Monday, October 10, 2016

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0093

4601.  Look for the loving presence in others.  Rather than seeing only another physical being, tell yourself that the Christ in me is meeting the Christ in you.  Spend a day silently reciting the word “love” whenever you encounter another human being.  This has such a powerful effect that you may choose to use it as a silent background mantra throughout your day;
4602.  You will build yourself up spiritually by attempting tougher and tougher assignments.  One of the toughest assignments is to disregard the ego message to evaluate yourself with the criteria of appearance and possessions.  But know each time you are able to be less judgmental toward others or yourself, you are becoming stronger by having taken on the heavier spiritual weights;
4603.  Long drives are a good time to listen to podcasts.  They definitely help the time pass;
4604.  My (late) uncle, John, owned a (yellow) Porsche;
4605.  Results take time; a lot of time.  And, you might not realize this right now, but even if you fail you’ll have learned so much from the experience.  So, no matter what, you’re set;
4606.  The worst possible thing you can do right now is quit.  That’s the only way to guarantee you waste all your hard work;
4607.  I used to think fear of rejection and fear of failure were only relevant when it comes to girls, but they really apply to almost everything in life;
4608.  There’s no such thing as wasting effort.  As long as you’re taking action and doing something productive, you’re getting one step closer to your goal.  Even when you make a mistake.  Even when you fail.  Even when it seems like you’re making no progress.  Those things are all part of the process.  How long should you try before giving up?  Forever;
4609.  If you’re thinking, “I tested out my idea and I haven’t seen any results or any progress yet.  What then?”  That’s when it’s smart to try something new and pivot into a slightly new direction.  But once you do have at least a decent idea then you go full-force ahead and never quit.  You work your ass off 24/7/365 until you’ve accomplished what you once thought impossible;
4610.  It all comes down to taking action.  As long as you take action and don’t prematurely quit before you’ve built up some serious momentum, you’re set;
4611.  A significant other can only improve an already enjoyable life.  If you hate your life right now, for whatever reason, no boyfriend/girlfriend is going to fix that;
4612.  Do you think finding your dream guy/girl is going to make your life do a complete 180 and magically fix all your problems?  If it was true, it’d mean you never have to face your fears and you never have to work on yourself.  That your dream guy/girl would just fall out of the sky and fix all of your problems for you.  Instead of learning how to be happy on your own, you’re basically saying, “I can only be happy if I’m in a relationship;”
4613.  Ask yourself this, “If your ideal boy/girlfriend adopted your current lifestyle – hobbies, passions, interests and all – would you still want to date him/her?”  Because if you wouldn’t be happy dating a person like you, why would any attractive guy/girl?
4614.  You need to turn yourself into a guy/girl that girls/guys find irresistible.  Because then, and only then, will you be able to have a happy relationship with your dream girl/guy;
4615.  A relationship is made up of two individuals.  And, therefore, the relationship is the sum of you two: Unhappy You + Girlfriend/Boyfriend = Unhappy Relationship; and Happy You + Girlfriend/Boyfriend = Happy Relationship;
4616.  You need to be happy all on your own before you can be happy in a relationship;
4617.  When you learn to enjoy life on your own.  And then, when you’re completely happy with your single life.  That’s when your dream girl/guy will show up.  And that’s when you’ll be ready for her/him;
4618.  Apparently, boys and girls develop the same until puberty;
4619.  Neck hair is (really) annoying when you’re growing your hair out;
4620.  (White) fish with dill and lemon is overrated;
4621.  A goal without a deadline is a dream;
4622.  An irrational fear isn’t going to respond to a rational argument;
4623.  The more that you can embrace who you are and what you’re good at, and the more you invest in that, the more you can expand your means;
4624.  Who would’ve thought (that) a hard-boiled egg, wrapped in sausage (meat), battered and deep-fried (i.e., Scotch egg) and dipped/dunked in honey mustard would taste good?
4625.  Doing cardio is another good time to listen to podcasts;
4626.  I still don’t take compliments (very) well;
4627.  A 2011 survey found that as many as 20 percent of travelers have had sex on an airplane (though the survey did not distinguish between commercial carriers and private jets);
4628.  80% of all cancer is directly related to lifestyle;
4629.  According to the teachings of Lao-Tzu, the four cardinal virtues represent the surest way to leave habits and excuses behind and reconnect to your original nature.  The more your life is harmonized with the four virtues, the less you’re controlled by the uncompromising ego;
4630.  The First Cardinal Virtue: Reverence for All Life – The first cardinal virtue manifests in your daily life as unconditional love and respect for all beings in creation.  This includes making a conscious effort to love and respect yourself, as well as to remove all judgments and criticisms.  Understand that you are a piece of God, and since you must be like what you came from, you are lovable, worthy and Godlike.  Affirm this as often as you can, for when you see yourself in a loving way, you have nothing but love to extend outward.  And the more you love others, the less you need old excuse patterns, particularly those relating to blame;
4631.  The Second Cardinal Virtue: Natural Sincerity – This virtue manifests itself as honesty, simplicity and faithfulness; and it’s summed up by the popular reminder to be true to yourself.  Using an excuse to explain why your life isn’t working at the level you prefer isn’t being true to yourself – when you’re completely honest and sincere, excuses don’t even enter into the picture.  The second virtue involves living a life that reflects choices that come from respect and affection for your own nature.  Make truth your most important attribute.  Walk your talk; that is, become sincere and honest in all that you say and do.  If you find this to be a challenge, take a moment to affirm: I no longer need to be insincere or dishonest.  This is who I am and this is how I feel.  When you know and trust yourself, you also know and trust the Divinity that created you.  If you live from honesty, sincerity and faithfulness to the callings of your spirit, you’ll never have occasion to use excuses;
4632.  The Third Cardinal Virtue: Gentleness – This virtue personifies one of the most frequently employed maxims: “When you have the choice to be right or to be kind, always pick kind.”  So many of your old thinking habits and their attendant excuses come out of a need to make yourself right and others wrong.  When you practice this third virtue, you eliminate conflicts that result in your need to explain why you’re right.  This virtue manifests as kindness, consideration for others and sensitivity to spiritual truth.  Gentleness generally implies that you no longer have a strong ego-inspired desire to dominate or control others, which allows you to move into a rhythm with the universe.  You cooperate with it, much like a surfer who rides with the waves instead of trying to overpower them.  Gentleness means accepting life and people as they are, rather than insisting that they be as you are.  As you practice living this way, blame disappears and you enjoy a peaceful world;
4633.  The Fourth Cardinal Virtue: Supportiveness – This virtue manifests in your life as service to others without any expectation of reward.  Once again, when you extend yourself in a spirit of giving, helping or loving, you act as God acts.  As you consider the many excuses that have dominated your life, look carefully at them – you’ll see that they’re all focused on the ego: I can’t do this.  I’m too busy or too scared.  I’m unworthy.  No one will help me.  I’m too old.  I’m too tired.  Now imagine shifting your attention off of yourself and asking the universal mind, “How may I serve?”  When you do so, the message you’re sending is: I’m not thinking about myself and what I can or can’t have.  Your attention is on making someone else feel better.  The greatest joy comes from giving and serving, so replace your habit of focusing exclusively on yourself and what’s in it for you.  When you make the shift to supporting others in your life, without expecting anything in return, you’ll think less about what you want and find comfort and joy in the act of giving and serving;
4634.  The four cardinal virtues are a road map to the simple truth of the universe.  To revere all of life, to live with natural sincerity, to practice gentleness and to be in service to others is to replicate the energy field from which you originated;
4635.  Compliments are criticisms in disguise.  Both are used to manipulate behavior, but compliments are just more socially acceptable;
4636.  Honey mustard has mayonnaise (in it).  Honey-flavored mustard does not. . . . Who knew?
4637.  There’s a bit of hidden magic in every mistake.  This magic is called learning;
4638.  Even animals have the ability to learn from their mistakes;
4639.  Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new;
4640.  If you are learning something new, you are then required to make mistakes in order to fully understand what you have learned;
4641.  The reality is that if you want to be successful in life, not just get by, you need to be able to try new things.  And if you do that, be prepared to be disappointed;
4642.  Inside every problem lies an opportunity, just like inside every disappointment lies a priceless gem of wisdom.  The key is knowing how to deal with and learn from disappointment;
4643.  Only fools expect everything to go their way.  Expecting to be disappointed does not mean being passive or a defeated loser.  It is a way of mentally and emotionally preparing yourself to be ready for surprises that you may not want.  This allows you to be calm and dignified when things don’t go your way, which in turn allows you to think better;
4644.  Success takes time and, along the way, there is much disappointment.  You have to be ready and willing to keep pushing and learning;
4645.  One of the most painful aspects about making mistakes or failing at something is not what other people say about us, but how hard we are on ourselves.  Most people make a mistake and beat themselves up more than anyone else would.  It’s hard to learn anything new if you punish yourself all the time.  So be kind to yourself;
4646.  We all make mistakes and face disappointments.  The difference lies in how we process them.  This starts with facing the consequences of our actions and telling the truth about why we failed.  Only then can we grow and learn;
4647.  The greatest cause of financial struggle is the fear of losing money.  It’s this fear that causes people to often operate too safely;
4648.  Daniel Goleman, in the book, Emotional Intelligence, uses the ratio of 24:1 in comparing the power of the emotional brain to the rational brain.  In other words, when emotions are high, intelligence is low.  All of us have experienced events in our lives when our emotions overtook our rational thoughts.  It often seems impossible to overcome our emotions and act rationally;
4649.  Part of becoming successful is recognizing patterns that hold you back and taking action to overcome those patterns.  When we are faced with fear of risk, we must be able to rationally recognize that fear before it becomes too strong to overcome.  This requires self-knowledge that is the result of constant self-assessment;
4650.  If you can keep your emotions in check and go for what you know to be logical, you have a good chance of being successful.  It’s a process of knowing which of your thoughts are emotion-based and which are logic-based.  The most important conversation is always the one you have with yourself;

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