11301. Judah Akers (the lead singer of “Judah &
the Lion”) is (pretty) ripped;
11302. Apparently, Judah Akers
(the lead singer of “Judah & the Lion”) likes to go into the crowd( and
sing);
11303. Apparently, Bear Rinehart
(the lead singer of NEEDTOBREATHE) also likes to go into the crowd( and sing);
11304. Why do you have to
justify any prosperity that may flow into your life by limiting it to the kind
that comes from “hard work?” If you want
freedom, choice and abundance in your life, does it really serve you to believe
that the path to that has to be one of struggle, hard work and sacrifice? If your belief about the attributes of the path
is at odds with the attributes of the destination then the destination will
always remain just out of reach for you.
Here’s a little-known truth: the path and the destination are one and
the same. And the fastest way to get to
a life of freedom, choice and abundance is to believe that those things are
available to you now and always. If you
have a deeply held feeling that you are undeserving of money or if you’re not
convinced that it can come easily to you, this will be reflected in your outer
circumstances now and always. On the
flip side, if you truly believe at a deep, internal level in your own
deservingness of wealth then money has permission to flow into your life easily
now and always. The subconscious mind
always prevails in the end. It also
prevails at every stage along the way;
11305. Sometimes we label
frustration and blockage with respect to attaining our conscious goals as
“failure,” but you can come to see this kind of frustration as a friend. Why?
Because it’s a key indicator that shows you you have a subconscious
belief, which is out of alignment with a conscious goal. It shows you where your blocks are;
11306. We can only change when
we admit reality;
11307. It’s (pretty) easy to
make a pecan pie. The hardest part is
the crust;
11308. Just because you forgive
someone, it doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain from his/her actions in the
future;
11309. Apparently, “The Machine”
(i.e., Bert Kreischer) is friends with Snoop Dogg;
11310. Apparently, Snoop Dogg
gave Bert (Kreischer) parenting advice when his daughter, Ila, smoked his
marijuana/weed, when she was 15;
11311. Bert Kreischer said he’s
been in a shower with Snoop Dogg;
11312. When arguing/fighting,
Lucy Rowett, a certified sex and relationships coach, says that it’s always
best to stay with “I” statements, rather than “You” statements. This means avoiding statements like “You
always/You never” and instead saying, “I feel like you don’t do X;”
11313. Constructive fighting is
taking responsibility for your opinions and feelings and not blaming the other
person, but making more of a statement for yourself: “When you don’t wash the
dishes, I feel hurt because I enjoy a clean kitchen. It is important for me to share tasks in
order to feel respected. If I cook, I
would like you to wash the dishes.”
Compared to: “You haven’t done the dishes yet again, you’re
useless.” Basically, the blame game just
makes us defensive and that is not productive;
11314. When having an argument,
it comes down to priorities.
Constructive fighting is about problem solving and sharing feelings, not
making the other person feel like shit about themselves. Real intimacy isn’t the absence of conflict;
it’s the recognition of conflict and the willingness to address it as a team
when it arises. It is important to
address the ongoing issues in the relationship, but focus on resolving the
problem instead of proving your partner wrong;
11315. Even in the midst of a
heated fight, you need to remind yourself that this is a person you love and
respect and work to find the grain of truth (there is always one) in what s/he
is saying;
11316. Once you’re finished with
the blowout, it’s important to then find a post-combat, neutral place. You should take some time, regroup and calm
down before you attempt to reconnect.
Next, both parties need to take responsibility for their actions and be
willing to apologize. Apologize properly
if you raised your voice and said something hurtful and then start the
conversation again in a calmer state.
This is a great time for physical affection – in whatever form works for
you. Hugs, kisses, cuddles, etc. all
help to get the oxytocin flowing and recreate intimate connection with those we
love. Then, you can choose what’s next
together – a walk, a movie, time alone, sex.
There is no right or wrong – whatever works for the both of you, individually
and as a couple;
11317. The best way to safeguard
for future conflicts is to first set “absolute limits.” You make an agreement with each other when you’re
both connected of what is absolutely off-limits when you are fighting, such as
hurling anything at your partner that you know will hurt them or hit a pain
point, because this can cause real damage to your relationship and you may not
be able to rebuild trust;
11318. 4 unhealthy fight red
flags: 1. Criticism – It’s perfectly
fine to tell your partner if something they did upset you, but don’t point the
finger (of blame) and try to tear them down.
Instead, focus on the impact their behaviors or thoughts have on you
instead; 2. Defensiveness – If you’re on
the opposite side of this and you’re receiving feedback, don’t jump on the
defense straight away as it encourages more conflicts. Instead, take a deep breath, try to
understand her/his point of view and invite her/him for brainstorming to
resolve the issue together; 3. Contempt
– Contempt arises when you genuinely believe that you are superior to your
partner. You might be better at some
things than your partner, but s/he has her/his strengths too. If you have contempt for your partner, this
builds resentment over time and this is very toxic for a relationship; and
4. Stonewalling – If your partner does
something that pisses you off, don’t shut down or blow her/him off. These kinds of counterproductive reactions
only fuel anger and resentment. If it is
not the right time for you to have an argument, just tell your partner that
you’re not ready for it and that you commit to address the issues later, when
it’s more convenient;
11319. At the end of the day,
everyone fights. We just need to have
the emotional maturity to understand why we’re fighting and to be able to
apologize and take responsibility where it’s needed. We all want beautiful, healthy and happy
relationships and they start with taking steps to engage in conflict in a
positive way;
11320. Emotion isn’t changed by
logic; it’s changed by action;
11321. I can say I was at Matt
Duchene’s 1,000th (career, regular season) game and Evgeny
Kuznetsov’s 700th (career, regular season) game;
11322. I can say I saw Dylan
Strome’s 100th (career, regular season) goal and Alexander
Ovechkin’s 1,500th (career, regular season) point;
11323. Alexander Ovechkin is the
16th player in NHL history to score 1,500 (regular season) points;
11324. You can do anything you
want; you just might not be able to do it on the timeline you want. It may happen faster than expected and it may
take longer than expected;
11325. The number 1 rule in
likeability is to make people feel that you are like them. Regardless of skin color, religious, ethnic
and other differences, we prefer people who are similar to us at some level;
11326. There are 4 components to
fallback stories: 1. The bridging
sentence; 2. The story itself; 3. Your opinion of the story; and 4. Asking for the other person’s opinion in a
few different ways;
11327. The first component is
the bridging sentence and while it is short, it provides a simple, plausible
transition from whatever the previous topic was into your fallback story;
11328. “You know what I heard
recently?” is a fairly flexible option, while others you can use include “Want
to know something interesting that happened recently?” and “You won’t believe
what happened the other day.” All 3 of
these evoke some curiosity, giving you the perfect segue into your story;
11329. The second component is
the actual story itself. Now, notice
that it’s not long and the story details don’t even matter that much here;
11330. Introduce the premise,
try to focus on the 1 or 2 primary emotions that you want to evoke and move on
from there;
11331. If you tell the story
right, the reaction isn’t about the story itself, it’s about the questions it
poses (and that you pose);
11332. “What is the primary
emotion and point of the story you are trying to tell?” and distill that into 1
sentence. If you can’t, your stories are
probably rambling messes that make people scream internally;
11333. The third component is
your opinion (as the speaker) on the matter.
For most of these fallback stories, you want to provide a positive
opinion; otherwise people may not feel comfortable opening up and sharing if
they happen to disagree with you;
11334. Just share how you feel
about it and try to place yourself in the context. This component is key to opening the other
person up because you’ve shared first and made yourself vulnerable. The other person will feel safer after you’ve
disclosed your position first; that’s just a facet of human psychology;
11335. The fourth and final
component seems like a series of inane questions, but there is logic to the
chaos. When you ask someone to generally
comment on a situation, most people have a tough time with this request because
it is so open-ended and broad;
11336. Fallback stories are best
when concluded with a series of questions;
11337. When you are thinking of
what fallback stories to put up your sleeve, interpersonal situations tend to
work for that reason. Other prompts that
make good fallback stories include asking people what they would do in certain
hypothetical situations and asking for opinions on moral dilemmas (as long as
they aren’t dark and depressing);
11338. One of the best ways to
break out of interview mode is to engage in role play. Taking on a character, leaving yourself
behind and engaging in the ultimate type of conversational play;
11339. “Archer Oh” reminds me of
The Smiths/Morrissey;
11340. Dogstar is (actually) decent;
11341. John Wick/Keanu
Reeves/Neo is a decent bass player;
11342. Apparently, Robert
Mailhouse (the drummer for Dogstar) grew up in the (Washington,) D.C. area;
11343. Apparently, John
Wick/Keanu Reeves/Neo grew up in Toronto(, Canada);
11344. John Wick/Keanu
Reeves/Neo seems to be enjoying himself playing bass for Dogstar;
11345. Whitlow’s DC
(Whitlows.com) automatically adds a gratuity to your bill;
11346. Role playing: 1. Make a “judgement” statement about someone;
2. Give them a label based on the
statement that you made; and 3. Start
playing the roles;
11347. All of conversation is an
opportunity for playful interaction. It
just takes a shift in mindset to see that and the world will open up;
11348. Breaking the 4th
wall is a simple, yet effective move to make any conversation more
interesting. Often used in movies, this
technique essentially involves commenting about the conversation you’re having
in some positive way. This is generally
something that both parties are thinking, but has gone unacknowledged;
11349. The “Us Against the
World” technique entails forming an in-group with the person you’re talking to
based on some common experience or emotion that both of you share;
11350. If a conversation seems
to be dying out or droning along, you might want to have some fallback stories
to reinvigorate your interaction;
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