile source of your lives.  And so your woman must wield her own sword.  By the law of conservation of masculine and feminine energy, whatever masculine gifts you aren’t offering, your woman will naturally try to offer.  But since, in truth, your core is masculine, her masculine offerings will most likely turn you off, eventually even repulsing you;
5337.  A man rediscovers and fine tunes his purpose in solitude, in challenging situations and in the company of other men who won’t settle for his bullshit.  But women strengthen their feminine radiance best in the company of other women in mutual celebration and play.  A man must arrange for both forms of restoration: his own solitude and men’s gatherings and his woman’s time with other women;
5338.  If you spend too much time with your woman, you will rub off on each other in the worst way.  In order to get along together, she will begin to adopt your masculine patterns of speech, denying her feminine desire to flow in play and pleasure without having to make masculine-style sense or fulfill a purpose.  You will begin to adopt her feminine patterns of touch and affection, denying your desire to get down to it, with your mission or your woman.  Instead, you will find yourself pecking your woman on the cheek or giving her hugs and pats of lovey-dovey reassurance.  In short, the goddess and the warrior will become neutralized householders sharing only the mildest play of sexual polarity;
5339.  In order to enliven her feminine core, your woman should spend time every day in absolute abandon and celebration.  During these times of dancing, singing, laughter and sheer delight, her body and mind should be totally released of any obligation to be masculine – directed, controlled, structured or goal-oriented.  These occasions are most rejuvenating when she is with other women, magnifying and rejoicing in each other’s’ feminine radiance and flow.  If your woman lacks this frequent feminine rejuvenation, she will develop symptoms of depressed feminine energy: disease (especially in her more feminine parts), lack of life energy, low sexual desire and enjoyment and a blue, downhearted, despondent disposition;
5340.  Much of the modern men’s movement has concentrated on men reclaiming their inner feminine energy.  If you want to revitalize your own feminine energy, then you can do pretty much the same as women do to revitalize their feminine energy.  You can go out into the woods and sing and dance and laugh with your friends.  For men who have become rigidly stuck in their masculine direction, without allowing the flow of joy and sharing in their lives, this is good medicine;
5341.  For men who have lost their sense of purpose, who don’t know what their life is about or who have trouble aligning their life with their truth, singing and dancing aren’t the remedy.  The cure for lack of purpose is to be challenged to live at your edge, since you have lost the capacity to live there by yourself;
5342.  The two ways to bring you right to your masculine edge of power are austerity and challenge;
5343.  Austerity means to eliminate the comforts and cushions in your life that you have learned to snuggle into and lose wakefulness.  Take away anything that dulls your edge.  No newspapers or magazines.  No TV.  No candy, cookies or sweets.  No sex.  No cuddling.  No reading of anything at all while you eat or sit on the toilet.  Reduce working time to a necessary minimum.  No movies.  No conversation that isn’t about truth, love or the divine;
5344.  If you take on these disciplines for a few weeks as well as any other disciplines that may particularly cut through your unique habits of dullness then your life will be stripped of routine distraction.  All that will be left is the edge you have been avoiding by means of your daily routine.  You will have to face the basic discomfort and dissatisfaction that is the hidden texture of your life.  You will be alive with the challenge of living your truth rather than hiding from it;
5345.  Unadorned suffering is the bedmate of masculine growth.  Only by staying intimate with your personal suffering can you feel through it to its source.  By putting all your attention into work, TV, sex and reading, your suffering remains unpenetrated and the source remains hidden.  Your life becomes structured entirely by your favorite means of sidestepping the suffering you rarely allow yourself to feel.  And when you do touch the surface of your suffering, perhaps in the form of boredom, you quickly pick up a magazine or the remote control;
5346.  The other means, besides austerity, for rediscovering your masculine core is through challenge.  The more superficial forms of challenge include activities like mountain climbing, ropes courses, competitive sports and boot camp.  These forms of physical challenge instantly enliven the masculine sense of purpose and direction, in men and women;
5347.  Deeper forms of challenge involve directly giving your gift in ways that have been blocked by your fear.  If you have always been afraid of public speaking, you can take on the challenge of speaking in public once a week for three months.  If you fail and miss an appointment one week, the following week you must give three talks.  If you have always wanted to write a novel, but could never finish one, you tell your friends that you are going to complete one chapter a week (or a month) for the next year.  Every time you don’t complete your weekly goal, you owe your friends $100.00.  If you don’t complete your yearly goal, you owe them $10,000.00;
5348.  There must be a consequence for freezing in the face of fear.  There are obvious consequences for freezing in the face of fear when mountain climbing or playing competitive sports.  You must instill consequences throughout the rest of your life, unless you want to cling to the safety net of superficial pleasures;
5349.  Spend time every day in solitude with no distractions.  Just sit, for ten minutes.  No fidgeting, no channel surfing, no magazine thumbing.  Just be, exactly as you are, not trying to change anything.  Stay with your suffering until you fall through it and intuit the source of your life;
5350.  Just as your woman must regularly spend time with only women, you must regularly spend time with only men.  At least once a week, get together with your men friends to serve one another.  Cut through the bullshit and talk with each other straight.  If you feel your friend is wasting his life, tell him so, because you love him.  Welcome such criticism from your friends.  Suggest challenges for each other to take on, in order to bring each other through the fears which limit your surrender in gifting.  Always agree on consequences for not persisting in the challenge.  For instance, if you agree to ravish your wife for three hours every other day for a week, then also agree to mow your friend’s yard if you miss a day of ravishment;

Monday, April 10, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5251.  It is not time that kills delight, but familiarity, neutralization and lack of purpose.  Another man might find your woman to be quite a turn on even though she seems old-shoe to you.  It may not be your woman who has worn out, but your capacity for desire.  You may feel like having as little to do with her as possible.  But your lack of desire is only that: a lack of desire.  You have spent so much time with your woman that you have “rubbed off” on each other, like two magnets that have demagnetized each other.  Familiarity breeds depolarization and depolarization breeds contempt among lovers;
5252.  Every moment you treat your woman as simply a childcare helper or a buddy, you are neutralizing the same sexual differences that would secretly attract you to your female babysitter or business acquaintance.  Over time, you actually begin to behave more sexually neutral with your woman than you do with other women you meet throughout the day;
5253.  When your woman is looking withdrawn, dark or downright ugly, assume she is a goddess and needs your divine invasion of her heart and body.  Notice your incipient feeling of disgust for her dark mood and take utter responsibility for her transformation.  You know how fully committed you could be to, say, finishing a project at work.  Treat her mood with the some ferocity of intent.  Her mood is your challenge;
5254.  A superior man knows that when things get dreary, it is his own doing.  He knows that he is only truly happy when giving his gift, fully and to the last drop.  He knows that depolarization is a sign that he has ceased giving fully of himself and so the world and his woman have ceased responding in fullness;
5255.  A sunchoke is like a potato, but sweeter;
5256.  Sometimes you must move on, to another job or another woman.  That’s fine, if it is a true movement of growth: clear, empowering and an aspect of the ongoing giving of your gift.  But, more often than not, your first impulse to move on comes when you have ceased invading the moment with your fullest capacity to give and instead are droning along, coping rather than creating;
5257.  It only takes a moment of meeting a real challenge to bring a man back to full purpose, an emergency or a threat that demands his best.  And it only takes a moment of praise and deep appreciation to re-evoke a woman’s radiance.  It can happen to your woman at the grocery store or at the spa, when a man signals his appreciation, or it can happen at the kitchen table with you;
5258.  A good woman is a source of inspiration and attraction into the world for a man.  He must never forget, however, that neither the world nor his woman is the purpose of his existence;
5259.  In your worship of women, never forget that they die.  In your enjoyment of pleasure and delight, never forget that your sensations and feelings are fleeting and never absolutely enough.  Women can attract you, heal you and inspire your gifts, but they will never satisfy you absolutely.  Never;
5260.  The play of your body wanting her body is the most obvious hoax of fulfillment.  If you have ever gotten the woman you’ve wanted, you know that it’s never as good as you hoped for, at least not for very long.  And yet you continue to be attracted, over and over and over, to the same woman or to different women.  You are deceived by the mirage of your own desire.  You are deluded by your own excitement.  Women are not to blame.  They are to be cherished;
5261.  Women are the epitome of appearance, all appearance, everything around you, potential and actual.  And like women, all appearance seems to promise you something you want.  You want success from your job.  You want love from your woman.  You want pleasure from your body.  You want obedience from your dog.  When you don’t get what you want – when you lose money, your woman hates you, your body is in pain and your dog bites you – you are unhappy.  When you do get what you want, you are less unhappy;
5262.  Your ultimate desire is for the union of consciousness with its own luminosity, wherein all appearance is recognized as your deep, blissful nature and there is only one.  Your desire for union with a woman is a stepped-down version of this ultimate spiritual need;
5263.  You can use your desire as a doorway to spiritual oneness.  Magnify your desiring to the brink of madness.  Sustain it with full breath, relaxed body and open heart.  Embrace your woman, if you have one, and give her what you want from her.  Give it all to her.  Give it away to her.  Give her so much of what you want from her that you can’t tell who is who, the chaser has become the tail and all motion stops in the intensity of self-release.  There is only one;
5264.  In a moment of attraction, let your desire feel to her, but don’t stop there.  Feel through her.  Do this constantly.  Feel through her body when you are having sex with her.  Feel through her anger when she is raging at you.  Feel through her darkness when she seems ugly.  Feel through her beauty when she most attracts you.  By feeling through all of her forms, the superior man is not distracted or obsessed.  Rather, his attention feels through the mirage of other and he is released of need in the revelation of oneness;
5265.  Ejaculation, for the most part, actually depletes and weakens you.  It feels great for a few moments, but the price you pay for the genital sneeze of ejaculation is a much higher level of mediocrity in your daily life.  You will find that you just don’t have the extra gusto necessary to live your life with utter impeccability.  Excess ejaculations pave the road to living a good life, but not a great life;
5266.  Most women can experience many orgasms and deeper and deeper orgasms.  And more importantly, most women have a natural connection between their genitals and their heart.  When you ejaculate and lose your erection, you are probably depriving your woman of her fullest capacity of heart reception and expression, which is evoked by relaxed, loving, watery hours of your fearless and unstressful genital penetration.  It is not simply your genital penetration that touches her deeply, though.  The main penetration she feels is your yielding into her, through her, in love.  It is the fullness of your presence, the actual invasion of her body by your consciousness that most ravishes her;
5267.  Just as your woman tests you emotionally, so she will test you sexually.  Even when you are trying not to ejaculate, she may energetically begin to “pull” the ejaculation from you.  As always, her deepest pleasure is in feeling your fullness, your strength and your love, even while she is testing you.  When you don’t ejaculate, but demonstrate that the fullness of loving is more important to you than the quick thrill of genital release then she can truly trust you.  But she will continue to test your capacity for loving even once you’ve demonstrated your capacity to bypass ejaculation for the sake of a much more profound bliss;
5268.  The bottom line is this: If ejaculation is not completely a matter of conscious choice for you, your woman knows she controls you sexually.  And as long as she knows she’s in charge, she won’t trust you enough to relax fully in the force of your loving.  She will always keep her heart somewhat protected.  Rather than surrender so deeply in your embrace that she is splayed into divine brightness, she will go for whatever moist pleasures she can get before you lose interest;
5269.  The front of your body, especially your belly, is the place where your energy meets the energy of the world.  When the front of your body is open and relaxed, your power flows freely and your presence fills the room.  You’ve probably been with people who seem to occupy more space in the room than most people.  They seem to command attention even though they are not doing anything obvious to attract it.  The front of their body is so open that their energy flows freely through the room, magnifying their presence;
5270.  If the front of your body has accumulated tension, throughout the day and throughout the years, you will hardly be able to sit up straight.  Your belly and chest will be tight.  Your thoughts will center on yourself.  Your energy will remain constricted in your head and your awareness limited to self-concern.  Your powerful presence won’t fill the room at all.  You might not even be noticed;
5271.  Right now, notice your breath.  Are you inhaling so deeply you feel your genitals bulging slightly?  Is your belly rising and falling with your inhale and exhale like a mighty bellows?  Your belly and lower abdomen are special places of power.  If your breath does not reach these areas, you can’t recharge your batteries.  You will feel weak and unsure of yourself.  Your effect in the world will be minimal, less than your full potential;
5272.  The kinds of saturated fats circulating in the blood that are associated with heart disease are even-chain palmitic and stearic acid.  Most palmitic and stearic acids in the body are produced in your liver when you eat carbohydrates.  They don’t come from eating fat;
5273.  Carbs and alcohol (a form of sugar), not saturated fat, trigger high blood levels of stearic and palmitic acid;
5274.  Alcohol doesn’t trigger much insulin secretion and small amounts may be protective against heart disease;
5275.  Saturated fats (palmitic acid and stearic acid) in your blood that cause heart attacks come from eating sugar and carbs, not fat;
5276.  Saturated fats (margaric acid) that come from dairy and butter show a reduced risk of heart disease;
5277.  Omega-6 fats from vegetable oils show no benefit and may increase risk of heart attacks;
5278.  Omega-6 fats from poultry, eggs and beef (arachidonic acid) seem to be protective against heart disease;
5279.  Omega-3 fats from fish are the most protective against heart disease;
5280.  A study published in Lipids in 2010 compared the effects of a very low-carb, high-fat diet with either high amounts of omega-6 or high amounts of saturated fats.  The researchers examined blood levels of fats, cholesterol and inflammation before and after different dietary changes.  They controlled diets by providing all of the food.  When they then measured blood levels of important markers of cardiovascular health (including blood levels of saturated fat, cholesterol and inflammation markers), they found that more than doubling the dietary intake of saturated fat had no impact.  The group that ate more dietary saturated fat in the absence of sugar or refined carbs had lower levels of inflammation across the board;
5281.  Saturated fats cause inflammation only in the context of two things: low levels of omega-3 fats and high levels of carbohydrates.  Take out the high-carb foods and add omega-3 rich foods or supplements and saturated fat is not a problem;
5282.  Many studies confirm that blood levels of saturated fat (palmitic, stearic and palmitoleic acid) are significantly correlated with the development of type 2 diabetes and heart disease.  But these fats in the blood are not coming from the fat you eat.  They are produced by the liver in response to the carbs in your diet;
5283.  Your total cholesterol should be under 200 mg/dl;
5284.  Your triglycerides should be under 100;
5285.  Your HDL should be over 60 mg/dl;
5286.  Your LDL should ideally be under 80 mg/dl (although this matters less than the LDL particle number and size);
5287.  Your ratio of total cholesterol to HDL should be less than 3:1;
5288.  Your ratio of triglycerides to HDL should be no greater than 1:1 or 2:1.  If elevated, this ratio can indicate insulin resistance;
5289.  The (rosemary,) French fries at The Liberty Tavern (TheLibertyTavern.com) in Clarendon are tasty;
5290.  Saturated fat actually improves your overall cholesterol profile in the face of a low-carb diet by lowering triglycerides, raising HDL and decreasing the small, dangerous LDL particles;
5291.  Cholesterol is a fatty substance produced by the liver that is necessary for thousands of bodily functions.  The body uses it to help build your cell membranes and to cover your nerve sheathes as well as much of your brain.  It’s a key building block for hormone production; without it you would not be able to maintain adequate levels of testosterone, estrogen, progesterone and cortisol.  Even more important, without it, you would die;
5292.  People with the lowest cholesterol as they age are at the highest risk of death;
5293.  Under certain circumstances, higher cholesterol can actually help to increase life span;
5294.  Attraction in women is the feeling of being desired by a powerful man who she can trust.  Power can be expressed many ways.  It does not just mean money or status.  It can be intelligence, humor, confidence or just the ability to get things done.  Expressing a bit of power, whether it is in the way you dress, the way you carry yourself or the way you talk, is the first step to generating attraction;
5295.  One of the big things guys often do not understand is women do not really desire men.  Instead, women desire to be desired;
5296.  True confidence and self-esteem are about not judging yourself at all.  Confidence is a state of non-worry of being present and occupied with the world as it is and not as it ought to be or as we judge it to be.  True self-esteem is the state of accepting oneself for good and for bad;
5297.  Inhale deeply, through your nose, and breathe through whatever tensions you notice in your body.  Inhale deeply into your lower belly.  Then exhale.  On your next inhalation, breathe into your lower and upper belly.  Then exhale.  On your next inhalation, fill your entire belly then your solar plexus and lower chest.  Then exhale.  Then inhale and fill your belly, solar plexus and your entire chest in that order.  For several breaths, inhale fully in this way, filling your lower belly all the way down to your genitals then the rest of your belly, solar plexus and finally your chest.  Then exhale fully, slowly and smoothly.  Throughout the day, practice this kind of breathing in random moments.  Pay special attention to any part of your body that seems particularly tense or closed.  For instance, if the area around your navel seems tight, then inhale into that area.  Literally inhale right into that area and open it with the force of your inhaled breath.  Like filling a balloon, you can stretch open the entire front of your body with your inhale.  In this way, you counter the effects of accumulated fear and anxiety stored in your body, which diminish your presence and force in the world.  Throughout the day, as soon as you feel tension in the front of your body, inhale into that area and open it;
5298.  Consciously contract the muscles of the floor of your pelvis.  This area includes your genitals, anus and perineum, which is the space between your anus and genitals.  This exercise of contracting your pelvic floor feels a lot like you are trying to stop yourself from going to the bathroom.  In addition to contracting the floor of your pelvis, practice pulling it upward into your body and toward your spine.  This upward pull will actually lift your scrotum slightly up toward your body.  As a single movement, practice contracting and pulling upward the entire floor of your pelvis, including the anus, perineum and genitals.  You can practice this in sets of 15 or 20 contractions, holding them as long as you can.  Do several sets like this, three or four times a day;
5299.  While you are having sex, but before you are close to ejaculating, practice contracting your pelvic floor.  While you contract it and pull upward, breathe the energy up your spine.  You will have to experiment to determine whether to inhale or to exhale the energy up your spine, although most people find that exhaling up the spine works best.  If you combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up your spine, you should lose just a little bit of your erection as well as the need to ejaculate.  As you continue making love, repeat this exercise as often as you need to in order to maintain relaxation and openness;
5300.  While practicing this technique, you may notice that you occasionally come very close to having an orgasm.  At this point, stop moving, apply the upward contraction of your pelvic floor and breathe the orgasm energy up your spine.  In addition to the upward contraction of your pelvic floor while breathing up the spine, some men find it helpful to clench their fists and teeth while looking upward with their eyes, especially when the urge toward ejaculation is particularly strong.  With practice, all the muscular action becomes very subtle and gentle until the entire exercise is done primarily through your breath, feeling and intention;

Monday, March 27, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5201.  Dietary saturated fats don’t raise blood saturated fats.  It is carbs and sugar (and excess protein) that cause your liver to produce the saturated fats found in your blood;
5202.  A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her man’s life.  However, if she is the most important thing then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service.  She will feel her man’s dependence on her for his happiness and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging.  A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose and also to love her fully.  Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his highest purpose;
5203.  If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost.  You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart-impulse that moves you.  If you have lost touch with this impulse then you will begin to feel ambiguous in your life.  You will make decisions because you have to, but they won’t be guided by a deeper sense of purpose.  You may take on your woman’s purposes because they are stronger than yours.  You may adapt your need for direction to externally regulated purposes becoming a cogwheel company man or a dead-ended husband and parent without leaving yourself open to your own greatest vision;
5204.  Be careful not to substitute default responsibilities for true purpose.  It is easy to fill your day with chores and obligations coming up for air only long enough to watch some TV or have quick sex.  It’s also easy to give up entirely on living a life of absolute commitment to truth, settling for the common life of absolute commitment to work, family, intimacy and friends.  Yet, you can only be a superior professional, father, husband and friend when you are living these relationships as gifts given from your core not as what’s left over because you don’t have the guts to discover your core impulse and live on its basis;
5205.  If you aren’t living from your core, giving your fullest gifts, everyone will feel your lack of true purpose.  Your kids will challenge your authority.  Your colleagues will take advantage of you.  Your friends won’t expect much of you.  And your wife won’t trust you;
5206.  Even though she may seem to want to be the center of your life, she doesn’t.  She wants you to know the center of your life, so she can trust you.  Even if you must go off somewhere without her to fulfill your purpose, like a man going to war, she will be able to trust you and love you as long as your purpose is real and true;
5207.  If you are always watching TV, reading magazines or gambling, your woman will feel your trivialization of life.  She will feel you settling for less and will resent the frivolity of your will.  But if have discovered the purpose springing from your deepest core and if your entire life is aligned by this deep purpose, your woman will feel the truth of your choices.  Though she may not always like your choices, she will love them and she will love you for having the courage to live your truth.  She can relax and trust you because, even if you enjoy watching TV, reading magazines and gambling now and then, she knows that you would never compromise your highest purpose in life, which includes, but is not centered around nor dependent on your relationship with her;
5208.  Apparently, I can also say I’ve been to a rally with Jessica Chastain and Hermione Granger (i.e., Emma Watson);
5209.  After learning about body language, I (now) find bad posture in a woman (to be) unattractive;
5210.  Inspiration is a state of being here and now in this material world, while at the same time reconnecting to our spiritual origins.  In order to be receptive to inspiration, we need to eliminate the ego clutter that accumulates all too easily for most of us;
5211.  If you’re attempting to simplify your life here, you don’t need to purchase more of what will complicate and clutter your life.  If you can’t afford it, let it go until you can.  By going into debt, you’ll just add layers of anxiety onto your life.  That anxiety will then take you away from your peace, which is where you are when you’re in-Spirit.  When you have to work extra hard to pay off debts, the present moments of your life are less enjoyable; consequently, you’re further away from the joy and peace that are the trademarks of inspiration.  You’re far better off to have less and enjoy the days of your life than to take on debt and invite stress and anxiety where peace and tranquility could have reigned;
5212.  Do what your heart tells you will bring you joy rather than determining whether it will be cost-effective.  If you’d really enjoy that whale-watching trip, for instance, make the decision to do so.  Don’t deny yourself the pleasures of life because of some monetary detail.  Don’t base your purchases on getting a discount and don’t rob yourself of a simple joy because you didn’t get a break on the price.  You can afford a happy, fulfilling life;
5213.  Make an attempt to free yourself from placing a price tag on everything you have and do, after all, in the world of Spirit, there are no price tags.  Don’t make money the guiding principle for what you have or do; rather, simplify your life and return to Spirit by finding the inherent value in everything.  A dollar does not determine worth even though you live in a world that attempts to convince you otherwise;
5214.  Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life.  When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs.  Rather than atoning for faults with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service.  You will begin to do what you originally came here to do;
5215.  Notice the acts of kindness other people do rather than their shortcomings.  We are all good, decent, loving souls who occasionally get lost.  When you can focus on the good in another and hold that in your mind, you are acting from your higher self.  This can help dissipate fear and anger;
5216.  Remind yourself of how much you have to give away and of how precious and valuable your giving is;
5217.  Accept that you are enough.  You do not need to be anything you are not.  You do not need to prove yourself;
5218.  The joy and fulfillment found in the process of achieving your dreams and living with passion is often confused with the result of being rich.  Do not measure your life’s journey to success with the fickle accompaniment of monetary and riches.  Your journey should be measured by the memories gathered, not the receipts; the moments spent in passion, not cash; and happiness shared, not bought;
5219.  How to Find Your Money Personality: 1.  Protector (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTJ & ISFJ): By nature, you’re very conservative.  You think ahead and plan for the future.  You are consistent in your plan and often end up working the banking system, but not taking big Wall Street risks.  Though it’s a great way to be, it’s hard for you to spend in the here and now on things like taking a vacation.  You could also make bad on-the-spot decisions out of sheer panic.  Advice: Prepare for the unexpected by having a full emergency fund, which should cover at least six months of net income; 2.  Planner (Myers-Briggs Types: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ & INTP): Definitely a more long-term investing type of person, you are okay to take a calculated risk as long as you have a contingency plan.  You’ll likely track your finances closely.  You’re great at big-picture thinking, but be careful that you don’t become so focused on the forest that you don’t see the trees.  You could miss the opportunities right in front of you because of “analysis paralysis.”  Advice: Choose a portion of your income to divert immediately to long-term savings and set up another account specifically for “mad money” to use for indulgences today; 3.  Pleaser (Myers-Briggs Types: ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ & INFP): You take money personally.  It’s like an extension of yourself.  How you spend and save is an expression of your identity.  Think of the word pleaser two ways; pleasing yourself or others.  It’s different from planning because a pleaser is about emotional and relational needs in themselves and others.  Be careful others don’t take advantage of you and watch out for overspending because “you’re worth it.”  Advice: Steer clear of toxic friends who can manipulate your best intentions; and 4.  Player (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTP, ESFP, ISTP & ISFP): You love having the freedom to react to the moment and, since you’re characterized by a tendency to be compulsive, you’re unlikely to think long-term.  You’re often in the group with the highest financial risk.  The good news is you’re optimistic, resourceful and have a can-do attitude.  Most entrepreneurs are this personality type.  Advice: Slow down and focus on the advantages of your personality type to bring in and save money;
5220.  A man’s track record means nothing to the feminine.  A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he’s an asshole for 30 seconds his woman acts like he’s always been one.  The feminine responds to the moment of energy forgetting her man’s history of past behavior.  A man’s past behavior is irrelevant to his woman’s feeling in the moment.  But men base much on another man’s history of behavior so they think their own track record should count for something.  But to a woman, it doesn’t;
5221.  Instead of getting angry because she’s so upset that you made one little mistake in a long series of successes, instantly shift the energy between you.  Remember, history is irrelevant to the feminine, so your mistake is as easily forgotten as your successes.  As soon as you see she’s upset, immediately assume happiness.  Shock her with your love.  Make her smile and laugh with your humor.  Lick her neck or lift her off the ground and pretend you’re King Kong.  Surprise her in some loving way and the emotional slate will be wiped clean.  Your momentary failure will be effectively vanished as irrelevant as the long line of your successes;
5222.  Restore love and happiness in the present moment and don’t justify your little mistake by referring to your long line of successes;
5223.  A woman must be able to trust you to take charge if she relaxes her own masculine edge.  This is true financially, sexually, emotionally and spiritually.  The man doesn’t have to actually do all the work, but he must be able to steer the course if his woman is going to relax into her feminine without fear;
5224.  If you want your woman to be able to relax into her feminine and shine her natural radiance then you must relieve her of the necessity to be in charge.  This doesn’t mean you need to boss her around.  It means you need to know where you are heading and how you are going to get there, in every way, including financially and spiritually;
5225.  If you have the slightest uncertainty or ambiguity about your financial future, your woman will feel it.  You don’t have to say anything about it.  She’ll feel your doubt or ambiguity in your body, eyes and the tone of your voice.  It’s not that you have to make a lot of money; you just have to be responsible for your finances and take your future into account.  What’s important is that you are clear, accountable and directed from your deepest core of wisdom.  Then, your woman can relax.  She knows where you stand and what your plans are.  She can feel your integrity.  She can trust your direction because she knows it comes from your deepest core.  She is not swimming in the air of your uncertainty, but standing on solid ground, the ground that you’ve provided by your clarity;
5226.  The more ambiguous you seem, financially and spiritually, the more she will need to pour her energy and attention into her own masculine direction and goals.  For some women, this is great; they need to develop their own masculine energy.  Other women, however, have already developed their masculine.  They would like the opportunity to relax their own masculine and receive yours as a gift.  How can you tell if your woman’s self-direction is healthy for her?  If she becomes more and more full and happy as she pursues her direction then it is good for her.  If she becomes more and more stressful, taut and emotionally angular then she is animating excess masculine direction.  She is pushing herself in ways that may signal your irresponsibility;
5227.  You become more responsible by knowing your deepest purpose and then arranging your finances and spiritual life from that knowingness.  For your woman to relax in her radiance and feminine happiness, she needs to feel that she can get on your train and that it’s going exactly where she wants to go.  It doesn’t matter if your woman earns more or less money than you or even if she earns all the money in the relationship.  What matters is if she can feel your loving clarity, wisdom and certainty of direction.  As long as she can feel that you are taking the finances into account and arranging your lives together so that the deepest love and fullest gifts can manifest, she will be able to trust your masculine direction and relax in her feminine heart of radiance;
5228.  War, which is motivated by the desire for freedom, is a quintessential masculine pursuit.  Most sports are ritualized war, but actual war itself resonates with the core of most men.  Even movies about war, men being at their edge, giving it all they’ve got, up against death itself and motivated by a higher cause, evoke intense emotion in men.  The capacity to face death for the sake of freedom, whether actually in war or ritually on the football field or chess board, is the ultimate masculine act, evoking men’s deepest emotions;
5229.  The same capacity to face death is necessary for spiritual freedom.  To live free in spirit, you must be willing to face your fears and let go of anything that limits your love.  The attachment to comfort and security is what limits most men in their capacity to make a spiritual touchdown;
5230.  The feminine, on the other hand, is not seeking freedom, but love.  A woman’s bliss is not in emptiness, but in fullness.  Her means is not release, but surrender;
5231.  The feminine seeks fullness and abhors emptiness.  She will fill her empty shelves with knickknacks, seashells and pebbles collected from special places.  When she does not feel full of love, she seeks to fill herself with ice cream, chocolate or conversation.  Her dark side enjoys the emotional aggression in soap operas and romance novels.  She longs to fill her sense of spiritual emptiness by surrendering her heart and being filled with love.  Her basic means toward spiritual unity is surrender into the devotional fullness of unbounded love;
5232.  In the end, the feminine search for love and the masculine search for freedom reach the same destination: the unbounded and infinite ground of being who you are, which is both absolute love and freedom;
5233.  When you are unable to express your dark passions with love then they go underground in your psyche.  Your dark desires become disconnected from your heart.  Instead of being moved to embrace your woman with masculine force and aggressive passion – throwing her down on the bed, ripping off her clothes and pinning her down beneath your body as you both yield yourselves in ecstatic loving – you begin to fantasize about controlling and dominating women in unloving ways;
5234.  The desire to ravish is the sexual aspect of the same masculine desire that wants to break through opponents on a basketball court, break through philosophical barriers to intellectual insight or break through the fear of death into spiritual freedom.  The desire to ravish is the desire to break through a woman’s resistances to open her heart and body into ecstatic loving.  The pleasure is in releasing her from all the conventional restraints of her psyche, so she has no choice but to surrender in love;
5235.  When this masculine desire to ravish becomes dissociated from your heart then you will settle for breaking through a woman’s resistance without love, through violence or coercion;
5236.  Most men have entertained fantasies about forcing a woman to have sex against her will.  In fact, most women have entertained fantasies of being forced to have sex against their will.  The dark feminine desire, to be forced to surrender, is as strong as the dark masculine desire to penetrate through a woman’s resistance.  The difference between rape and ravishment is love;
5237.  Fearlessness or the capacity to transcend the fear of death for the sake of love, is a quintessential form of the ultimate masculine gift;
5238.  Although your woman doesn’t want you to be a killer, she is turned on by your capacity to kill and she is turned off by your lack of this capacity.  She doesn’t want you to be a killer, but she does want to feel that you are capable of facing death, if necessary.  In fact, she wants to feel you are capable of killing, if necessary;
5239.  A product labeled “trans fat free” can still contain up to 0.5 grams of trans fat content;
5240.  The best option is the one that creates more options;
5241.  There is one type of trans fat that is fine to eat and is even healthy.  Dairy and beef contain C.L.A. (conjugated linoleic acid), a different, naturally occurring trans fat that has beneficial effects on health and metabolism;
5242.  A study from Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center showed that diets high in trans fat increase belly fat and weight gain even without an increase in total calories;
5243.  A good way to get to know your partner sexually is to have her/him write down what turns her/him on (that) s/he wants to explore, what turns her/him on (that) s/he wants to keep as fantasy and what turns her/him off;
5244.  A man must be able to meet his woman with consciousness equivalent to her energy.  The feminine destructress must be met by the masculine destroyer.  The goddess of devotion must be met by the god of all-pervading love.  Dark or light, a man can’t be stuck in or avoid any areas of his masculine capacity or his woman will test him there.  These areas of testing are usually first on the dark side.  Only after trust is established there, only when the dark feminine lover knows she will be met by the dark masculine lover, will testing proceed toward the light;
5245.  Youthful sexual attractiveness is a temporary aspect of a much deeper and more fundamental quality of feminine energy: radiance.  Feminine radiance is not only the flush of a young woman’s cheeks or the glow of her skin, but is the shine of life force itself.  A woman’s true radiance reveals the degree to which she is open, trusting, connected and loving.  Her capacity to love, in turn, allows her body to be moved by the power of life force itself.  Herein lies the true nature of feminine radiance and power far beyond the simple sexiness of a naive young woman;
5246.  When a woman is young, her body more easily conducts life force and so she appears more radiant, in general, than an older woman.  But even amongst young women there are those who are pretty just on the outside and those whose beauty springs from their depths.  As a woman ages, her skin begins to lose its youthful capacity to conduct life force.  What remains obvious of her feminine radiance is primarily her beauty of depth;
5247.  If you are disconnected from your deep, masculine core of purpose and consciousness then you will also be disconnected from a woman’s depth.  You will see only skin deep and you will be attracted to the superficial display of a woman’s radiance, which often disappears with the passing of youth.  You will inadvertently dishonor the true and deep forms of feminine radiance and so contribute to the social cult of youth, wherein women try to look and behave younger and more superficial than they truly are denying the power and radiance springing from their depths;
5248.  When a man sees a beautiful woman, it is natural for him to feel energy in his body, which he usually interprets as sexual desire.  Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy.  He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body.  He should treat his heightened energy as a gift, which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world.  Through these means, his desire is converted into fullness of heart.  His lust is converted into service.  His desire is not converted by denying sexual attraction, but by enjoying it fully, circulating it through his body (without allowing it to stagnate as mental fantasy) and returning it to the world from his heart;
5249.  The purpose of sexual desire is creation.  Reproduction is but the biological aspect of creation.  As a man, you probably have much more to give the world than your children.  Just as beautiful women inspire biological procreation, they also inspire artistic, social and spiritual creativity.  When it comes down to it, most creative men will admit that, one way or another, women are their muse and inspiration.  Women bring them into the world.  Women move them to create and serve humanity.  In fact, some men would go so far as to say that, if it weren’t for women, they wouldn’t be interested in the world much at all;
5250.  When a man denies his desire for the feminine, either by choice or due to familiarity, it is a sign of his depolarization even toward the world.  He may seek a mistress in order to reinvigorate him, but this is usually only a temporary and complicated solution since it is only a matter of time before his mistress also becomes familiar and, thus, tiresome.  Any woman toward whom a man becomes depolarized will feel his rejection, disgust and turning away.  In response, she will become angry and destructive.  Her “unhusbanded” energy will begin to move chaotically, becoming even self-destructive.  A man has no excuse; he must cultivate a polarized relationship to his woman and his world if he is to remain in relationship with them;

Monday, March 13, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5151.  If a man is very masculine by nature, then he will be attracted to a very feminine woman, who will compliment his energy.  The more neutral or balanced he is, the more balanced he will prefer his woman.  And, if a man is more feminine by nature, his energy will be complemented by the strong direction and purposiveness of a more masculine woman.  By understanding their own needs, men can learn to accept the “whole package” of a woman.  For instance, a more masculine man can expect that any woman who really turns him on and enlivens him will also be relatively wild, undisciplined, “bonkers,” chaotic, prone to changing her mind and “lying.”  Still, from an energetic perspective, this kind of woman will be much more healing and inspiring to him than a more balanced or neutral woman who is steady, reasonable, “trustworthy” and able to say what she means in a way he can understand;
5152.  A woman’s feminine shine, the energy that moves her body, her utterly refreshing spontaneity and mystery, not to mention her delightful smile, are what attract you.  And the more feminine a woman is at her core, the less she is likely to evidence strong masculine traits, such as speaking clearly and unequivocally about thoughts and desires, rather than primarily expressing her feelings of the moment;
5153.  A woman with a more feminine sexual essence will say she loves you one moment and then, when you have done something you are not even aware of, she will say she hates you;
5154.  You are always attracted to your sexual reciprocal;
5155.  If you have a more feminine sexual essence, you will be attracted to a more masculine woman.  You have probably seen men and women in couples like this.  The man is more radiant and lively than the woman.  The woman is more committed to her direction in life than the man.  The relationship is more important to the man, whereas the woman likes to be left alone much of the time.  These are signs of a relationship where the man has a more feminine essence and the woman’s essence is more masculine;
5156.  Men, with more neutral sexual essences, prefer women who are also more neutral, neither particularly masculine nor feminine.  This kind of couple can talk about anything and they like talking about everything.  They share hobbies, friends, even career goals.  Though equally loving, this kind of couple is usually less sexually passionate than highly polarized couples.  It would be unusual to hear about this kind of neutral or balanced couple yelling at each other, throwing pillows, wrestling each other down to the floor and passionately making love right there and then;
5157.  Through lack of understanding, you might have depolarized yourself and your partner into a relationship that seems neutral, but actually isn’t.  Only about 10% of couples are actually the neutral or balanced type in their true essence.  Another 10% of couples are made up of a feminine man and masculine woman.  But if you are like 80% of couples, you have a masculine sexual essence and your woman has a feminine one.  That is, her feminine way frustrates you, drives you crazy, inspires you or turns you on, more often than she is simply your sexually neutral buddy;
5158.  The false neutralization or depolarization, of relationships is one of the main reasons that couples break up.  The rejuvenative charge of sexual loving becomes weak, while all the things that irritate you and your partner remain just as strong as ever.  The secret is not to try to change your woman’s irritating feminine ways, but to help cultivate the depth and rejuvenative power of her feminine blessings;
5159.  Choose a woman who is your complimentary opposite, which for most men means a more feminine woman.  It is only a feminine woman who can give the gifts that you, as a masculine man, need.  Along with these gifts, however, come the relative chaos and emotional weather storms that most men dread.  Realize these are aspects of the same energy that turns you on;
5160.  You will only be happy in intimacy if you choose a woman who is your sexual reciprocal as a partner.  And you will only be able to survive such an intimacy if her dark and light sides are equally embraceable to you.  It takes time to develop such skill and strength, but in doing so you learn to provide your woman with a man whose gifts are uncompromised by fear of feminine power and chaos;
5161.  The more you seek a woman who gives you everything, the less you get of anything.  When you don’t prioritize the purpose of your relationship, these different energies often cancel each other out and you are left with a sexually neutralized alliance;
5162.  Because you expect your intimate relationship to serve so many purposes, it begins to veer toward the utilitarian.  By constantly talking about finances, work, household and children, you turn your woman into a neutral companion.  You become so familiar with each other that the mystery of sexual enchantment becomes standardized into the ritual mechanics of kiss, stroke, lick, pump, spurt and snore.  You begin to long for the depth of desire you once felt with your woman.  Domesticity replaces mystery and talk replaces tumble;
5163.  You are the only one who can decide what is important to you in your relationship.  You are the only one who can clarify for yourself what the purpose of your intimacy is.  If you decide, however, that the purpose of your intimacy is the passionate transmission of love, the rejuvenative healing of sexual energy and the cultivation of heart through your mutual commitment to spiritual awakening, then be careful.  Don’t force your woman to be your on-call accountant.  Don’t expect her to always help you with your financial problems, like a career consultant.  Don’t emphasize the daily chores while disregarding the bodily transmission of love for days and days.  Don’t squash the fullness of her feminine energy into merely functional roles.  Your woman has the capacity to awaken your heart and fill your body with life.  You, however, must give her the opportunity as well as the fullness of your masculine transmission of love;
5164.  Any man with a masculine sexual essence will desire sexual variety.  Even if he loves his intimate partner and is completely committed to her, he will naturally want sexual occasions with other women besides his chosen intimate partner.  How a man deals with his desire for other women is up to him.  He should know, however, that there is no way to avoid such desires.  He should also know that acting on such desires, though temporarily enlivening and exhilarating, often ends up complicating his life far more than the occasion itself is worth;
5165.  Even if you are totally committed to your intimate partner in love, you probably think about having sex with other women.  Even if you are totally fulfilled by the sex you share with your woman, you probably still desire sex with other women.  Your desire for other women is not a reflection of any lack in your intimacy, it is a reflection of your nature as a masculine sexual being;
5166.  The desire for sex with other women is not an excuse for promiscuity any more than your enjoyment of television is an excuse for becoming an obese couch potato.  Desire springs from many sources, such as your addictions, your biological heritage, your childhood conditioning and your open heart.  To live a life of impeccable integrity, you must discriminate the source of your desire, so you know when to discipline your behavior for everyone’s benefit, including yours;
5167.  The fact is you probably want to have sex with other women besides your intimate partner; how you respond to this fact is a reflection of your purpose in life.  If your purpose is to enjoy physical pleasure no matter the consequences, then you should screw as many women as you want.  If your purpose is to be a nice boy and please “mommy,” then you should do what makes your woman happy.  If your purpose is to liberate yourself and others into love and freedom, then you should do whatever magnifies the love and freedom in your life and in the lives of those whom your actions affect;
5168.  Self-discipline is not self-suppression.  Suppression is when you resist and fight against your desires, keeping them as buried and unexpressed as possible.  Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion;
5169.  How many women you have sex with is your business.  Before you consider more than one, however, it is best to prove your capacity with one.  If you can’t handle one – if deep communion, rejuvenating passion and spiritual happiness are not the main features of your present intimacy – then you have not passed the test and it is best to discipline your desire for other partners since nobody is likely to be served;
5170.  Uncompromised, youthful, feminine energy turns you on and opens your heart.  You actually feel happier around young women.  You feel more energetic, alive and loving.  As women get older, they typically take on more and more masculine tasks and responsibilities in our culture so their radiance begins to decrease;
5171.  Some women are hotter, some are cooler.  In general, blonde, light-skinned, Japanese and Chinese women are cooler.  Dark-skinned, brunette, redheaded, Korean and Polynesian women are hotter.  Even though a man might choose to remain in a committed intimacy with one woman, his needs for different temperatures of feminine energy may change over time.  A hot woman, who aroused his passion several years ago, may irritate him now.  A cooler woman, who soothed his heart several years ago, may seem tiresome to him now.  By understanding how different temperatures of feminine energy may affect him, a man could make more skillful life choices without confusion;
5172.  Most men have a good intuitive sense of the difference between a woman who is cool and soothing and a woman who is hot and exciting, regardless of how they describe it.  And this difference has a lot to do with why men have different tastes for women and why your taste could change over time;
5173.  More than simple psychological preference determines your taste in women.  Energy plays a major role.  Sometimes you can be with a beautiful woman who just doesn’t do it for you.  You can see she is beautiful, you can understand why your friends find her attractive, but she just doesn’t suit your taste.  Different women offer different kinds of feminine energy.  And one of the simplest forms of this difference is the difference between hot and cool feminine energy;
5174.  If you are a particularly easygoing man, perhaps a man who has difficulty getting motivated, then a hot woman is probably better for you.  Her fiery nature can heat up your system and get you moving.  On the other hand, if you tend to be quick tempered and hot yourself, you might find that a more cooling woman heals you and brings a balance to your body and psyche;
5175.  Depending on your health, your lifestyle, your work demands and your emotional state, you may need different types of energy at different times.  The important thing is to know there is a difference so that you can be conscious of the choice you are making and how it might affect you;
5176.  You could get a professional massage, for instance, from a woman with cooling energy.  Sometimes all you need to do is spend a little time in the same room with a cool woman.  It’s important to realize that your needs for different kinds of energy will change throughout your life.  It’s something you will need to learn how to deal with.  It’s important that, in the meantime, you don’t mistake a changing energy need for a reason to end your marriage.  It’s also important to know that you can receive energy from different women in entirely nonsexual ways if you so choose;
5177.  When one man’s energy needs change and he finds himself getting the energy he needs from the woman in the office next door – the kind of energy that he isn’t getting from his wife – then he might end up having an affair or getting divorced.  Another man might communicate his changing energy needs to his wife and then find that she is more than able to creatively provide him with the flavor of feminine energy that most heals and rejuvenates him;
5178.  Don’t confuse your energy needs with a commitment in love.  Energy needs are relatively easy to balance.  You can probably get the energy you need from a masseuse or a change in diet.  If you react drastically and decide to leave your wife for a woman whose energy enlivens you more, you may be surprised when, in a few months, your energy needs change again and you realize you have made a very superficial choice;
5179.  If a man wants a woman who doesn’t want him, he cannot win.  His neediness will undermine any possible relationship and his woman will never be able to trust him.  A man must determine whether a woman really wants him, but is playing hard to get or whether she really doesn’t want him.  If she doesn’t want him, he should immediately cease pursuing her and deal with his pain by himself;
5180.  People who change their behavior over the long run also change the beliefs that cause their behavior.  Put another way, it is nearly impossible to make long-term changes to your behavior without also changing the way you think!
5181.  There are two parts to changing your beliefs: the first part is addressing and dealing with negative beliefs you might have accumulated that hold you back and the second is creating new positive beliefs that motivate you towards success;
5182.  Once you have identified a limiting belief, think about it a bit.  Is that belief rational?  Is there a simple way to go about changing it?
5183.  Once you have identified the limiting belief that is holding you back, the next step is to work towards changing that belief.  Sometimes, it is enough for us to simply realize that our beliefs are irrational or counterproductive, but often a deep-seated belief requires work or mental exercise to eliminate;
5184.  Now that you have figured out what new beliefs you want to instill in yourself, the next step is to try to drill these beliefs deep down into your brain.  It’s not enough to just consciously think these new thoughts, you need to practice them until they are part of your natural way of looking at the world.  Two good ways to drill yourself into acquiring new beliefs: 1.  Affirmations: Just as exercise shapes your body, thinking or saying things over and over to yourself shape your habitual thought patterns; and 2.  Visualization: Visualization is a very powerful way to change your deep behavior.  When you visualize something, in great detail, your subconscious tends to treat it as if it were a real experience;
5185.  The priority of the masculine core is mission, purpose or direction in life.  The priority of the feminine core is the flow of love in intimacy.  If a woman feels your feminine is stronger than hers, if she feels that the intimacy is more important to you than to her, then she will naturally animate her masculine.  She will want space, she will want freedom to pursue her own direction and she will be repulsed by your clinginess;
5186.  If it turns out that she really doesn’t want to be with you as much as you want to be with her then it is time to realize the relationship won’t work.  In such a case, the poles have become reversed, with your feminine desire for love meeting her masculine desire for freedom.  This is not viable grounds for intimacy between a man with a masculine essence and a woman with a feminine essence.  It is better to move on and work with your hurt than it is to continue demonstrating that your feminine desire is stronger than hers;
5187.  Sometimes a woman will make a request of her man in plain English, not to get him to do something, but to see if he is so weak that he will do it.  She is testing his capacity to do what is right, not what she is asking for.  In such cases, if the man does what his woman asks, she will be disappointed and angry.  The man will have no idea why she is so angry or what could possibly please her.  He must remember that her trust is engendered not by him fulfilling her requests, but by him magnifying love, consciousness and success in their lives, in spite of her requests;
5188.  Your woman will ask you to do all kinds of things every day.  Do not allow yourself to be swayed from your truth from the direction of your heart.  Underneath your woman’s superficial request is her actual desire and need: she wants your passionate fullness to pervade her, she wants to be able to trust the unshakability of your loving and she wants to feel in her bones that your divine masculine presence is stronger than your distractibility;
5189.  The thing your woman is complaining about is rarely the thing she is complaining about.  It is a mistake to believe the content of what she is saying and then respond to her complaints, point by point;
5190.  When she complains about financial issues, she is usually feeling a lack in your masculine capacity to direct your life with clarity, purpose, integrity and wisdom.  The money itself is secondary.  If you were poor but totally conscious, happy, full of integrity, fearless, humorous, loving and giving your fullest gift to the world and to your woman, she wouldn’t complain about lack of money;
5191.  Your word is a demonstration of your purpose of your masculine core.  When you don’t follow through with what you say you are going to do, she feels that your masculine core is weak.  She feels let down.  She can’t trust your masculine direction.  And so she feels a great loss.  Over time, she will begin to build up her own masculine protection against your lack of integrity.  She will begin to guard herself against the hurt that your lack of carry-through causes.  She will harden herself, becoming angular and tense;
5192.  One can of soda a day increases a child’s risk of becoming obese by 60 percent;
5193.  One can of soda a day increases a woman’s risk of type 2 diabetes by 80 percent;
5194.  Those with the highest intake of sugar have a 275 percent increased risk of heart attacks and those with the lowest intake have a 30 percent increased risk;
5195.  Even if you are skinny and drink sodas and never gain a pound, your risk of heart disease still goes up dramatically;
5196.  Saturated fat is bad when eaten with carbohydrates, but when eaten alone, not so much;
5197.  I can say I’ve been to a rally with Black Widow (i.e., Scarlett Johansson) and Supergirl (i.e., Melissa Benoist);
5198.  I can also say I’ve been to a rally with Dolores Abernathy (i.e., Evan Rachel Wood), Halsey, Bella Thorne and Ashley Judd too;
5199.  I can say I’ve marched in D.C. (sort of . . . I didn’t walk the whole way);
5200.  Apparently, Madonna and Alicia Keys were at the rally too;