9251. Dating is
like gambling. You’re expected to lose
way more than you win;
9252. Try not to become a man of success; rather a man of value;
9253. Acting out of love (or for the right reason) doesn’t (necessarily) mean it’ll be easy or fun;
9254. Karl Popper wrote, “In order to maintain a tolerant society, the society must be intolerant of intolerance. . . . I do not imply for instance, that we should always suppress the utterance of intolerant philosophies; as long as we can counter them by rational argument and keep them in check by public opinion, suppression would be most unwise. But we should claim the right to suppress them if necessary even by force;”
9255. It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed;
9256. According to U.S. News & World Report, “Americans spend more money at strip clubs than at Broadway, off-Broadway, regional and nonprofit theaters, the opera, the ballet and jazz and classical music performances combined;”
9257. Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves and spend without fear of bankruptcy;
9258. When porkstrami gets a little caramelized, it tastes like bacon;
9259. Using a (glass) cigar tube as a sex toy . . . check;
9260. We have a tendency to focus on the negative. Instead of reflecting on all our successes and the countless votes of support and encouragement, we tend to think about that one negative voice. Block that out and instead highlight the bright spots;
9261. When we view everyone with a different viewpoint as a naysayer, we’re selling ourselves (and them) short. Constructive criticism is tremendously important for personal and professional growth and, sometimes, the people who tell us what we need to hear(, but don’t want to hear) are the folks who care about us most;
9262. You may think that haters will go away if you apologize, but that’s like adding fuel to a fire. To them, apologizing means they win and, not only they don’t deserve that, it also means they’re likely to heat up even more;
9263. Judge people by their questions rather than by their answers;
9264. What trips up the scientists is the same cognitive failing we all share: it’s hard to be certain about what we think we know, but don’t really;
9265. Having misread the map, we’re sure we know where we are;
9266. In the face of evidence to the contrary most of us tend to go with our gut, but the gut can be an unreliable guide;
9267. The Food and Drug Administration tells its inspectors to ignore insect parts in black pepper unless they find more than 475 of them per 50 grams on average;
9268. Some estimates suggest that Americans unknowingly eat anywhere from 1 to 2 pounds of insects per year;
9269. Something feels natural or unnatural doesn’t mean it is;
9270. Hendrick’s (gin) is really smooth;
9271. Charlie (Dog) likes limes;
9272. If you’re trying to get better at anything it’s almost never going to be a straight shot. You’ll have to deal with the mess and b(ull)s(hit) that comes with it. But once you start to expect the messiness and realize pretty much every journey has its ups and downs and that perfection doesn’t exist, you’ll have a much better chance of getting where you’re trying to go. . . . And you’ll feel a lot better about yourself along the way;
9273. Go faster by using a successful person’s hindsight as your foresight;
9274. Orange wine is a thing. . . . It has nothing to do with (actual) oranges;
9275. How something “feels” is far from a reliable guide to distinguishing biological truth from cultural influence;
9276. It’s important to understand that evolution is not a process of improvement. Natural selection simply asserts that species change as they adapt to ever-changing environments;
9277. One of the chronic mistakes made by would-be social Darwinists is to assume that evolution is a process by which human beings or societies become better. It is not;
9278. Those organisms best able to survive in a challenging, shifting environment live to reproduce. As survivors, their genetic code likely contains information advantageous to their offspring in that particular environment. But the environment can change at any moment, thus, neutralizing the advantage;
9279. Despite repeated assurances that women aren’t’ particularly sexual creatures, in cultures around the world men have gone to extraordinary lengths to control female libido: female genital mutilation, head-to-toe chadors, medieval witch burnings, chastity belts, suffocating corsets, muttered insults about “insatiable” whores, pathologizing, paternalistic medical diagnoses of nymphomania or hysteria, the debilitating scorn heaped on any female who chooses to be generous with her sexuality are all parts of a worldwide campaign to keep the supposedly low-key female libido under control;
9280. The central premise of sexual selection is that in most mammals, the female has a much higher investment in offspring than does the male. She’s stuck with gestation, lactation and extended nurturing of the young;
9281. Mating is rarely indiscriminate in multimale-multifemale primate groups. A variety of factors including kinship ties, social rank, sexual attractiveness and individual sexual preferences might influence mate choice in both sexes. It is, therefore, incorrect to label such mating systems as promiscuous;
9282. If promiscuity suggests a number of ongoing, nonexclusive sexual relationships, then yes, our ancestors were far more promiscuous than all but the randiest among us. On the other hand, if we understand promiscuity to refer to a lack of discrimination in choosing partners or having sex with random strangers then our ancestors were likely far less promiscuous than many modern humans;
9283. The standard model posits that sexual exclusivity is crucial because in evolutionary times this was a man’s only way of ensuring his paternity;
9284. Helen Fisher’s “sex contract:” men offer goods and services (in prehistoric environments, primarily meat, shelter, protection and status) in exchange for exclusive, relatively consistent sexual access;
9285. Cucumbers on (in particular turkey) sandwiches are (pretty) tasty. . . . They also give a nice crunch (to your sandwich);
9286. We can’t selectively numb (ourselves). When we choose to numb our painful feelings, we’re unconsciously choosing to numb our good feelings too;
9287. Evolutionary psychologist, David Buss, writes “Women’s reproductive resources are precious and finite and ancestral women did not squander them on just any random man. Obviously, women don’t consciously think that sperm are cheap and eggs are expensive, but women in the past who failed to exercise acumen before consenting to sex were left in the evolutionary dust; our ancestral mothers used emotional wisdom to screen out losers.” Buss doesn’t explain why there are still so many “losers” in the gene pool today if their ancestors were subject to such careful screening for thousands of generations;
9288. Apparently, dogs can get (yeast) infections in their ears. . . . Who knew?
9289. Various studies have demonstrated that women are more likely to cheat on their husbands (i.e., to have extra-pair copulations or “EPCs”) when they are ovulating and less likely to use birth control than they are when not fertile;
9290. Women are likely to wear more perfume and jewelry when ovulating than at other points in their menstrual cycle and to be attracted to more macho-looking men (i.e., those with physical markers of more vigorous genes);
9291. The vast majority of other female mammals advertise when they are fertile and are decidedly not interested in sex at other times;
9292. Among primates, the female capacity and willingness to have sex any time and any place is characteristic only of bonobos and humans;
9293. “Extended receptivity” is just a scientific way of saying that women can be sexually active throughout their menstrual cycle whereas most mammals have sex only when it “matters” when pregnancy can occur;
9294. What anthropologist Helen Fisher has called “the classic explanation” goes like this: both concealed ovulation and extended (or, more accurately, constant) sexual receptivity evolved among early human females as a way of developing and cementing the pair bond by holding the attention of a constantly horny male mate. This capacity supposedly worked in two ways. First, because she was always available for sex, even when not ovulating, there was no reason for him to seek other females for sexual pleasure. Second, because her fertility was hidden, he would be motivated to stick around all the time to maximize his own probability of impregnating her and to ensure that no other males mated with her at any time and not just during a brief estrus phase;
9295. Anthropologist Sarah Blaffer Hrdy suggests that concealed ovulation and extended receptivity in early hominids may have evolved not to reassure males, but to confuse them. Having noted the tendency of newly enthroned, alpha male baboons to kill all the babies of the previous patriarch, Hrdy hypothesized that this aspect of female sexuality may have developed as a way of confusing paternity among various males. The female would have sex with several males so that none of them could be certain of paternity and, thus, reducing the likelihood that the next alpha male would kill offspring who could be his;
9296. Control what you can (i.e., your attitude, actions and effort). Cope with what you can’t. Concentrate on what counts;
9297. As humans, we tend not to consider change until not changing feels too painful to endure. When the pain of not changing exceeds the pain of changing;
9298. Focusing on those things that you can control can help you feel calmer and more capable of carrying on;
9299. Even though there’s a lot you can control, there’s a brutal truth in life that can be very difficult for some people to accept: You have no control over many of the things that happen in your life;
9300. If you resist this truth, you risk becoming a control freak, micromanaging, refusing to delegate and trying to force others to change. This type of person thinks that if s/he gains enough control over people and situations, they can prevent bad things from happening;
9252. Try not to become a man of success; rather a man of value;
9253. Acting out of love (or for the right reason) doesn’t (necessarily) mean it’ll be easy or fun;
9254. Karl Popper wrote, “In order to maintain a tolerant society, the society must be intolerant of intolerance. . . . I do not imply for instance, that we should always suppress the utterance of intolerant philosophies; as long as we can counter them by rational argument and keep them in check by public opinion, suppression would be most unwise. But we should claim the right to suppress them if necessary even by force;”
9255. It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed;
9256. According to U.S. News & World Report, “Americans spend more money at strip clubs than at Broadway, off-Broadway, regional and nonprofit theaters, the opera, the ballet and jazz and classical music performances combined;”
9257. Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves and spend without fear of bankruptcy;
9258. When porkstrami gets a little caramelized, it tastes like bacon;
9259. Using a (glass) cigar tube as a sex toy . . . check;
9260. We have a tendency to focus on the negative. Instead of reflecting on all our successes and the countless votes of support and encouragement, we tend to think about that one negative voice. Block that out and instead highlight the bright spots;
9261. When we view everyone with a different viewpoint as a naysayer, we’re selling ourselves (and them) short. Constructive criticism is tremendously important for personal and professional growth and, sometimes, the people who tell us what we need to hear(, but don’t want to hear) are the folks who care about us most;
9262. You may think that haters will go away if you apologize, but that’s like adding fuel to a fire. To them, apologizing means they win and, not only they don’t deserve that, it also means they’re likely to heat up even more;
9263. Judge people by their questions rather than by their answers;
9264. What trips up the scientists is the same cognitive failing we all share: it’s hard to be certain about what we think we know, but don’t really;
9265. Having misread the map, we’re sure we know where we are;
9266. In the face of evidence to the contrary most of us tend to go with our gut, but the gut can be an unreliable guide;
9267. The Food and Drug Administration tells its inspectors to ignore insect parts in black pepper unless they find more than 475 of them per 50 grams on average;
9268. Some estimates suggest that Americans unknowingly eat anywhere from 1 to 2 pounds of insects per year;
9269. Something feels natural or unnatural doesn’t mean it is;
9270. Hendrick’s (gin) is really smooth;
9271. Charlie (Dog) likes limes;
9272. If you’re trying to get better at anything it’s almost never going to be a straight shot. You’ll have to deal with the mess and b(ull)s(hit) that comes with it. But once you start to expect the messiness and realize pretty much every journey has its ups and downs and that perfection doesn’t exist, you’ll have a much better chance of getting where you’re trying to go. . . . And you’ll feel a lot better about yourself along the way;
9273. Go faster by using a successful person’s hindsight as your foresight;
9274. Orange wine is a thing. . . . It has nothing to do with (actual) oranges;
9275. How something “feels” is far from a reliable guide to distinguishing biological truth from cultural influence;
9276. It’s important to understand that evolution is not a process of improvement. Natural selection simply asserts that species change as they adapt to ever-changing environments;
9277. One of the chronic mistakes made by would-be social Darwinists is to assume that evolution is a process by which human beings or societies become better. It is not;
9278. Those organisms best able to survive in a challenging, shifting environment live to reproduce. As survivors, their genetic code likely contains information advantageous to their offspring in that particular environment. But the environment can change at any moment, thus, neutralizing the advantage;
9279. Despite repeated assurances that women aren’t’ particularly sexual creatures, in cultures around the world men have gone to extraordinary lengths to control female libido: female genital mutilation, head-to-toe chadors, medieval witch burnings, chastity belts, suffocating corsets, muttered insults about “insatiable” whores, pathologizing, paternalistic medical diagnoses of nymphomania or hysteria, the debilitating scorn heaped on any female who chooses to be generous with her sexuality are all parts of a worldwide campaign to keep the supposedly low-key female libido under control;
9280. The central premise of sexual selection is that in most mammals, the female has a much higher investment in offspring than does the male. She’s stuck with gestation, lactation and extended nurturing of the young;
9281. Mating is rarely indiscriminate in multimale-multifemale primate groups. A variety of factors including kinship ties, social rank, sexual attractiveness and individual sexual preferences might influence mate choice in both sexes. It is, therefore, incorrect to label such mating systems as promiscuous;
9282. If promiscuity suggests a number of ongoing, nonexclusive sexual relationships, then yes, our ancestors were far more promiscuous than all but the randiest among us. On the other hand, if we understand promiscuity to refer to a lack of discrimination in choosing partners or having sex with random strangers then our ancestors were likely far less promiscuous than many modern humans;
9283. The standard model posits that sexual exclusivity is crucial because in evolutionary times this was a man’s only way of ensuring his paternity;
9284. Helen Fisher’s “sex contract:” men offer goods and services (in prehistoric environments, primarily meat, shelter, protection and status) in exchange for exclusive, relatively consistent sexual access;
9285. Cucumbers on (in particular turkey) sandwiches are (pretty) tasty. . . . They also give a nice crunch (to your sandwich);
9286. We can’t selectively numb (ourselves). When we choose to numb our painful feelings, we’re unconsciously choosing to numb our good feelings too;
9287. Evolutionary psychologist, David Buss, writes “Women’s reproductive resources are precious and finite and ancestral women did not squander them on just any random man. Obviously, women don’t consciously think that sperm are cheap and eggs are expensive, but women in the past who failed to exercise acumen before consenting to sex were left in the evolutionary dust; our ancestral mothers used emotional wisdom to screen out losers.” Buss doesn’t explain why there are still so many “losers” in the gene pool today if their ancestors were subject to such careful screening for thousands of generations;
9288. Apparently, dogs can get (yeast) infections in their ears. . . . Who knew?
9289. Various studies have demonstrated that women are more likely to cheat on their husbands (i.e., to have extra-pair copulations or “EPCs”) when they are ovulating and less likely to use birth control than they are when not fertile;
9290. Women are likely to wear more perfume and jewelry when ovulating than at other points in their menstrual cycle and to be attracted to more macho-looking men (i.e., those with physical markers of more vigorous genes);
9291. The vast majority of other female mammals advertise when they are fertile and are decidedly not interested in sex at other times;
9292. Among primates, the female capacity and willingness to have sex any time and any place is characteristic only of bonobos and humans;
9293. “Extended receptivity” is just a scientific way of saying that women can be sexually active throughout their menstrual cycle whereas most mammals have sex only when it “matters” when pregnancy can occur;
9294. What anthropologist Helen Fisher has called “the classic explanation” goes like this: both concealed ovulation and extended (or, more accurately, constant) sexual receptivity evolved among early human females as a way of developing and cementing the pair bond by holding the attention of a constantly horny male mate. This capacity supposedly worked in two ways. First, because she was always available for sex, even when not ovulating, there was no reason for him to seek other females for sexual pleasure. Second, because her fertility was hidden, he would be motivated to stick around all the time to maximize his own probability of impregnating her and to ensure that no other males mated with her at any time and not just during a brief estrus phase;
9295. Anthropologist Sarah Blaffer Hrdy suggests that concealed ovulation and extended receptivity in early hominids may have evolved not to reassure males, but to confuse them. Having noted the tendency of newly enthroned, alpha male baboons to kill all the babies of the previous patriarch, Hrdy hypothesized that this aspect of female sexuality may have developed as a way of confusing paternity among various males. The female would have sex with several males so that none of them could be certain of paternity and, thus, reducing the likelihood that the next alpha male would kill offspring who could be his;
9296. Control what you can (i.e., your attitude, actions and effort). Cope with what you can’t. Concentrate on what counts;
9297. As humans, we tend not to consider change until not changing feels too painful to endure. When the pain of not changing exceeds the pain of changing;
9298. Focusing on those things that you can control can help you feel calmer and more capable of carrying on;
9299. Even though there’s a lot you can control, there’s a brutal truth in life that can be very difficult for some people to accept: You have no control over many of the things that happen in your life;
9300. If you resist this truth, you risk becoming a control freak, micromanaging, refusing to delegate and trying to force others to change. This type of person thinks that if s/he gains enough control over people and situations, they can prevent bad things from happening;
