Monday, March 27, 2017

What I've learned since moving to D.C. (some of which should be obvious):

5201.  Dietary saturated fats don’t raise blood saturated fats.  It is carbs and sugar (and excess protein) that cause your liver to produce the saturated fats found in your blood;
5202.  A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her man’s life.  However, if she is the most important thing then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service.  She will feel her man’s dependence on her for his happiness and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging.  A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose and also to love her fully.  Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his highest purpose;
5203.  If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost.  You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart-impulse that moves you.  If you have lost touch with this impulse then you will begin to feel ambiguous in your life.  You will make decisions because you have to, but they won’t be guided by a deeper sense of purpose.  You may take on your woman’s purposes because they are stronger than yours.  You may adapt your need for direction to externally regulated purposes becoming a cogwheel company man or a dead-ended husband and parent without leaving yourself open to your own greatest vision;
5204.  Be careful not to substitute default responsibilities for true purpose.  It is easy to fill your day with chores and obligations coming up for air only long enough to watch some TV or have quick sex.  It’s also easy to give up entirely on living a life of absolute commitment to truth, settling for the common life of absolute commitment to work, family, intimacy and friends.  Yet, you can only be a superior professional, father, husband and friend when you are living these relationships as gifts given from your core not as what’s left over because you don’t have the guts to discover your core impulse and live on its basis;
5205.  If you aren’t living from your core, giving your fullest gifts, everyone will feel your lack of true purpose.  Your kids will challenge your authority.  Your colleagues will take advantage of you.  Your friends won’t expect much of you.  And your wife won’t trust you;
5206.  Even though she may seem to want to be the center of your life, she doesn’t.  She wants you to know the center of your life, so she can trust you.  Even if you must go off somewhere without her to fulfill your purpose, like a man going to war, she will be able to trust you and love you as long as your purpose is real and true;
5207.  If you are always watching TV, reading magazines or gambling, your woman will feel your trivialization of life.  She will feel you settling for less and will resent the frivolity of your will.  But if have discovered the purpose springing from your deepest core and if your entire life is aligned by this deep purpose, your woman will feel the truth of your choices.  Though she may not always like your choices, she will love them and she will love you for having the courage to live your truth.  She can relax and trust you because, even if you enjoy watching TV, reading magazines and gambling now and then, she knows that you would never compromise your highest purpose in life, which includes, but is not centered around nor dependent on your relationship with her;
5208.  Apparently, I can also say I’ve been to a rally with Jessica Chastain and Hermione Granger (i.e., Emma Watson);
5209.  After learning about body language, I (now) find bad posture in a woman (to be) unattractive;
5210.  Inspiration is a state of being here and now in this material world, while at the same time reconnecting to our spiritual origins.  In order to be receptive to inspiration, we need to eliminate the ego clutter that accumulates all too easily for most of us;
5211.  If you’re attempting to simplify your life here, you don’t need to purchase more of what will complicate and clutter your life.  If you can’t afford it, let it go until you can.  By going into debt, you’ll just add layers of anxiety onto your life.  That anxiety will then take you away from your peace, which is where you are when you’re in-Spirit.  When you have to work extra hard to pay off debts, the present moments of your life are less enjoyable; consequently, you’re further away from the joy and peace that are the trademarks of inspiration.  You’re far better off to have less and enjoy the days of your life than to take on debt and invite stress and anxiety where peace and tranquility could have reigned;
5212.  Do what your heart tells you will bring you joy rather than determining whether it will be cost-effective.  If you’d really enjoy that whale-watching trip, for instance, make the decision to do so.  Don’t deny yourself the pleasures of life because of some monetary detail.  Don’t base your purchases on getting a discount and don’t rob yourself of a simple joy because you didn’t get a break on the price.  You can afford a happy, fulfilling life;
5213.  Make an attempt to free yourself from placing a price tag on everything you have and do, after all, in the world of Spirit, there are no price tags.  Don’t make money the guiding principle for what you have or do; rather, simplify your life and return to Spirit by finding the inherent value in everything.  A dollar does not determine worth even though you live in a world that attempts to convince you otherwise;
5214.  Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life.  When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs.  Rather than atoning for faults with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service.  You will begin to do what you originally came here to do;
5215.  Notice the acts of kindness other people do rather than their shortcomings.  We are all good, decent, loving souls who occasionally get lost.  When you can focus on the good in another and hold that in your mind, you are acting from your higher self.  This can help dissipate fear and anger;
5216.  Remind yourself of how much you have to give away and of how precious and valuable your giving is;
5217.  Accept that you are enough.  You do not need to be anything you are not.  You do not need to prove yourself;
5218.  The joy and fulfillment found in the process of achieving your dreams and living with passion is often confused with the result of being rich.  Do not measure your life’s journey to success with the fickle accompaniment of monetary and riches.  Your journey should be measured by the memories gathered, not the receipts; the moments spent in passion, not cash; and happiness shared, not bought;
5219.  How to Find Your Money Personality: 1.  Protector (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTJ & ISFJ): By nature, you’re very conservative.  You think ahead and plan for the future.  You are consistent in your plan and often end up working the banking system, but not taking big Wall Street risks.  Though it’s a great way to be, it’s hard for you to spend in the here and now on things like taking a vacation.  You could also make bad on-the-spot decisions out of sheer panic.  Advice: Prepare for the unexpected by having a full emergency fund, which should cover at least six months of net income; 2.  Planner (Myers-Briggs Types: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ & INTP): Definitely a more long-term investing type of person, you are okay to take a calculated risk as long as you have a contingency plan.  You’ll likely track your finances closely.  You’re great at big-picture thinking, but be careful that you don’t become so focused on the forest that you don’t see the trees.  You could miss the opportunities right in front of you because of “analysis paralysis.”  Advice: Choose a portion of your income to divert immediately to long-term savings and set up another account specifically for “mad money” to use for indulgences today; 3.  Pleaser (Myers-Briggs Types: ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ & INFP): You take money personally.  It’s like an extension of yourself.  How you spend and save is an expression of your identity.  Think of the word pleaser two ways; pleasing yourself or others.  It’s different from planning because a pleaser is about emotional and relational needs in themselves and others.  Be careful others don’t take advantage of you and watch out for overspending because “you’re worth it.”  Advice: Steer clear of toxic friends who can manipulate your best intentions; and 4.  Player (Myers-Briggs Types: ESTP, ESFP, ISTP & ISFP): You love having the freedom to react to the moment and, since you’re characterized by a tendency to be compulsive, you’re unlikely to think long-term.  You’re often in the group with the highest financial risk.  The good news is you’re optimistic, resourceful and have a can-do attitude.  Most entrepreneurs are this personality type.  Advice: Slow down and focus on the advantages of your personality type to bring in and save money;
5220.  A man’s track record means nothing to the feminine.  A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he’s an asshole for 30 seconds his woman acts like he’s always been one.  The feminine responds to the moment of energy forgetting her man’s history of past behavior.  A man’s past behavior is irrelevant to his woman’s feeling in the moment.  But men base much on another man’s history of behavior so they think their own track record should count for something.  But to a woman, it doesn’t;
5221.  Instead of getting angry because she’s so upset that you made one little mistake in a long series of successes, instantly shift the energy between you.  Remember, history is irrelevant to the feminine, so your mistake is as easily forgotten as your successes.  As soon as you see she’s upset, immediately assume happiness.  Shock her with your love.  Make her smile and laugh with your humor.  Lick her neck or lift her off the ground and pretend you’re King Kong.  Surprise her in some loving way and the emotional slate will be wiped clean.  Your momentary failure will be effectively vanished as irrelevant as the long line of your successes;
5222.  Restore love and happiness in the present moment and don’t justify your little mistake by referring to your long line of successes;
5223.  A woman must be able to trust you to take charge if she relaxes her own masculine edge.  This is true financially, sexually, emotionally and spiritually.  The man doesn’t have to actually do all the work, but he must be able to steer the course if his woman is going to relax into her feminine without fear;
5224.  If you want your woman to be able to relax into her feminine and shine her natural radiance then you must relieve her of the necessity to be in charge.  This doesn’t mean you need to boss her around.  It means you need to know where you are heading and how you are going to get there, in every way, including financially and spiritually;
5225.  If you have the slightest uncertainty or ambiguity about your financial future, your woman will feel it.  You don’t have to say anything about it.  She’ll feel your doubt or ambiguity in your body, eyes and the tone of your voice.  It’s not that you have to make a lot of money; you just have to be responsible for your finances and take your future into account.  What’s important is that you are clear, accountable and directed from your deepest core of wisdom.  Then, your woman can relax.  She knows where you stand and what your plans are.  She can feel your integrity.  She can trust your direction because she knows it comes from your deepest core.  She is not swimming in the air of your uncertainty, but standing on solid ground, the ground that you’ve provided by your clarity;
5226.  The more ambiguous you seem, financially and spiritually, the more she will need to pour her energy and attention into her own masculine direction and goals.  For some women, this is great; they need to develop their own masculine energy.  Other women, however, have already developed their masculine.  They would like the opportunity to relax their own masculine and receive yours as a gift.  How can you tell if your woman’s self-direction is healthy for her?  If she becomes more and more full and happy as she pursues her direction then it is good for her.  If she becomes more and more stressful, taut and emotionally angular then she is animating excess masculine direction.  She is pushing herself in ways that may signal your irresponsibility;
5227.  You become more responsible by knowing your deepest purpose and then arranging your finances and spiritual life from that knowingness.  For your woman to relax in her radiance and feminine happiness, she needs to feel that she can get on your train and that it’s going exactly where she wants to go.  It doesn’t matter if your woman earns more or less money than you or even if she earns all the money in the relationship.  What matters is if she can feel your loving clarity, wisdom and certainty of direction.  As long as she can feel that you are taking the finances into account and arranging your lives together so that the deepest love and fullest gifts can manifest, she will be able to trust your masculine direction and relax in her feminine heart of radiance;
5228.  War, which is motivated by the desire for freedom, is a quintessential masculine pursuit.  Most sports are ritualized war, but actual war itself resonates with the core of most men.  Even movies about war, men being at their edge, giving it all they’ve got, up against death itself and motivated by a higher cause, evoke intense emotion in men.  The capacity to face death for the sake of freedom, whether actually in war or ritually on the football field or chess board, is the ultimate masculine act, evoking men’s deepest emotions;
5229.  The same capacity to face death is necessary for spiritual freedom.  To live free in spirit, you must be willing to face your fears and let go of anything that limits your love.  The attachment to comfort and security is what limits most men in their capacity to make a spiritual touchdown;
5230.  The feminine, on the other hand, is not seeking freedom, but love.  A woman’s bliss is not in emptiness, but in fullness.  Her means is not release, but surrender;
5231.  The feminine seeks fullness and abhors emptiness.  She will fill her empty shelves with knickknacks, seashells and pebbles collected from special places.  When she does not feel full of love, she seeks to fill herself with ice cream, chocolate or conversation.  Her dark side enjoys the emotional aggression in soap operas and romance novels.  She longs to fill her sense of spiritual emptiness by surrendering her heart and being filled with love.  Her basic means toward spiritual unity is surrender into the devotional fullness of unbounded love;
5232.  In the end, the feminine search for love and the masculine search for freedom reach the same destination: the unbounded and infinite ground of being who you are, which is both absolute love and freedom;
5233.  When you are unable to express your dark passions with love then they go underground in your psyche.  Your dark desires become disconnected from your heart.  Instead of being moved to embrace your woman with masculine force and aggressive passion – throwing her down on the bed, ripping off her clothes and pinning her down beneath your body as you both yield yourselves in ecstatic loving – you begin to fantasize about controlling and dominating women in unloving ways;
5234.  The desire to ravish is the sexual aspect of the same masculine desire that wants to break through opponents on a basketball court, break through philosophical barriers to intellectual insight or break through the fear of death into spiritual freedom.  The desire to ravish is the desire to break through a woman’s resistances to open her heart and body into ecstatic loving.  The pleasure is in releasing her from all the conventional restraints of her psyche, so she has no choice but to surrender in love;
5235.  When this masculine desire to ravish becomes dissociated from your heart then you will settle for breaking through a woman’s resistance without love, through violence or coercion;
5236.  Most men have entertained fantasies about forcing a woman to have sex against her will.  In fact, most women have entertained fantasies of being forced to have sex against their will.  The dark feminine desire, to be forced to surrender, is as strong as the dark masculine desire to penetrate through a woman’s resistance.  The difference between rape and ravishment is love;
5237.  Fearlessness or the capacity to transcend the fear of death for the sake of love, is a quintessential form of the ultimate masculine gift;
5238.  Although your woman doesn’t want you to be a killer, she is turned on by your capacity to kill and she is turned off by your lack of this capacity.  She doesn’t want you to be a killer, but she does want to feel that you are capable of facing death, if necessary.  In fact, she wants to feel you are capable of killing, if necessary;
5239.  A product labeled “trans fat free” can still contain up to 0.5 grams of trans fat content;
5240.  The best option is the one that creates more options;
5241.  There is one type of trans fat that is fine to eat and is even healthy.  Dairy and beef contain C.L.A. (conjugated linoleic acid), a different, naturally occurring trans fat that has beneficial effects on health and metabolism;
5242.  A study from Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center showed that diets high in trans fat increase belly fat and weight gain even without an increase in total calories;
5243.  A good way to get to know your partner sexually is to have her/him write down what turns her/him on (that) s/he wants to explore, what turns her/him on (that) s/he wants to keep as fantasy and what turns her/him off;
5244.  A man must be able to meet his woman with consciousness equivalent to her energy.  The feminine destructress must be met by the masculine destroyer.  The goddess of devotion must be met by the god of all-pervading love.  Dark or light, a man can’t be stuck in or avoid any areas of his masculine capacity or his woman will test him there.  These areas of testing are usually first on the dark side.  Only after trust is established there, only when the dark feminine lover knows she will be met by the dark masculine lover, will testing proceed toward the light;
5245.  Youthful sexual attractiveness is a temporary aspect of a much deeper and more fundamental quality of feminine energy: radiance.  Feminine radiance is not only the flush of a young woman’s cheeks or the glow of her skin, but is the shine of life force itself.  A woman’s true radiance reveals the degree to which she is open, trusting, connected and loving.  Her capacity to love, in turn, allows her body to be moved by the power of life force itself.  Herein lies the true nature of feminine radiance and power far beyond the simple sexiness of a naive young woman;
5246.  When a woman is young, her body more easily conducts life force and so she appears more radiant, in general, than an older woman.  But even amongst young women there are those who are pretty just on the outside and those whose beauty springs from their depths.  As a woman ages, her skin begins to lose its youthful capacity to conduct life force.  What remains obvious of her feminine radiance is primarily her beauty of depth;
5247.  If you are disconnected from your deep, masculine core of purpose and consciousness then you will also be disconnected from a woman’s depth.  You will see only skin deep and you will be attracted to the superficial display of a woman’s radiance, which often disappears with the passing of youth.  You will inadvertently dishonor the true and deep forms of feminine radiance and so contribute to the social cult of youth, wherein women try to look and behave younger and more superficial than they truly are denying the power and radiance springing from their depths;
5248.  When a man sees a beautiful woman, it is natural for him to feel energy in his body, which he usually interprets as sexual desire.  Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy.  He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body.  He should treat his heightened energy as a gift, which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world.  Through these means, his desire is converted into fullness of heart.  His lust is converted into service.  His desire is not converted by denying sexual attraction, but by enjoying it fully, circulating it through his body (without allowing it to stagnate as mental fantasy) and returning it to the world from his heart;
5249.  The purpose of sexual desire is creation.  Reproduction is but the biological aspect of creation.  As a man, you probably have much more to give the world than your children.  Just as beautiful women inspire biological procreation, they also inspire artistic, social and spiritual creativity.  When it comes down to it, most creative men will admit that, one way or another, women are their muse and inspiration.  Women bring them into the world.  Women move them to create and serve humanity.  In fact, some men would go so far as to say that, if it weren’t for women, they wouldn’t be interested in the world much at all;
5250.  When a man denies his desire for the feminine, either by choice or due to familiarity, it is a sign of his depolarization even toward the world.  He may seek a mistress in order to reinvigorate him, but this is usually only a temporary and complicated solution since it is only a matter of time before his mistress also becomes familiar and, thus, tiresome.  Any woman toward whom a man becomes depolarized will feel his rejection, disgust and turning away.  In response, she will become angry and destructive.  Her “unhusbanded” energy will begin to move chaotically, becoming even self-destructive.  A man has no excuse; he must cultivate a polarized relationship to his woman and his world if he is to remain in relationship with them;

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