Sunday, March 28, 2021
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0193
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Sunday, March 14, 2021
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0192
9551. Bidets
have some (serious) power;
9552. The Maldives is 10 hours ahead of Eastern Standard Time;
9553. The ocean/water is turquoise blue in the Maldives;
9554. Watch your head; seaplane doors are rather low;
9555. I can say I’ve flown in a seaplane;
9556. “Eating out” in an overwater villa (on Fesdu Island) in the Maldives . . . check . . . in an overwater villa . . . (double) check;
9557. Apparently, the average income in the Maldives fell from $10,000.00 USD to $6,000.00 USD because of covid-19;
9558. Tipping isn’t necessary in the Maldives. . . . A 10% service charge is added to everything, but, given the low salaries and the excellent service, it is a nice gesture to help the resort staff earn some extra money;
9559. Islam is the predominant religion in the Maldives and, although dress is casual to very casual on the islands, beachwear is not acceptable in restaurants;
9560. In the Maldives, alcohol is only available to foreigners in resorts;
9561. Alcohol is expensive in the Maldives;
9562. The nasi goreng at the Kitchen at the W Maldives is really tasty;
9563. The sand in the Maldives is so fine . . . it’s like flour;
9564. I can say I saw a swift-footed rock crab in the Maldives;
9565. I can say I’ve been snorkeling in the Maldives;
9566. I can say I’ve seen a pufferfish (while) snorkeling;
9567. There are sea cucumbers in the Maldives;
9568. I can say I’ve seen a giant clam (while) snorkeling;
9569. The customer service at the W Maldives is outstanding;
9570. A tablet of “Avomine 25” will knock me out;
9571. In a (hotel) tub in the Maldives . . . check;
9572. Almost all pufferfish contain tetrodotoxin, a substance that makes them foul tasting and often deadly to fish;
9573. Tetrodotoxin is up to 1,200 times more poisonous than cyanide;
9574. There is enough toxin in one pufferfish to kill 30 adult humans;
9575. There is no antidote to tetrodotoxin;
9576. On a glass floor (window) . . . check;
9577. On a sun lounger . . . check . . . in a cabana . . . (double) check;
9578. Sambar is a vegetarian curry;
9579. Apparently, the key to snorkeling is getting a good seal with your mask. . . . It should stick to your face;
9580. I can say I’ve seen a conch (while) snorkeling;
9581. Watch out for shell fragments in your swim shorts/trunks after snorkeling;
9582. The percentage of our lives human beings spend thinking about, planning, having and remembering sex is incomparably greater than that of any other creature on the planet;
9583. On a pool float(y) . . . check . . . in a private overwater plunge pool . . . (double) check;
9584. “Eating out” on a sun lounger (facing the Arabian Sea/Indian Ocean) . . . check;
9585. Even on the remote islands, there are bats in the Maldives;
9586. I can get motion sick looking through a clear bottom kayak;
9587. (Eating) mint helps with motion sickness;
9588. (Deep fried chicken) wings battered with cereal and (sliced) almonds are (rather) tasty . . . who knew?
9589. Apparently, fish eat peanuts;
9590. Masroshi (i.e., grilled chapati stuffed with smoked tuna and coconut) is tasty;
9591. Elizabeth likes gulab jamun;
9592. As Alfred Kinsey noted back in the 1950s, “Even in cultures which most rigorously attempt to control the female’s extramarital coitus, it is perfectly clear that such activity does occur and in many instances it occurs with considerable regularity;”
9593. No group-living nonhuman primate is monogamous and adultery has been documents in every human culture studied including those in which fornicators are routinely stoned to death;
9594. In the Maldives, you can get the reef fish to come to you by throwing (tiny) bits/pieces of bread in the water;
9595. I might be allergic to outdoor furniture oil sealer/protectant;
9596. Wear socks with your snorkel/swim fins; it’ll protect your feet from sand and chafing;
9597. Cachaca is (basically) Brazilian rum;
9598. Tuna on pizza is (actually) pretty good . . . who knew?
9599. Rihaakuru is a sauce made as a by-product of processing tuna;
9600. All of the bartending, cleaning/janitorial and serving staff at the W Maldives are male except for the hostesses;
9552. The Maldives is 10 hours ahead of Eastern Standard Time;
9553. The ocean/water is turquoise blue in the Maldives;
9554. Watch your head; seaplane doors are rather low;
9555. I can say I’ve flown in a seaplane;
9556. “Eating out” in an overwater villa (on Fesdu Island) in the Maldives . . . check . . . in an overwater villa . . . (double) check;
9557. Apparently, the average income in the Maldives fell from $10,000.00 USD to $6,000.00 USD because of covid-19;
9558. Tipping isn’t necessary in the Maldives. . . . A 10% service charge is added to everything, but, given the low salaries and the excellent service, it is a nice gesture to help the resort staff earn some extra money;
9559. Islam is the predominant religion in the Maldives and, although dress is casual to very casual on the islands, beachwear is not acceptable in restaurants;
9560. In the Maldives, alcohol is only available to foreigners in resorts;
9561. Alcohol is expensive in the Maldives;
9562. The nasi goreng at the Kitchen at the W Maldives is really tasty;
9563. The sand in the Maldives is so fine . . . it’s like flour;
9564. I can say I saw a swift-footed rock crab in the Maldives;
9565. I can say I’ve been snorkeling in the Maldives;
9566. I can say I’ve seen a pufferfish (while) snorkeling;
9567. There are sea cucumbers in the Maldives;
9568. I can say I’ve seen a giant clam (while) snorkeling;
9569. The customer service at the W Maldives is outstanding;
9570. A tablet of “Avomine 25” will knock me out;
9571. In a (hotel) tub in the Maldives . . . check;
9572. Almost all pufferfish contain tetrodotoxin, a substance that makes them foul tasting and often deadly to fish;
9573. Tetrodotoxin is up to 1,200 times more poisonous than cyanide;
9574. There is enough toxin in one pufferfish to kill 30 adult humans;
9575. There is no antidote to tetrodotoxin;
9576. On a glass floor (window) . . . check;
9577. On a sun lounger . . . check . . . in a cabana . . . (double) check;
9578. Sambar is a vegetarian curry;
9579. Apparently, the key to snorkeling is getting a good seal with your mask. . . . It should stick to your face;
9580. I can say I’ve seen a conch (while) snorkeling;
9581. Watch out for shell fragments in your swim shorts/trunks after snorkeling;
9582. The percentage of our lives human beings spend thinking about, planning, having and remembering sex is incomparably greater than that of any other creature on the planet;
9583. On a pool float(y) . . . check . . . in a private overwater plunge pool . . . (double) check;
9584. “Eating out” on a sun lounger (facing the Arabian Sea/Indian Ocean) . . . check;
9585. Even on the remote islands, there are bats in the Maldives;
9586. I can get motion sick looking through a clear bottom kayak;
9587. (Eating) mint helps with motion sickness;
9588. (Deep fried chicken) wings battered with cereal and (sliced) almonds are (rather) tasty . . . who knew?
9589. Apparently, fish eat peanuts;
9590. Masroshi (i.e., grilled chapati stuffed with smoked tuna and coconut) is tasty;
9591. Elizabeth likes gulab jamun;
9592. As Alfred Kinsey noted back in the 1950s, “Even in cultures which most rigorously attempt to control the female’s extramarital coitus, it is perfectly clear that such activity does occur and in many instances it occurs with considerable regularity;”
9593. No group-living nonhuman primate is monogamous and adultery has been documents in every human culture studied including those in which fornicators are routinely stoned to death;
9594. In the Maldives, you can get the reef fish to come to you by throwing (tiny) bits/pieces of bread in the water;
9595. I might be allergic to outdoor furniture oil sealer/protectant;
9596. Wear socks with your snorkel/swim fins; it’ll protect your feet from sand and chafing;
9597. Cachaca is (basically) Brazilian rum;
9598. Tuna on pizza is (actually) pretty good . . . who knew?
9599. Rihaakuru is a sauce made as a by-product of processing tuna;
9600. All of the bartending, cleaning/janitorial and serving staff at the W Maldives are male except for the hostesses;
Monday, February 8, 2021
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0191
9501. (Wayne)
Gretzky led the league in assists in each of his first 13 seasons and 16 times
overall (i.e., 80% of his seasons);
9502. If you only counted (Wayne) Gretzky’s seasons after turning 30, he’d still rank 4th all-time in points per game;
9503. (Wayne) Gretzky could’ve ended his career with a 1,370-game pointless streak and still would’ve been a point-per-game player (i.e., he could go more than 16 years without a point and still average a point per game in his career);
9504. Don’t store your fresh carrots, mushrooms and potatoes in the freezer. . . . The freezing (and thawing) make(s) them mushy;
9505. For every obstacle there is a solution. Persistence is the key. The greatest mistake is giving up;
9506. Charlie (Dog) loves (the) snow (especially eating it);
9507. Apparently, (raw) pineapple (in small amounts) is an excellent dog snack;
9508. If you’ve ordered a dessert for carryout/takeout, check to see if there’s ice cream with it . . . so it isn’t all melted by the time you (actually) eat it;
9509. Sam Calagione (the founder of Dogfish Head Craft Brewery) sounds like a hippie stoner (to me);
9510. The honey chipotle (chicken) wings at Whole Foods (Market) are tasty;
9511. The “Johnny Seafood” oven-ready, breaded shrimp are the closest to restaurant quality fried shrimp I’ve ever had/made at home;
9512. Charlie (Dog) likes white chocolate;
9513. Charlie (Dog) (really) likes beer (in particularly Dogfish Head’s 60 Minute IPA);
9514. Greatness exists on the other side of pain and fear. It exists on the other side of failure;
9515. It’s okay to get beaten, but it’s not okay to beat yourself;
9516. The way we act determines how we feel way more often than the way we feel determines how we act;
9517. Do what you love is for amateurs. Love what you do is the mantra for professionals;
9518. Anxiety is experiencing failure in advance;
9519. Reassurance is futile because you never have enough of it;
9520. Forgiving does not mean condoning or making it okay that something happens. It means that you are for giving up trying to change the past and that you are for giving up experiencing the pain of the memory over and over again;
9521. All dates can change and so can you;
9522. Most social stress is really anxiety about the future held in the body as tension;
9523. Would you rather have a bad day doing something you love than a good day doing something you don’t love?
9524. The jerk chicken sandwich at the Executive Diner (TheExecutiveDiner.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is (pretty) tasty. . . . Their (French) fries are good too. . . . They have a nice flavor/seasoning;
9525. Alaska was bought from Russia for about $.02/acre;
9526. Don’t compare your actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of “what if’s.” Don’t clutter you mind by imagining other versions of you, in parallel universes, where you made different decisions;
9527. The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. Comparison is the thief of joy;
9528. You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing, but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently;
9529. Accept your own reality. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be enough;
9530. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself;
9531. The Fuji apple salad with chicken at Panera Bread is tasty . . . and so is the toasted steak sandwich;
9532. (Adding) basil on a sandwich is pretty good;
9533. Everyone is playing the game of life according to an internal set of rules. Just like a board game, those rules determine the game play and they determine whether the game is easy or hard, fun or frustrating;
9534. For most people, their internal set of rules says things like: 1. I have to work hard for my money; 2. I have to do something to “deserve” success. But what? Often that is not clear; 3. Money is easy come, easy go; 4. More money, more problems; 5. If I have more than I need that means I’m selfish or greedy; 6. Money won’t make me happy; and 7. In fact, money might even corrupt my soul;
9535. A lot of people are playing the game of life by rules very similar to these. And they’re not “winning.” It’s really hard and frustrating for them. They feel like losers. So they have this experience of feeling like they’re failing at the game and they say to themselves: “I’m the problem. I’m no good at this game of life. I suck at it. I should either try a lot harder even though I’m already so tired or I should give up and accept that I will never succeed at this game;”
9536. They make the mistake of looking at other people who have wealth, success, freedom and ease in their lives and they say to themselves: “See, they’ve worked out how to win this game, so it must be possible. It’s just me who sucks.” That comparison makes them judge themselves as less than and a failure;
9537. That’s not the problem at all. No one could win at the game using the rules they’ve been playing by. They don’t suck. It’s the rules that suck;
9538. The people, who they’re comparing themselves to, the ones who are “successful,” those people are not playing by the same set of rules;
9539. The “winners” have an internal set of rules that are more like this: 1. Success and wealth comes easily to me; 2. My wealth grows and grows; 3. Wealth and success help me to have freedom, choice, fun and ease in my life; 4. Wealth and success facilitates my happiness; 5. My money makes me more money without me having to do much more effort; and 6. I’m okay and I’m worthy of love and happiness, no matter what my wealth and success status because my worth is not determined by that;
9540. If you ever feel like the game of life is just too hard, too tiring or so frustrating that you want to scream then listen to me when I tell you: You do not suck at the game. You are not the problem. You have a unique gift inside of you, one that the world is waiting for and that only you can give. You are amazing;
9541. It’s time to change the rulebook you’re playing by so that the game can become easier, much more fun, you can stop feeling frustrated and constrained and you can finally shine to your full potential;
9542. Apparently, a woman’s tears can reduce a man’s testosterone levels;
9543. The toughest pill to swallow is accepting that people’s effort with you is a reflection of their interest;
9544. The food on Qatar Airways is pretty good. . . . It’s the best airline food I’ve ever had;
9545. Hamad International Airport (in Doha, Qatar) is the nicest airport I’ve (ever) been in;
9546. Apparently, Hamad International Airport is (rated) the 3rd best airport in the world;
9547. Kombucha is (really) expensive (i.e., 30.00 QAR/$8.25 USD) in Doha, Qatar (at least in the Hamad International Airport);
9548. They have Starbucks in Qatar;
9549. I can say I’ve had a drink (specifically a “Million Dollar Baby” made with gin, rum, vodka, Cointreau, pineapple juice, rose syrup & lemon) in Doha, Qatar;
9550. The boneless Buffalo chicken (wings) at Soprafino (Italian Fine Dining) in Doha, Qatar are really tasty;
9502. If you only counted (Wayne) Gretzky’s seasons after turning 30, he’d still rank 4th all-time in points per game;
9503. (Wayne) Gretzky could’ve ended his career with a 1,370-game pointless streak and still would’ve been a point-per-game player (i.e., he could go more than 16 years without a point and still average a point per game in his career);
9504. Don’t store your fresh carrots, mushrooms and potatoes in the freezer. . . . The freezing (and thawing) make(s) them mushy;
9505. For every obstacle there is a solution. Persistence is the key. The greatest mistake is giving up;
9506. Charlie (Dog) loves (the) snow (especially eating it);
9507. Apparently, (raw) pineapple (in small amounts) is an excellent dog snack;
9508. If you’ve ordered a dessert for carryout/takeout, check to see if there’s ice cream with it . . . so it isn’t all melted by the time you (actually) eat it;
9509. Sam Calagione (the founder of Dogfish Head Craft Brewery) sounds like a hippie stoner (to me);
9510. The honey chipotle (chicken) wings at Whole Foods (Market) are tasty;
9511. The “Johnny Seafood” oven-ready, breaded shrimp are the closest to restaurant quality fried shrimp I’ve ever had/made at home;
9512. Charlie (Dog) likes white chocolate;
9513. Charlie (Dog) (really) likes beer (in particularly Dogfish Head’s 60 Minute IPA);
9514. Greatness exists on the other side of pain and fear. It exists on the other side of failure;
9515. It’s okay to get beaten, but it’s not okay to beat yourself;
9516. The way we act determines how we feel way more often than the way we feel determines how we act;
9517. Do what you love is for amateurs. Love what you do is the mantra for professionals;
9518. Anxiety is experiencing failure in advance;
9519. Reassurance is futile because you never have enough of it;
9520. Forgiving does not mean condoning or making it okay that something happens. It means that you are for giving up trying to change the past and that you are for giving up experiencing the pain of the memory over and over again;
9521. All dates can change and so can you;
9522. Most social stress is really anxiety about the future held in the body as tension;
9523. Would you rather have a bad day doing something you love than a good day doing something you don’t love?
9524. The jerk chicken sandwich at the Executive Diner (TheExecutiveDiner.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is (pretty) tasty. . . . Their (French) fries are good too. . . . They have a nice flavor/seasoning;
9525. Alaska was bought from Russia for about $.02/acre;
9526. Don’t compare your actual self to a hypothetical self. Don’t drown in a sea of “what if’s.” Don’t clutter you mind by imagining other versions of you, in parallel universes, where you made different decisions;
9527. The internet age encourages choice and comparison, but don’t do this to yourself. Comparison is the thief of joy;
9528. You are you. The past is the past. The only way to make a better life is from inside the present. To focus on regret does nothing, but turn that very present into another thing you will wish you did differently;
9529. Accept your own reality. Be human enough not to dread the future. Be human enough to be enough;
9530. Accepting where you are in life makes it so much easier to be happy for other people without feeling terrible about yourself;
9531. The Fuji apple salad with chicken at Panera Bread is tasty . . . and so is the toasted steak sandwich;
9532. (Adding) basil on a sandwich is pretty good;
9533. Everyone is playing the game of life according to an internal set of rules. Just like a board game, those rules determine the game play and they determine whether the game is easy or hard, fun or frustrating;
9534. For most people, their internal set of rules says things like: 1. I have to work hard for my money; 2. I have to do something to “deserve” success. But what? Often that is not clear; 3. Money is easy come, easy go; 4. More money, more problems; 5. If I have more than I need that means I’m selfish or greedy; 6. Money won’t make me happy; and 7. In fact, money might even corrupt my soul;
9535. A lot of people are playing the game of life by rules very similar to these. And they’re not “winning.” It’s really hard and frustrating for them. They feel like losers. So they have this experience of feeling like they’re failing at the game and they say to themselves: “I’m the problem. I’m no good at this game of life. I suck at it. I should either try a lot harder even though I’m already so tired or I should give up and accept that I will never succeed at this game;”
9536. They make the mistake of looking at other people who have wealth, success, freedom and ease in their lives and they say to themselves: “See, they’ve worked out how to win this game, so it must be possible. It’s just me who sucks.” That comparison makes them judge themselves as less than and a failure;
9537. That’s not the problem at all. No one could win at the game using the rules they’ve been playing by. They don’t suck. It’s the rules that suck;
9538. The people, who they’re comparing themselves to, the ones who are “successful,” those people are not playing by the same set of rules;
9539. The “winners” have an internal set of rules that are more like this: 1. Success and wealth comes easily to me; 2. My wealth grows and grows; 3. Wealth and success help me to have freedom, choice, fun and ease in my life; 4. Wealth and success facilitates my happiness; 5. My money makes me more money without me having to do much more effort; and 6. I’m okay and I’m worthy of love and happiness, no matter what my wealth and success status because my worth is not determined by that;
9540. If you ever feel like the game of life is just too hard, too tiring or so frustrating that you want to scream then listen to me when I tell you: You do not suck at the game. You are not the problem. You have a unique gift inside of you, one that the world is waiting for and that only you can give. You are amazing;
9541. It’s time to change the rulebook you’re playing by so that the game can become easier, much more fun, you can stop feeling frustrated and constrained and you can finally shine to your full potential;
9542. Apparently, a woman’s tears can reduce a man’s testosterone levels;
9543. The toughest pill to swallow is accepting that people’s effort with you is a reflection of their interest;
9544. The food on Qatar Airways is pretty good. . . . It’s the best airline food I’ve ever had;
9545. Hamad International Airport (in Doha, Qatar) is the nicest airport I’ve (ever) been in;
9546. Apparently, Hamad International Airport is (rated) the 3rd best airport in the world;
9547. Kombucha is (really) expensive (i.e., 30.00 QAR/$8.25 USD) in Doha, Qatar (at least in the Hamad International Airport);
9548. They have Starbucks in Qatar;
9549. I can say I’ve had a drink (specifically a “Million Dollar Baby” made with gin, rum, vodka, Cointreau, pineapple juice, rose syrup & lemon) in Doha, Qatar;
9550. The boneless Buffalo chicken (wings) at Soprafino (Italian Fine Dining) in Doha, Qatar are really tasty;
Monday, January 18, 2021
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0190
9451. Try to
set a goal that you can reasonably achieve within one year. If it’s something that will be difficult to
achieve in that timeframe, you might become overwhelmed and give up. If your goal is something that will take more
than one year to achieve, try to set a benchmark for what you’d like to accomplish
in this first year and then build from there;
9452. Focus on what you want not what you don’t want;
9453. People often identify what they don’t want instead of what they do want because of fear. Try to reframe your mindset so you’re not being guided by fear, but rather facing it head on;
9454. Most achievers are afraid of living a life falling short of who they are, what they stand for and what they want to give to their kids or their wife or the universe. Because of that, they’ll overcome their fears. You can turn fear on itself;
9455. Don’t stop after you’ve achieved your goal;
9456. You should never stop setting goals;
9457. You’ll feel a burst of pride and an uptick in energy right when you hit your goal. But then what? Without another goal to pursue and a daily sense of meaning, you will feel lost;
9458. Without something to pursue or to look forward to, you run the risk of your life feeling stagnant;
9459. We all need a compelling future. We all need something that we’re going for that makes us feel alive. If you don’t, you’re going to feel frustrated, bored and pissed off and you’re going to start looking at other things to blame;
9460. Don’t worry about not achieving your goals;
9461. What matters isn’t that the goal is achieved, but rather that you grow as a person on the path to achieving it;
9462. What makes us feel alive is progress. It’s growth. It’s aliveness. We grow or we die. That’s what life is;
9463. Remember: Growth takes different forms for different people. Try to figure out what form of growth is most valuable to you and go from there;
9464. You don’t just want to grow. You want to grow so you can have an extraordinary life on your terms, a life that’s fulfilling to you;
9465. If you have intense moments of pain in your life, look out for the window of opportunity that gets created (too) . . . and use it to your full advantage;
9466. I (kind of) like the “beef, bean and green chile” burrito at 7-Eleven. . . . It’s not bad for a microwave burrito;
9467. Our brains can move a million miles per hour and we can get so wrapped up in our thoughts that they become our reality, but the truth is our thoughts are not facts;
9468. Be gentle with yourself;
9469. You don’t need to carry all of the burdens. You’re not responsible for other people’s emotions; you don’t need to carry all that with you;
9470. We cannot control other people’s thoughts. You cannot control what others think and you shouldn’t stress yourself so much about doing so;
9471. Sit with grief and allow yourself to feel it. Grief isn’t relegated to the loss of a loved one. The loss of life as we knew it also brings on the grieving process. Sit with the discomfort; face it. Stop trying to be fine; and start being real;
9472. Take care of yourself first. You’re the battery to the car; if you’re not taken care of, the care won’t work;
9473. There’s never a perfect moment to have hard conversations. You won’t always be prepared; you don’t need to stress yourself over waiting for the perfect time to initiate thoughtful discussions about important topics;
9474. It’s healthy to set boundaries with others. It’s okay to say “no.” It’s okay to speak up for yourself. It’s okay to ask for help;
9475. It can be instinctive to approach potentially heated conversations from a place of anger or frustration, but, instead, be calm and helpful with your words;
9476. Even if you don’t think you’re the smartest person in the room, your voice still matters;
9477. Listen to yourself; connect with your body. You are your best and most intuitive healer. Your body holds great wisdom; take time to listen and get to know him/her better. You are the expert of you;
9478. Give yourself the empathy you freely give to others;
9479. Don’t get so lost dwelling on past “should’ve” and “could’ve” moments that you forget about your current choices;
9480. We may not always like our options, but they do exist;
9481. Every day we have the choice to either be our best friend or our worst enemy. Choose to be your best friend not your enemy;
9482. The time is always right to do what is right;
9483. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that;
9484. Apparently, Dave Matthew’s former manager’s (i.e., Ross Hoffman) daughter (i.e., Lauren) stole Elizabeth’s (high school) boyfriend;
9485. We are doomed to blindness if we look to find ourselves in the eyes of others;
9486. Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter;
9487. You have power over your mind not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength;
9488. Wayne Gretzky was born on January 26, 1961;
9489. (Wayne) Gretzky won the scoring title by more than 70 points 6 times. . . . The past 6 NHL scoring races were decided by a combined 60 points;
9490. Only 1 non-Gretzky player has even won the scoring race by more than 30 points. . . . That was Mario Lemieux by 31 points in 1988-89;
9491. If (Wayne) Gretzky never scored a goal, he still would’ve recorded 11 straight 100-point seasons and won 4 scoring titles;
9492. A no-goal (Wayne) Gretzky would still have the most 100-point seasons of all-time and he’d be tied for the fifth-most scoring titles;
9493. (Wayne) Gretzky won 8 consecutive MVPs at one point. In the NHL, NBA, NFL and MLB, no other player has won more than 4 consecutive MVPs;
9494. If you chopped (Wayne) Gretzky’s entire career numbers in half, he’d still be 17th all-time in points;
9495. If you halved (Wayne) Gretzky’s stats, he’d still be a first-ballot Hall of Famer;
9496. Only 5 players have recorded 150 or more points in a season. (Wayne) Gretzky did it 9 times (i.e., in 45% of his seasons);
9497. Only (Wayne) Gretzky and (Mario) Lemieux have even topped 155 points in a season;
9498. (Wayne) Gretzky is the only player to record a 200-point season and he did it 4 times;
9499. In a 2-season stretch from 1983-84 to 1984-85, (Wayne) Gretzky scored 23 shorthanded goals;
9500. Only 52 players have more than 23 career shorthanded goals and (Wayne) Gretzky has 73 in total, the most all-time;
9452. Focus on what you want not what you don’t want;
9453. People often identify what they don’t want instead of what they do want because of fear. Try to reframe your mindset so you’re not being guided by fear, but rather facing it head on;
9454. Most achievers are afraid of living a life falling short of who they are, what they stand for and what they want to give to their kids or their wife or the universe. Because of that, they’ll overcome their fears. You can turn fear on itself;
9455. Don’t stop after you’ve achieved your goal;
9456. You should never stop setting goals;
9457. You’ll feel a burst of pride and an uptick in energy right when you hit your goal. But then what? Without another goal to pursue and a daily sense of meaning, you will feel lost;
9458. Without something to pursue or to look forward to, you run the risk of your life feeling stagnant;
9459. We all need a compelling future. We all need something that we’re going for that makes us feel alive. If you don’t, you’re going to feel frustrated, bored and pissed off and you’re going to start looking at other things to blame;
9460. Don’t worry about not achieving your goals;
9461. What matters isn’t that the goal is achieved, but rather that you grow as a person on the path to achieving it;
9462. What makes us feel alive is progress. It’s growth. It’s aliveness. We grow or we die. That’s what life is;
9463. Remember: Growth takes different forms for different people. Try to figure out what form of growth is most valuable to you and go from there;
9464. You don’t just want to grow. You want to grow so you can have an extraordinary life on your terms, a life that’s fulfilling to you;
9465. If you have intense moments of pain in your life, look out for the window of opportunity that gets created (too) . . . and use it to your full advantage;
9466. I (kind of) like the “beef, bean and green chile” burrito at 7-Eleven. . . . It’s not bad for a microwave burrito;
9467. Our brains can move a million miles per hour and we can get so wrapped up in our thoughts that they become our reality, but the truth is our thoughts are not facts;
9468. Be gentle with yourself;
9469. You don’t need to carry all of the burdens. You’re not responsible for other people’s emotions; you don’t need to carry all that with you;
9470. We cannot control other people’s thoughts. You cannot control what others think and you shouldn’t stress yourself so much about doing so;
9471. Sit with grief and allow yourself to feel it. Grief isn’t relegated to the loss of a loved one. The loss of life as we knew it also brings on the grieving process. Sit with the discomfort; face it. Stop trying to be fine; and start being real;
9472. Take care of yourself first. You’re the battery to the car; if you’re not taken care of, the care won’t work;
9473. There’s never a perfect moment to have hard conversations. You won’t always be prepared; you don’t need to stress yourself over waiting for the perfect time to initiate thoughtful discussions about important topics;
9474. It’s healthy to set boundaries with others. It’s okay to say “no.” It’s okay to speak up for yourself. It’s okay to ask for help;
9475. It can be instinctive to approach potentially heated conversations from a place of anger or frustration, but, instead, be calm and helpful with your words;
9476. Even if you don’t think you’re the smartest person in the room, your voice still matters;
9477. Listen to yourself; connect with your body. You are your best and most intuitive healer. Your body holds great wisdom; take time to listen and get to know him/her better. You are the expert of you;
9478. Give yourself the empathy you freely give to others;
9479. Don’t get so lost dwelling on past “should’ve” and “could’ve” moments that you forget about your current choices;
9480. We may not always like our options, but they do exist;
9481. Every day we have the choice to either be our best friend or our worst enemy. Choose to be your best friend not your enemy;
9482. The time is always right to do what is right;
9483. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that;
9484. Apparently, Dave Matthew’s former manager’s (i.e., Ross Hoffman) daughter (i.e., Lauren) stole Elizabeth’s (high school) boyfriend;
9485. We are doomed to blindness if we look to find ourselves in the eyes of others;
9486. Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter;
9487. You have power over your mind not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength;
9488. Wayne Gretzky was born on January 26, 1961;
9489. (Wayne) Gretzky won the scoring title by more than 70 points 6 times. . . . The past 6 NHL scoring races were decided by a combined 60 points;
9490. Only 1 non-Gretzky player has even won the scoring race by more than 30 points. . . . That was Mario Lemieux by 31 points in 1988-89;
9491. If (Wayne) Gretzky never scored a goal, he still would’ve recorded 11 straight 100-point seasons and won 4 scoring titles;
9492. A no-goal (Wayne) Gretzky would still have the most 100-point seasons of all-time and he’d be tied for the fifth-most scoring titles;
9493. (Wayne) Gretzky won 8 consecutive MVPs at one point. In the NHL, NBA, NFL and MLB, no other player has won more than 4 consecutive MVPs;
9494. If you chopped (Wayne) Gretzky’s entire career numbers in half, he’d still be 17th all-time in points;
9495. If you halved (Wayne) Gretzky’s stats, he’d still be a first-ballot Hall of Famer;
9496. Only 5 players have recorded 150 or more points in a season. (Wayne) Gretzky did it 9 times (i.e., in 45% of his seasons);
9497. Only (Wayne) Gretzky and (Mario) Lemieux have even topped 155 points in a season;
9498. (Wayne) Gretzky is the only player to record a 200-point season and he did it 4 times;
9499. In a 2-season stretch from 1983-84 to 1984-85, (Wayne) Gretzky scored 23 shorthanded goals;
9500. Only 52 players have more than 23 career shorthanded goals and (Wayne) Gretzky has 73 in total, the most all-time;
Monday, December 21, 2020
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0189
9401. Everybody
ends up someplace in life. A few people
end up somewhere on purpose;
9402. The traits we don’t want to acknowledge in ourselves, we project onto others;
9403. Notice what you see in others and how you speak about them. The things you see the most in others are parts of you waiting to be witnessed waiting to be integrated;
9404. When you see something “positive” in someone that you “wish” you had, you already do. That’s why you can see it. Say to yourself, “That’s in me too;”
9405. When you see something “negative” in someone you attempt to judge, see this part of yourself too that’s waiting to be loved. Say to yourself, “That’s in me too.” The ego will put up a fight. The soul will take a deep breath as you release self-judgment;
9406. Money won’t solve all of your problems. Money will solve your money problems;
9407. All self-improvement (in 1 post): 1. Breathe and be in the moment; 2. Always respond with love and compassion; 3. When you fail at 1 or 2, reflect on what pulled you off course; 4. If it’s about someone or something else and not about you, repeat step 3; and 5. Work on that part of you;
9408. If hard work is the answer to wealth, we’d have a lot more rich people in the world;
9409. You may not be responsible for your past, but you are responsible for your future;
9410. You don’t get paid for hard work. You get paid for the value you provide;
9411. Easy money and hard money are worth the exact same amount;
9412. Time and money are not related;
9413. Hard work is not sustainable (long-term). Even if it works for a while, it will likely stop working because you’ll burn out;
9414. Hard work is one way to make good money, but it’s not the only way;
9415. Become efficient in the effective;
9416. I am not my past. I am not my mistakes. I am not my failures. I am who I decide to become. I am who I commit to become. I commit to become the best I can be. I forgive. I move on. I look forward to the new me. My best is yet to come;
9417. Don’t let dogs eat any of the salt or the snow (especially the slushy snow) that has been treated with an ice melt. It can upset their stomachs causing vomiting, diarrhea and dehydration;
9418. Check your carryout order before you leave;
9419. I think the lobster rolls at Hank’s Oyster Bar are better than the ones at Vola’s Dockside Grill (VolasDockside.com). I still think they have the best lobster rolls in the D.C. (metropolitan) area;
9420. Self-sabotage looks like: 1. Rejecting praise and compliments; 2. Not asking for help; 3. Pushing people away when they start to get close; 4. Opening up and attaching others prematurely; 5. Refusing to do something unless you can do it perfectly; 6. Procrastinating on important projects; 7. Putting everyone else’s needs before your own; 8. Constantly criticizing yourself; and 9. Isolating when you are hurting;
9421. Perfection is the death of all progress;
9422. Perfection doesn’t exist . . . not in writing . . . not in business . . . not even in nature;
9423. Understand that good enough is good enough. Put your work into the world and make it better later. Let the world tell you what needs to be improved instead of trying to get it all right on the first try;
9424. My parents are people too. They aren’t perfect. They have their own problems/traumas that they’re dealing with (too);
9425. Armin van Buuren is a Christmas baby;
9426. Stop waiting for Friday . . . for summer . . . for someone to do something for you . . . for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now;
9427. You need to wait a month before testing for post-traumatic stress disorder (“PTSD”);
9428. There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving. And that’s your own self;
9429. When someone tells you you’re making a terrible mistake, a lot of times what they really mean is, “That’s not what I’d choose for my life;”
9430. It’s not a good sign when the baggage scanner takes your backpack and/or carryon out of the conveyor belt line. . . . You (probably) forgot something at the bottom of your bag and/or pocket;
9431. Before packing for a flight, check your backpack and/or carryon for corkscrews and/or pocket knives. You’ll either have to toss it/them or (pay to) check your backpack and/or carryon;
9432. Apparently, airlines will stop checking bags before a flight . . . for American (Airlines) it’s about a ½ hour before (the flight);
9433. If it’s mentionable then it’s manageable;
9434. Cock squatting . . . check;
9435. Elizabeth likes getting spanked with a (leather) belt;
9436. Getting a blowjob after blowing your load in her . . . check;
9437. Havana 1957 (Havana1957.com) has a (pretty) good Cubano/Cuban sandwich. . . . It’s huge;
9438. Whoever invented the Cubano/Cuban sandwich was a genius;
9439. The best Cubano/Cuban sandwich I’ve had in Miami is at the Colada Cuban Café & Grill (ColadaCubanCafe.com) (in the lobby of YVE Hotel Miami). . . . The (roasted) pork is succulent . . . and the sandwich is huge;
9440. Elizabeth likes her clit sucked;
9441. I can say I’ve had (Florida) stone crab. . . . It’s all right . . . , but I (still) like (Chesapeake) blue crab better/more. (I think) it has better flavor;
9442. Some women Facetune the shit out of their photos;
9443. (According to Richard Biegel,) the deepest, most meaningful and long-lasting happiness comes from relationships. These relationships are almost universally from family and based on empathy and compassion;
9444. (According to Richard Biegel,) comparison is the thief of happiness;
9445. (According to Richard Biegel,) fulfillment comes from following your bliss not the almighty dollar;
9446. The pursuit matters just as much as the goal;
9447. The purpose of a goal is not to get it. The purpose of a goal is who you become in pursuit of it;
9448. If you grow in the process of achieving your goal then that is success;
9449. Set a goal with the right scope in mind;
9450. Most people overestimate what they’re going to do in a year and they underestimate what they can do in a decade or two or three or four;
9402. The traits we don’t want to acknowledge in ourselves, we project onto others;
9403. Notice what you see in others and how you speak about them. The things you see the most in others are parts of you waiting to be witnessed waiting to be integrated;
9404. When you see something “positive” in someone that you “wish” you had, you already do. That’s why you can see it. Say to yourself, “That’s in me too;”
9405. When you see something “negative” in someone you attempt to judge, see this part of yourself too that’s waiting to be loved. Say to yourself, “That’s in me too.” The ego will put up a fight. The soul will take a deep breath as you release self-judgment;
9406. Money won’t solve all of your problems. Money will solve your money problems;
9407. All self-improvement (in 1 post): 1. Breathe and be in the moment; 2. Always respond with love and compassion; 3. When you fail at 1 or 2, reflect on what pulled you off course; 4. If it’s about someone or something else and not about you, repeat step 3; and 5. Work on that part of you;
9408. If hard work is the answer to wealth, we’d have a lot more rich people in the world;
9409. You may not be responsible for your past, but you are responsible for your future;
9410. You don’t get paid for hard work. You get paid for the value you provide;
9411. Easy money and hard money are worth the exact same amount;
9412. Time and money are not related;
9413. Hard work is not sustainable (long-term). Even if it works for a while, it will likely stop working because you’ll burn out;
9414. Hard work is one way to make good money, but it’s not the only way;
9415. Become efficient in the effective;
9416. I am not my past. I am not my mistakes. I am not my failures. I am who I decide to become. I am who I commit to become. I commit to become the best I can be. I forgive. I move on. I look forward to the new me. My best is yet to come;
9417. Don’t let dogs eat any of the salt or the snow (especially the slushy snow) that has been treated with an ice melt. It can upset their stomachs causing vomiting, diarrhea and dehydration;
9418. Check your carryout order before you leave;
9419. I think the lobster rolls at Hank’s Oyster Bar are better than the ones at Vola’s Dockside Grill (VolasDockside.com). I still think they have the best lobster rolls in the D.C. (metropolitan) area;
9420. Self-sabotage looks like: 1. Rejecting praise and compliments; 2. Not asking for help; 3. Pushing people away when they start to get close; 4. Opening up and attaching others prematurely; 5. Refusing to do something unless you can do it perfectly; 6. Procrastinating on important projects; 7. Putting everyone else’s needs before your own; 8. Constantly criticizing yourself; and 9. Isolating when you are hurting;
9421. Perfection is the death of all progress;
9422. Perfection doesn’t exist . . . not in writing . . . not in business . . . not even in nature;
9423. Understand that good enough is good enough. Put your work into the world and make it better later. Let the world tell you what needs to be improved instead of trying to get it all right on the first try;
9424. My parents are people too. They aren’t perfect. They have their own problems/traumas that they’re dealing with (too);
9425. Armin van Buuren is a Christmas baby;
9426. Stop waiting for Friday . . . for summer . . . for someone to do something for you . . . for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now;
9427. You need to wait a month before testing for post-traumatic stress disorder (“PTSD”);
9428. There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving. And that’s your own self;
9429. When someone tells you you’re making a terrible mistake, a lot of times what they really mean is, “That’s not what I’d choose for my life;”
9430. It’s not a good sign when the baggage scanner takes your backpack and/or carryon out of the conveyor belt line. . . . You (probably) forgot something at the bottom of your bag and/or pocket;
9431. Before packing for a flight, check your backpack and/or carryon for corkscrews and/or pocket knives. You’ll either have to toss it/them or (pay to) check your backpack and/or carryon;
9432. Apparently, airlines will stop checking bags before a flight . . . for American (Airlines) it’s about a ½ hour before (the flight);
9433. If it’s mentionable then it’s manageable;
9434. Cock squatting . . . check;
9435. Elizabeth likes getting spanked with a (leather) belt;
9436. Getting a blowjob after blowing your load in her . . . check;
9437. Havana 1957 (Havana1957.com) has a (pretty) good Cubano/Cuban sandwich. . . . It’s huge;
9438. Whoever invented the Cubano/Cuban sandwich was a genius;
9439. The best Cubano/Cuban sandwich I’ve had in Miami is at the Colada Cuban Café & Grill (ColadaCubanCafe.com) (in the lobby of YVE Hotel Miami). . . . The (roasted) pork is succulent . . . and the sandwich is huge;
9440. Elizabeth likes her clit sucked;
9441. I can say I’ve had (Florida) stone crab. . . . It’s all right . . . , but I (still) like (Chesapeake) blue crab better/more. (I think) it has better flavor;
9442. Some women Facetune the shit out of their photos;
9443. (According to Richard Biegel,) the deepest, most meaningful and long-lasting happiness comes from relationships. These relationships are almost universally from family and based on empathy and compassion;
9444. (According to Richard Biegel,) comparison is the thief of happiness;
9445. (According to Richard Biegel,) fulfillment comes from following your bliss not the almighty dollar;
9446. The pursuit matters just as much as the goal;
9447. The purpose of a goal is not to get it. The purpose of a goal is who you become in pursuit of it;
9448. If you grow in the process of achieving your goal then that is success;
9449. Set a goal with the right scope in mind;
9450. Most people overestimate what they’re going to do in a year and they underestimate what they can do in a decade or two or three or four;
Monday, November 30, 2020
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0188
9351. Helpful
criticism is about making the world a better place. Unhelpful criticism is about making yourself
feel better;
9352. From a young age, many of us learn unconsciously that being critical of other people is an effective strategy for feeling better about ourselves;
9353. Criticism of others is often a distraction, a form of procrastination that lets you focus on other people’s problems instead of doing the hard work of looking at your own issues;
9354. When you ignore your own insecurities by pointing out other people’s flaws, it temporarily feels good, but that only allows your insecurities to grow. As they grow, they become more and more painful, which means you need to use criticism more and more in order to temporarily feel better;
9355. When you ignore your own insecurities, you get addicted to criticism as a shallow strategy for feeling better;
9356. Ignoring your feelings often leads to relief in the moment, but, in the long run, it’s a setup for emotional insecurity and poor resilience;
9357. Just because something feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad;
9358. Many of the most important things in life require feeling bad initially in order to feel much better later;
9359. If you habitually avoid things that feel bad, you miss out on the opportunity to feel much better in the future. This is true of finances, health, relationships and your own emotions;
9360. If you habitually avoid anxiety and nervousness, you miss out on the opportunity to grow and take advantage of new opportunities;
9361. If you habitually avoid sadness, it’s very hard to connect empathetically with important people in your life;
9362. If you habitually avoid anger and frustration, it’s very hard to become assertive and decisive;
9363. Dwelling on past mistakes or losses gives us the illusion of control(, which is why we get addicted to it);
9364. Even though dwelling on past mistakes makes us feel excessively guilty or sad or ashamed, it also makes us feel in control. If, deep down, the bigger fear is lack of control and helplessness then accepting a lot of sadness and chronic guilt might be a worthwhile tradeoff if it lets you avoid an even more painful feeling like helplessness;
9365. If you want to let go of past mistakes and failures and get on with your life, you must be willing to confront and accept your helplessness and lack of control;
9366. The last thing you want (to see) is a puppy/dog leaping at your penis/cock after getting out of the shower (naked);
9367. A puppy/dog has hit my bare/naked penis/cock with its nose and face;
9368. Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there;
9369. Charlie (Dog) likes sand;
9370. Dreams don’t work unless you do;
9371. The butter chicken pizza at Chicago’s Pizza With-A-Twist (ChicagosPizzaTwist.com) in Arlington is pretty tasty. . . . So is the chicken curry (pizza);
9372. Don’t try 7 stouts in a row (specifically The Virginia Beer Company’s Evil Santa spiced milk stout, Three Notch’d Brewing’s Biggie S’mores imperial stout, Angry Chair Brewing’s Loaded French Toast imperial stout, Hardywood Park Craft Brewery’s gingerbread stout & Christmas Pancakes imperial mild stout, Old Bust Head Brewing Company’s Peppermint Caramel Macchiato stout & Hi-Wire Brewing’s 10W-40 imperial stout) . . . just don’t . . . it’s too much;
9373. Treat others the way they want to be treated;
9374. In a recent study published in the journal The Cochrane Library, researchers from the United Kingdom conducted an elaborate review of data from nearly 100 studies and they found that people consistently consume more food and drink (i.e., more calories) when offered larger-sized portions, packages and tableware compared to when smaller-sized portions are offered;
9375. The researchers found that adults, on average, consume about 15% more or about 250 calories, when offered larger serving sizes. An excess of that magnitude could equate to upwards of a 10-pound weight gain over the course of a year;
9376. (In 1838, 272) slaves were sold by the (Maryland) Jesuits to help pay for the debts of Georgetown University (then Georgetown College);
9377. Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings;
9378. The filet mignon at Bobby Van’s Steakhouse is big . . . and so good. . . . The sautéed mushrooms are pretty tasty too;
9379. The Capital Wheel in National Harbor is (kind of) a disappointment. . . . There’s (really) not much to see;
9380. The Winery at Bull Run (WineryAtBullRun.com) is (literally) next door to the (Bull Run) battlefield;
9381. Dogs shouldn’t eat almonds. They aren’t as toxic as some nuts, but it’s one of the food’s dogs can’t digest as easily as humans;
9382. Apparently, pecans, walnuts and macadamia nuts are toxic to dogs;
9383. Cinnamon toast tastes like Cinnamon Toast Crunch (cereal) . . . shocker;
9384. It’s usually not the criticism from outsiders that holds you back. More often, it’s your own mind worrying about what other people are going to think;
9385. We often procrastinate not because of hurtful comments from others, but rather from our own fears about what others are going to think;
9386. Internal fears and (internal) criticism/dialogue often hold us back from achieving our goals and many times they stop us from even getting started;
9387. It can take a lifetime to learn that just because people criticize you it doesn’t mean they actually care about your choice to do something different;
9388. Haters often criticize and move on so that means you can safely ignore them and continue doing your thing;
9389. Criticism is almost always in your head;
9390. The tendency to hold onto negative criticism is natural for most people;
9391. According to researchers at Florida State University, we remember negative emotions (much) more strongly and in more vivid detail;
9392. Even happy people remember more negative events than positive ones;
9393. Scientists say that it takes about five positive events to make up for one negative one;
9394. “Don’t look at the wall. Your car goes where your eyes go;”
9395. Criticism and negativity from difficult people are like a wall. If you focus on them then you’ll run right into them. You’ll get blocked by negative emotions, anger and self-doubt. Your mind will go where your attention is fixed. Criticism and negativity don’t prevent you from reaching the finish line, but they certainly can distract you from it;
9396. If you focus on the road in front of you and on moving forward then you can safely speed past the walls and barriers that are nearby. If you’re dealing with criticism then don’t let the wall keep you from seeing the road. Focus on the path ahead. Ignore the boos (they usually come from the cheap seats);
9397. Don’t be the hater. Don’t be the person who tears down someone else’s hard work. The world needs more people who contribute their gifts and share their work and ideas. Working up the courage to do that can be tough. Support the people who display that courage;
9398. Arkansas is the biggest producer of rice in the U.S.;
9399. Sake is (Japanese) rice wine;
9400. Charlie (Dog) likes to play with onions;
9352. From a young age, many of us learn unconsciously that being critical of other people is an effective strategy for feeling better about ourselves;
9353. Criticism of others is often a distraction, a form of procrastination that lets you focus on other people’s problems instead of doing the hard work of looking at your own issues;
9354. When you ignore your own insecurities by pointing out other people’s flaws, it temporarily feels good, but that only allows your insecurities to grow. As they grow, they become more and more painful, which means you need to use criticism more and more in order to temporarily feel better;
9355. When you ignore your own insecurities, you get addicted to criticism as a shallow strategy for feeling better;
9356. Ignoring your feelings often leads to relief in the moment, but, in the long run, it’s a setup for emotional insecurity and poor resilience;
9357. Just because something feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad;
9358. Many of the most important things in life require feeling bad initially in order to feel much better later;
9359. If you habitually avoid things that feel bad, you miss out on the opportunity to feel much better in the future. This is true of finances, health, relationships and your own emotions;
9360. If you habitually avoid anxiety and nervousness, you miss out on the opportunity to grow and take advantage of new opportunities;
9361. If you habitually avoid sadness, it’s very hard to connect empathetically with important people in your life;
9362. If you habitually avoid anger and frustration, it’s very hard to become assertive and decisive;
9363. Dwelling on past mistakes or losses gives us the illusion of control(, which is why we get addicted to it);
9364. Even though dwelling on past mistakes makes us feel excessively guilty or sad or ashamed, it also makes us feel in control. If, deep down, the bigger fear is lack of control and helplessness then accepting a lot of sadness and chronic guilt might be a worthwhile tradeoff if it lets you avoid an even more painful feeling like helplessness;
9365. If you want to let go of past mistakes and failures and get on with your life, you must be willing to confront and accept your helplessness and lack of control;
9366. The last thing you want (to see) is a puppy/dog leaping at your penis/cock after getting out of the shower (naked);
9367. A puppy/dog has hit my bare/naked penis/cock with its nose and face;
9368. Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there;
9369. Charlie (Dog) likes sand;
9370. Dreams don’t work unless you do;
9371. The butter chicken pizza at Chicago’s Pizza With-A-Twist (ChicagosPizzaTwist.com) in Arlington is pretty tasty. . . . So is the chicken curry (pizza);
9372. Don’t try 7 stouts in a row (specifically The Virginia Beer Company’s Evil Santa spiced milk stout, Three Notch’d Brewing’s Biggie S’mores imperial stout, Angry Chair Brewing’s Loaded French Toast imperial stout, Hardywood Park Craft Brewery’s gingerbread stout & Christmas Pancakes imperial mild stout, Old Bust Head Brewing Company’s Peppermint Caramel Macchiato stout & Hi-Wire Brewing’s 10W-40 imperial stout) . . . just don’t . . . it’s too much;
9373. Treat others the way they want to be treated;
9374. In a recent study published in the journal The Cochrane Library, researchers from the United Kingdom conducted an elaborate review of data from nearly 100 studies and they found that people consistently consume more food and drink (i.e., more calories) when offered larger-sized portions, packages and tableware compared to when smaller-sized portions are offered;
9375. The researchers found that adults, on average, consume about 15% more or about 250 calories, when offered larger serving sizes. An excess of that magnitude could equate to upwards of a 10-pound weight gain over the course of a year;
9376. (In 1838, 272) slaves were sold by the (Maryland) Jesuits to help pay for the debts of Georgetown University (then Georgetown College);
9377. Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings;
9378. The filet mignon at Bobby Van’s Steakhouse is big . . . and so good. . . . The sautéed mushrooms are pretty tasty too;
9379. The Capital Wheel in National Harbor is (kind of) a disappointment. . . . There’s (really) not much to see;
9380. The Winery at Bull Run (WineryAtBullRun.com) is (literally) next door to the (Bull Run) battlefield;
9381. Dogs shouldn’t eat almonds. They aren’t as toxic as some nuts, but it’s one of the food’s dogs can’t digest as easily as humans;
9382. Apparently, pecans, walnuts and macadamia nuts are toxic to dogs;
9383. Cinnamon toast tastes like Cinnamon Toast Crunch (cereal) . . . shocker;
9384. It’s usually not the criticism from outsiders that holds you back. More often, it’s your own mind worrying about what other people are going to think;
9385. We often procrastinate not because of hurtful comments from others, but rather from our own fears about what others are going to think;
9386. Internal fears and (internal) criticism/dialogue often hold us back from achieving our goals and many times they stop us from even getting started;
9387. It can take a lifetime to learn that just because people criticize you it doesn’t mean they actually care about your choice to do something different;
9388. Haters often criticize and move on so that means you can safely ignore them and continue doing your thing;
9389. Criticism is almost always in your head;
9390. The tendency to hold onto negative criticism is natural for most people;
9391. According to researchers at Florida State University, we remember negative emotions (much) more strongly and in more vivid detail;
9392. Even happy people remember more negative events than positive ones;
9393. Scientists say that it takes about five positive events to make up for one negative one;
9394. “Don’t look at the wall. Your car goes where your eyes go;”
9395. Criticism and negativity from difficult people are like a wall. If you focus on them then you’ll run right into them. You’ll get blocked by negative emotions, anger and self-doubt. Your mind will go where your attention is fixed. Criticism and negativity don’t prevent you from reaching the finish line, but they certainly can distract you from it;
9396. If you focus on the road in front of you and on moving forward then you can safely speed past the walls and barriers that are nearby. If you’re dealing with criticism then don’t let the wall keep you from seeing the road. Focus on the path ahead. Ignore the boos (they usually come from the cheap seats);
9397. Don’t be the hater. Don’t be the person who tears down someone else’s hard work. The world needs more people who contribute their gifts and share their work and ideas. Working up the courage to do that can be tough. Support the people who display that courage;
9398. Arkansas is the biggest producer of rice in the U.S.;
9399. Sake is (Japanese) rice wine;
9400. Charlie (Dog) likes to play with onions;
Monday, November 2, 2020
What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious): 0187
9301. Others
know they can’t prevent bad things from happening, but they wonder and worry
about them anyway. Their worries
ultimately waste their time and energy because worrying doesn’t do any good;
9302. Focus on your influence. You can influence people and circumstances, but you can’t force things to go your way. In other words, you have control over your actions and behaviors, but you can’t control the outcome; concentrate on what counts;
9303. Identify your fears. Ask yourself what you are afraid will happen. Usually, the worst-case scenario isn’t as tragic as you might envision. There’s a good chance you’re stronger than you think;
9304. Differentiate between ruminating and problem solving. Ask yourself whether your thinking is productive. If you are actively solving a problem, keep working on solutions. If you’re wasting your time ruminating, change the channel in your brain;
9305. In seeking truth, you have to get both sides of a story;
9306. Grapes/raisins/wine are poisonous to French bulldogs;
9307. Apparently, French bulldogs love cantaloupe;
9308. You shouldn’t feed lemons or limes to French bulldogs. The psoralen compounds and aromatic oils can upset their stomachs;
9309. French bulldogs should not eat tomatoes. Tomato plants (i.e., their stems and leaves) contain a substance called solanine that can be dangerous if dogs eat it in large quantities. As tomatoes ripen, the solanine metabolizes meaning the toxicity is removed;
9310. The brick oven pizza (specifically the primavera with grilled corn and sun gold tomatoes) at Palette 22 (Palette22.com) in Shirlington is pretty tasty;
9311. Apparently, Elizabeth is friends with Dan Humphrey’s (i.e., Penn Badgley) wife/baby mama (i.e., Domino Kirke);
9312. The person who starts out simply with the idea of getting rich won’t succeed. You must have a larger ambition;
9313. Our DNA differs from that of chimps and bonobos by roughly 1.6%, making us closer to them than a dog is to a fox, a white-handed gibbon to a white-cheeked crested gibbon, an Indian elephant to an African elephant or a red-eyed vireo to a white-eyed vireo;
9314. DNA evidence indicates that the last common ancestor for apes and monkeys lived about 30 million years ago;
9315. Anthropologist Marvin Harris argues that bonobos get a “reproductive payoff that compensates theme for their wasteful approach to hitting the ovulatory target.” The payoff is “a more intense form of social cooperating between males and females” leading to “a more intensely cooperative social group, a more secure milieu for rearing infants and hence a higher degree of reproductive success for sexier males and females.” The bonobo’s promiscuity confers significant evolutionary benefits on the apes;
9316. Monogamy is not found in any social, group-living primate except us;
9317. I am not my thoughts. My thoughts are not a prison that I can’t escape. Once I notice them, I can either let them go or change them. The same goes for my beliefs. They don’t define me;
9318. Blaming other people is a futile exercise that doesn’t solve anything. It creates anger and resentment and it does nothing to push you forward;
9319. If someone wronged you, work on letting go of those bitter feelings. Forgive. Move on. Focus on your actions instead;
9320. When you start taking action, you take more responsibility for what happens in your life;
9321. While there’s an infinite number of things you can worry about, there are only a handful of things you can control starting with your attitude, actions and behaviors
9322. You can’t change what others say or think and you can’t decide the actions other people take. What you can do is decide what your next step is;
9323. There are few things more disappointing than when someone makes a promise and never delivers. Eventually, the person’s words lose their meaning and the person herself/himself becomes devoid of trust;
9324. If you want to help someone, think carefully about what that entails before offering to do so;
9325. The people that speak the loudest often end up doing the least;
9326. The next time you want to do something, take initiative and help out. Let the results speak for themselves;
9327. Chimps are reported to be power-mad, jealous, quick to violence, devious and aggressive. Murder, organized warfare between groups, rape and infanticide are prominent in accounts of their behavior;
9328. Many scientists have assumed chimpanzees are what humans would be like with just a bit less self-discipline;
9329. Bonobo: Egalitarian and peaceful, bonobo communities are maintained primarily through social bonding between females although females bond with males as well. Male status derives from the mother. Bonds between son and mother are lifelong. Multi-male-multi-female mating
9330. Chimpanzee: The bonds between males are strongest and lead to constantly shifting male coalitions. Females move through overlapping ranges within territory patrolled by males, but don’t form strong bonds with other females or any particular male. Multi-male-multi-female mating;
9331. Human: By far the most diverse social species among the primates, there is plentiful evidence of all types of socio-sexual bonding, cooperation and competition among contemporary humans. Multi-male-multi-female mating;
9332. Gorilla: Generally a single dominant male (the so-called “Silverback”) occupies a range for his family unit composed of several females and young. Adolescent males are forced out of the group as they reach sexual maturity. Strongest social bonds are between the male and adult females. Polygynous mating;
9333. Orangutan: Orangutans are solitary and show little bonding of any kind. Male orangutans do not tolerate each other’s presence. An adult male establishes a large territory where several females live. Each has her own range. Mating is dispersed, infrequent and often violent;
9334. Gibbon: Gibbons establish nuclear family units; each couple maintains a territory from which other pairs are excluded. Mating is monogamous;
9335. Primatologist Craig Stanford found that while the chimps at Gombe are “utterly nepotistic and Machiavellian” about meat distribution, the chimps at Tai share the meat among every individual in the hunting group, whether friend or foe, close relative or relative stranger;
9336. While data from the chimps studied by Jane Goodall and others at Gombe appear to support the idea that a ruthless and calculating selfishness is typical of chimpanzee behavior, information from other study sites may contradict or undermine this finding;
9337. Cultural historian Morris Berman explains that if we “change things such as food supplies, population densities and the possibilities for spontaneous group formation and dissolution, . . . all hell breaks loose – no less for apes than for humans;”
9338. Recent findings in comparative primate intelligence have led researchers Vanessa Woods and Brian Hare to wonder whether an impulse toward cooperation might actually be the key to our species-defining intelligence. They write, “Instead of getting a jump start with the most intelligent hominids surviving to produce the next generation, as is often suggested, it may have been the more social hominids (because they were better at solving problems together) who achieved a higher level of fitness and allowed selection to favor more sophisticated problem-solving over time.” Humans got smart, they hypothesize, because our ancestors learned to cooperate;
9339. Though bonobos surpass even chimps in the frequency of their sexual behavior, females of both species engage in multiple mating sessions in quick succession with different males;
9340. Among chimpanzees, ovulating females mate, on average, from 6-8 times per day and they are often eager to respond to the mating invitations of any and all males in the group;
9341. Describing the behavior of female chimps she monitored, primatologist Anne Pusey notes, “Each, after mating within her natal community, visited the other community while sexually receptive. They eagerly approached and mated with males from the new community;”
9342. I was disappointed with Safeway’s “Signature Café” firecracker chicken sandwich;
9343. The brick oven pan pizza at Mia’s Italian Kitchen (MiasItalian.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is pretty tasty. . . . I think it’s the same crust at Palette 22. . . . They’re both owned by the same restaurant group (i.e., Alexandria Restaurant Partners);
9344. For bonobos, female status is more important than male hierarchy, but even female rank is flexible and not binding;
9345. Bonobos have no formalized rituals of dominance and submission like the status displays common to chimps, gorillas and other primates;
9346. Although status is not completely absent, primatologist Takayoshi Kano, who has collected the most detailed information on bonobo behavior in the wild, prefers to use the term, “influential,” rather than “high-ranking,” when describing female bonobos. He believes that females are respected out of affection rather than because of rank;
9347. Joe Biden is (a Roman) Catholic;
9348. Time offers opportunity but demands a sense of urgency;
9349. You only struggle because you’re ready to grow, but aren’t willing to let go;
9350. You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending;
9302. Focus on your influence. You can influence people and circumstances, but you can’t force things to go your way. In other words, you have control over your actions and behaviors, but you can’t control the outcome; concentrate on what counts;
9303. Identify your fears. Ask yourself what you are afraid will happen. Usually, the worst-case scenario isn’t as tragic as you might envision. There’s a good chance you’re stronger than you think;
9304. Differentiate between ruminating and problem solving. Ask yourself whether your thinking is productive. If you are actively solving a problem, keep working on solutions. If you’re wasting your time ruminating, change the channel in your brain;
9305. In seeking truth, you have to get both sides of a story;
9306. Grapes/raisins/wine are poisonous to French bulldogs;
9307. Apparently, French bulldogs love cantaloupe;
9308. You shouldn’t feed lemons or limes to French bulldogs. The psoralen compounds and aromatic oils can upset their stomachs;
9309. French bulldogs should not eat tomatoes. Tomato plants (i.e., their stems and leaves) contain a substance called solanine that can be dangerous if dogs eat it in large quantities. As tomatoes ripen, the solanine metabolizes meaning the toxicity is removed;
9310. The brick oven pizza (specifically the primavera with grilled corn and sun gold tomatoes) at Palette 22 (Palette22.com) in Shirlington is pretty tasty;
9311. Apparently, Elizabeth is friends with Dan Humphrey’s (i.e., Penn Badgley) wife/baby mama (i.e., Domino Kirke);
9312. The person who starts out simply with the idea of getting rich won’t succeed. You must have a larger ambition;
9313. Our DNA differs from that of chimps and bonobos by roughly 1.6%, making us closer to them than a dog is to a fox, a white-handed gibbon to a white-cheeked crested gibbon, an Indian elephant to an African elephant or a red-eyed vireo to a white-eyed vireo;
9314. DNA evidence indicates that the last common ancestor for apes and monkeys lived about 30 million years ago;
9315. Anthropologist Marvin Harris argues that bonobos get a “reproductive payoff that compensates theme for their wasteful approach to hitting the ovulatory target.” The payoff is “a more intense form of social cooperating between males and females” leading to “a more intensely cooperative social group, a more secure milieu for rearing infants and hence a higher degree of reproductive success for sexier males and females.” The bonobo’s promiscuity confers significant evolutionary benefits on the apes;
9316. Monogamy is not found in any social, group-living primate except us;
9317. I am not my thoughts. My thoughts are not a prison that I can’t escape. Once I notice them, I can either let them go or change them. The same goes for my beliefs. They don’t define me;
9318. Blaming other people is a futile exercise that doesn’t solve anything. It creates anger and resentment and it does nothing to push you forward;
9319. If someone wronged you, work on letting go of those bitter feelings. Forgive. Move on. Focus on your actions instead;
9320. When you start taking action, you take more responsibility for what happens in your life;
9321. While there’s an infinite number of things you can worry about, there are only a handful of things you can control starting with your attitude, actions and behaviors
9322. You can’t change what others say or think and you can’t decide the actions other people take. What you can do is decide what your next step is;
9323. There are few things more disappointing than when someone makes a promise and never delivers. Eventually, the person’s words lose their meaning and the person herself/himself becomes devoid of trust;
9324. If you want to help someone, think carefully about what that entails before offering to do so;
9325. The people that speak the loudest often end up doing the least;
9326. The next time you want to do something, take initiative and help out. Let the results speak for themselves;
9327. Chimps are reported to be power-mad, jealous, quick to violence, devious and aggressive. Murder, organized warfare between groups, rape and infanticide are prominent in accounts of their behavior;
9328. Many scientists have assumed chimpanzees are what humans would be like with just a bit less self-discipline;
9329. Bonobo: Egalitarian and peaceful, bonobo communities are maintained primarily through social bonding between females although females bond with males as well. Male status derives from the mother. Bonds between son and mother are lifelong. Multi-male-multi-female mating
9330. Chimpanzee: The bonds between males are strongest and lead to constantly shifting male coalitions. Females move through overlapping ranges within territory patrolled by males, but don’t form strong bonds with other females or any particular male. Multi-male-multi-female mating;
9331. Human: By far the most diverse social species among the primates, there is plentiful evidence of all types of socio-sexual bonding, cooperation and competition among contemporary humans. Multi-male-multi-female mating;
9332. Gorilla: Generally a single dominant male (the so-called “Silverback”) occupies a range for his family unit composed of several females and young. Adolescent males are forced out of the group as they reach sexual maturity. Strongest social bonds are between the male and adult females. Polygynous mating;
9333. Orangutan: Orangutans are solitary and show little bonding of any kind. Male orangutans do not tolerate each other’s presence. An adult male establishes a large territory where several females live. Each has her own range. Mating is dispersed, infrequent and often violent;
9334. Gibbon: Gibbons establish nuclear family units; each couple maintains a territory from which other pairs are excluded. Mating is monogamous;
9335. Primatologist Craig Stanford found that while the chimps at Gombe are “utterly nepotistic and Machiavellian” about meat distribution, the chimps at Tai share the meat among every individual in the hunting group, whether friend or foe, close relative or relative stranger;
9336. While data from the chimps studied by Jane Goodall and others at Gombe appear to support the idea that a ruthless and calculating selfishness is typical of chimpanzee behavior, information from other study sites may contradict or undermine this finding;
9337. Cultural historian Morris Berman explains that if we “change things such as food supplies, population densities and the possibilities for spontaneous group formation and dissolution, . . . all hell breaks loose – no less for apes than for humans;”
9338. Recent findings in comparative primate intelligence have led researchers Vanessa Woods and Brian Hare to wonder whether an impulse toward cooperation might actually be the key to our species-defining intelligence. They write, “Instead of getting a jump start with the most intelligent hominids surviving to produce the next generation, as is often suggested, it may have been the more social hominids (because they were better at solving problems together) who achieved a higher level of fitness and allowed selection to favor more sophisticated problem-solving over time.” Humans got smart, they hypothesize, because our ancestors learned to cooperate;
9339. Though bonobos surpass even chimps in the frequency of their sexual behavior, females of both species engage in multiple mating sessions in quick succession with different males;
9340. Among chimpanzees, ovulating females mate, on average, from 6-8 times per day and they are often eager to respond to the mating invitations of any and all males in the group;
9341. Describing the behavior of female chimps she monitored, primatologist Anne Pusey notes, “Each, after mating within her natal community, visited the other community while sexually receptive. They eagerly approached and mated with males from the new community;”
9342. I was disappointed with Safeway’s “Signature Café” firecracker chicken sandwich;
9343. The brick oven pan pizza at Mia’s Italian Kitchen (MiasItalian.com) in (Old Town) Alexandria is pretty tasty. . . . I think it’s the same crust at Palette 22. . . . They’re both owned by the same restaurant group (i.e., Alexandria Restaurant Partners);
9344. For bonobos, female status is more important than male hierarchy, but even female rank is flexible and not binding;
9345. Bonobos have no formalized rituals of dominance and submission like the status displays common to chimps, gorillas and other primates;
9346. Although status is not completely absent, primatologist Takayoshi Kano, who has collected the most detailed information on bonobo behavior in the wild, prefers to use the term, “influential,” rather than “high-ranking,” when describing female bonobos. He believes that females are respected out of affection rather than because of rank;
9347. Joe Biden is (a Roman) Catholic;
9348. Time offers opportunity but demands a sense of urgency;
9349. You only struggle because you’re ready to grow, but aren’t willing to let go;
9350. You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending;
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